u/eversolo8

As a follow up to the music post (which is great btw) I thought I'd post something similar for hobbies. As someone who had been a woman for most of his life who had no interest what soever in any of my hobbies, I know how it feels to not be able to share or do any of them with your partner. It makes you feel kind of alone.

Now that I am alone I find myself diving deeper into all of my hobbies. It would always be great to have someone to share any of them with. I have recently taken up cycling again (still building), I plan to take up astrophotography next year. I am a collector of EDC items, namely flashlights, weird I know, but fun none the less. I am an avid audiophile and have been pretty much my entire life, so music and audio gear is always high up on my list. Yes, I still collect CDs :)

Drop a post with your favourite hobbies, maybe you will get lucky enough to meet someone who shares similar if not the same interests.

Anyone else in the area noticing an increase on their bill this year? Mine is $30/month higher than it's ever been.

4 months ago, my wife of 27 years just one day bailed on our marriage. At the time I didn't know why. Turns out she is now with her high school ex, which is the real reason she left.

Here is the thing. He is married with kids as well. I know who he is, but I don't know who his wife is, I can however hit up his Facebook friends and ask them who she is, and tell them why. It would definitely get back to her this way. Or, if they just tell me who she is I can tell her myself.

Would you tell the cheating POS's wife that he is cheating? or should I just let it go and move on with my life?

I recently posted about my situation where my wife of 27 years just decided she didn't want to be married any more and kicked me out of her life like I was nothing. My healing was coming along pretty good I would like to think, but now I find myself back to square one.

I found out that she cheated and actually left me for her high school boyfriend. After what? 40 something years they hook up again? Now she is with him but keeping it secret as she doesn't want her friends to know what a piece of trash she is.

But now, I feel like Im right back in month 1 and I am crushed all over again. I don't know if I will ever get past this. I sure don't feel like I will.

I'm having a really hard time trying to understand how someone can just flip a switch in their head and become a completely different person over night. 

I was married 27 years, with her for 30. we had our ups and downs like any normal relationship would and everything seemed to be ok. We were still intimate, she was still telling me she loves me etc etc. I will note that she had to travel a few hours away to visit with her dad as he was passing, which he did. Once she came back, she was off, something just wasn't the same with her. Maybe a week or 2 passes and the next thing I know I wake up and she is gone. 

She served me with papers from the courts the next day which she lied on to evict me from my own home and get a restraining order against me to force it. I know I could have fought that and it wouldn't have had any ground, but I didn't want to as I didn't need the stress of fighting to be where I'm not wanted.

So, I left. We are now 3 months in with no contact other than things we had to, like me getting my things from the house. last Friday I had to face her for the first time since the day this happened 3 months ago. we had to sign some papers that had to be done in person. I will say before this day I had come a long way with my healing, only to be set back again after the day I had to face her.

She was rude, she was cold and she was so mean to me that day. I didn't even know who she was. I'd never seen this side of her in 30 years. How? How can someone just flip a switch in their head and become a completely different person in such a short period of time, especially after so long together. What did I do to receive this kind of treatment from her when just a day before she left she was still telling me she loves me? If she wasn't happy why could she not just communicate with me so we can work on it? or even if she was done, why could she not have just told me she wanted to separate and we could have discussed and done it on good terms? Why all the hostility? 

I am so confused, I will never understand, and I know I need to stop thinking about this and move on as I'll never get an answer. But the whys will always haunt me.

 

Has anyone else experienced this?