u/softbunny72

so this guy i’m seeing told me he wanted to get an eyebrow piercing sometime soon and he isn’t sure bc his parents are strict so he prob won’t do it BUT is it wrong if i tell him that i prefer that he doesn’t get that piercing bc i’m not a big fan of them and that im worried what my parents would think if we got together? we’re going on our second date tmr and i haven’t known him for very long which is why i’m unsure if i have the right to tell him that. but from what i know, he is more than just interested in me and actually likes me (he told a friend of mine who is also his friend).

i (F, 20) met this guy (M, 21) on hinge 4 days ago and he was very interested in me. even said that he was going to get rid of the app until my like and then proceeded to ask for my number or instagram since he said he was going to delete it now. we talked nonstop for the past 3 days, sending voice messages and text messages and even apologized for late responses. we even sent videos and photos of what we were currently doing. fast forward, he asked me what my idea date idea is and i told him and he asked when i’d be free. i told him either thursday (today) or sunday and he said let’s so thursday. this was a couple days ago and then yesterday, i asked for the vibe so i can plan an outfit. he said to go to the park, paint, talk and asked if he should bring snacks. i said only if he wants to bring snacks and he even offered to pick me up. upon me replying that it sounds great, i saw that he blocked me on instagram. soooo weird and abrupt.

i (F, 20) met this guy (M, 21) on hinge 4 days ago and he was very interested in me. even said that he was going to get rid of the app until my like and then proceeded to ask for my number or instagram since he said he was going to delete it now. we talked nonstop for the past 3 days, sending voice messages and text messages and even apologized for late responses. we even sent videos and photos of what we were currently doing. fast forward, he asked me what my idea date idea is and i told him and he asked when i’d be free. i told him either thursday (today) or sunday and he said let’s so thursday. this was a couple days ago and then yesterday, i asked for the vibe so i can plan an outfit. he said to go to the park, paint, talk and asked if he should bring snacks. i said only if he wants to bring snacks and he even offered to pick me up. upon me replying that it sounds great, i saw that he blocked me on instagram. soooo weird and abrupt.

i also know he doesn’t have a gf since we had a few mutuals and i asked around. it’s just so frustrating that he could text me during all his free time and even said that he couldn’t entertain more than one girl so he was only focused on me for now. on top of it, he seems serious as he told me where he worked and even approximately where he lived in town (that’s strange to tell a stranger bc they can easily just find you…)

i was talking to this guy and asked for clarification if he was still interested in pursuing a relationship with me to which he let me down gently and said he found me attractive and that i was his type and everything he wanted, but he has no time for me especially with studying for the mcat and us being long distance on top of his personal issues - him saying he is still a mess and that he doesn’t think he should get into one. he also mentioned he wanted a best friend before a relationship with someone (which is hard with dating apps). after reading that message, i was a little upset and sent a rebuttal back but now realized was wrong to. it read:

“why are you on dating apps seeking for long distance relationships then? you have reassured me on several occasions that long distances wouldn’t be an issue because you have done it before. i suppose it’s hard to be best friends with someone when you meet online in a such a short period of time, but i’m willing to give it time if you want to try it out. i’m not in a rush getting into a relationship considering i recently got done healing from my past one. i am also a very busy person once the semester starts back up, so i don’t need someone to constantly text me as long as they let me know they’re busy. i appreciate your explanation and understand that you seem to need to focus on yourself, but being on dating apps is a little contradictory to them.”

i know now that it wasn’t my place to ask for that and he didn’t owe me an additional explanation. it’s been over 48 hours and he has not responded to that and i don’t think he ever will. i don’t want bad blood between us and i want to keep the door open in case he wanted to try again with me when he is ready for a relationship. the message reads:
“i realize that my last message was out of line and i apologize for it. you don’t owe me anything and i respect your feelings. i’m still open to being friends and if you ever become ready for a relationship, i may still be willing to try. you’re in a pretty stressful part of your life right now, and i understand your mind can change while on a dating app. i wish you the best of luck. :)”

or should i leave him alone and just deal with the silence? i dont want him to think i was judging him. i simply wanted an answer but i see that i was wrong in my actions of doing so.

i was talking to this guy and asked for clarification if he was still interested in pursuing a relationship with me to which he let me down gently and said he found me attractive and that i was his type and everything he wanted, but he has no time for me especially with studying for the mcat and us being long distance on top of his personal issues - him saying he is still a mess and that he doesn’t think he should get into one. after reading that message, i was a little upset and sent a rebuttal back but now realized was wrong to. it read:

“why are you on dating apps seeking for long distance relationships then? you have reassured me on several occasions that long distances wouldn’t be an issue because you have done it before. i suppose it’s hard to be best friends with someone when you meet online in a such a short period of time, but i’m willing to give it time if you want to try it out. i’m not in a rush getting into a relationship considering i recently got done healing from my past one. i am also a very busy person once the semester starts back up, so i don’t need someone to constantly text me as long as they let me know they’re busy. i appreciate your explanation and understand that you seem to need to focus on yourself, but being on dating apps is a little contradictory to them.”

i know now that it wasn’t my place to ask for that and he didn’t owe me an additional explanation. it’s been over 48 hours and he has not responded to that and i don’t think he ever will. i don’t want bad blood between us and i want to keep the door open in case he wanted to try again with me when he is ready for a relationship. the message reads:
“i realize that my last message was out of line and i apologize for it. you don’t owe me anything and i respect your feelings. i’m still open to being friends and if you ever become ready for a relationship, i may still be willing to try. you’re in a pretty stressful part of your life right now, and i understand your mind can change while on a dating app. i wish you the best of luck. :)”

or should i leave him alone and just deal with the silence? i dont want him to think i was judging him. i simply wanted an answer but i see that i was wrong in my actions of doing so.

i was talking to this guy and asked for clarification if he was still interested in pursuing a relationship with me to which he let me down gently and said he found me attractive and that i was his type and everything he wanted, but he has no time for me especially with studying for the mcat and us being long distance on top of his personal issues - him saying he is still a mess and that he doesn’t think he should get into one. after reading that message, i was a little upset and sent a rebuttal back but now realized was wrong to. it read:

“why are you on dating apps seeking for long distance relationships then? you have reassured me on several occasions that long distances wouldn’t be an issue because you have done it before. i suppose it’s hard to be best friends with someone when you meet online in a such a short period of time, but i’m willing to give it time if you want to try it out. i’m not in a rush getting into a relationship considering i recently got done healing from my past one. i am also a very busy person once the semester starts back up, so i don’t need someone to constantly text me as long as they let me know they’re busy. i appreciate your explanation and understand that you seem to need to focus on yourself, but being on dating apps is a little contradictory to them.”

i know now that it wasn’t my place to ask for that and he didn’t owe me an additional explanation. it’s been over 48 hours and he has not responded to that and i don’t think he ever will. i don’t want bad blood between us and i want to keep the door open in case he wanted to try again with me when he is ready for a relationship. the message reads:
“i realize that my last message was out of line and i apologize for it. you don’t owe me anything and i respect your feelings. i’m still open to being friends and if you ever become ready for a relationship, i may still be willing to try. you’re in a pretty stressful part of your life right now, and i understand your mind can change while on a dating app. i wish you the best of luck. :)”

i was talking to this guy and asked for clarification if he was still interested in pursuing a relationship with me to which he let me down gently and said he found me attractive and that i was his type and everything he wanted, but he has no time for me especially with studying for the mcat and us being long distance on top of his personal issues - him saying he is still a mess and that he doesn’t think he should get into one. after reading that message, i was a little upset and sent a rebuttal back but now realized was wrong to. it read:

“why are you on dating apps seeking for long distance relationships then? you have reassured me on several occasions that long distances wouldn’t be an issue because you have done it before. i suppose it’s hard to be best friends with someone when you meet online in a such a short period of time, but i’m willing to give it time if you want to try it out. i’m not in a rush getting into a relationship considering i recently got done healing from my past one. i am also a very busy person once the semester starts back up, so i don’t need someone to constantly text me as long as they let me know they’re busy. i appreciate your explanation and understand that you seem to need to focus on yourself, but being on dating apps is a little contradictory to them.”

i know now that it wasn’t my place to ask for that and he didn’t owe me an additional explanation. it’s been over 48 hours and he has not responded to that and i don’t think he ever will. i don’t want bad blood between us and i want to keep the door open in case he wanted to try again with me when he is ready for a relationship. the message reads:
“i realize that my last message was out of line and i apologize for it. you don’t owe me anything and i respect your feelings. i’m still open to being friends and if you ever become ready for a relationship, i may still be willing to try. you’re in a pretty stressful part of your life right now, and i understand your mind can change while on a dating app. i wish you the best of luck. :)”

or should i leave him alone and just deal with the silence? i dont want him to think i was judging him. i simply wanted an answer but i see that i was wrong in my actions of doing so.

i was talking to this guy and asked for clarification if he was still interested in pursuing a relationship with me to which he let me down gently and said he found me attractive and that i was his type and everything he wanted, but he has no time for me especially with studying for the mcat and us being long distance on top of his personal issues - him saying he is still a mess and that he doesn’t think he should get into one. after reading that message, i was a little upset and sent a rebuttal back but now realized was wrong to. it read:

“why are you on dating apps seeking for long distance relationships then? you have reassured me on several occasions that long distances wouldn’t be an issue because you have done it before. i suppose it’s hard to be best friends with someone when you meet online in a such a short period of time, but i’m willing to give it time if you want to try it out. i’m not in a rush getting into a relationship considering i recently got done healing from my past one. i am also a very busy person once the semester starts back up, so i don’t need someone to constantly text me as long as they let me know they’re busy. i appreciate your explanation and understand that you seem to need to focus on yourself, but being on dating apps is a little contradictory to them.”

i know now that it wasn’t my place to ask for that and he didn’t owe me an additional explanation. it’s been over 48 hours and he has not responded to that and i don’t think he ever will. i don’t want bad blood between us and i want to keep the door open in case he wanted to try again with me when he is ready for a relationship. the message reads:
“i realize that my last message was out of line and i apologize for it. you don’t owe me anything and i respect your feelings. i’m still open to being friends and if you ever become ready for a relationship, i may still be willing to try. you’re in a pretty stressful part of your life right now, and i understand your mind can change while on a dating app. i wish you the best of luck. :)”

or should i leave him alone and just deal with the silence? i dont want him to think i was judging him. i simply wanted an answer but i see that i was wrong in my actions of doing so.

i (20, F) met this guy (21, M) on hinge and we talked for a whole month everyday, but just small conversations. we did pull two all nighters texting back and forth trying to get to know each other better. i finally met up with him this past weekend but i drove hours to see him and stayed at his place. we went on a date and i have never driven more than 3 hours a day so he offered his place for me to stay. we shared a small bed together and cuddled a lot. we are very compatible with each other and matched each other’s types really well. we had a great weekend and he said that he’ll see me again sometime this summer but ever since then, he’s been leaving me on delivered for a long time and i see his snapscore rising but i’m still on delivered. in the past, he also did that but i think i’m more paranoid now that we already met. i thought he would be better at snapping or texting back. however, he hasn’t texted me about having a good weekend and stuff and just being nonchalant in general. he also works every weekday and never talks to me until later in the day. so the pattern is not new, but just hoped he would’ve changed. i sent out this message on imessage:

“hello :) i hope this isn’t abrupt, but i enjoyed hanging out and getting to know you this past weekend. i’m looking forward to spending more time with you and getting to know you better. however, i feel like you’ve been a little distant towards me the past few days. i know you’re busy, but my intuition says that you’re not that interested. perhaps communication is not as important to you, but some clarity would be nice to avoid being led on.” but it’s been 12 hours and he hasn’t answered when i see his snapscore going up. we had a conversation on snapchat going as well and he has not answered.

i (20, F) met this guy (21, M) on hinge and we talked for a whole month everyday, but just small conversations. we did pull two all nighters texting back and forth trying to get to know each other better. i finally met up with him this past weekend but i drove hours to see him and stayed at his place. we went on a date and i have never driven more than 3 hours a day so he offered his place for me to stay. we shared a small bed together and cuddled a lot. we are very compatible with each other and matched each other’s types really well. we had a great weekend and he said that he’ll see me again sometime this summer but ever since then, he’s been leaving me on delivered for a long time and i see his snapscore rising but i’m still on delivered. in the past, he also did that but i think i’m more paranoid now that we already met. i thought he would be better at snapping or texting back. however, he hasn’t texted me about having a good weekend and stuff and just being nonchalant in general. he also works every weekday and never talks to me until later in the day. so the pattern is not new, but just hoped he would’ve changed. i sent out this message on imessage:

“hello :) i hope this isn’t abrupt, but i enjoyed hanging out and getting to know you this past weekend. i’m looking forward to spending more time with you and getting to know you better. however, i feel like you’ve been a little distant towards me the past few days. i know you’re busy, but my intuition says that you’re not that interested. perhaps communication is not as important to you, but some clarity would be nice to avoid being led on.” but it’s been 12 hours and he hasn’t answered when i see his snapscore going up. we had a conversation on snapchat going as well and he has not answered.

i (20, F) met this guy (21, M) on hinge and we talked for a whole month everyday, but just small conversations. we did pull two all nighters texting back and forth trying to get to know each other better. i finally met up with him this past weekend but i drove hours to see him and stayed at his place. we went on a date and i have never driven more than 3 hours a day so he offered his place for me to stay. we shared a small bed together and cuddled a lot. we are very compatible with each other and matched each other’s types really well. we had a great weekend and he said that he’ll see me again sometime this summer but ever since then, he’s been leaving me on delivered for a long time and i see his snapscore rising but i’m still on delivered. we still snap, but these past days seems like less and less. i am still his #1 on his best friend list though. in the past, he also did that but i think i’m more paranoid now that we already met. i thought he would be better at snapping or texting back. however, he hasn’t texted me about having a good weekend and stuff and just being nonchalant in general. i plan to send him a message today confronting him about it but is it too soon to? and did he lost interest for me already??

i (20, F) met this guy (21, M) on hinge and we talked for a whole month everyday, but just small conversations. we did pull two all nighters texting back and forth trying to get to know each other better. i finally met up with him this past weekend but i drove hours to see him and stayed at his place. we shared a small bed together and cuddled a lot. we kissed, made out, and slept together but did not last long because he felt bad and wanted to get to know me more before moving on. so we had sex for maybe 5 minutes and it was unplanned as he did not even have condoms. very in the moment type of situation. we are very compatible with each other and matched each other’s types really well. we had a great weekend and he said that he’ll see me again sometime this summer but ever since then, he’s been leaving me on delivered for a long time and i see his snapscore rising but i’m still on delivered. in the past, he also did that so it is not out of the blue. however, he hasn’t texted me about having a good weekend and stuff and just being nonchalant in general. i plan to send him a message today confronting him about it but is it too soon to? and did he lost interest for me already??

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