u/hopelessly_loving_

This is my first time on this subreddit so I hope i am not breaking any rules.

My sister got diagnosed about 3 weeks ago, and while she didn't change as she has always been a bit agressive, it has gotten much worse now.

Around the same time she got diagnosed she found out I was bi, and she's heavily religious so you can imagine the crash out she had (our sisterhood is completelyruined now bcs of this).

And this morning she got into an argument with out younger brother (9yo), she's 24, i'm 22, and it ended up with her throwing a plate to the floor and it broke and shards flew and landed on my brother's face. Thankfully he wasn't hurt.

Now, I know my sister, she has always had a very strong personality, and she never sees the wrong in what she does, however i was wondering if this extra burst of agression could be because of medication or if it was unrelated.

Again I hope i am not breaking any subreddit rules with this post.

I am in a really bad place, my mental health is in the gutter, my physical health is deteriorating day by day. I'm constantly having thoughts of sh (since I was 14, now i'm almost 22) and I don't know what to do.

My father is an abusive pos (physically, mentally, s**ually), and my mom is a big enabler, she constantly defends him, she stands by his side despite him being wrong.

My sister (24) has begin to adopt his characteristics, and we stopped being close as we used to be and I know for a 100% that my relationship with her will never get fixed.

After this context, my question is to ppl who have been through similar situations and moved out, how did you do it? How old were you? How much did you save up before moving out? Did you tell them you were leaving or no?

I just got a job that will start tomorrow, the pay is about 2500/month and I will try to save up 75% of the payment, because it is only a summer job, and I am still studying so a lot of that money will be going towards school fees and stuff.

But do you guys have any tips on how i can make extra money, i have a degree in English studies (and currently doing a TEFL certificate to be able to teach at schools) and right now i am studying graphic design.

Truly anything that can help, I would appreciate it.

Hello everyone, i'm doing a graphic design bootcamps that started 3 weeks ago and will end by the end of September. And I will be focusing on editorial design, packaging design, brand Identity, and email marketing.

For now I have 3 projects (album redesign, brand Identity, and a welcome email sequence). I want to add more projects but I am also not in a good position financially to just keep on studying without working.

So i was wondering if these 3 projects are enough to start applying or should I postpone it to a later time when I have more projects!

Hey guys! Quick warning this post will mention abuse in all its ways.

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I will also not be going into a lot of details just to not make this too long.

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I think i am looking for advice from people who have been in the same situation as me or close to it. I just need some hope that it might get better later in life.

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So growing up I suffered from sexual abuse under the hands of my father, he had these little games he liked to play only with me and not my older sister, just me, and they are games that no parent should ever play with their kids. At the time, I didn't understand what any of that meant and I just thought that they were silly little games my dad who is supposed to love me and protect me made up so we can play together.

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But a few years later another incident happened when i was about 14/15, which resulted in me actually defending myself and pushing him away which then again resulted in him, bearing, punching and hitting my head with the wall. And guess what yall my sister and mother pressured ME to apologize to HIM when he was the one who touched me inappropriately 😃.

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Now in my early 20s, evergtime something happens if this nature i just freeze because I know nothing will come out of me defending myself (which i am still deeply ashamed of). And financial abuse was added to the mix. He would get plenty of tickets (speeding and other things) when he doesn't have a job and no way to pay them and he would constantly take the money I have to pay for them and never give them back. Which I don't have much since he literally forced me to quit my last job because to him I was "wasting my time".

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I just want your perspective on this even tho I didn't give all the details, and how can I handle this (I prefer just getting a job, saving up and moving out rather than going to the police because that will not help at all and unfortunately I know my mother will stand by him).

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Also, I find myself so many times dreaming about a future where I would move to another country and build a life there. And I will meet a man who will take me under his wing, and treat me like his own daughter, and maybe even adopt me legally (which i don't even know if that is possible), and take care of me and dote on me the way my father should have done. And I hate it so much.

Hello everyone!

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I had an issue that i've been dealing with for soooo long. I am an introvert (and broke) so I rarely go out despite me wanting to. (I actually get super nervous and start sweating my ass off everytime I leave the house).

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Anyways, I posted a few times on how I am looking for friends, however I am never able to maintain the connections, especially since they are at the beginning of being developed. And all these people are so amazing and so cool and I truly want to be their friends but idk what is holding me back.

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Is anyone else dealing with this, or am I just messed up in the head?

Hello everyone!

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I had an issue that i've been dealing with for soooo long. I am an introvert (and broke) so I rarely go out despite me wanting to. (I actually get super nervous and start sweating my ass off everytime I leave the house).

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Anyways, I posted a few times on how I am looking for friends, however I am never able to maintain the connections, especially since they are at the beginning of being developed. And all these people are so amazing and so cool and I truly want to be their friends but idk what is holding me back.

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Is anyone else dealing with this, or am I just messed up in the head?

Hello everyone,

I hope all of you are doing well!

I am here looking for friends, I am 21f, I like to read, write, I draw sometimes and color. My favorite shows are pingu, my little pony, dora the explorer, and curious George. My favorite color is green, and my favorite plushie is a green chicken that has a turtles shell.

I am from Morocco, but it doesn't matter to me where you are from. You can reach out if you'd like to be friends!

These last few days have been chaotic. My super homophobic sister found out I was bi and she went completely crazy. And I wasn't able to convince her that I wasn't. So now I have to act as if I am turning away from everything and going back to religion. I spoke with my mom about how I wanted to go back to praying and reading the Quran (this part i do actually wanna do but with all other religious books to study them lol). And I know my sister was listening, I also indulged my mom when she asked about what I wanted to name my kids 🤮🤮 I never ever want them. Hopefully this will somehow help so that my sister gets off my back and stops watching my every move.

Hey guys! I'm in a bad situation and i would appreciate any advice you can give on how to handle this.

4 days ago i let my sister borrow my phone for something, and i got a notification from a group chat that i joined from my second secret account that is just bi women and lesbians. So she checked my entire phone and discovered my secret insta and tiktok accounts and she's heavily religious (just like the rest of our family).

The next days (3 days ago) she confronted me in the morning and asked if i liked girls, and i denied it and said that i created the account just for fun and curiosity (not true,i just didn't want her to know) but she saw right through my lies and started crying saying that i will go to hell and that i will ruin the family.

She made me block my guy best friend, because she knows he is gay (i blocked him on insta but not whatsapp and tiktok) and she made me delete all of my secret accounts.

It doesn't help that she also saw my private pics (which i keep to myself and send to no one) and she threatened that if i don't follow the "right path" there will be consequences.

Then she went on this long ass speech about how "god made man for woman and woman for man" and whatever religious bs. And she is now pressuring me to start praying and reading the Quran despite me not being religious (i stopped believing years ago but she doesn't know that).

Btw i am 22 and she is 24, but i can't leave because i still rely on my parents financially and i am still looking for a job.

Idk what to do anymore, is there anyone who went through the same situation or similar, how did you make it out of that place, pmease any advice is much appreciated.

This might just be a social media thing, but I noticed that many ppl in the community don’t like bi ppl, more specifically bi women. Is there a specific reason for that? And is it just in social media or real life aswell?

Heyyyy everyone, I come here as a shy introvert 21 yo girl with no friends. My high-school friends and I drifted apart after graduating, and honestly we also grew into different people and the huge gap in our views and morals made it harder for me to stay connected to them :(

Anyways, am gonna talk about myself for a bit and if you feel like we'd get along send me message :)

- I believe in God but I am not religious at all

- I support the LGBTQ+ community and I am bisexual

- I am a feminist

- I like to read books of multiple genres so if you have any recs send them my way

- I also write from time to time

- I like going on walks, picnics, events that are related to art

- I am childfree

- And i think that's it :)

I know this might not be the most authentic way to find friends but I am trying my best to get out of my comfort zone.

I know that it is not okay to ghost someone, and if you feel like it is not working out between you and the other person the mature thing to do would be to tell them before ending things.

But di you guys believe that ghosting can be acceptable in certain situations? If yes, what would they be?

I would like everyone's opinion on this. Would you date someone who was previously SA by a parent, knowing that they are still suffering mentally from the events? Does it make you see the person as less than? Would you be able to be there for them when it gets hard and build a life with them regardless of what happened to them?

Hey guys! Quick warning this post will mention abuse in all its ways.

I will also not be going into a lot of details just to not make this too long.

I think i am looking for advice from people who have been in the same situation as me or close to it. I just need some hope that it might get better later in life.

So growing up I suffered from sexual abuse under the hands of my father, he had these little games he liked to play only with me and not my older sister, just me, and they are games that no parent should ever play with their kids. At the time, I didn't understand what any of that meant and I just thought that they were silly little games my dad who is supposed to love me and protect me made up so we can play together.

But a few years later another incident happened when i was about 14/15, which resulted in me actually defending myself and pushing him away which then again resulted in him, bearing, punching and hitting my head with the wall. And guess what yall my sister and mother pressured ME to apologize to HIM when he was the one who touched me inappropriately 😃.

Now at 22, evergtime something happens if this nature i just freeze because I know nothing will come out of me defending myself (which i am still deeply ashamed of). And financial abuse was added to the mix. He would get plenty of مخالفات when he doesn't have a job and no way to pay them and he would constantly take the money I have to pay for them and never give them back. Which I don't have much since he literally forced me to quit my last job because to him I was "wasting my time".

I just want your perspective on this even tho I didn't give all the details, and how can I handle this (I prefer just getting a job, saving up and moving out rather than going to the police because that will not help at all and unfortunately I know my mother will stand by him)

Hello everyone! This is my first time posting here so I hope I am not breaking any major rules. I only want to vent and maybe hear from others that have been in the same situation as me for now bcs I am not able to leave for now.

I am a 22 year old girl, I have an older sister (2 year gap) and a younger brother (12 year gap). But this isn't about my siblings but rather my father.

Many things happened with my father when I was a kid/teen that I remember, but ny brain decided that it was a good idea to keep replaying what happened to me every single day for the past year, so it has literally been plaguing me.

When I was younger (6-10) my father would have 2 games that he liked to play with me specifically and not my older sister.

First one does not make ANY sense at all, "where did the train go". I had the habit of waking up very early in the morning and going to my parents room to wake them up, and when they did he would ask me this question and grab my behind (my a**) as a kid I would laugh because I thought it was just a game and didn't really understand it much.

The second one, which was my least favorite and despite being a child I knew that it was wrong, was "try to stop me" where he would get on top of me, lock my hands on top of my head and try to kiss me on the lips which I would always try to push him off of me but the size difference obviously didn't help me.

He did these things in front of my mother, family members and no one ever said anything.

These games stopped when I became a teen, but he became very physically abusive, hitting, slapping, punching, throwing things at me, calling me names (I remeber he called me a wh*re once when I was 14 cause I was too scared to approach an animal).

One day I was helping my mom in the kitchen, he came up behind us and smacked me again in my behind which I then pushed him away and yelled at him to get away from me. This got him mad and he hit my head with the wall and again slapped and punched me. After 2 days of not talking to him, my mom and sister PRESSURED me to apologize to HIM, and when I demanded an apology from him mom told me that he apologized to her. 😃😃

All of these things and many more lead to me developing serious mental health issues that I can't even name or say with confidence that I have them because they never let me go see a therapist ever, even tho I begged them multiple times.

And it also led me to something, which I know is not wrong but I am still deeply ashamed of, which is age regression.

So yeah I guess that is all I have for now.

Hey everyone, I want to know what the procedure is to getting my tubes tied and if I will be able to find a doctor here in Morocco or if I'll have to travel for it. I'm 22, not married, and don't want to have kids for a multitude of reasons. Will I find issues with doctors refusing to go with it?

If anyone has any input please don't hesitate to comment.