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I have this guy, he’s pretty crap at his job but has been there since the dawn of time. He’s got a great sense of humour and we get on. It did take me a while to get him to respect me as a manager.

It’s our first day back in the office after 5 weeks away from each other. I was bombarded with questions at this mornings meeting. This guy loves to get you flustered by asking loads of random stuff and making small things seem important. Anyway, in the meeting he started firing away. Now these employees don’t understand it’s my first day back too so I have as much clue to the changed as they do. I just stopped the meeting looked at him and said “who put 20 cents in the dick head”. Anyway he laughed and put his middle finger up and immediately retreated. I then continued.

Then in the manager office I was talking to another manager who has a guy who behaves the same. I told her what I said and she was shocked 😂 is it really that bad?

I’m the queen of the plateau. I plateau for months and when the scales budge it’s a very very small amount. But at least it’s a small amount as opposed to nothing which is what it was before MJ. Then I sussed it. I can do as much strength training and cardio as I like in the gym. If I don’t do 10k steps them scales don’t budge. How many do you get in a day?

2 years ago I was diagnosed with a rare neurological disorder that was making me blind and deaf. MJ is currently being used in trials to test if and is showing great success. I was also insulin resistant and prediabetic with high blood pressure. I got hearing aids on the nhs and they were plying me with around 10 pills a day and I just felt awful. My neuro suggested MJ but my bmi was only 38 so I was refused. I decided to go private.

My condition is in remission I am no longer blind or going deaf. I’m off all my meds and I’ve lost weight. I can’t live without me so will have to always pay now. How is it fair?

Im NC with my family and have been for 5 months. My nmum has done some truly despicable things to me beyond what you can think a narc parent is capable of. She’s also shown me she genuinely never cared for me. She’s in her late 60s now. The thought of her aging and being ill makes me want to run back to her. I don’t care how bad she’s been I just don’t want anyone to suffer. I can’t cope with the overwhelming feelings of guilt. I cannot have contact with this woman, she’s a really bad person who wants to seriously ruin me. How do I stop feeling sorry guilty?

I used to always bruise for the first couple of months. Now I don’t. Wondering if it’s something to do with my body change and maybe I just don’t bruise as easily anymore

I’m a manager in the education sector. We finished for the summer a few weeks ago. A lot of my staff are travelling and or have young kids that are also off. I am currently on booked leave. I’ve worked both Monday and Tuesday this week on leave. Then the freezer broke and with the heat we’ve been having you can imagine the implications. I found out today my manager called one of my staff members who is currently abroad with her family to come and sort it. When she said she couldn’t he called another staff member to go in. Now we have cleaners and estate keepers in so why can’t they just fix it and let my staff have their break? I wouldn’t mind if it was an emergency but it’s not. I was called in to a meeting this morning when I’d gone in on leave just to induct a new staff member for a load of petty issues that could’ve been picked up before leave or can wait till I get back. My staff are all hard workers and deserve their break and family time.

I’m motivated and in the 4 months I’ve been on it I’ve got my life back. I burst into tears this morning with happiness over it. Back in 2020 I got long covid and I could feel there was something seriously wrong. In 24 I was diagnosed with a rare neurological condition that was making me blind and deaf. I gained a tonne of weight. Then I went on mountain and I’ve listed 40lb. The neuro condition has gone in to remission. I feel like me again for the first time in 6 years. I get up and have energy. I can do things again I couldn’t do before it’s crazy. It’s improved my mental health and sleep also

I may get some hate for this I may not. The kids are 17 and 18. They’re with a family group who literally bully and torment me. They started doing it too. They won’t leave me alone but they aren’t very nice to me at all.

I decided to work on me when the kids went. I lost 40lb and got my hair done and started skin care. I don’t really post much on socials but I made a pic of me looking so much better my profile pic. I had a neurological issue that has gone into remission a long with a few other issues that have also gone away with this radical change. It’s no longer impacting my life. I’m pleased, I’m happy in myself. In this pic I was on holiday and my friends said I looked very happy.

The next day the text came from my son wanting to make up. I said when I got home we’d sort it. I’ve now been informed by him he never wanted to sort things he just didn’t want me to be happy.

They do things in the background like drive by my home and have thrown things at me etc. it is to the point I want to get the police involved. It’s also at the point where I feel their whole clan is bullying me and trying to ruin my life. I get they are young, I get they are easily influenced but wanting to see me suffer to me is also a feeling inside them.

Im at the point where I just wanna be left alone. Im starting to really dislike them and I don’t want them back. Anyone else ever felt this?

When I’m in the car I’ll catch a glimpse of myself from the nose down. I look just like her and I hate it. I see my mother as this ugly evil creature and when I see her it makes me angry

Education setting for context.

I gave this young girl an opportunity as I liked her vibe. She has little experience but really wanted the chance. She’s smart but I feel she could learn quickly and she would be good for the kind of kids I wanted her to teach.

We’ve left for the summer but new starters are usually started on 1st August. We are not due back until mid August. I’ve agreed to go meet her to get her laptop and set her on some tasks she could do at home. I’ve given her a rough outline for her classes for the year already to give her a start.

She firstly wants to come in next week. I’m travelling and none of the staff are in. She seemed moody that nobody would meet her. I’ve managed to set her up some induction activities to keep her occupied until we return. She wants to email people in the company now and expects replies now but nobody is in.

She’s then told me she wants to change the entire teaching plan for the year. She doesn’t know the kids, the course or staff and facilities.

She wants me to keep working with her from 1st August but it’s a bad work time until Christmas once we go back and I NEED the break. I’ve advised her some of her changes may not work and some are just too costly but she’s determined. Now I’m worried I gave her the chance. What should I do?

I had high blood pressure, borderline diabetic and a rare brain condition. To fix my issues I’ve taken meds that turned my blood to acid, gave me psychosis, gave me vertigo, gave me lipedema and almost wrecked my liver and kidneys. 4 months on MJ my brain condition is in remission and my BP and blood sugar is normal. Any side effects from the jab outweigh my previous state massively. I’m now off all meds other than the jab which I don’t really have much side effects from. Just to also mention I was going blind and deaf from my conditions. My bmi was 38 and I was 40

I tell people and they say “I don’t want to take the jab as there’s too many side effects”. It’s like why? Why would you look down your nose at the jab and condem yourself to a life of taking horrible pills that don’t really fix your condition?

Diagnosed Oct 24 through LP, CT and paps. In Feb this year paps were grade 3. Just been to my optho-neurologist the swelling has gone. He couldn’t believe it. No damage has been done.

When I went in Feb he told me to lose weight. My BMI was 38 and he told me if you don’t eat between 7pm and 7 am the weight would fly off. I found this highly offensive as a middle aged woman (you know our weight never just flies off). If it did I wouldn’t have been this heavy) I hated diamox and couldn’t take topiramate. I was put on laxis. Didn’t want to take that either so I didn’t and instead of all that I went on mounjaro. I’ve lost 20 kg.

My progress moves from being able to wrap a towel round me, cross my legs, the dog can fit on my knee in the car to finally been able to see my downstairs area and the tops of my legs. It’s a bloody miracle. I stalled for 8 weeks. The scales didn’t move and they still aren’t moving much but they are moving a bit at least. Clothes still fit the same or were a slight bit loose. It’s the little things though

I’ve always been a healthy weight but due to becoming sick with a rare neurological condition I gained a lot of weight over the past 18 months. I started mounjaro 3 months ago and have lost 35lb. When I was fat I was invisible. Men would just walk through me like I wasn’t there, small chit chat with random people didn’t happen. I may as well have been invisible.

Today walking my dog I noticed people stopping to talk to me about my dog, life, all sorts. Then I went to the pharmacy and a man was going in as I walked out. He held the door and let me through first, usually I’d be barged out of the way. I noticed people barging more when I was in the peak of untreated sickness because I had balance issues and people barging me when walking was already tricky was awful. Just horrible how shallow people can be. Whether I’m fat or thin I’m still a human being

So I went NC from a tight knit narc clan where I was the SG for the whole family. This was 3 months ago. Prior to this we all paid an account, Netflix Disney etc and shared the plans so we weren’t all subscribing to the same stuff paying several things each. Anyway my nmum is Amazon. The passwords got changed a couple of weeks after NC. No biggie, set up a new acc. Then Disney and Netflix my partner and I pay for had the passwords changed not by us so we had to change them so we could get in. My GC sis is Spotify.

Anyway on my journey of NC I’m working on me as my nmum is really shallow and I know looking good will piss her off. I got my hair completely changed, lost 30lb and started working out and taking collagen which has totally cleared my skin up. Got brows nails etc done. I’ve grown my own nails something Ive never done since going NC. I’m looking pretty good. Today a colleague stopped me and started stroking my hair. “Your hair looks so beautiful, then she grabbed my hand and told me I look good. I said the Thankyou but she looked me in the eye and went no you really do. She suffers narc mum syndrome too so she gets it. I skipped to my building and decided I would play lily allen fuck yup on the way home. Got to Spotify and my petty sister locked my account to child’s account with no explicit lyrics. I completely forgot she paid for that one. Just wow though how petty can they be?

I started MJ 11 weeks ago. In the first few weeks the weight dropped quickly and I lost 20lb but then nothing. It fluctuated a bit then I went on 5mg and dropped a few more then nothing. It’s been the same for around 6 weeks now. This week I’ve been off work so decided to give it my all. I’ve strategically planned my food so it’s high in protein and low in sugar. I’ve worked out and I’ve walked daily in a hope to shift it but it hasn’t moved. I’m doing a gut cleanse currently. I’ve tried everything and the scale won’t budge. I am meticulously calorie counting. I’m currently doing a gut cleanse in the hope that helps shift things. It’s heavily frustrating. I always had this before when I tried to lose weight which is why I went on MJ in hope it stopped this happening to me. I think I was insulin resistance so I’m not sure if that’s just catching up. Anyone else had similar and gone on to lose weight? I keep hoping for the whoosh effect

I’ve been on this 18 months and I gained 20kg but I’ve dropped 10 on MJ. My eating is almost normal though it’s never been normal even when I wasn’t on mirt I could go for 2 3 course meals one after another so I never had the excuse “I’m going out with someone else for dinner”. My job is food so sitting eating more than your average human in one sitting was never an issue. Mirtazapine was like an amazing drug where I could eat and eat and never feel sick or full. What’s your most unhinged eating story?

Couple of months ago I cut ties with my whole family. The scapegoating was getting really bad. I blocked the head narcissist (my mother) immediately on everything. But not others. Since then I’ve had to. They’ve all gone quiet on me except for “accidental” messages. They never in the 40 years I’ve known them sent me “accidental” messages now they are all at it. My sister sent me a passive aggressive “accidental” video then claimed she did it in her sleep. I mean wtf?

Then just when you think you’ve stuffed every crack they can get it it springs up somewhere else. I don’t use snap chat but I have it on my phone for old pics etc. all of a sudden my friends profile is getting screen shorted by them, most likely “accidentally” even though the last interaction I had with anyone on there was 155 weeks ago. Next it’ll be accidental letters through my door “I wasn’t supposed to send it I just wrote it for myself and it accidentally ended up being mailed”. I do wish I could afford to move far far away from here and them!!!

So I’m moving in a couple of weeks to the management office. They set me a desk up but I never moved because I was short staffed so needed to fill in a lot. I don’t know how I feel about it after being with the team for 3 years. I’m a bit annoyed by it as facilities aren’t as good in the management building. My dept has its own private toilets and the building is always empty so the elevator is always free. In the management building toilets are always 2 floors up or down and the elevator is always full. I will also be in a different building to my staff. I’m not sure how I can be a part of the team when I don’t see them.

Anyway it’s what my managers want and I’m getting new team members next week so there won’t be any room for me. What’s your current situation? Would you rather be with your team or other managers? Why?