Hi I am thinking of buying a home near the Richland Villas area in San Marcos and am told there are freight trains that pass at night and some noise. I am not sure if it is enough to stop my buying process and/or if anyone knows what nights they come through so I can go check it out for myself?
We’ve been together for seven years and she has really been struggling with perimenopause symptoms like depression and anxiety lately. Tonight she told me she was in a really low place and had even called 988. What is an appropriate response? How can I support her?
I just wanted to say, I am almost 3 months without cannabis, and I am just now sort of starting to see the blue skies, feel better, etc.
I see a lot of posts on here about "when does it get better" or "when do these withdrawal symptoms stop". So many people expecting to feel better in a week, or three, or even after months.
You will feel better when you feel better. For some people that is sooner than others. It's like breaking up with someone in a long term relationship. Your brain is wired to be used to them, to want them, to miss them. If you have left a long term relationship or marriage after 5, 10, or 20 years, would you be expected to be all bright eyed and bushy tailed in a few weeks? No, you wouldn't.
The simple fact is, this shit is hard. Just like an unhealthy or abusive relationship, it will take time to heal and reset. Don't go back to that abusive relationship after only a few weeks or months just because you are still struggling. If you go back, cannabis will steal your peace and well being again, just like an abusive partner. Give yourself space, time, and be gentle with yourself so you can recover, develop new patterns/habits.
We love each other, but just keep coming up against brick walls in our relationship. We have been together seven years, and this will be the third time that we have "taken a break". Actually we broke up full stop for three months about four years ago.
I love him so much but we are just not compatible as a couple. I already ache thinking about not having him in my life as a friend--we are like family at this point.
I spoke with his sister yesterday and he too has this same love and respect for me.
How long should we go without speaking to hopefully keep a friendship intact? Or, to realize we miss each other and identify things that MUST change in order to make a relationship work? I feel there is only about a 5% chance of that, we just can't keep the on again off again thing, but I do miss him terribly.
I just received this diagnosis, and it tracks honestly.
But now I am a little scared.
For those of you with this diagnosis also, what are your romantic relationships like? Are you partnered with people who also have BPD? If not, do they accept your diagnosis? How do they cope with the triggers, dysregulation, etc?
My partner (M47) and I (F46) have been together for 7 years. It has been a very bumpy road, and we are breaking up this week. We decided to take space on Saturday, but it is becoming clear that there is not a path forward. We have a lot of mutual love and respect for each other, have seen each other through so much through the years, but are just not able to meet each others' needs.
He has a 15 year old daughter that has lived with him full time for four years after experiencing some abuse at her mother's home. I am very close to her. She got me a mothers day card and roses for mothers day, we have all these plans this summer...she calls us her "parents". I ache for her, this is going to really upset her.
Has anyone navigated anything like this before? Is it possible to remain somewhat intact as a family unit even though I have no legal rights as a monther, and her father and I are no longer going to be partners?
I am around 3 months in I think. I didn’t like, pick a day and remember that day and start counting sober days. I was just ready one day and stopped. And I’m seeing so many benefits; my mind is clearer, I have feelings again (which is good and bad) I’m breathing better, eating better, my relationships are more authentic…but I don’t feel “good”. I feel like I’m stumbling around figuring out my new mind and perspective. For those of you who have been without weed for a long time, at what point did it really click and you started to feel truly good?
And if you do regret it, what do you regret?
He has a whole house and I have a one bedroom apartment. He has a teenage daughter as well. But for the past three years we have not lived together, I have packed my things every weekend to go and spend time with him. Last weekend I mentioned it being hard and he said something like "I need someone that doesn't matter to". Am I the asshole here?
More context: we have been together 7 years. I lived with him for three years, then his daughter came to live with him full time and it got too cramped/she got too nuts at times so we both agreed it was prolly better to have my own space and I rented a small apartment, supposedly until she is past the teenage stage and/or goes off to college/moves out.
BF and I lived together and had his daughter (now 14) every other weekend until CPS knocked on our door saying there was abuse at mothers house. Since then, she hasn’t spent a single night with her mother, has blocked her mother completely. There was a trial and conviction of the stepfather. And I stepped in during this time—setting up Christmas trees, baking, helping when she got her period, staying with her when he had to travel for work…yet he has never even acknowledged me on Mother’s Day. Not a card, a brunch, a “thank you”. I mentioned it last week and he said “you can’t ask somebody for something like that, it has to come from the heart.” But then said “maybe we do something this year”. He didn’t mention it so this morning I said “what is the plan for tomorrow” and he told me that his sister was coming to visit, and they were all going to his parents’ house for Mother’s Day. The plan was to leave me alone essentially. Even though my mother died 20 years ago, my grandma is in memory care miles away, and I’ve basically been the only mother his daughter has had for four years. I am so sad. Am I over reacting? Anyone else experience this?
To clarify: she is almost 15, we were together for three years before she came to live with us four years ago. So I’ve known her since she was 8.
Update: I texted him that he was acting like someone who is in a casual relationship and we should just stop. And he said “I’m sorry I hurt you with my bad planning. I will work to do better.” I don’t know how to feel about this.
Bf and I lived together for three years and had his daughter (now almost 15) every other weekend until CPS knocked on our door saying there was abuse at mothers house four years ago. Since then, she hasn’t spent a single night with her mother, has blocked her mother completely. There was a trial and conviction of the stepfather. And I stepped in during this time—setting up Christmas trees, baking, helping when she got her period, staying with her when he had to travel for work…yet he has never even acknowledged me on Mother’s Day. Not a card, a brunch, a “thank you”. I mentioned it last week and he said “you can’t ask somebody for something like that, it has to come from the heart.” But then said “maybe we do something this year”. He didn’t mention it so this morning I said “what is the plan for tomorrow” and he told me that his sister was coming to visit, and they were all going to his parents’ house for Mother’s Day. The plan was to leave me alone essentially. Even though my mother died 20 years ago, my grandma is in memory care miles away, and I’ve basically been the only mother his daughter has had for four years. I am so sad. That’s all. Anyone else experience this?
To clarify: we were together for three years before she came to live with us four years ago.
TL;DR: BF doesn’t acknowledge me on Mother’s Day even though I’ve stepped up and been the only mother his daughter has known for 4 + years.
Tech company. Hiring manager (HM) skipped the recruiter screen and called me directly, then set up two more interviews with department leads. Should I follow up or move on?
Timeline: HM reached out 2 weeks ago, then scheduled two additional interviews last week. I followed up last Thursday to express continued interest after the three rounds of interviews, and HM replied Friday saying it had been “crazy” and he’d huddle with the team early this week and get back to me.
It’s now Thursday and crickets. Do I send another follow-up, or does the silence mean I didn’t get it? He seemed genuinely interested but I kind of feel like if a company wants you, they will reach out. If you have been in this situation, how long did it take for the company to reach out after all rounds of interviews. Thanks!