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26f here, Ftm of 10month old and breastfeeding. Sooo I breastfeed out in public, I breastfeed around my family, I’ve breastfed at a funeral before and had no one say anything. Not even allude to it.

Well I went to a funeral for my great uncle on my mom’s side. Before even leaving my mom said “you should probably cover up”… mind you it’s been 100f the past couple days, my baby hates being covered and gets warm easily. I kinda ignored the request.

But mom or grandmother kept covering me and the baby with a blanket, “we don’t want anyone getting uncomfortable, or getting the wrong idea”. Like… about what?… yeah I know I’m pretty but I’m feeding a baby. A baby. I’m giving her basic human needs so she doesn’t starve. But someone might get the wrong idea and that’s my job to prevent that?! I was wearing a dress, heels soooo if someone is going to be wearing. They’re going to be regardless… also wtf?! It’s a baby. A baby!!! You’re sexualizing a baby!

I ended up leaving early anyway because apparently I was disruptive and I can’t just walk out half way through just because my baby was fussy, or needs a butt change. Like… what? What do you f*** mean! I’ll admit I was too nice. I kept my cool. I wasn’t mad enough in the moment but I cried the whole way home.

I just wanted to be with my family. I’m seriously them.

(Mention of loss) A little rant… I am a 26f mom. I only have one baby and since having her I have this overwhelming fear of getting pregnant AGAIN. It’s so bad that even though I’m on birth control, I’m using protection and taking every precaution. I. STILL. DONT. WANT. SEX.

Like I do but I don’t. Yeah I’m getting counseling and thankfully my fiancé is very patient, and understanding.

I didn’t have a traumatic pregnancy/birth. It just sucked. I was sick the majority of my first trimester and I feel like it’d suck with a toddler. I also lost my job after telling my supervisors I was pregnant, the constant fear of miscarriage because I was high risk, and tye third trimester sucked too. I bled randomly, even just having sex would make me gush blood. The iron infusions made me sick, specially on hot hot days.

I also felt like I had not much support where/when I needed it, but had it when I didn’t if that makes sense? Like I was completely dependent on people in my third trimester but seemed to have people wanting to help me when I didn’t need it, like in the first and second trimester. Now I can’t imagine going back to that, with a toddler and being stuck again.

I wasn’t scared to give birth, the birth wasn’t great but wasn’t terrible either. Definitely didn’t go as expected as I wanted a vaginal, but got a C-section. Postpartum I think was probably the most brutal for me. Depression, rage, the pain and I felt sick whenever trying to shower or wash up. Breastfeeding was brutal too.

I just can’t imagine all of this, plus having a toddler. I know people do it but I genuinely don’t think I could do it again. I’d be a mess. My kid has lots of cousins anyway.

Thanks for staying through my tedtalk🤘🏼

26f here, Ftm of 10month old and breastfeeding. Sooo I breastfeed out in public, I breastfeed around my family, I’ve breastfed at a funeral before and had no one say anything. Not even allude to it.

Well I went to a funeral for my great uncle on my mom’s side. Before even leaving my mom said “you should probably cover up”… mind you it’s been 100f the past couple days, my baby hates being covered and gets warm easily. I kinda ignored the request.

But mom or grandmother kept covering me and the baby with a blanket, “we don’t want anyone getting uncomfortable, or getting the wrong idea”. Like… about what?… yeah I know I’m pretty but I’m feeding a baby. A baby. I’m giving her basic human needs so she doesn’t starve. But someone might get the wrong idea and that’s my job to prevent that?! I was wearing a dress, heels soooo if someone is going to be wearing. They’re going to be regardless… also wtf?! It’s a baby. A baby!!! You’re sexualizing a baby!

I ended up leaving early anyway because apparently I was disruptive and I can’t just walk out half way through just because my baby was fussy, or needs a butt change. Like… what? What do you f*** mean! I’ll admit I was too nice. I kept my cool. I wasn’t mad enough in the moment but I cried the whole way home.

I just wanted to be with my family. But I hate them rn.

25f and my 25m fiancé have been together 5 yrs, now have a baby together. Before I was pregnant I’d send him pics whenever i wasn’t sleeping over at his place, we had a lot of intimacy and did a lot of date nights. Then I got pregnant and we were still pretty active but I rarely sent him pictures because I just didn’t think about it.

Well last night I was away from him and couldn’t sleep so I sent him pictures. He looked at them immediately, didn’t say anything and I ended up deleting them. This man saw my water break, he saw me cut open on a table, had to help me shower after my C-section, literally saw me at my most vulnerable… yet I panicked deleted the pictures I sent. It’s stupid lol. Anyway… idk why I’m like this dude.

Lately this has been a pattern in my life. I’m currently dog/house sitting for my sil (sister in law) and… man… never again. This dog barks 24/7, I let this dog out lots, I feed him on schedule, I try to pay attention to him the best I can with a 10month old and he still barks. He also destroys everything and anything. He won’t use the bathroom outside. I could be outside with him for 3hrs and I swear he waits until he’s inside. This morning he ran away from me so I had to walk forever to find this stupid dog. He also lunges, jumps, nips and corners you. He’s a peach.

Then there’s the baby… she usually went to bed around 8-9 at night, with 3 naps to break up the day. Lately? 1 nap after lunch and that’s it, then awake until 12-1 in the morning. I’ve tried everything that works at home, I even tried just letting her cry herself to sleep but it’s just her crying. Like scream crying. Then she’s awake at 5am.

Then there’s my fiancé… literally works all day, comes home quick and leaves for 2-3hrs and comes home around 9 or 10 at night (the leaving for a few hours is new btw. Like since I started dog sitting new). So by the time he comes home it’s already basically bed so he hops in the shower, does whatever else like smoking or standing outside on his phone. Then once the baby is down we have sex, he rolls over and passes out. I thought the newborn trenches were bad… I think this whatever this is, is worse. I even yelled at my fiancé before he left for work because he’s not helping me with anything, even when roles were reversed and I was working, while he stayed home I’d take over so he could do housework. Or get whatever he needed/wanted to done.

I’m tired of all the load being left for me to do, then expected to want to have intimacy…. Or being nagged at for not seeming “interested”, or seeming distracted. The other day he was going in about how before the baby came we had lots of sex and I was all over him. Omg it’s almost like I’m a parent now and don’t have the energy that I did before having the baby🫪 and sometimes I’m just over touched and literally don’t want to be touched, breathed on, or looked at.

Sooo just think… if your woman isn’t interested in sex, you might want to look around at what can be done. Thanks for coming to my Ted talk as usual

I’m 26f,first time mom of a 10 month old. I worked since I graduated high school, all laborious jobs! I worked on a potato farm, I did home care for a little old lady my mom knew, I was a custodian at a daycare, then I was a housekeeper at a hospital and hotel. I even tried a cashier job but it wasn’t for me.

Unfortunately I had to quit my housekeeper jobs in May because my fiancé went back to work doing construction 2hrs away. Daycare wasn’t an option because the only daycare local to us had no available spots until the first of July. I also don’t have anyone in my family who’d watch my daughter. So quitting felt like my only option.

I miss the schedule I had, the break up in my day, how I felt so rewarded at the end of the day. I miss cleaning a room and being complimented on my work. How spotless the room was, how sharp my hospital folds were, my attention to detail, and how I should pride myself on my efforts. I miss how I had something to talk about. People don’t really want to hear about the same story 24 times, or only talk about your babies accomplishments.

Unfortunately that’s it. I don’t have any accomplishments rn outside of mom. I also went back to work, not only did I just want the thrill of being able to say “I earned this”. I want my daughter to have work ethic. I want her to know how important it is. How rewarding and thrilling it is to work hard, and having something to show for it at the end of the day.

I’m a proud mom though at the end of the day. Regardless if im working or not. I’m lucky to have a child and I know that. Thanks for listening to my rant

Hey yall. 26f Ftm and baby is 10months old. I’m wondering when everyone’s sensitivity to smell goes away? I can smell everything and some smells make me super nauseous, or give me the worst headache. Tbh I don’t remember it being this bad after my first trimester, or after I had my baby but I’ve recently been around a lot of smells that I’m not typically around. Or haven’t been around since I’ve been pregnant.

For example; my favourite perfume is bugging me lately, I can smell pee at my in law’s but no one else can smell it. I’m constantly changing my baby and I’ve been trying to find this smell since I’ve been staying here because it’s making me crazy. The smell of dog also has been getting to me.

I know it different from everyone but I just want to know if there’s anything I can do? Does your sensitivity go away come back randomly? Could it be I’m just sensitive to certain smells forever? When did you finally recover from being so sensitive to smells? Help🥲

So I 26f left my 10month old with my fiancé last night to go grab chips for us to snack on. I was maybe 10mins at most because I couldn’t decide on what chips. I came back home, I got on the phone with my best friend and went up to put my daughter to bed.

My fiancé had fallen asleep with his 🍃vape ig, and my daughter got a hold of it. At first I was really just pissed because he knows better to leave stuff like that down where the baby can get it, then noticed how she was acting. My best friend suggested I check if it has any safety features because some do, like a button to press to hall. Or sometimes it’ll clog up if you hadn’t vaped off it. In this case… no safety features and not clogged (and yes, I took a small puff to see).

I was yelling at him and asking questions. He was no help so I called my aunt who’s a nurse and she reassured me she’d be okay, but to take her to the er if she had a list of symptoms. My daughter is acting like herself, she’s okay! But me…. I can’t stop thinking about what could’ve happened and all the ways it could’ve ended badly. My fiancé is acting distant which is fine because I need the space. I can’t even look at him. I’m genuinely thinking about telling him to go stay with someone for a week. I just can’t push past the feelings, I can’t stop thinking about how I trusted him to watch our daughter. How I’ve gone to him about how I feel like I can’t trust anyone with our daughter but him.

I feel like I’m being crazy and people make mistakes, but this mistake could’ve turned into a life threatening situation. I just can’t justify this in my head.

So I 26f left my 10month old with my fiancé last night to go grab chips for us to snack on. I was maybe 10mins at most because I couldn’t decide on what chips. I came back home, I got on the phone with my best friend and went up to put my daughter to bed.

My fiancé had fallen asleep with his 🍃vape ig, and my daughter got a hold of it. At first I was really just pissed because he knows better to leave stuff like that down where the baby can get it, then noticed how she was acting. My best friend suggested I check if it has any safety features because some do, like a button to press to hall. Or sometimes it’ll clog up if you hadn’t vaped off it. In this case… no safety features and not clogged (and yes, I took a small puff to see).

I was yelling at him and asking questions. He was no help so I called my aunt who’s a nurse and she reassured me she’d be okay, but to take her to the er if she had a list of symptoms. My daughter is acting like herself, she’s okay! But me…. I can’t stop thinking about what could’ve happened and all the ways it could’ve ended badly. My fiancé is acting distant which is fine because I need the space. I can’t even look at him. I’m genuinely thinking about telling him to go stay with someone for a week. I just can’t push past the feelings, I can’t stop thinking about how I trusted him to watch our daughter. How I’ve gone to him about how I feel like I can’t trust anyone with our daughter but him.

I feel like I’m being crazy and people make mistakes, but this mistake could’ve turned into a life threatening situation. I just can’t justify this in my head.

26 first time mom here! Hey! I’m 10months pp and EBF. As long as I can remember my baby has played with either my nipple or my belly button while on the boob. Which is fine as it seems to be a soothing thing because if I try to get her to stop she’ll become upset.

Im just wondering how do I find something else that she can do the same finger/hand motion to give her the same self soothing effect? She’s super rough and I just can’t take the nipple and naval fiddling. Any suggestions?

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Last year I literally just got him a card because I was saving up for the baby came. This year will be our first Father’s Day with our daughter (10months old), and I want it to be special like my Mother’s Day was.

I got him a t shirt but wanted something a bit more special and sentimental. So I’m taking pictures of my bf and our daughter together, and putting them in my home made card that’s going to be from our daughter. Since she can’t do it herself yet lol. I thought about doing up a frame with a recent picture of them together, go pick some rocks to put on the plain frame, and write “my dad rocks”. I just want second opinion on how this all sounds because anyone else would probably tell him, or tell me to keep it simple lol.

Should I get a cake? Take him out to dinner too?

26f and I sold a baby swing that was second hand. My mil was given it and she gave it to me, but I had already got a swing from someone else. Anyway needless to say I have lots of duplicates when it comes to baby stuff. Well… it’s honestly getting out of hand how much stuff I have sitting around, collecting dust just “waiting” for the next baby. The second baby that won’t be coming until this kid is much older lol. So I did something about it.

SIL (sister in law) saw my listings and said “you’re only selling that for $20?”, “you’re only selling that for $30”, “wow… you’re too nice”. After everything was sold and I had no problem selling my items, I accumulated $90. Of If I went any higher I fear I wouldn’t have sold my items at all, and wouldn’t have the money I have rn. Besides I see a lot of posts on fb marketplace mentioning what they’re looking for and mentioning “low income” a lot. If I’m being “too nice”, I think it’s a win for everyone🤷🏻‍♀️

Funny rant; Soooo…. Like the title says, my partner 24m and I 26f tried partaking in spontaneous sex. Like the kind you just go based on the feeling and not really thinking, we were feeling nostalgic and young lol. The baby was asleep and had the baby monitor with us.

Usually our 9 month old wakes up, notices she’s alone and starts crying so thought “she wakes up we’ll know and we’ll stop”. No sound, maybe some movement noises but figured she was just rolling around in her sleep.

I happened to glance at the monitor. Saw my partner’s fish n’ chips and saw her really trying to get into the container lol. We stopped and as we rushed putting clothes back on she spilled fish n’ chips all through her play pen…. Why were the fish n’ chips in her play pen you might be wondering… I don’t know. (Thankfully she doesn’t have an allergy to fish)

It was a good laugh lol. But also a lesson to not leave food in the babies bed🫠

26f first time mom of a 9 month old! So my partner and I were trying for a baby, no success. However we’ve decided to wait as we’re looking to move elsewhere. There’s some other reasons we’ve decided to wait but I won’t get into it.

Well… last night sil took our daughter for the night so we could have date night, we had drinks and ig got carried away as its be hard to be intimate. Carried away like no protection…. But today I had some ovulation symptoms, like discharge and tonight my lh test strip looks positive.

Idk what to do… what do I do?! I mean… there’s nothing I can do. I mean maybe it won’t take. Please tell me my chances of it taking are slim