u/pumpkincato

i'm going to be in Arlington this weekend for a concert, and it's been a hot minute since i've put myself out there, so i'd like to do that now that i have the chance! i'll be in the Arlington area but Dallas is close, and i've heard it has more of an LGBTQ scene. any recs near the Arlington area are fine too! i'm 24 years old, lesbian, and single :) looking to meet some people, have a good time, and overall, celebrate my birthday a lil early (aug 22!) thank you in advance!!!!

i've conquered the obese II, obese I, and now the overweight class! from 203 to 135 lbs, wow what a journey. i'm officially at a normal weight for my height, sex, and age 🥳 still have about 20 more pounds to lose to reach my goal weight but it's crazy to think about how i'm in the final stretch.

not only has my body physically changed, i feel so much better mentally. i get up every day actually looking forward to life. i've been working on exposure therapy because even though i've lost the weight, i still do carry some of those insecurities so this week i wore a bikini for the first time ever. and guess what? no one told me i was fat, or that i should cover up, or pointed and laughed at me... it's so crazy what your mind can do to you 🫠

also, i look forward to working out! i do have some off days ofc but i love getting on my lil treadmill or doing ab crunches (still working on enjoying lifting weights 🤫). i also really have fallen in love with greek yogurt. at first i was almost forcing myself to eat it but now i look forward to it! i love customizing it and creating different combos each day.

to anyone who's read this far, keep going! it's so worth it, i'm so glad i finally took control of my life back.

(this is not to say that only "thinner" bodies can wear bikinis, anyone can! i was just very cruel to myself when i was at a higher weight)

hi, i'm 24 and i've had eczema my whole life basically. it started out as just eczema as an infant, then once we moved to rural countryside area, it expanded to asthma and allergies. typically, my eczema was just in the inner elbows, behind the knees, neck, and sometimes scalp.

in 2018, i was at an outdoor camp and being in the sun triggered something in me. my entire body broke out in rashes that looked like hives from neck to toe.

in 2020, those rashes were still appearing on and off (without sun exposure) so i got put on dupixent. dupixent did help with those full body rashes, but i developed eczema on the face (eyelids, around lips) and a different type of eczema that i don't really know how to explain. to me, it looks like each pore is individually inflamed. this type of eczema appears on my calves, lower arms, stomach, and lower back. i attached images of it. i've tried hydrocortisone, aveeno eczema therapy creams, vaseline, and it wont go away.

it sucks during the summer because I'm too embarrassed to wear shorts, plus i can't shave or wax without causing irritations. it's genuinely draining me, i want it gone or at least controlled because it feels like it's controlling me. any advice is appreciated.

i currently don't have insurance so i can't see my doctor. i stopped taking dupixent in august of 2025 because the face eczema was getting excessive.

location: nebraska

so my dad has been working with this construction company for over 30 years i believe. recently, his boss unexpectedly passed away and the boss's son has taken over. the son is in his late 20s if that matters.

my dad got a letter in the mail and a text from the new boss that he needs to get a prepaid visa card in order to get paid because new boss is no longer mailing checks. i've never heard of this before but right now, it feels like we have no choice because there is no alternative.

on the card the boss recommended, it says there's no overdraft fees ever, idk if there are other hidden fees. can a boss just stop offering checks? won't my dad be charged a fee when withdrawing from an atm since it's not connected to a bank?

this just feels sketchy to me, especially considering that my dad and his former boss were close friends and he said that his son was "not willing" to come to the office to learn about the company/job and former boss was worried about what would happen to the company when he would retire. granted, former boss thought he had many years left since he passed so unexpectedly. i personally don't trust that new boss knows what he is doing, but i digress.

also, i have so many questions because i have never had a prepaid card... is there a way to check the amount that is deposited? can the deposited amount be removed by the person who deposited it? just remembered taxes is a thing, how does it work with this form of payment? tia!

Hi! I'm honestly getting a little bit ahead of myself as I don't have a job secured (yet!), but I'm looking for apartments in or surrounding the Aurora area, including Denver ofc. If I secure the job, I will be relocating mid-August. I am from out of state, so I have no idea what the neighborhoods in this area are like, what is best, what to avoid, or what to look out for. I had found some decent-looking apartments on Zillow for under 1k... but then went to check the reviews and they were terrible! I'd rather put in more money than be miserable for however long 🫩

Preferably, I wouldn't want a roommate, but I'm open to it. Any recommendations for neighborhoods, areas, apartment complexes, townhouses, etc, please leave a comment!

Also, if it's above 1.2k but worth it, please recommend it as well. I'm very flexible as I'm just trying to figure things out at the moment.

I would be working Anschutz for reference!

Hi! I'm honestly getting a little bit ahead of myself as I don't have a job secured (yet!), but I'm looking for apartments in the Aurora area. If I secure the job, I will be relocating mid-August. I am from out of state, so I have no idea what the neighborhoods in Aurora are like, what is best, what to avoid, or what to look out for. I had found some decent-looking apartments on Zillow for under 1k... but then went to check the reviews and they were terrible! I'd rather put in more money than be miserable for however long 🫩

Preferably, I wouldn't want a roommate, but I'm open to it. Any recommendations for neighborhoods, areas, apartment complexes, etc, please leave a comment! Also, if it's above 1.2k but worth it, please recommend it as well. I'm very flexible as I'm just trying to figure things out at the moment.

I would be working Anschutz for reference.

Growing up, I was a 5'2 mid-sized girl with strict parents. Once I hit puberty, tank tops were a no, anything above mid-thigh shorts were a no, and swimsuits that weren't a body suit with shorts and sleeves were a no. Once I was of age and out of the house, I told myself to wear clothes that I actually wanted to wear. But I have a history of eczema, and for some reason, my eczema began to get worse and worse until it was covering my entire body. I was then put on injections for 5 years that caused at least 50 lbs in weight gain.

Now, after quitting the injections and losing 60 lbs, it feels like I'm finally taking my life back. I got a halter top for the first time ever, tank tops, SPAGHETTI STRAPS (side note to any women in here, what bras/stick ons are we wearing for these?!). I haven't worn shorts since I was 17, so I got some jean shorts, biker shorts for the first time, and casual shorts. I GOT SKIRTS! I love love love skirts, but I haven't worn one since I was like 10, same with dresses, and I got a few! It feels very surreal, and I am still in the process of conquering my fear of dressing rooms, but the feeling of looking in the mirror and actually liking what I see is so amazing.

However, I haven't worn any of the clothes publicly. I still have almost like a fear of revealing skin, which is honestly a combination of weight shame, bad eczema rash trauma, and weird mindsets my parents tried to instill in me. Right now, the weather has been kinda rainy, so I'm taking that as Mother Nature working in my favor to give me time to gather up the courage! I started at 203 lbs, and I'm currently at 143, only about 23-28 more pounds left to lose, which is just mind-boggling to me that I'm closer to the end of my journey than the beginning of it.

Next on the list is to buy a bathing suit! Very, very, VERYYYY nervous for this one but the goal is to actually willingly get into a pool/lake this summer 🤞🏽

hi! i've always wanted a belly button piercing but felt insecure bc i was overweight. (ik this is my own insecurity and piercings do not have a correlation with weight) i'm currently over halfway done with my weight loss journey, i have about 30 lbs (13.6kg) to go.

right now, i'm at a weight where i feel more comfortable in my body so the idea of getting a belly button piercing has been circling my mind.

my question is, should i wait until im at my goal weight to get it? is there a chance that if i get it now and continue to lose weight that it will shift or not be in the right position? will it be harder for the piercer to pierce it correctly currently since i still have a bit of fat on my stomach to lose?

im probably overthinking it but the only piercings i have are 3 on each of my ear lobes so im sorry for the dumb questions 😅 thank you!

I've been consistently losing weight for the last 3 months by being in a calorie deficit and walking 21k steps a day. The week leading up to Mother's Day, I had crochet projects that had to be finished for Mother's Day and grad gifts. I work from 9-5, but once I clock out and eat dinner, I walk on the treadmill for about 3 hours. But to finish the projects, I had to sacrifice my treadmill time. I didn't get on the treadmill for 6 days because I wasn't able to that weekend either. I stayed in my deficit, even dropping a bit lower, but did not lose a single ounce.

This past week, I got on the treadmill but overdid it and ended up with a small sprain. Again, I was off the treadmill for the majority of the week except for about 2.5 days. checked my weight today, not a single ounce lost.

I truly don't get it. I am in a deficit, I know for a fact, because I track everything. I know I am eating well under my maintenance, so why am I not losing anything? Each week since my deficit journey, I have lost a pound minimum, so this feeling truly just sucks. I feel like my body is broken bc how is it possible that I'm eating fewer calories than what my body is burning, but the scale won't budge?

It frustrates me because it seems that I'll always have to keep up with the exercise even once I'm at my goal weight. Because if I didn't lose any weight while in a deficit, would I gain weight while in maintenance if I don't keep up with 21k steps for the rest of my life? My mind is probably overthinking it because of the disappointment, but I just wanted to get it off my chest.

I'm at my wits' end :,)

i got prescription contacts for the first time. i'm testing two different types out, as per request from the eye doctor, and i noticed that the contact in my right eye was more feelable? if that makes sense. it didn't hurt but i was aware that it was there, compared to the left eye.

i had them in for about 20 minutes when my eye started twitching, in the area between the eye and the end of the brow. it would do this on and off for 2 hours.

after about 2.5 hours of having them in, i began to get a headache on the right side. i took out the contacts and i called the eye doctor to see if this was normal since ive never used contacts of any sort. they said maybe my eye wasn't liking the type of contact or was taking a while to adjust. they gave me another contact to try.

i haven't put my contacts in since, but my eye is still twitching from time to time. not as often as when my contacts were in, but my eye usually doesn't twitch at all.

so im wondering if this is related to the contact or just something random that just happened to happen while im trying out contacts for the first time. there's no pain in the twitches, just feels weird! as for my left eye, nothing has happened.

i know that i have astigmatism and that the left contact is the one that is made for astigmatism and the right is not. maybe that is having an effect on my eye freaking out?

i went to 7brew for the first time ever and i'm shocked they don't have nutrition facts.

i don't order coffee often so i just picked one of the original drinks, a small sugar-free sweet & salty. i probably should have subbed the milk but i forgot 🙃

i found this 7brew cal calculator online and it's bringing my drink to 141 cals. but idk if that's underestimating. i also am not sure what milk is used (steamed regular? just regular? half and half? steamed half and half?)... a calorie range is fine, doesn't have to be exact! thanks (:

i'm 5'2, currently 150lbs, and 6 days out of the week i do a brisk walk for 3 hours that is usually 21-23k steps and about 7-7.5 miles.

for my tdee, i've always put sedentary bc i do work an office job lol. i like to look at my stats at a sedentary level to see my minimum but im wondering what my actual activity level would be? i don't do other workouts bc i don't have time but with each walk, im sweating and my body is sore.

would that be light exercise, moderate exercise, or heavy exercise? just wanting second opinions!