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Okay so guys i got accepted at QAU for their newly launched BS program in Governance and Policy Studies. But my parents wont allow me for hostels. Should i run away from home to secure my seat there? Is the experience gonna be that worth jt?

Also I've got no savings so I'll have to take ALOT of loans but its getting pretty toxic at home for me like not abuse but arguements and i already have depression so moving out isnt that bad of a solution but again is it worth running away from the home?

QAU is like 5 hours away from my city which is what makes the possibility of my parents agreeing for my hostel almost impossible but i can maybe try to convince them to allow me to hostel to somewhere closer. But then i wont get QAU.....

I broke up with my man bcs i felt like i got fully absorbed in the relationship, to the extent of losing my own identity and life. Need some space and time now to reflect on our relationship dynamics and what to do with my life.Any suggestions would be appreciated a lot!

I broke up with my man bcs i felt like i got fully absorbed in the relationship, to the extent of losing my own identity and life. Need some space and time now to reflect on our relationship dynamics and what to do with my life.Any suggestions would be appreciated a lot!

A couple of days ago I posted here about my relationship with my boyfriend. The whole is pasted below for reference too. I have just broken up with him. Here's what happened: so my parents had been forcing me to get engaged to the guy otherwise they would abandon me or stop talking to me.

I asked my boyfriend to send his parents to my home for a proposal but he asked me to say but my parents didn't agree to wait. Im from a third world conservative country so couldn't move out. I got engaged, my parents said I'd be allowed to break the engagement if my bf sent the proposal home but he never did , he in fact got drunk and called my fiance and told him about all of it. The fiance didn't tell anybody and didn't break the engagement either. But it's common for fiances here to make a really big issue out of it and create troubles for the girl and her family including insulting disrespecting and threatening and treating poorly after marriage

All these past days I'm begging my parents to break the engagement (it's been a month since i got engaged) but parents just fight a lot with me and keep saying that my decision to marry my boyfriend is immature. I was stressed a lot and was sobbing crying most of the time but my bf keeps blaming me for the engagement (not all the time though) i do share the blame but im way too stressed out and anxious at the moment to get treated like that by my boyfriend even though he apologised but this keeps happening and he never helps with anything.

Whenever i tell him about my anxieties he starts telling me about his health conditions and all but he himself isn't taking care of his health and is just sending all the money home rather than investing on his health. Asked him that i might need some money from the loans i gave him but he still sent money home without telling me. I know i share the blame but i have now managed to take a break finally please tell me how to proceed.

Tldr how to proceed after taking break from boyfriend

Here's the previous post for context:

My (22F) boyfriend (30M) loves being loved by me, is super loyal to me but doesn't know how to reciprocate my efforts.

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My (22F) boyfriend (30M) loves being loved by me, is super loyal to me, appreciates my love for him but doesn't know how to reciprocate my efforts. The way ages line up that he's the dominating one in our relationship or some other such power dynamics but in reality it's not like that like he doesn't dominate, keeps asking for my advice for everything, talks to me about everything happens to him, he loves spending time with me too and keeps thanking me whenever we spend time together. Now the issue is that i feel like I'm heavily invested in his life (like his work, colleagues, family, anxieties)

But he knows nothing about mine. But i don't think that's because i don't share my life with him, it's that he never creates that space for me to truly open up. And whenever i discuss this problem with him he says that he's going through really tough times but he's trying to fix everything and that he'll start taking care of me tooo but it's been more than 2 years and i still don't feel heard or understood by him as i hardly ever open up Infront of him.

Also i have given him loan too which he keeps saying he'll return, i never asked him to return even though i really need it to continue my education but he doesn't know that, i admit that's my fault, but isn't he wrong for spending money on his family every month rather than returning me my amount. Btw his family is super toxic, only his brother is nice to him. I really want him to start returning my money too as that was worth 4 months of my monthly salary.

He's been though really tough times and sexual assault too and if i break up with him it's gonna make his trauma even worse as he really wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He doesn't even sleep if he hasn't talked to me about his day.

Im the one who wakes him up, and reminds him to take his meals and medicines as his family doesn't take care of him so he depends on me for all that care and stays in touch virtually 24/7 as it's a long distance relationship and I'm not there with him physically.

I insisted him to take therapy and found the therapist for him, he has taken his first session and said he really liked the therapist. I'm the one who makes him seek medical help too otherwise he keeps delaying it. That's how dependent he is on me so i cant just leave him. I have asked him for space and/or a gap multiple times but he never agrees for it, he has separation anxiety, he keeps going back to drugs when i talk about taking a little break

My (22F) boyfriend (30M) loves being loved by me, is super loyal to me, appreciates my love for him but doesn't know how to reciprocate my efforts. The way ages line up that he's the dominating one in our relationship or some other such power dynamics but in reality it's not like that like he doesn't dominate, keeps asking for my advice for everything, talks to me about everything happens to him, he loves spending time with me too and keeps thanking me whenever we spend time together. Now the issue is that i feel like I'm heavily invested in his life (like his work, colleagues, family, anxieties)

But he knows nothing about mine. But i don't think that's because i don't share my life with him, it's that he never creates that space for me to truly open up. And whenever i discuss this problem with him he says that he's going through really tough times but he's trying to fix everything and that he'll start taking care of me tooo but it's been more than 2 years and i still don't feel heard or understood by him as i hardly ever open up Infront of him.

Also i have given him loan too which he keeps saying he'll return, i never asked him to return even though i really need it to continue my education but he doesn't know that, i admit that's my fault, but isn't he wrong for spending money on his family every month rather than returning me my amount. Btw his family is super toxic, only his brother is nice to him. I really want him to start returning my money too as that was worth 4 months of my monthly salary.

He's been though really tough times and sexual assault too and if i break up with him it's gonna make his trauma even worse as he really wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He doesn't even sleep if he hasn't talked to me about his day.

Im the one who wakes him up, and reminds him to take his meals and medicines as his family doesn't take care of him so he depends on me for all that care and stays in touch virtually 24/7 as it's a long distance relationship and I'm not there with him physically.

I insisted him to take therapy and found the therapist for him, he has taken his first session and said he really liked the therapist. I'm the one who makes him seek medical help too otherwise he keeps delaying it. That's how dependent he is on me so i cant just leave him. I have asked him for space and/or a gap multiple times but he never agrees for it, he has separation anxiety, he keeps going back to drugs when i talk about taking a little break

Tldr: how to communicate with my boyfriend that i really want him to reciprocate my efforts or else this relationship with continue to become less fulfilling for me

Lately I've been noticing this a lot that most of the people i meet in real life are very different from the people i meet on social media or through social media, why is it so? Have you experienced it too?

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My (22F) boyfriend (30M) loves being loved by me, is super loyal to me, appreciates my love for him but doesn't know how to reciprocate my efforts. The way ages line up that he's the dominating one in our relationship or some other such power dynamics but in reality it's not like that like he doesn't dominate, keeps asking for my advice for everything, talks to me about everything happens to him, he loves spending time with me too and keeps thanking me whenever we spend time together. Now the issue is that i feel like I'm heavily invested in his life (like his work, colleagues, family, anxieties)

But he knows nothing about mine. But i don't think that's because i don't share my life with him, it's that he never creates that space for me to truly open up. And whenever i discuss this problem with him he says that he's going through really tough times but he's trying to fix everything and that he'll start taking care of me tooo but it's been more than 2 years and i still don't feel heard or understood by him as i hardly ever open up Infront of him.

Also i have given him loan too which he keeps saying he'll return, i never asked him to return even though i really need it to continue my education but he doesn't know that, i admit that's my fault, but isn't he wrong for spending money on his family every month rather than returning me my amount. Btw his family is super toxic, only his brother is nice to him. I really want him to start returning my money too as that was worth 4 months of my monthly salary.

He's been though really tough times and sexual assault too and if i break up with him it's gonna make his trauma even worse as he really wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He doesn't even sleep if he hasn't talked to me about his day.

Im the one who wakes him up, and reminds him to take his meals and medicines as his family doesn't take care of him so he depends on me for all that care and stays in touch virtually 24/7 as it's a long distance relationship and I'm not there with him physically.

I insisted him to take therapy and found the therapist for him, he has taken his first session and said he really liked the therapist. I'm the one who makes him seek medical help too otherwise he keeps delaying it. That's how dependent he is on me so i cant just leave him. I have asked him for space and/or a gap multiple times but he never agrees for it, he has separation anxiety, he keeps going back to drugs when i talk about taking a little break

My (22F) boyfriend (30M) loves being loved by me, is super loyal to me, appreciates my love for him but doesn't know how to reciprocate my efforts. The way ages line up that he's the dominating one in our relationship or some other such power dynamics but in reality it's not like that like he doesn't dominate, keeps asking for my advice for everything, talks to me about everything happens to him, he loves spending time with me too and keeps thanking me whenever we spend time together. Now the issue is that i feel like I'm heavily invested in his life (like his work, colleagues, family, anxieties)

But he knows nothing about mine. But i don't think that's because i don't share my life with him, it's that he never creates that space for me to truly open up. And whenever i discuss this problem with him he says that he's going through really tough times but he's trying to fix everything and that he'll start taking care of me tooo but it's been more than 2 years and i still don't feel heard or understood by him as i hardly ever open up Infront of him.

Also i have given him loan too which he keeps saying he'll return, i never asked him to return even though i really need it to continue my education but he doesn't know that, i admit that's my fault, but isn't he wrong for spending money on his family every month rather than returning me my amount. Btw his family is super toxic, only his brother is nice to him. I really want him to start returning my money too as that was worth 4 months of my monthly salary.

He's been though really tough times and sexual assault too and if i break up with him it's gonna make his trauma even worse as he really wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He doesn't even sleep if he hasn't talked to me about his day.

Im the one who wakes him up, and reminds him to take his meals and medicines as his family doesn't take care of him so he depends on me for all that care and stays in touch virtually 24/7 as it's a long distance relationship and I'm not there with him physically.

I insisted him to take therapy and found the therapist for him, he has taken his first session and said he really liked the therapist. I'm the one who makes him seek medical help too otherwise he keeps delaying it. That's how dependent he is on me so i cant just leave him. I have asked him for space and/or a gap multiple times but he never agrees for it, he has separation anxiety, he keeps going back to drugs when i talk about taking a little break

Tldr: how to communicate with my boyfriend that i really want him to reciprocate my efforts or else this relationship with continue to become less fulfilling for me

My (22F) boyfriend (30M) loves being loved by me, is super loyal to me, appreciates my love for him but doesn't know how to reciprocate my efforts. The way ages line up that he's the dominating one in our relationship or some other such power dynamics but in reality it's not like that like he doesn't dominate, keeps asking for my advice for everything, talks to me about everything happens to him, he loves spending time with me too and keeps thanking me whenever we spend time together. Now the issue is that i feel like I'm heavily invested in his life (like his work, colleagues, family, anxieties)

But he knows nothing about mine. But i don't think that's because i don't share my life with him, it's that he never creates that space for me to truly open up. And whenever i discuss this problem with him he says that he's going through really tough times but he's trying to fix everything and that he'll start taking care of me tooo but it's been more than 2 years and i still don't feel heard or understood by him as i hardly ever open up Infront of him.

Also i have given him loan too which he keeps saying he'll return, i never asked him to return even though i really need it to continue my education but he doesn't know that, i admit that's my fault, but isn't he wrong for spending money on his family every month rather than returning me my amount. Btw his family is super toxic, only his brother is nice to him. I really want him to start returning my money too as that was worth 4 months of my monthly salary.

He's been though really tough times and sexual assault too and if i break up with him it's gonna make his trauma even worse as he really wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He doesn't even sleep if he hasn't talked to me about his day.

Im the one who wakes him up, and reminds him to take his meals and medicines as his family doesn't take care of him so he depends on me for all that care and stays in touch virtually 24/7 as it's a long distance relationship and I'm not there with him physically.

I insisted him to take therapy and found the therapist for him, he has taken his first session and said he really liked the therapist. I'm the one who makes him seek medical help too otherwise he keeps delaying it. That's how dependent he is on me so i cant just leave him. I have asked him for space and/or a gap multiple times but he never agrees for it, he has separation anxiety, he keeps going back to drugs when i talk about taking a little break

Tldr: how to communicate with my boyfriend that i really want him to reciprocate my efforts or else this relationship with continue to become less fulfilling for me

My (22F) boyfriend (30M) loves being loved by me, is super loyal to me, appreciates my love for him but doesn't know how to reciprocate my efforts. The way ages line up that he's the dominating one in our relationship or some other such power dynamics but in reality it's not like that like he doesn't dominate, keeps asking for my advice for everything, talks to me about everything happens to him, he loves spending time with me too and keeps thanking me whenever we spend time together. Now the issue is that i feel like I'm heavily invested in his life (like his work, colleagues, family, anxieties)

But he knows nothing about mine. But i don't think that's because i don't share my life with him, it's that he never creates that space for me to truly open up. And whenever i discuss this problem with him he says that he's going through really tough times but he's trying to fix everything and that he'll start taking care of me tooo but it's been more than 2 years and i still don't feel heard or understood by him as i hardly ever open up Infront of him.

Also i have given him loan too which he keeps saying he'll return, i never asked him to return even though i really need it to continue my education but he doesn't know that, i admit that's my fault, but isn't he wrong for spending money on his family every month rather than returning me my amount. Btw his family is super toxic, only his brother is nice to him. I really want him to start returning my money too as that was worth 4 months of my monthly salary.

He's been though really tough times and sexual assault too and if i break up with him it's gonna make his trauma even worse as he really wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He doesn't even sleep if he hasn't talked to me about his day.

Im the one who wakes him up, and reminds him to take his meals and medicines as his family doesn't take care of him so he depends on me for all that care and stays in touch virtually 24/7 as it's a long distance relationship and I'm not there with him physically.

I insisted him to take therapy and found the therapist for him, he has taken his first session and said he really liked the therapist. I'm the one who makes him seek medical help too otherwise he keeps delaying it. That's how dependent he is on me so i cant just leave him. I have asked him for space and/or a gap multiple times but he never agrees for it, he has separation anxiety, he keeps going back to drugs when i talk about taking a little break

Tldr: how to communicate with my boyfriend that i really want him to reciprocate my efforts or else this relationship with continue to become less fulfilling for me

Tw: rape

My 22F boyfriend 30M was raped. This happened the night after i broke up with him because he did pretty toxic stuff in our relationship but when he told about the sexual assault i gave him all the love and care and support I would have given him if we hadn't broken up. A week has passed after the incident and i have started feeling unhappy again in our relationship cuz he has always been so self centered.

Talked him about myself being unhappy and he started crying about his I should not leave him. So i am staying. Giving him all the love i have in my heart. I do realize i shouldn't break up with him as it's not the right time but I feel like a siderole in this relationship

What should i do

He never agrees to get therapy

Tldr: i can't stop thinking about myself

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Tw: rape

My 22F boyfriend 30M was raped. This happened the night after i broke up with him because he did pretty toxic stuff in our relationship but when he told about the sexual assault i gave him all the love and care and support I would have given him if we hadn't broken up. A week has passed after the incident and i have started feeling unhappy again in our relationship cuz he has always been so self centered.

Talked him about myself being unhappy and he started crying about his I should not leave him. So i am staying. Giving him all the love i have in my heart. I do realize i shouldn't break up with him as it's not the right time but I feel like a siderole in this relationship

What should i do

He never agrees to get therapy

Tldr: how to love someone and be there for them while you know you don't have future with them

Title basically.... Jo bhi shuru hota idhar, kuch time baad dead hojata