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Serious barber-customer etiquette related question: do barbers get annoyed or upset if a client alternates between them and another barber, or only gets a cut from them on special occasions (a few times per year)?

In this economy, I usually get a $25 cut monthly from one barber across town at this mom n’ pop place, but just recently got a $100 cut from somebody near me at this upscale boutique spot.

The $100 cut is good but just marginally better than the $25 cut, and I just can’t spend $100, plus tip, every month for that.

So if I went back to the $100 barber only a couple times a year, like before special events, is he gonna be like “wtf is your deal, why aren’t you coming to me every month?” I just wouldn’t want to piss this barber off - I have no idea if that’s bad etiquette.

So, the older I get, the more it seems I have to tackle some new crisis or emergency on a weekly basis - tweaked my back badly, dog’s injured and needs expensive vet care, mom fell and is in the hospital, dad got cancer, neighbor is trying to sue me over a property line dispute, A/C died and I’m getting quoted $15K to fix it, basement flooded, job’s in jeopardy due to management drama and cutbacks etc. etc.

Like, this is the pattern I’ve been dealing with for years now, but I distinctly remember a time when I didn’t have some weekly crisis or emergency to contend with - it’s like something in the universe just turned a switch on me.

It’s like this meme I saw that goes something like “being an adult means dealing with nonstop crises, and thinking ‘if I can just get through this week I’ll be good’, but you think this every week forever, and then you die.”

Is this it? How do you all cope?

So I just got a pair of Lincoln loafers in “rich mahogany” and as I do with any new pair of leather shoes before I wear ‘em outside, I hit ‘em with a bit of Saphir Renovateur, Saphir clear polish, buff ‘em, and a light spray of Saphir leather protector.

Doing this works great on my other boots and shoes, and starts them off with a good layer of moisture and protection, but with these Lincoln’s, it basically dulled them dramatically, and now they have a matte finish - no matter how much time I spend buffing them with a horsehair brush - they just do not shine.

What’s going on here? Doesn’t seem like the Thursday Lincoln loafers leather is soaking in the Saphir products at all. Did I just ruin these shoes?

I’m struggling to understand Sperry boat shoe (AO 2 Eye) sizing - I purchased two different colorways from two different online retailers in what I thought was the exact same size, however I’m noticing one shoebox has an “MM” designation and the other has an “MW” designation - and the “MW” fits wider and much more comfortably out of the box.

So, I’m realizing the “MW” is probably the “wide” version, but it didn’t say that anywhere when I purchased the shoe. I bought both shoes in their standard “regular” width.

So I’m checking different online retailers, Sperry’s site, Amazon, Zappos etc. and none of them have a consistent width sizing scheme - depending on the retailer, the same colorway can come in “narrow”, “regular”, or “wide” but absolutely nowhere do they have an “MM” or “MW” designation.

I just want two different colorways in the same size, with the same width. Anybody have any intel on this? Thanks!

I remember watching season 1 a few years ago and thinking, meh, it’s ok - but, season 2? Damn. Best season of television I’ve seen in a while, and truly one of the best seasons of any series in the “spy” genre I’ve ever seen. Was not expecting that.

This season did everything a good spy series should - interesting plot, characters, motivations, dialogue, and spy craft - actual spy craft.

Most “spy” thrillers are insanely boring to me because they usually focus on one character, doing ridiculous super-heroic things - running, jumping, chasing, escaping, blowing things up, quippy one liners, ad nauseam. Action for action’s sake - no actual spy craft. Half the time I forget why they’re doing stuff.

An interesting thing I realized while watching is how little action and violence there is in the series, but despite that, it’s incredibly tense. Just watching the characters interact is more thrilling than any gun-fight, though obviously there’s a little of that too, and when the series does get violent, it’s so much more shocking and impactful.

Big kudos to this series. A+. I hope we don’t have to wait too long for season 3.

Just recently quit using antiperspirant with aluminum because doing that for decades destroyed every shirt I own, so I went looking for alternatives and settled on Dr. Squatch Invisible Glide deodorant because they specifically claim that it won’t stain or mark your shirts - so far so good.

Problem is, the scents they offer are godawful, and their market base seems to be 14 year old gamers or something. I’ve tried six different scents and the only ones that are remotely tolerable are Coastal Mist and Summer Citrus. I tried Rainforest Rapids, thinking it was alright, but had a headache from the stench all day.

Why does this brand have like 30 different scents, but 99% of them are terrible - just highly perfumed and synthetic smelling? How are they staying in business?

Is it wild to anybody else that the theatrical run for this movie was less than two weeks? I remember movies being in the theater almost all summer long when I was a kid.

I guess with the low box office take, other competing movies on the horizon, and Amazon probably aiming to put it on Prime Video soon ($20-$25 to rent or own, likely) I guess that makes sense, but it’s kinda sad, right?

Been thinking, anybody else remember the Dick Tracy movie from 1990? I was a pre-teen in 1990 and remember how absolutely jazzed my uncle was to take me and my cousins to see the movie.

He’d grown up reading the comic books and comic strip (which ran from 1931-1977) and it obviously provoked a lot of childhood nostalgia for him. I loved the movie, but I remember it was considered a bomb. I remember the same discussions back then - Who was the movie made for? Guys who were middle aged of course, like my uncle.

The same thing is happening now with the MoTU movie. It was intended for nostalgic middle-aged guys, who will use it as a bonding experience with their kids, just like my uncle did with Dick Tracy back in 1990.

I’m a total cynic these days. I haven’t bothered with Star Wars or the MCU in ages, but was cautiously optimistic about the MoTU movie and was not disappointed. I had a blast watching.

My hope now is that a sequel (and maybe a threequel) gets made. I can’t say that about any other franchise, but this IP deserves it and there’s so much more to explore - She-Ra, Hordak, so many more heroes, villains, vehicles, and locations to spotlight. While other IP’s are scraping the bottom of the barrel these days, this one is ripe for growth.

It felt like this movie laid the groundwork for something bigger - and a lot of the gripes critics had (parts I actually enjoyed) would be absent from a sequel: the scenes on earth, the character intros, the apparent tonal inconsistencies, all the stuff required to get audiences settled into the world of MoTU. The sequel could just step on the gas, and get right to business.

I really hope it happens. Come on Jeff Bezos, toss your studio some money and make it happen.

Was just thinking recently - my dad, who’s in his early 80’s, still has multiple friends from his high school days, a whole little gang actually, and despite living all around the place, they still get together for golf trips etc.

Me, on the other hand, I think I’ve still got *one* friend from high school school that I still hang with occasionally because we live close enough to each other and, even then, our personalities and lifestyles have changed in a way that makes hanging out feel like a chore sometimes.

So, show of hands, who still maintains close friendships from childhood and/or high school? How’d that happen, or not happen? What do you do together?

Signed in, fan code ready, in the ticketmaster queue, 22,000 customers ahead of me for a 1,500 venue. Honestly something really f’d up is happening here. There’s absolutely no way 22K actual human fans with fan codes in the DC area were online trying to buy tix for the DC show this morning.

My senior aged mother lives alone, is a hoarder, and has suffered two falls (that required lengthy hospitalization and rehab) in less than two years. It’s obviously time for her to move to assisted living, or at least get an in-home aide, but she’s refusing and I can’t seem to put any sense into her.

She also has a variety of health problems, including uncontrolled diabetes, and can’t keep up with her bills, taxes etc. Not because she doesn’t have money, rather because she forgets, doesn’t know how, or refuses to pay. Her finances and debts are a mess, but she’s highly secretive and refuses to give me power of attorney, so I have no idea how bad it really is. She says I can clean up her mess when she’s dead.

So, I’m at a point where she demands my help and attention for little things like errands and home projects, but she doesn’t give me the tools or information I need to really help her. At this point, and I hate to think or say it, but the situation may actually be easier to handle when she’s dead - and at this rate, she’ll likely die while home alone.

Do any of you have aging parents that refuse assisted living, in-home aides, and giving power of attorney to help manage finances and medical obligations? How did that turn out? Kind of at my wits end here.

So, this past year I’ve noticed that popular music websites that have long been free to access, albeit with heavy advertising (Pitchfork, Stereogum and others), have implemented paywalls and subscription plans to access most of their content - probably still featuring advertising.

Has anybody opted into those subscription plans to keep reading their content? I used to visit those sites daily but haven’t subscribed, so I just don’t read them anymore.

I get that music journalism is tough these days, and people gotta eat, but on the scale of priorities these days, buying *another* subscription to something just isn’t in the cards for me - as I assume is the situation for a lot of folks.

What effect do you think this is gonna have on music and music culture as a whole, where information is increasingly siloed and inaccessible to must of the general public. Can’t be good.