Like poetry , reading books , playing chess, playing instruments like and guitar all that ... People who didn't get the right opportunities and are struggling with competitive exams . So we could post our skills online anonymously.
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I’m a guy in my mid-20s. For the past 5 years, I’ve been dealing with chronic pancreatitis attacks, severe attacks , a lot of operations , and stents . Lithotripsy , etc There have been many attacks , and honestly, the pain is something I wouldn't wish on anyone.
Now, my family is asking me to settle down - get a stable job first, and then they’ll arrange my marriage. They say they won’t delay it much once I’m settled. But the marriage talks have forced me to confront something I’ve been quietly struggling with.
Sometimes I feel I shouldn’t marry at all. Why should I give this suffering to someone else? It happened to me , I've made my peace with God about it , but if, in some future generation, my child or grandchild has to go through this, they’ll suffer immensely. It feels selfish to knowingly take that risk. There was a time I thought I’d just stay alone, maybe even become a monk later in life. But deep down, I genuinely, genuinely want a family of my own. It’s stuck within me . I’m stuck between this fear and this deep longing.
I consulted the gastroenterology team at AIG Hospitals, Hyderabad ( the best in the world for GI issues). The doctor told me my condition is kind of undefinable – they can’t conclusively say that it will definitely pass on. They’ve seen many cases where no one in the generation had it, yet the person developed it. So it’s not a straightforward genetic pattern. The doctor’s advice was practical: marry a girl from a very different district, someone with good genes, and the chances of it occurring in children will be significantly lower. Even earlier, a renowned Ayurvedic doctor from Uttarakhand told me the same thing.
Now I’m left confused. Should I specifically look for a girl who also has pancreatitis, so we both understand the pain and perhaps decide to adopt? That way my lineage wouldn’t carry the risk. But is that the right approach? Or is there actual science, some precautions or screenings we can do to ensure the next generation doesn’t get this? I can’t bear the thought of watching someone else, especially my own child, go through this agony.
Please, if anyone has medical insight, genetic knowledge, or even personal experience with a situation like this, tell me what you think. I’m not looking for sympathy , just real, grounded advice. What would you do in my place? Are there any tests or preventive steps that can be taken before having a biological child?
I'm in my 20s, living in Bikaner (a small city in Rajasthan), and honestly just trying to figure out the social side of my life while preparing for govt. Examination.
Up until class 10, I was genuinely social , had dozens of friends, never really had to try. But somewhere along the way, people drifted, I didn't build new connections, and slowly my social skills just... dulled. Not dramatically, but enough that approaching someone now takes way more mental energy than it used to.
The environment doesn't help either. Bikaner isn't exactly buzzing with communities or social circles for people with niche interests. My college is 10 km away, the roads are rough, the heat is brutal, and the timings are terrible - so I barely go. And honestly, even when I do, finding my kind of people there feels like a winning oscar. I'm into books, art, literature - not the usual college crowd stuff. It's a government college, so most people who think like me are probably heads-down in exam prep, which ironically makes them just as hard to find as I am.
I do want friends - genuinely. But then I think about the effort it takes and I convince myself I'll figure it out later when life settles. Classic trap, I know.
I go to the temple sometimes and meet people there, but that comes with its own social dynamics - especially if you try talking to someone of the opposite gender, it gets misread almost immediately, and suddenly you're a topic of conversation for their best friends and aunties. So I just don't bother.
I don't really use social media. I prefer real- life connections - a small circle of people with actual goals and something to say. But I genuinely don't want to befriend a person who has been taking intoxicanter, girl-chaser , a goon etc. people with good etiquette and standard . I don't know where to find that here.
Has anyone navigated something similar - small town, introvert, specific interests, zero community infrastructure? What actually worked for you?
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I need help with a Spotify payment mess. Two days ago I didn’t have any UPI app on my own phone so I used Chrome on a different phone to log into my Spotify account and grabbed the ₹99 for 3 months Premium offer. I paid via UPI, the money got deducted successfully from my bank (not pending, fully completed), but Premium never activated on my account. Within a short while the autopay mandate got cancelled automatically on its own, so now there’s no mandate linked but my ₹99 is gone. I’ve already waited over 48 hours thinking it might just be a sync delay, but nothing changed. I’ve done the logout-login multiple times, tried the double login trick to force a sync, checked all my email inboxes and spam for a Spotify receipt (found nothing), verified I didn’t accidentally create a second account, and even attempted to set up the mandate again in an incognito browser. Spotify support only sent me generic replies and didn’t resolve anything. I’ve heard that BillDesk handles UPI payments for Spotify and that raising a grievance with them might actually work, but I haven’t tried yet. Has anyone here faced the exact same situation where payment went through, mandate cancelled itself, and Premium never showed up? What actually fixed it for you? Did you get your money back, or did the subscription finally activate after some specific step? I’m ready to try anything, Thank you.
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I'm a M(19), and I'll be completely honest here because I genuinely need real advice. When I was a child, I was repeatedly sexually abused by our house servant. I never told my parents. I carried that trauma alone for years, and eventually the stress broke my body. I developed serious health disease, which has now become chronic. I've had multiple surgeries, a stent placed, and there were moments I lost consciousness completely. My parents have spent millions keeping me alive. I'm stable now, but it's been brutal. Through all of this, the one thing that kept me going was a dream of studying law. A close friend once told me she was sexually abused by her own father and his friend. I've seen similar things happen to others around me. That changed me,— I just knew I had to do something about it someday. In Class 12 I was in a long distance relationship with a really sweet girl, but we broke up because our families were just too different in lifestyle. After that, once when I was extremely sick and collapsed, another girl helped me through it. I got emotionally confused and misinterpreted that emotion , I told my girlfriend everything honestly. I never cheated on her, I just misread care for something more. Later I found that it was just the feeling of INDEBTNESS. And I never talk to that another girl again . And Because I barely leave the house due to my health, I've slowly lost almost every friend I had too. It's been very isolating.
And after that, I've developed many crushes as well , because I want someone to be with me , as a girlfriend as a bestfriend ( both ) just one. But now I left all that behind and focusing to achieve my target .
I've always had been dreaming of pursuing law since childhood ,Now that I'm more stable, I'm trying to plan my future. My current plan is to finish a 3 year UG from a local college, then appear for CUET PG or MHCET and do a 3 year LLB. My goal is judicial services, not litigation. But here's what's eating me , my father is getting older, the family has already spent so much on my treatment, and my elder brother is at IIT which takes up a lot of resources too. I genuinely also want the experience of a central university, I feel like I've missed out on so much normal life already. Sometimes I think maybe I should just do LLB locally and prep for government exams to keep things simple and cheap. Given everything , health, finances, family situation, and my goal of judicial services what would you actually suggest?
So basically I have this friend, and he told me straight up - 'Don't count on me when you have a breakdown, I won't always have your back.' he didn't have many friends before , People really kinda sidelined him due to his " Ranveer allahbadia" attitude, he would really ask stupid questions.
We used to be really close but after I moved out of town , he became distant. I texted my friends to take care of him , so he wouldn't feel left out . Now he has befriended everyone of them and made them stand against me .
We haven't talked properly in a long time. For the past several months , he didn't even call or text me once , I tried to reach him but was left disappointed.
But honestly I think the friendship is already over.
But sometimes I think " it's just a phase "
I'm feeling pretty shattered right now, What should I do?