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So I’m moving in a couple of weeks to the management office. They set me a desk up but I never moved because I was short staffed so needed to fill in a lot. I don’t know how I feel about it after being with the team for 3 years. I’m a bit annoyed by it as facilities aren’t as good in the management building. My dept has its own private toilets and the building is always empty so the elevator is always free. In the management building toilets are always 2 floors up or down and the elevator is always full. I will also be in a different building to my staff. I’m not sure how I can be a part of the team when I don’t see them.

Anyway it’s what my managers want and I’m getting new team members next week so there won’t be any room for me. What’s your current situation? Would you rather be with your team or other managers? Why?

I get this a long with balance issues and was wondering if it is iron related or something else?

My GC sister is a hairdresser. I have never been allowed to go to a salon. I’m 40 with loads of grey hair. Anyway the process of getting my hair done went a little something like this. I’d buy the dye by either sending her money or going with her. She’d give me a date she could do it. I’d go to the house and sit and time would tick on until it was too late. “I’m tired today we will do it next week”. Time would go on and all of a sudden I’d need to buy some more dye as she could never find mine. She’d used it for a job someone had paid her to do.

Each time prior to a hair day I’d have to do things for her as repayment. Sometimes it would be 2 years between her doing it and she’d mock me for my grey roots too. I started doing my own roots and she went insane. I have a great job where I need to go to big meetings I don’t want to be sat with huge roots. She screamed at me for ages cos I’d done my roots.

Then if she got round to doing it she’d hurt me, spill the dye on me, be rude to me and act like I owed her my life for a half assed job. I have long hair and she’s never been able to grow hers so she’d always cut loads off too saying my hair needed it.

Well yesterday I went to a consultation. My first hair do done in a salon by a professional. She asked me who’d done my hair previously and why I’d stopped going. I didn’t give the full story but I got thinking about how my sister in general has always treated me. It’s like I’m below her and not worthy of being her sister. It’s like I’ve always been an inconvenience. I always thought she was ok but now realising how evilly toxic she was.

It’s been 5 weeks NC, as I gain more space will I realise more stuff like this? Its made me angrier about the whole family

I went NC a couple of months ago with my family. My sister sent a few flying monkey messages so I blocked her texts but kept her on some platforms. Today she sent me a video about when people are mistreating you step back and don’t beat yourself up with what they are saying or doing. Does she know it’s wrong? I am sooo confused. She’s made one off passive comments about my mothers behaviour in the past but never wants to talk further with me about it. Like she’s protecting her relationship with my nmum.

My nmum is an evil cruel witch but lately she’s becoming calculated and evil. Trying to wreck my life. I felt it was getting dangerous as I have a great job but if I get a criminal record I’d lose my job and it was like she was trying to get me one. Stuff like she wanted access to my home when I wasn’t in which I disallowed. Asking specific questions about money, how much I’d earned things I’d bought etc. I’m too tired and old for this BS and she’s not wrecking the life I fought through years of her abuse to build so I went NC with everyone in the family. They are all her puppets so if they know something about me she knows it.

In my NC I stopped posting anything on social media. I want to weed out the worms in extended family and mutual friends before I post stuff she could potentially produce as some kind of evidence against me. I haven’t posted for around 2 months,

I was informed she was posting superficial crap trying to pretend she was ok with what was happening around her. Them boom she also went dead. I think she’s mirroring my behaviours. What do you think?

So we have lots of heads of areas but yesterday I found out the new policy was to pass all complaints to the head of HR and not the head of customer experience. Would this be a red flag to you?

My son asked me to not speak to him or contact him so I’ve respected this. However he’s contacting me. He’s completely brainwashed with false accounts as any contact with the alienator was twisted and fed to him so I had to cease all contact. He is sending paragraphs to me of these accusations. I am not replying in any depth about the rights and wrongs but have offered face to face contact should he wish to discuss. I have also informed him unless it comes from me directly it may not be what’s been said. What do you think

I know you are not a magic 8 ball or that you can’t tell the future but what’s the likelihood they will come back?

My mother alienated my kids from me,16&18. It’s been 7 weeks and it’s breaking me.

We were so close when they were younger and had so many good times together. They are awesome kids.

I didnt see what my mother was doing. Stuff like they’d ask for something id tell them to save for it and my mother acted like it was outrageous for me to do that even though she was a horrible parent to me. She’s slowly been chipping away at me and as soon as they’ve hit the awkward teenage phase where they pull away anyway she’s snapped them up.

Will they come back? Do you have any stories? Help?