u/krymzynnova

Wait - why is it always the dad’s side that has an issue with the dad’s wife / baby mum and the kids please ???

Nah cause i only just recollected something odd AS OF NOWWWW 😂

Why is it always the dad’s side ? Like don’t they get tired of being a stereotype ?

Got me thinking

Years ago, YEARS AGOO, an auntie (on my dad’s side) got mad when i said someone on my dad’s side is my half sibling (sozzz 😂)

But legally, the uk government would see me as an only child tho ????? (Between my mum Nd dad i am actually the only child and I grew up as an only child so ehh)

(I got 2 half siblings on my mum’s side and …. Idk for my dad’s side man - numbers too big over there 😂)

But why do they get so mad - like “half” doesn’t mean nothing badd 😭 … does it ? (I genuinely thought it indicated you only share *one* parent)

But why does it agitate em so bad - does anyone know ? 😂

Do you also say “half siblings” ?

I need answerssss

They really come to a westernized culture (🇬🇧🇺🇸🇨🇦+) from Africa - FAIL TO UNDERSTAND THE NEW SURROUNDING CULTURE / how things are done / the way of the westernized world

Like baby this isn’t Africa 2.0 😭😭😭

Then when some african kids are called clueless in primary school / elementary school / kindergarten or our westernized counterparts look at us funmy cause we dk the culture of the country we’re living in … it’s really on our parents ya know

But get this

Wdym 10,15,20 years later and there’s a handful that still don’t understand ??? **I PERSONALLY KNOW SOME FRANCOPHONE AUNTIES WHO DONT SPEAK A LICK OF ENGLISH AFTER LIVING HERE 20+ YEARS** couldn’t even tell you “hello” ???

There’s really a good amount of people who set their kids up for failure by being like this

African Parents are … arghhhh

The end

General question

Only cause - i don’t feel fully angolan cause i grew up VERY MUCH next door (even probably on the doorstep) to the Francophonic community - and then, obviously I live in London - so I really have the typical “London mannerisms”

I feel like this doesn’t get talked about alot - especially when it comes to african kids, but then you got aunties blazing us cause we don’t act as if we’re from our country / have as much ball knowledge about our country

Man - growing up ? it sucked my mum done the bare minimal 😂

(This reddit was inspired by a fellow redditor saying she experienced a similar thing but she’s nigerian in USA so i thought let me ask the people to see what their response isss)

can any1 else relate ?

Because my mother threw away my top and had the audacity to say “i’m sorry if i threw it away”

IF ??? IF ??? So who was it ??? Casper the ghost ? Satan himself ???

What a clump nugget - fps

Why don’t they know how to say “I was in the wrong”

Fps man 😂😂😂😂

The more i get older - the more I realised these man are tapped and delusional

Our westernized counterparts wouldn’t be doing this i’m just saying, the behaviour a good chunk of african parents display isn’t normal !!!!

“I’m sorry if I three it away” - what does that sound like to you lot please 🤣😴

Bom dia / boa tarde / boa noite de onde quer que vocês estejam

I just had a little question in regards to a Slang Term

Growing up (as an example) - those from Guinea-Bissau 🇬🇼 would say they’re gui guis (girls or boys)

And people from portugal are “tugas” (girls or guys)

I heard YEARS AGO that the slang equivalent for those of São Tomé is “santolas” but is this just for females ? I just never knew if guys said “santolos” ?? 😂🙏

I heard a few say “Meus Santolas” but i didn’t know if they were right or wrong (they also seemed unsure) 🤣

Obrigada meu povoo 🙏

just a short story time *sighs*

Moving on

**for me personally** I already look down on the _ideology_ of siblings with a FAT AGE gap (an age gap of 6 or more years is too much for meeee )

But yeah i have an older half sister - she’s 14 years older than me (i’m 22) … sooooo when i had a mouth infection yeah (i was 19 when it happened) … she turned around to say “at least you’ll be able to loose some weight”

I-…. ?????

Mind you i’m slimmer than her (i’m 5’6 and 90kg and she’s 5’2 and 130kg)

But it just made me think …. if we was closer in age - would she have said that ? And it also made me think “why do *_some_* Africans have a age hierarchy superiority complex” (or whatever it’s called) thinking they can tell the younger lot anything they want - but if we do it back it’s bare long 😴

Like i just found it mind boggling - idc if we have blood shared between us by our mum, what makes the handul of them so comfortable saying these things ? I’ll never know

And why do some parents allow this to happen between the siblings aswell ? Oh for flips sake

Free us, honestly

**I wish this post to be a safe post for someone to remember**

I read something today that said “set some boundaries with them OR suffer with an autoimmune disease”

With that being said - to my fellow africans who haven’t yet, start setting some boundaries / start rebelling / start INTENTIONALLY ignoring the stupidity of our parents and their parents and and their parents (the list goes on)

If we internalise our feelings, we’re only setting ourselves up - the lot of our african parents wouldn’t even understand anyways, and they’d probs blame us for getting these issues in the first place (the irony of blaming us when they’re the cause)

Please take care of yourselves gang, don’t internalise your anger and other emotions just because of our parents ignorance and stupidity

Live your life as you wish (responsiblly) and don’t take advice from your parents if they haven’t done / tried to do what you wish to do

💚

Can’t make this up - I’VE JUST COME BACK FROM THE HOSPITAL DUE TO EYE PAIN … and my mum believes it was a convenient time to call me stupiid

Don’t regret telling her “if you’re not going to solve the situation, no point of you adding anything at all” (quite proud of myself actually)

my eye pain came BANG ON when i was at the gym - so ofc i left,came yard & phoned 111 to go hospital - but guys wanted to call me “stupid” for what ? Idek 🤦‍♀️

But at least i’ll be 80 and slim thick and healthy whilst we’re not sure if others will get to 80 due to how unhealthy they already are 😂 (it’s okay laugh if you want to cause I’m cackling too)

As a londoner I do a fair bit of travelling around Europe (i’ve been Spain, Belgium, France, Portugal, Germany) ☺️

And these were either for visiting family or attending familial events (weddings / birthdays / anniversaries etc). Portugal was my actual only holiday on the list - but i realised I’m not using my free will properly

I realised I can travel to another country and watch sports live in the flesh, see a famous landmark, do a lil shopping and see a whole new scenerey (you get the idea) you only live once :)

So what countries in Europe could i see REALLY amazing Football Games, Basketball Games etc for relatively good pricing + good enough seats ? Thanksssss

Edit : Thanks to those who publically and privately responded - will be deffo checking out some more games now <3333

Yeah yeah it was pre szn games (and Kamilla got fouled out - oopsie daysie)

Sooo how we feeeeliing ?

With sky diggs, jacy sheldon & the potential come back of coach slooty sloot, how we feeling for HVL ? (And banham if u wanna include her)

Edit : Talking only about the guardssssss

Edit 2 : I’m watching the game toooo - I see that we got a ã confident one over here 🔥