u/fairysmut1113

I’ve been pregnant twice, ectopic and recently a blighted ovum, doing IVF whole thing is a nightmare. Anyway with my blighted ovum my obgyn, clinic etc were so aggressive with saying congratulations even though I cautioned them this was high risk and would probably not work out, spoiler it didn’t work out. Can I have them put in my chart to not say that in the future.

I changed obgyns but I honestly want to write a negative review about them for how forceful they were, it made me so sad and uncomfortable and I feel like they jinxed me, it was already so high risk. It felt like they were rubbing it in my face that other people get pregnant easily and have happy normal pregnancies, that will never be the case for me.

I feel like finding out the cause of my infertility has become an obsession for me, I often lay awake at night ruminating, I’ve done so much research, gotten multiple opinions.

Quick summary
Stage one endo excuses 2020 then BC/suppression (chromeotubation).

Starters trying to get pregnant 2022, year plus of regular and medicated cycles (Letrozole/clomid).

Lap in 2024 excised stage one again, tubes may have been blocked (delayed emptying on left during chromeotubation).

Tried three transfers for untested embryos, natural modified and two medicated. Two failures then ectopic. Tried Lupron suppression.

Did two retrievals and got 4 euploid embryos on ice.

Got pregnant spontaneously and had a blighted ovum. I’ve tried naturally between all IVF stuff so I’ve wracked up a ton of cycles.

Here is what was tested - all hormone panels were fine, no genetic issues, normal karaotypes, normal SA, no clotting disorders, normal 3d ultrasound, normal saline sono, saline with bubbles and hysteroscopy. No endometritis. Did fertylisis immune testing, no NK cells or anything. Take Metformin for insulin resistance. Levo just in case for thyroid, did all thyroid panels. What am I missing?!

Do I need to just move on. No one seems to know what’s wrong with me. I feel like IVF is this miracle for everyone but me, I don’t even want to use my embryos at this point, the only time I’ve gotten pregnant was on my own and no one can explain why.

My care has been really choppy as my original dr died.

I feel like finding out the cause of my infertility has become an obsession for me, I often lay awake at night ruminating, I’ve done so much research, gotten multiple opinions.

Quick summary
Stage one endo excuses 2020 then BC/suppression (chromeotubation).

Starters trying to get pregnant 2022, year plus of regular and medicated cycles (Letrozole/clomid).

Lap in 2024 excised stage one again, tubes may have been blocked (delayed emptying on left during chromeotubation).

Tried three transfers for untested embryos, natural modified and two medicated. Two failures then ectopic. Tried Lupron suppression.

Did two retrievals and got 4 euploid embryos on ice.

Got pregnant spontaneously and had a blighted ovum. I’ve tried naturally between all IVF stuff so I’ve wracked up a ton of cycles.

Here is what was tested - all hormone panels were fine, no genetic issues, normal karaotypes, normal SA, no clotting disorders, normal 3d ultrasound, normal saline sono, saline with bubbles and hysteroscopy. No endometritis. Did fertylisis immune testing, no NK cells or anything. Take Metformin for insulin resistance. Levo just in case for thyroid, did all thyroid panels. What am I missing?!

Do I need to just move on. No one seems to know what’s wrong with me. I feel like IVF is this miracle for everyone but me, I don’t even want to use my embryos at this point, the only time I’ve gotten pregnant was on my own and no one can explain why.

My care has been really choppy as my original dr died.

32 F stage one endo excised in August 2024 and did Lupron suppression summer 2025. Clear tubes, no clotting factors, no genetic issues, did Fertilysis immune testing that didn’t find much, no endometritis, all scans and tests fine. No male factor.

I had three untested embryos, 2 failed to implant (modified cycle and medicated), third medicated cycle resulted in PUL. I did two more ERs and have 4 euploid embryos, we were going to do a mock cycles but I got pregnant spontaneously and had a blighted ovum.

No idea where to go from here.

My friend and I have known each other since childhood, we are in our early 30s.

She got married to a not so great guy, he cheated on her the first year. They have had constant money issues. Moved across country because it would be cheaper and now she has a baby. Her husband doesn’t seem to help her and she also works. She has no friends or family where she is. I visited her a few months ago and she seemed stressed. Her husband is kind of an asshole and while there he got frustrated with their 1.5 year old and “jokingly” dumped a bottle of water on him. I didn’t say anything but it was odd.

I saw them recently and her husband seems to only be getting more miserable. Always making comments about everyone, he wouldn’t have spent as much money as we did on our house (he doesn’t own a house), comments about what people do for work, comments about us not having kids etc.

After thinking on it I reached out to her and asked if everything was okay, she basically said no and made a bunch of excuses for him as she always does (he’s reducing his medication, he’s busy with work, he has so much debt). Here is where I was wrong I said if that’s the situation and you’re okay with it that’s fine but that seems like a lot of excuses. She seemed fine but after a few days she stopped talking to me. I reached out she said she needed space, shes done this before when things were going poorly with him.

I’ve gone through two pregnancy losses in less than a year and am doing IVF. Had a D&C a month ago right after she was up. How do I support her in this tough situation? Where do I go from here?

Not even sure what advice I’m looking for. I just feel so overwhelmed lately. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant our whole marriage (4 years), I’ve had endometriosis surgery (stage one), two failed IVF transfers and a third that resulted in an ectopic (bad luck apparently). In May I got spontaneously pregnant after an IVF egg retrieval which resulted in a miscarriage (blighted ovum). I was told again bad luck and that there’s no reason I can’t get pregnant on my own again, which was shocking we had no pregnancies prior.

My husband said he needed a break, he was too worried for my health. We have four frozen embryos. I start a new job tomorrow (which hopefully will be an improvement). I just have no idea where to go from here. I never thought I’d be married this long with no children. I’ve put so much of my life on hold.

Not even sure what advice I’m looking for. I just feel so overwhelmed lately. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant our whole marriage (4 years), I’ve had endometriosis surgery (stage one), two failed IVF transfers and a third that resulted in an ectopic (bad luck apparently). In May I got spontaneously pregnant after an IVF egg retrieval which resulted in a miscarriage (blighted ovum). I was told again bad luck and that there’s no reason I can’t get pregnant on my own again, which was shocking we had no pregnancies prior.

My husband said he needed a break, he was too worried for my health. We have four frozen euploid embryos. I was going to do a mock ERA but that doesn’t seem to be needed now that i implanted on my own.

I am in a tough situation and am super overwhelmed. I have stage one endo that was excised August 2024 and Lupron last Summer. We have been unable to find anything else (no clotting/genetics/male factor/ endometritis/ clear tubes etc). I never got pregnant on my own for 2 years with regular and medicated cycles, two IVF transfers failed, third was ectopic. I recently got pregnant spontaneously and had blighted ovum. I have no idea what to do. After my D&C a week ago I was just cleared to try again and my OBGYN said since I had a blighted ovum I should just try again on my own since it was a bad luck/genetic issue.

I have 4 euploid embryos but IVF hasn't worked at all. I was going to do a mock ERA but now that I implanted on my own idk if that would be helpful. Thoughts? Ideas? I am feeling so defeated having two back to back losses that are supposedly just bad luck.

I’m in a weird position and don’t know what my next steps should be.

I tried to get pregnant on my own/medicated cycles nothing, two HCGs during this time that came back once at 5 and another at 6 that my RE said may count as chemicals.

I have endometriosis so I did an excision aug 2024 and Lupron summer 2025.

I had three untested embryos, first two totally failed (natural modified, second fully medicated). Third was PUL.

I did back to back retrievals and decided with my doctor to do a mock ERA cycle since I have implantation failure. Well I didn’t get to do that because I got spontaneously pregnant on my own but it was a blighted ovum.

I have 4 euploids on ice. Idk where to go from here, do the mock? Try on my own? See another endometriosis specialist? I just don’t understand why I implanted on my own after all of this time.

I keep hearing people having success with this, how long are people doing it for? What dose? I talked to my obgyn and she said it’s definitely a thing but the data isn’t really fleshed out yet.

I was thinking of doing it for a month or two as I’m on a break from IVF.

My husband recently told me he wants to take a break, I don’t blame him. I’m 32f and he’s 33M. We started trying when I was 28, we had no success, did medicated cycles, had an excision for endo. I started IVF, we had two failures and an ectopic. I did two back to back retrievals as we were out of embryos (he only wanted to do one) and was going to do a mock cycle when I got pregnant on my own. It was a blighted ovum and I just got a D&C.

He says he’s worried about my health and safety at this point. I can’t say I blame him, in about two years I’ve been pregnant twice, did three egg retrievals, two D&Cs, methotrexate, Lupron and excision surgery that led to a post opp infection. He says all of these procedures stress him out. We have 4 euploid embryos on ice.

I’m not against taking a break, my body is exhausted but I feel almost guilty doing so. I feel that I’m always running out of time as I age and have lost the efficacy of my excision surgery.

Well the title is basically it. Do Nparents just have no filter? I always feel like my dad can never “read the room” so to speak. Yes I need to lose a few pounds (not 50!?) I’m short 5’4 and while pregnant got up to 170 ish with bloating and everything.

I’ve had a very hard last two years, I had surgery for endometriosis, did three IVF egg retrievals, had an ectopic in the fall and got pregnant spontaneously in June but it was a blighted and just had a D&C for that Friday. Two days before my dad is telling me how overweight I am and how I’m going to get diabetes, I need to cut out all carbs blah blah blah. Like I’m literally miscarrying, is this the time?! Let my poor uterus go back to normal first!! I’ll lose the weight but I just need a bit.

He’s been complaining about a hernia or whatever for a month and said I haven’t been compassionate enough 🙄. How much empathy do you need?! Imagine if I told him to lose weight while he was going through something. He let his health bottom out the last few years, refusing to go to doctors, having untreated diabetes, never mind the mental health stuff. I swear he did it to secure endless sympathy so no one else can have a problem in the mean time.

Thanks for reading, I feel better now!

It looks like I’m having a blighted ovum, go back next week for final scan but last two showed sac no fetal pole (measured around 5 weeks 5 days then 6 weeks 3 days), high increasing HCGs but no longer doubling (in the 50ks). I had an ectopic in the fall from an IVF transfer, got spontaneously pregnant between IVF cycles. This is the farthest I’ve gone in a pregnancy in over three years of infertility.

I don’t know how to explain it but I feel like I’m disassociating a bit. Like my life isn’t real. Most people don’t know so I go parts of my day fine then have severe anxiety and panic. I’m often sick to my stomach from the anxiety. I’ve been incredibly anxious this whole pregnancy since it was a natural pregnancy. I was convinced I would miscarry and now well I probably am.

I have moments where I feel like I’m not present. I’ve been sleeping a ton becuase well I have morning sickness and fatigue but also I just don’t want to be awake, I want to be checked out from my life. I’m sad every time I wake up and remember what’s going on. Is it normal to feel like this?

My IVF journey has been kind of exhausting. Started trying at 28 and didn’t get pregnant, I knew I had stage one endometriosis. Did an egg retrieval and another excision surgery, first FET was natural modified and failed. My doctor died so I had to change clinics, lost time there. Did Lupron, second FET failed, third was ectopic. Had to do methotrexate so lost more time: Did back to back ERs and got 4 euploid embryos frozen. My RE recommended a mock ERA and I got pregnant between cycles spontaneously. It looks like a blighted ovum. I’m so overwhelmed, do I just go back to IVF. I feel so defeated.

I had an excision August 2024 (stage one) and am worried maybe I’m too inflamed and that’s what keeps causing my issues. But another excision would be too soon. Ideas?

This fall I had an ectopic pregnancy from an IVF transfer, prior we had two failed transfers as well. I got pregnant spontaneously between IVF cycles and it looks like a blighted ovum. I just feel so sad and defeated. We were told both of these things seem to be “bad luck” and one off things. But twice in a row? I had endometriosis surgery two years ago and did Lupron but maybe that’s a factor. I just feel so sad and like I keep letting everyone down, my husband is always so happy and supportive.

I had a lap August 2024, my RE died so I had some delays, did an FET 4 months after that failed, had to transfer care, then did Lupron and two more transfers. One failure one ectopic. May this year I got pregnant on my own after an egg retrieval but it looks like it might be a blighted ovum.

I heard endometriosis can cause ectopics and blighted ovums, I had stage one and excision. It feels too soon to do another lap but maybe my insides are just too damaged…

6/19 measured 5 weeks 5 days

Today 6/29 measured 6 weeks 3 days no heartbeat

This was a spontaneous pregnancy between IVF cycles, they’ve done multiple betas and they all have been fine, waiting on ones from today. Prior ectopic from IVF but no miscarriages. Just so anxious