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What do you do when you wanna disconnect muna saglit?
Idk. For some reason, bigla akong nalungkot. There are times na when I feel like this, gusto ko muna maglaho saglit. Other times naman, labas na labas ako, gusto ng kausap, gusto ng makakalandian, gusto nang magka-jowa hahahaha. But damn, ang dami ko nang disappointments with men this year. 😂 Anyway, this is not about my love life.

Tag-ulan kasi ngayon, and ang hirap lumabas. I don’t like going out kapag maulan. Damn brain. Damn rain! 😭
So what do you guys do when you feel like disconnecting or doing a little social media detox, pero ang pangit din ng weather and you’re stuck at home?

Edit:I like playing games, pero madalas mobile na lang, or watching movies and series. I used to love reading books, pero umiikli na ata attention span ko. Gusto ko may ibang ginagawa while doing other things, parang gusto ko lagi akong overstimulated. 🤣🤣 Recommend a good series/movies or book I will try to watch or read them!

Gusto ko na magka-boyfriend, Lorrrd!!

Pero I’m too lazy to use dating apps or entertain guys muna kasi feeling ko nasasayang oras ko HAHAHA. Lately kasi, puro disappointing yung mga nakakausap ko.

Kaya siguro nagkaroon ako ng standards. Through dating and getting to know different people, I learned what I like, what I don’t like, and what I actually want in a relationship. Hindi sa pagiging choosy, pero choosy nga talaga. 😂 I’d rather be single than settle or lower my standards just to be with someone.

If you were to ask me, “Ano ba talaga gusto mo sa lalaki?” Honestly, I don’t think I’m asking for anything too crazy.
Someone who has a stable job or career. Has a provider mindset, not necessarily someone who pays for everything, but someone generous and capable of contributing. Financially responsible, kasi I need someone who can balance me out because I’m not exactly the most financially responsible person. 😂

Someone who’s consistent with communication and effort. Emotionally intelligent and mature. Has a good sense of humor and can match my personality. Someone I can genuinely feel comfortable and at ease with. Knows how to plan a proper date. Clean and hygienic, someone who takes care of himself and his health. And yes, cute. Physical attraction matters too. HAHAHA.

Yung iba, they had some or most of these qualities, pero hindi pa rin nag-work because they were emotionally unavailable or weren’t ready to seriously commit. And honestly, casual setups aren’t really for me anymore. I prefer a genuine connection, consistency, and actually getting to know someone.

I think malaking basis ko rin yung experience ko with my ex. He didn’t have a stable job, didn’t have plans for the future, and wasn’t really effortful. Then after him, I met someone who cooks for me, makes plans for the future with me, picks me up and drops me off, and genuinely loves spending time with me, kahit FWB lang kami.

And that made me realize, I’m not asking for too much. I was just with the wrong person. 😂

So maybe I’m not too choosy. Maybe I just learned what I want, what I don’t want, and what I’m no longer willing to settle for. 😂

Gusto ko ng boyfriend, yes. Pero ayoko ng boyfriend just for the sake of having one. I’d rather be single and wait for something genuine than force a connection that I already know isn’t what I want.

I randomly woke up in the middle of the night and couldn’t fall back asleep, so I started doomscrolling.

Then I came across a video of someone solo traveling to a place I’ve been wanting to visit. My first thought was, “Maybe being single wouldn’t be so bad after all. I could go anywhere I want. I just need enough money to travel.” 😂 And honestly… that kind of peace sounds nice.

Over the past few weeks, I’ve gone on dates with three different guys. None of them felt right. Either there was no romantic connection, or they ended up being disappointing in one way or another. On top of that, most of the men I’ve talked to only seemed interested in sx, and it’s honestly exhausting.

I think this might be my last attempt at finding love. I’m 32, and I’m just… tired.

Not because I’m single, I actually enjoy being single. I love my independence, my peace, and the freedom to do whatever I want. But I’m tired of the constant cycle of getting to know someone, investing time and energy, only for it to go nowhere.

People always say, “Lower your standards.” I tried. It still didn’t make dating any easier.

Maybe I’ll just go back to my original life plan: make enough money to travel the world and enjoy life. That was actually my goal back in my 20s after I’d convinced myself that maybe love just wasn’t meant for me.

Then somewhere along the way, I started wanting it again.
I wanted someone to experience life with. Someone to pour all this love into. Someone to come home to. A real partner.

The funny part is that my love life and honestly, even my sex life has become pure entertainment at this point. The stories are so chaotic and ridiculous that my friends probably enjoy hearing about them more than I enjoy living them. 😂

I’ll always be a lover girl. I don’t think that part of me will ever disappear. But maybe it’s time to take a break. Stop looking. Stop chasing. Stop trying so hard to find something that’s meant to happen naturally.

I hope one day I stop longing for romantic love so much. I hope I become so fulfilled with my own life that if love eventually finds me, it’ll be a beautiful bonus, not something I need to feel complete.

If it happens someday, I’ll be grateful. If it doesn’t, I hope I still build a life full of peace, adventure, and happiness.

I got laid off recently.

Honestly, mixed emotions talaga. Syempre nakakatakot mawalan ng work, lalo na ang dami kong responsibilities.
Pero kinakaya ko pa naman. Lately lang talaga medyo naging mabigat yung expenses kaya mas naramdaman ko yung pressure. For the longest time, parang survival mode lang ako every month. Ang dami kong bills to pay, share sa bahay, loans, tuition ng kapatid ko, tapos kung anu-ano pang monthly expenses. May mga buwan pa nga na nagne-negative ako kasi hindi na talaga kasya yung sahod.

Hindi option sakin na itigil yung pagtulong sa bahay, so talagang gusto ko ma-lessen yung ibang financial obligations ko.

Kaya yung severance pay, hindi ko siya tinitingnan as “extra money.” Para sakin, chance siya to restart. Unang gagawin ko is bayaran agad yung mga loans ko para wala na akong ibang iniisip na monthly payments bukod sa talagang responsibilities ko. Then magtatabi ako ng budget para sa bills, share ko sa bahay, tapos sa share pa sa tuition ng kapatid ngayon pasukan at allowance ko habang naghahanap ng work. Alam ko kasing mahirap ang job market ngayon, so gusto ko prepared ako in case abutin ng 2–3 months bago ulit makahanap ng trabaho.
Parang ang goal ko lang talaga is mabigyan yung sarili ko ng fresh start. Yung hindi na ako magsisimula ulit na may mabigat na utang sa likod ko. Hopefully after paying everything off, makapag-start na rin akong magsave kahit paunti-unti. Feeling ko this is also a chance for me to be smarter with my money moving forward. 😆

Nagtitingin na rin naman ako ng work habang nagre-render pa, pero to be honest, hindi ko rin alam saan o ano ba talaga ang hahanapin ko. This company has been my first and only company for almost a decade. Hindi ko pa talaga na-experience mag-job hunt or mag-apply sa ibang companies, so parang ang overwhelming din magsimula ulit. Haha.

Hindi ko naman ginusto mawalan ng trabaho, pero since nandito na rin ako sa situation na to, pipiliin ko na lang isipin na baka ito yung opportunity na kailangan ko para makapag-reset.

Ayoko lang muna i-stress yung sarili ko sa mga bagay na wala pa naman. One day at a time lang.

Iniisip ko na lang, hindi naman ako pababayaan ni Lord. Somehow, I know everything will work out.

Today, I finally decided to leave the company I’ve been with since my OJT days.

Imagine staying in one company for almost a decade. It became my comfort zone, the place that was so hard to leave. Every year sinasabi ko, “Magre-resign na talaga ako. “ Pero hanggang salita lang… until today.

I still remember being a college student applying for my OJT, hoping na matanggap ako. The moment I stepped inside the office, I had this feeling na, “Parang dito ako belong.” And almost 10 years later, eto na.
Honestly, ang scary ng decision na ’to.

I’m not the smartest. Hindi rin ako yung tipong sobrang galing sa trabaho. Wala rin akong masyadong experience sa interviews, at mahina talaga loob ko kapag English na, lalo na sa situational questions. Pero I know I have to face that fear.

As much as I love this company, kailangan ko ring piliin yung growth ko. Ang hirap ng buhay ngayon. I’m already in my 30s, and gusto ko na rin magkaroon ng mas maayos na savings at mas magandang future. Sa ngayon, ang pinaka-ipon ko pa lang yata ay memories from my international trips. 😂 And honestly, no regrets naman doon.

I’m still rendering, and thankfully I have enough savings kaya medyo malakas ang loob kong umalis kahit wala pa akong next job lined up. I’m currently looking and actively applying, hoping na may tamang opportunity na dumating soon.

It’s bittersweet. Excited, scared, grateful… halo-halo.
But here’s to whatever comes next. Sana ito na yung next chapter na matagal ko nang dini-delay dahil sa takot.
Praying for new opportunities, job dust, and money dust, not just for me, but for everyone who’s taking a leap of faith. ✨🍀

Today, I finally decided to leave the company I’ve been with since my OJT days.

Imagine staying in one company for almost a decade. It became my comfort zone, the place that was so hard to leave. Every year sinasabi ko, “Magre-resign na talaga ako.” Pero hanggang salita lang… until today.

I still remember being a college student applying for my OJT, hoping na matanggap ako. The moment I stepped inside the office, I had this feeling na, “Parang dito ako belong.” And almost 10 years later, eto na.
Honestly, ang scary ng decision na ’to.

I’m not the smartest. Hindi rin ako yung tipong sobrang galing sa trabaho. Wala rin akong masyadong experience sa interviews, at mahina talaga loob ko kapag English na, lalo na sa situational questions. Pero I know I have to face that fear.

As much as I love this company, kailangan ko ring piliin yung growth ko. Ang hirap ng buhay ngayon. I’m already in my 30s, and gusto ko na rin magkaroon ng mas maayos na savings at mas magandang future. Sa ngayon, ang pinaka-ipon ko pa lang yata ay memories from my international trips. 😂 And honestly, no regrets naman doon.

I’m still rendering, and thankfully I have enough savings kaya medyo malakas ang loob kong umalis kahit wala pa akong next job lined up. I’m currently looking and actively applying, hoping na may tamang opportunity na dumating soon.

It’s bittersweet. Excited, scared, grateful… halo-halo.
But here’s to whatever comes next. Sana ito na yung next chapter na matagal ko nang dini-delay dahil sa takot.
Praying for new opportunities, job dust, and money dust, not just for me, but for everyone who’s taking a leap of faith. ✨🍀

Nakakapagod lang ba talaga makipag-date or kahit makipag-usap lang sa tao ngayon? Hahaha.

I gave dating apps another shot. Even replied to DMs here on Reddit. It’s draining.

They come in so strong at first. Ang galing mag-initiate ng conversation, tapos kapag minatch mo yung energy nila, unti-unti namang nawawala. 😮‍💨

Please don’t give energy you can’t sustain.

We’re in our 30s. Let’s not waste each other’s time. If you know you can’t be consistent, don’t pretend you can. Ack.

May nakilala ako dito sa Reddit. He’s in his mid-30s, average-looking naman. Feeling ko kung mas nag-aayos lang siya ng sarili, mas okay pa sana yung dating. Every time may nakikilala akong lalaki na nasa mid-30s tapos matagal nang single, naaalala ko talaga yung stereotype tungkol sa kanila na may problem sakanila, could be true base sa experiences ko with older men but idk. I know hindi naman applicable sa lahat. Minsan timing lang talaga kaya single ang tao.

Nag-exchange naman kami ng photos. Ang napansin ko lang, puro old photos niya ang sines-send, mga kuha pa yata noong nasa 20s siya. Napa-isip tuloy ako, bakit? Hindi ka naman vampire para hindi magbago ang itsura mo over the years. 😭 Buti na lang before kami magkita, nagsend naman siya ng recent photo para alam ko kung ano talaga ang itsura niya ngayon.

Isa pa sa medyo off sa akin, halos araw-araw niya akong kino-compliment na sobrang ganda ko raw. Don’t get me wrong, naa-appreciate ko naman ang compliments. Nasasabihan naman akong cute or maganda from time to time. Pero kapag araw-araw na at sobra-sobra, alam kong binobola na lang ako.

Almost one week kaming magkausap bago kami nag-decide magkita. Honestly, bored lang din ako at gusto ko lang makakilala ng bagong tao. Kahit may feeling na akong wala itong pupuntahan.

Dumating yung araw ng date. Manonood sana kami ng sine. Usapan, 8 PM magkikita. May tinatapos pa kasi akong chores sa bahay that day kaya sinabi ko agad na baka ma-late ako. Habang nasa Grab ako, inu-update ko siya kung anong oras ako darating. Nagmamadali pa nga ako kasi sabi niya ayaw raw niya sa late dahil punctual siya.

Habang nasa biyahe ako, nagsend siya ng picture kung nasaan siya. Akala ko nagyoyosi break lang kasi parang nasa malayo pa siya. Wala naman siyang ibang update after that unless ako ang magtanong. Gets ko naman na nagda-drive siya.

8:40 PM yung movie. Dumating ako sa mall ng 8:30. Wala pa rin siya, so bumili na lang muna ako ng tickets.

Guess what? Dumating siya exactly 8:40.

Sabi ko, “Ang tagal mo.”

Ang sagot niya, “Sorry, malayo eh. Nagutom kasi ako kaya nag-stopover muna ako.”

Doon talaga ako na-off. Hindi dahil na-late siya, kundi dahil parang hindi man lang niya pinagplanuhan yung date. Alam niyang may usapan kami, pero nagsingit pa ng stopover para kumain. Kung punctual ka talaga, bakit ka pa nag-detour?

Pagdating niya, amoy yosi siya. Sabi niya nagyosi raw siya kasi minsan nabanggit ko na gusto ko yung konting lasa ng sigarilyo kapag humahalik sa guy. Ang ibig kong sabihin, subtle lang. Hindi yung parang ashtray na ang buong pagkatao mo.

Sorry but not sorry kung maarte ako. Alam ko na kasi gusto ko ngayon. Hindi na ako yung dati na nagtitiis sa bare minimum, lalo na kung kaya ko namang ibigay sa sarili ko yung effort na hinihingi ko sa ibang tao.
At bago may mag-invalidate ng nararamdaman ko o sabihing “feeling naman nito” o “ang taas ng standards,” di rin naman ako kagandahan. Pero marunong akong mag-present ng sarili ko. I make sure malinis ako, mabango, maayos manamit, at pinaglalaanan ko ng effort kapag may ime-meet akong tao. Hindi ko sinasabing perfect ako, pero I believe I have every right to have standards too. Hindi naman requirement maging conventionally attractive para mag-expect ng basic hygiene, honesty, at effort.

After ng sine, nag-drive kami papuntang Jollibee tapos nag-coffee shop na lang kasi last full show na at wala nang bukas na kainan sa mall.

First time kong makipag-date tapos Jollibee ang kinain namin. 😂

Haay. Di man lang nabawi yung gastos ko sa sine namin ha! Mahal kaya ng ticket 😆😆😆

Habang nasa coffee shop kami, tuloy pa rin ang compliments niya. Tapos bigla niyang sinabi na mas bagay raw kung pahabain ko buhok ko, ipa-straight ko, at magpapayat pa. Napaisip na lang ako.

He was giving unsolicited advice on how I could improve my appearance, samantalang siya mismo, parang hindi rin niya inalagaan yung sarili niya bago kami magkita. Halatang hindi rin well-maintained yung ngipin niya, mabaho yung helmet niya, wala ring pabango, at overall parang wala talaga siyang preparation for the date. Hindi issue sa akin kung average-looking ang tao. Ang issue ko, parang wala siyang effort sa sarili niya, sa hygiene niya, at sa mismong date.

Sa lahat ng naka-date ko, siya lang talaga yung parang zero preparation, from himself hanggang sa actual date.
And to be honest, napag-usapan naman namin beforehand na baka mag-check in after the date. I even shaved and came prepared kasi if the vibe was there, why not?

Pero the moment na nakita ko siya in person, nawalan na talaga ako ng gana. Yung ngipin niya, plus yung sobrang tapang ng amoy ng yosi, complete turn-off. Kahit sabihin pang gusto ko rin naman ma-get laid that time, I just couldn’t do it with him anymore. Hindi ko ma-imagine sarili kong hahalikan siya.

Ilang beses din niyang tinanong kung gusto ko bang mag-check in, pero every single time, tumanggi ako.
Looking back, proud moment ko ‘yun. 😂 Past me would’ve probably ignored the red flags just because I wanna get laid. Pero ngayon, mas okay nang umuwi mag-isa kaysa pilitin ang sarili ko sa isang bagay na ayaw ko na pala.

Hindi ko naman siya ghinost. I think decent enough naman akong tao para sabihin sa kanya na hindi na ako interested. Hindi ko na lang pinahaba.

Part of me wanted to tell him kung ano yung mga naging turn-off sa akin. Baka makatulong pa nga sa next na maka-date niya. Baka next time mas paghandaan niya yung date, mas mag-effort sa sarili niya, linisin yung helmet niya, or at least gumamit ng recent photos.
Pero naisip ko rin… worth it pa ba?

Una, ayoko nang humaba pa yung usapan. Pangalawa, hindi ko rin alam kung paano niya ite-take yung feedback. I’ve experienced talking to a 38-year-old guy before na sobrang butt hurt nung sinabi kong hindi ako interested. Instead of accepting it and moving on, naging defensive pa.

So this time, I chose my peace. Hindi naman obligasyon ng kahit sino na i-coach ang taong hindi nila gustong i-date. Minsan sapat na yung sabihin mong, “I’m no longer interested,” and leave it at that.

Pagkatapos nun, napagod na lang talaga ako.
Parang ayoko muna ulit makipag-date. Hindi dahil sa isang tao, pero nakakapagod din minsan. Ang dami mong makikilala na ang hanap lang pala ay sex, o kaya hindi rin nila alam kung ano talaga ang gusto nila. Tapos may iba pang gusto mag-set ng standards para sa’yo habang sila mismo hindi ma-meet yung standards na ine-expect nila sa iba.

Late-night thoughts…

I randomly woke up in the middle of the night and couldn’t fall back asleep, so I started doomscrolling.

Then I came across a video of someone solo traveling to a place I’ve been wanting to visit. My first thought was, “Maybe being single wouldn’t be so bad after all. I could go anywhere I want. I just need enough money to travel.” 😂 And honestly… that kind of peace sounds nice.

Over the past few weeks, I’ve gone on dates with three different guys. None of them felt right. Either there was no romantic connection, or they ended up being disappointing in one way or another. On top of that, most of the men I’ve talked to only seemed interested in sx, and it’s honestly exhausting.

I think this might be my last attempt at finding love. I’m 32, and I’m just… tired.

Not because I’m single, I actually enjoy being single. I love my independence, my peace, and the freedom to do whatever I want. But I’m tired of the constant cycle of getting to know someone, investing time and energy, only for it to go nowhere.

People always say, “Lower your standards.” I tried. It still didn’t make dating any easier.

Maybe I’ll just go back to my original life plan: make enough money to travel the world and enjoy life. That was actually my goal back in my 20s after I’d convinced myself that maybe love just wasn’t meant for me.

Then somewhere along the way, I started wanting it again.
I wanted someone to experience life with. Someone to pour all this love into. Someone to come home to. A real partner.

The funny part is that my love life and honestly, even my sex life has become pure entertainment at this point. The stories are so chaotic and ridiculous that my friends probably enjoy hearing about them more than I enjoy living them. 😂

I’ll always be a lover girl. I don’t think that part of me will ever disappear. But maybe it’s time to take a break. Stop looking. Stop chasing. Stop trying so hard to find something that’s meant to happen naturally.

I hope one day I stop longing for romantic love so much. I hope I become so fulfilled with my own life that if love eventually finds me, it’ll be a beautiful bonus, not something I need to feel complete.

If it happens someday, I’ll be grateful. If it doesn’t, I hope I still build a life full of peace, adventure, and happiness.

Soooo… I liked this guy. I mean, what’s not to like?

He genuinely tried to get to know me. Mabait siya, kind, and I felt comfortable being myself around him. I could see parts of myself in him, especially sa enthusiasm niya and sa effort niyang kilalanin ako. Pero syempre, part of me was wondering din kung baka sa umpisa lang ’to or baka love bombing lang, kasi honestly, ganun din naman ako minsan kapag gusto ko talaga yung tao.

He had the potential to be a really good boyfriend. Muntik na nga akong pumayag na maging kami. But I thought it would be better if we met first before starting a relationship. Kasi iba pa rin naman yung connection online at in person. Gusto ko munang makita kung same pa rin ba yung feelings kapag nagkita na kami.

And then we finally met.

He traveled almost two hours just to see me. Yung Grab fare niya was around ₱600–₱1,000 one way, and yet gusto niya pa rin akong makita. On the way, dumaan pa siya para bumili ng flowers. My favorite flowers.

And grabe, first time ko makatanggap ng bouquet ng favorite flower ko from a first date. Actually, first time ko makatanggap ng favorite flower ko from anyone.

I don’t want to compare, pero naisip ko lang yung ex ko. In our entire relationship, twice lang niya ako binigyan ng flowers, nung first Valentine’s Day namin, and nung nagkabalikan kami, Valentine’s ulit. He even had to ask me if gusto ko ba ng flowers for Valentine’s Day, lol.

And honestly, while I appreciated the gesture, neither bouquet really felt thoughtful. Parang “may maibigay lang, okay na.” But of course, it’s still the thought that counts, and grateful pa rin naman ako.

Kaya iba yung tama nito sa akin. Hindi dahil flowers lang siya. Kundi because he remembered. He paid attention. He knew what my favorite flower was and went out of his way to get it.

And that’s why I felt so guilty. Kasi after finally meeting him, hindi ko naramdaman yung same romantic connection na meron ako for him online.

Dagdag pa doon, if I’m being completely honest, hindi ako physically attracted sa kanya. I tried. I really did. Tinry kong mag-focus sa personality niya, sa pagiging mabait niya, sa effort niya, at sa way niya ako tratuhin. Gusto kong bigyan ng chance yung feelings ko na mag-grow kasi alam kong mabuting tao siya.

Pero doon ko rin na-realize na physical attraction matters pala talaga. Hindi siya yung pinakaimportanteng bagay, pero importante siya enough na hindi ko kayang i-ignore.

And that’s the hardest part. Kasi minsan makakakilala ka ng taong green flag. Someone who treats you well, makes you feel valued, listens to you, remembers the little things, and puts in effort without being asked.

Someone who travels hours just to see you.

Someone who brings you your favorite flowers.

Someone who has all the qualities you think you’re looking for.

Pero kahit anong pilit mo, hindi mo kayang pilitin yung romantic connection kapag wala talaga.

And I think that’s what hurts the most.

Not because he did something wrong.

But because he did so many things right, and yet my feelings just weren’t the same in person.

I wish they were.

I really wish they were.

PLS. Wag mo sanang mabasa to, if mabasa mo man, pls, wag mo na lang sabihin sakin. I just want to let this out. And I’m sorry if things didn’t end up how we wanted, I feel so bad. And like how I told you, everything I said how I felt about you is real, it just that, it felt different when we met.

Hi! First time ko ulit sasali sa fun run, last time pa was almost a decade ago noong college pa ako hahaha.

I only have NB 530 and Cloud 6 for my rare night walks 🤣 so I’m looking for shoe recommendations within a ₱5k budget.

I’m considering the Anta PG7 since I’ve been seeing a lot of good reviews, but I just want something that will keep my feet and legs comfortable for the run even if 3km lang naman.

Hi everyone! 👋

Can anyone recommend a good brand of dry shirataki rice that’s available in the Philippines?

I’m currently on a weight management journey due to PCOS and prediabetes, and my endocrinologist recommended switching to dry shirataki rice or cauliflower rice as better rice alternatives. I’ve been using quinoa, but my doctor suggested these options may be more suitable for my goals.

For those who have tried dry shirataki rice, what brands do you recommend? Where do you usually buy them (Shopee, Lazada, supermarkets, etc.)? Yung medyo budget friendly sana.

Would also appreciate any tips on preparation, taste, and serving sizes. Thanks! 💖