u/junidee

Forget about all the usual arguments against double spaces after periods. It looks weird, it makes you look old… modern technology fixed the problem with typewriters… we get it.

I’m a young(ish) double spacer in my early 30s. I didn’t start until I was forced to in law school. But now I won’t stop because I think it makes my writing better. Let me explain.

The double space forces your mind to take an extra millisecond after a sentence. This is way more useful than most realize.

For one, it’s a tiny mental break. A reward for a sentence completed.

But more importantly, it distinguishes the period from all other punctuation in a way that fits the purpose of the period.

A period is final. Complete. The end of the sentence. It gets 3 taps (the period and two spaces). “Tap, tap-tap.”

A comma is less final, so it’s just a simple “tap.”

The weirder punctuation, like question marks, get a slower double tap (shift and ?). “Tap..tap.”

If you type a lot and fast, the “tap, tap-tap” period forces you to take an extra millisecond to acknowledge the completeness of your sentence.

Over time I believe that this will make you a better writer. Knowing when to end a sentence is important! The extra space allows you to feel it. It becomes more intuitive.

Bonus: you can use it as a proofreading tool! Go back and read each sentence and remove the double space when you are done. That’s what I do for certain docs! It lets you check off each sentence as correct. And then no one will think you are old!

I tried to search this, I’m sorry if it’s a dumb question. Where are all the layout pictures on Ali Express? I am a visual person. All I see are customer videos which are great, but is there anything official? Thanks!

TMS worked for me but faded after a few months. I’m looking into getting a booster but am wondering if it will just fade again or if I can keep it going somehow. Thanks!

This might be a dumb question but I’m super curious as a newbie—why do you have your preferences. Specifically:

What size do you like and why? Have you learned anything about size you can pass on?

Layout? What layout works for you and why?

Brands, is there really a huge difference at the same price point? Why do you prefer your brand of choice?

Miscellaneous things new people might not think about?

I appreciate it!

I could never commit to a 5 year journal. I’ve been thinking about how to make something like this but now I don’t have to!!!

Is there anything else like this out there? I haven’t found anything close.

They didn’t fit but I was dumb and didn’t return them in time, so I had brand spanking new shoes. Stuffed with paper, and everything. Put the whole box in the bag. They were rejected.

Did they think I stole them? Do they have some deal with Adidas or another store?

In the future, would it be better to leave the box out? What about tags? Obviously I want to send new items with tags… so how can I prevent this in the future?

I’m a bad parker and nervous about this lunch. I’ve been asked to pick a place. I’d like it to be cool/ hip but also easy. Ideally not burgers or pizza. Any suggestions?

I was kindly informed that my 16 year old chi-pit mix was peeing off my balcony onto the neighbor’s below.

He had an outdoor potty system that was basically a plastic box and a patch of real grass that I would replace. It’s worked great for his old man bladder. He has gotten used to peeing 10+ times per day. Yes he has kidney disease that is being treated by a vet. He has other issues too and is nearing the end of his life, but he is still enjoying it for now.

So why was he peeing off the balcony? I spied on him and found out he is no longer able to get his back legs over the threshold to the box/ grass. It’s not high, but he has stubby legs. He is peeing with his front legs in the box and his back legs out (the most important part).

I’m looking for a temporary (but hopefully not too temporary) solution for his remaining time. Every potty system I can find has a threshold that he wouldn’t be able to get his back legs over. We tried pee pads, but my balcony is pretty slanted (for rain), and I haven’t been able to find any that can handle his big man pees without gravity causing it to trickle onto the neighbors. He’s like 30 lbs of pure bladder.

My solution right now is: I got giant pee pads to place indoors, where it is not slanted, and blocked him from accessing the balcony. He keeps trying to get out there in a panic to pee. It’s sad. I have to herd him onto his pee pad to get him to use it. He tries to run away to get outside. Sometimes he gets away and pees in the corner. He really hates peeing indoors.

I haven’t tried diapers yet. I know he will hate it and might try to take it off. I will try if I have to.

Any ideas, brainstorming, training tips, etc. is greatly appreciated! He is completely deaf and his vision is bad, which makes training hard. Thanks!!

And it is to embrace queerness!! Even as a completely straight person.

This could also be framed as rejecting the patriarchy, but hear me out. Embracing queerness is way more fun.

Start hanging out in queer circles. The relationships come in all shapes, colors, and sizes. Being a woman taller than a man is not a thing that anyone in that community would think twice about.

I started to question my sexuality but realized I’m more or less straight (maybe demisexual). While I was questioning, I made queer friends and it changed my life. Here are some examples of things that changed:

I wrap my arm around him in public without worrying that I’m doing it like a man would.

He’s not ashamed to show his fear of spiders and we work together to handle them.

I love reaching the top shelf for him and have zero insecurity about it. In the past I would have claimed to like it, but there was a twinge of self hate.

I love that we can share clothes because it’s super convenient and men have comfy clothes.

Those are just off the top of my head. I highly recommend the queer community to everyone!!

Asking for a friend. Ideally within an hour, two max. Ideally the person delivering wouldn't know what they are delivering. Thanks!

Ok, I know I have had my head in the sand and been an idiot. You don't have to pile on, but advice is appreciated.

I have been vaguely keeping up with deadlines, but I have also been confused. I saw a deadline for mid-July to change plans, but I also saw information suggesting that they wouldn't really go into effect until August. I have been trying to stay on SAVE as long as possible.

This morning I woke up to $2k gone from my account. I am in the negatives. I immediately disabled auto pay. I know I need to change my plan, but there are all these warnings about forfeiting whatever plan you are already on, which makes me hesitant.

Again, I know I am an ignorant idiot. Its not easy for me to ask for help. I greatly appreciate it.

This is a lot for me so I will try to keep it brief. Sorry if I miss important info.

I’m (32F) one of the quietest people you’ll meet. I talk a little now but I didn’t at all as a kid. I got depressed in the past 6-7 years and have been struggling with basic human functioning since.

Around 5 years ago, I somehow managed to sign up for a personal trainer at the local gym (a small miracle). I ended up exercising with him 2x per week for 5 years. It really helped my mental health. I grew to depend on it for exercise but also socializing in dark times. He is like a walking, talking, affirmation machine. Super positive. Perfect trainer persona.

A year ago, my trainer asked me to “hang out” and we had sex. We would “hang out” about once a week. I continued to pay him as my trainer and go to the gym 2x per week.

After a month of sex, he said he wasn’t in a place for anything serious. I was good with that because I’m too depressed for anything real. I also don’t completely understand my own sexuality and might want to date women.

I then got pregnant and had an abortion. I don’t have a period and have had many surgeries, so I thought it wouldn’t happen. I handled it and didn’t really tell anyone. It was terrible.

I got more depressed, maybe just due to the crazy hormone shifts. Note, I’m not sure my trainer knew I was depressed this whole time—despite it seeming obvious to me. Depression skews my perspective on reality sometimes, so I get confused.

Not long after the abortion, I went on Facebook and saw a story of my trainer at a baby shower with his ex. His own daughter was due in a month. Right after I saw it, he immediately sent a voice note explaining that his ex got pregnant before they broke up, and he recently found out it was his. He was going to coparent with her, but they weren’t together.

I was shocked to say the least. The most messed up part is I kinda felt like he knew I was pregnant because he mentioned some little things. Turns out, we both had pregnancy related secrets at the same time.

I lived in a stupor for a few days but eventually went back to the gym. He apologized and I thought I could move on.

We continued meeting 2-3x per month outside of the gym and 2x per week in the gym when his baby was born.

Then a week ago, I notice he blocked me on Facebook, and my heart sank. I thought, “oh god, it’s happening again.” I texted asking if he blocked me but he denied it. I said I don’t believe him, because it was so obvious. He said if he did block me, it was an accident. I said I still didn’t believe that’s possible.

I immediately regretted it because he went off at me in a voice memo. He said I crossed a line and was trying to get between him and his family. From his perspective, I wanted him to pick me over his baby mama. (He also suggested that a certain picture must have triggered me, but I never saw that picture. I suspect that’s what he is hiding).

Faced with the fear of losing my trainer, I started trying to back track, but it was too late. He kept doubling and tripling down. It got to the point where, if he is telling the truth, I genuinely feel bad for not believing him. (But I don’t know if he ever told the truth…)

I was crying and didn’t want to talk on the phone. He accused me of not caring because I texted. That made me sad because the opposite is true. I asked if I could send him a personal email. I sent an email disclosing my depression and the abortion, as well as some other things. Super vulnerable.

He took a few days then texted that he would be in touch for “closure.” A few days later he texted that he was still processing and would respond soon. It’s been over a week and nothing.

I’ve never felt so exposed. I feel like my fate is in his hands and I don’t want to feel this way. I don’t want to lose him as a trainer or friend because he is one of my few supporters.

I could really use any advice and perspective from other, more capable, women.

I’m a beginner adult and I’ve only seen people wear black. But there are some tan shoes in my size for a good price on Poshmark I’m tempted to purchase. I’d definitely prefer black, and I don’t want to look like a grandma or something.

Is this part of tap culture in any way?

I hate underwire and bra cups. I especially hate removable bra cups. I also dislike padding in general. Because I am not used to it, even a little padding feels like a lot to me.

I only wear bralettes with the pads removed. The problem is, my nipples poke through.

Is there any magical bra out there with no cups or padding but with material thick enough to cover nipples?

Thank you!!

Today I arrived for my 5th session and filled out the intake form as usual. The tech took it and said, “10 hours of sleep and you are still tired? I’m jealous!”

I mumbled something like “oh yeah, I over slept.” But really I wanted to say, “why do you think I’m here?! I’m trying to answer these forms honestly so I can see if my depression improves. Please don’t shame me into lying on the forms”

That was one example. Another tech always asks me about my weekend and tells me what I “should” do. I know she means well. But she said I should cook for my dad who was in town or get out and go on a hike in the nice weather. I want to do all those things so bad. But I’m stuck in bed 90% of the time. I can barely feed myself. It’s a miracle I show up to appointments.

Anyway, I guess this is a rant. For a mental health workers, I just don’t feel like my techs are very understanding of depression.

All of my favorite articles of clothing are polyester. A dress from Athleta. Tops from Uniqlo. I love fabric that doesn’t wrinkle and doesn’t show sweat stains. And that I can throw in the wash. Polyester does all this for me and last forever. Also, it’s not scratchy like some natural fabrics can be.

When an expensive dress is polyester and everyone is disappointed, I’m just confused.

I will have the money to pay rent as soon as the state gives it to me. I’m back to work starting today, so future paychecks are coming. I was really hoping that I’d get the direct deposit before tomorrow, but here we are.

I can’t even pay half the rent. My credit isn’t great, and I’m trying to improve it. I don’t know anyone who can lend that much to me.

Should I take out a loan, and if so, any loan in particular? I’ll do my due diligence.

Should I ask my landlord for an extension instead? My landlord is a corporation. I’m not sure if I’ll reach anyone with a heart. Is it worth trying? Is there any risk in disclosing my situation?

I need the money ($2k) fast too, rent is due tomorrow. Any advice is greatly appreciated!