Part 3: Coworker had conflict with the entire team over lunch arrangements, escalated to top management, and pulled the "Back in my days" card
This is part 3 of working with one of my colleagues - Pantry Queen R.
First, she had a break down over an empty ice tray in the pantry fridge.
Then, she whined about not getting promoted and then whined when she finally got her promotion.
This time round, it was drama over lunch arrangements.
Bit of context - our worksite is at a remote location with very limited dining options, hence we will either pack our own lunches, send someone out to buy from town, or order via food delivery.
The practice is for someone sitting in Desk M to head out to buy lunch or to set up a food delivery order (here, our food delivery apps allow you to send an invitation link to many people and we can order as a group). However, this is not a hard-and-fast rule. Anybody can set up the food delivery order or head out to buy lunch. If the person at Desk M doesn't need to buy lunch, someone else that needs lunch can set up their lunch orders or head out.
(In our dispatching office, we take care of different things from different desks on a daily rotation, and the person in Desk M usually has a lighter workload - it was set up this way on purpose)
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Few weeks ago, we had a team reshuffle where people are moved around the team to balance out the seniors and juniors in each team. R's team had a clean reshuffle except herself, and since she is the most senior member in the team by seniority, she tried to boss people around.
Then the drama started.
On one of the day, everybody in the team brought their own lunches except R. Nearing lunch time, R asked Desk M coworker (a junior) to set up a food delivery order so that she can order her lunch. The coworker said most of the team is not ordering lunch, so R can set up the food delivery herself or head out to buy lunch, and Desk M can cover her duty while she's away.
R became unhappy and asked why did the Desk M coworker not want to order lunch for her when it is his duty to buy lunch.
The other seniors then stepped in and said that there is no such written rule that Desk M must buy lunch. In any case, since Desk M does not need a food order, why should Desk M set up the food delivery order and pay food delivery fees for R?
For the rest of the week, R made a fuss over the matter and went to see the manager for 2 hours to complain the Desk M coworker for not ordering food for her, and told everybody (including people from other departments) that the junior did not want to order food for her.
One of the seniors in the team - G - was tired of her harping on the issue and sent a 600-word, 10-paragraph text in the Whatsapp work group emphasizing company values, sharing how each team has handled lunches, that there is no hard-and-fast written rules on lunches and people have been doing on goodwill, and ended saying that food arrangements are a very trivial matter and having even to have a debate over that defies common sense, decency as mature working adults.
R then replied to the text with a 300-word text that basically said (quote):
>When I applied for this job x years ago, one of the interviewers asked me if I am okay to head out to buy food for everyone?
>Back in my days, I always went out to buy food for everyone when I'm on Desk M despite my huge body size
>Life is getting better these days with more new bloods (smile emoji) that they don't need to set up food delivery orders.
>As a big-sized individually that is usually HUNGRY MOST OF THE TIME, I sometimes can't figure out what I should bring to work for lunch, so I had to order food.
>New bloods nowadays have good lives that their mommies can cook lunches for them to bring to office.
>Moving forward, I will settle my own lunch when I'm in this team. Peace (emoji).