I see the gender roles in my family
My mum is always getting me to do things. Fine, but not when my brother gets off Scott free from everything.
I am older, but only by a bit
I will always do the washing up and he does nothing.
I’ll always do the cleaning and he’ll do nothing.
I’ll always set the table and he’ll do nothing.
And so on and so on
If I ask him to get something or do something, he doesn’t. When I brought this up my mum said, get it yourself don’t be lazy.
But I do it all for him.
And my mum will also have a go at me for not cleaning my bedroom stairs when I’ve been ‘at home’ yet the only time I’ve been at home is to get ready and then leave the house. I don’t have more time at home than them.
My dad, also, surprisingly does nothing either. It’s always the women doing everything, but mostly me. And then I get criticised for not doing it all properly or not doing one small task when I simply haven’t had the time.
Also I’ve gotten off school from year 11, after 2 years of revision and hard work and burnouts and exams and tears and bad mental health and i can’t even rest on my month of time off.
I wake up to lists as long as my arm of things to do that I simply have no time to do.
I’ve tried expressing my distress and my mum just says “welcome to the world, it’s hard, isn’t it” in a condescending tone.
She never acknowledges my emotion to the point that I suppress it now.
I’m quite a vocal person and I don’t stand for things like this and when I’ve tried to speak up I’m told I’m lazy and ungreatful and that I’m hurting peoples feelings for simply speaking my mind?
She treats me being on my phone like a criminal offence, yet this is my only emotional outlet. I have no door to my room, no privacy in my house, even the bathroom isn’t private. If I’m crying or upset I’m emotional and if Im showing any type of emotion she doesn’t like in that second she’ll call me a corresponding thing like sensitive.
Genuinely what do I do