Almost entirely beginner, attempting some random repairs with cheap/stretchy clothes and I feel like I'm making them weaker

Hope i used the right flair here... I've tried some repairs on clothing that I have that's pretty cheap, stretchy fabric. (2x pair of underwear, one pair of super thin stretchy "leggings" (not skin tight) and finding that darning with a big enough needle eye for embroidery yarn is tugging at the super thin fabric and might be doing more damage than the repair is.

Even using one of the smaller needles in my kit and just using hoop stitches feels like it's doing more harm than good. (Each time I push the needle through, the tension is pulling tiny little holes into the fabric.) I'm using an embroidery hoop to keep the fabric still but not pulling it very tight, just flat.

  • Is super cheap fabric too hard to darn for a beginner?
  • Is my needle/thread size the problem?
  • Should I patch these instead?
  • Just sew the holes shut since the aesthetics don't matter?

I'm not trying to get a lifetime of wear out of these items, I'm just trying to save them from landfill for a little longer. The underwear especially wears in the crotch because I cycle, but the rest of the fabric has at least a year of wear left in it lol.

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u/vexingpresence — 11 days ago

The newsletter got me thinking about fluffy f$#!ng tails and dreams again

tails are clearly a metaphor but im struggling to decide what metaphor i think applies the most :B

u/vexingpresence — 14 days ago

1.5wk Septum - felt like a crusty was tugging painfully whenever the piercing moved, (continued in post)

I have a full ring piercing, and I have been obeying the LITFA rule as much as possible. However I bumped my nose being clumsy yesterday and for the day since it felt super irritated on the left side.

I washed with saline, washed with warm water, sat with a hot facecloth over my face to try and make it humid, rinsed again, etc. I finally got relief just now by twisting the piercing which seemed to reveal a crusty that I think might have been shoved into the fistula when I bumped my nose.

My nose feels a bit irritated now but doesn't actively sting like I'm being jabbed when the piercing is disturbed (eg; when wiping my face)

if this re-occurs I'm not sure if being more persistent with trying to soften it would help or if I should just get it out of the way & twist it so it doesn't spend days irritating the wound :/

my regular care routine is saline neilmed, no twisting, and removing any stubborn boogers with a qtip if gently blowing doesn't get rid of them. I'm kind of a snotty guy, sorry for being gross but I'm keeping it real 😔🙏

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u/vexingpresence — 15 days ago
▲ 62 r/Tralsei

Miss Mizzle (The more powerful form of Mizzle) monologues about breaking eggshells and turns pink when your affection causes a change in her form.

"Love is made of eggshells, and should your love be true, you would already know what lies inside"

If you are gentle with Miss Mizzle and show her affection, her shell still 'breaks' but it reveals her true form. If you are violent, she chastises you for trying to break her in a 'quest to make me yours'.

how interesting

included the bonus mizzle line for low HP because it mentions hats, might not be related but I couldn't not include it

u/vexingpresence — 17 days ago

hey girls when you say men are bad can you exclude me from that as well? straight men and cis men but not trans men if it's not too much trouble thanks gu- uh, i mean thanks girls

what? I obviously believe trans men are men. I just don't think that applies to like, being misogynistic. how could I be misogynistic when I literally have a vagina?

/uj >!i hope no one has made this joke before but they probably have. im referencing "the gays and the girls and coleman" here!<

edit: i dont think my satire was hyperbolic enough so uhm something something maybe transwomen are the true misogynists something something

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u/vexingpresence — 20 days ago
▲ 73 r/Tralsei

Does anyone else get unreasonably upset when people say they wish WE could toggle hat ralsei's design?

Do these people READ when playing the game?

The ultimate irony of not only wanting hat ralsei but to go the extra mile and say I WISH WE, THE PLAYER, COULD FORCE THEM BACK INTO THE HAT

do these people pay attention to ralsei at all outside of awww cute goat!!! it seems like no???

EDIT: this mostly applies to post chapter 5. i felt this way before ch5 but it was much less of an obvious misread (It was more subtle in previous chapters)

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u/vexingpresence — 1 month ago
▲ 85 r/DeltaruneDiscussion+2 crossposts

Hear me out. I have a theory about CH5 secret boss. [Pride Month Edition]

I don't have a proper outline for all of this theory yet but once it occurred to me I HAD to share it, if only to get to name the theory.

I think that Seam was a previous body that Mad Dummy possessed. (MAD SEAM THEORY!!!)

Some baseline facts/relevant assumptions:

  • The cliff shopkeeper is Mad Mew Mew.
  • Seam uses they/them pronouns, or perhaps a set of pronouns that aren't known to the party/player at this stage.
  • Seam tells us at the start of chapter 5 that shadow crystals contain "the power of lost dreams." and that Seam can do something very interesting with them.
  • Mad Mew Mew is a metaphor for the trans experience, BUT SIMULTANEOUSLY they reflect the theme of "Jealousy" and the feeling of someone close to you being 'taken away' by others that runs throughout chapter 5.

The more direct parallels/connections between Mad Dummy/Mad Mew and Seam:

  • Shopkeeper Mew asks the party if they have tried having 'soft, fluffy ears' and tells them to try it. Seam's ears are very soft and fluffy looking compared to the Mew doll's ears.
  • The Mew doll insists on 'going back to school' a few times during the boss fight. I have a feeling this is because Mad Dummy was previously possessing Seam but unable to do so once they had graduated from school since Seam is school property. Going back to school here is kind of literal kind of metaphorical, it's about returning to 'how things used to be'. (Which reflects Asgore's goals this chapter) and also literally because Mad Dummy would want to go back to their school days where they had a body they identified with.
  • Shopkeeper Mew repeatedly mentions the sunset, and even says that their name depends on the colour of the sunset. This seems out of place if their only connections were to Dummy and the Doll, but it does connect their dialogue to Seam's - they warn us to not stick around after the sun sets.
  • They have similar dialogue when buying and selling items, similar mannerisms. Shopkeeper Mew even says "hee hee" at one point like cmon
  • In japanese, Seam uses personal pronouns that are now a bit old fashioned, (atashi) and mostly used by women while being more gender-neutral in the past. This both characterizes them as older but also possibly feminine leaning non-binary of some sort.
    • This might be a stretch, but in JP Seam says their name is pronounced like 'inu' (dog) backwards. In the Shopkeeper's dialogue when they say the party should try having fluffy ears, the line that is implied to be replying to Kris (who is frequently associated with dogs / dog behavior) is 'Yes, you're nodding. You obviously agree.'
  • Seam's line "You find ways to pass the time...or go mad like everyone else" may be lampshading the connection to Mad Dummy. (Also this characterizes Seam as someone who feels lonely, and the Shopkeeper was very insistent on how they had found friends in the CH5 dark world and was going to keep them no matter what.)
  • Seam says 'You will get the last shadow crystal today' and then asks Kris if they kept 'the mannequin'. The mannequin is from chapter 2, and shows a Spamton body with a dress that is pretty much identical to the blue dress Mettaton wore in Undertale.
    • I think Seam was hinting to Kris that Mad Dummy would be looking for a feminine body to possess, and if they needed to they might be able to convince them to possess the mannequin.
  • In Undertale, Mettaton gifted that dress to a Lion, who later shows up wearing it aaand there's a cute lionness waitress (with a mane) in deltarune that looks just like her in a blue apron! :)

To summarise these points and the thematic relevance of this connection: I believe that Mad Dummy, in the past while a student, possessed the object that is Seam. Seam's body would have had the same limitations as the Mew Doll, being unable to move. (Mad Mew Mew's body is only separate to the SOUL while inside the dark world due to the Dark World giving the body its own personhood, after all)

I think what some people have misinterpreted is Ralsei asserting that 'Your body should have a choice, too' - this line isn't about bodies VS minds, it's about the Darkener that is the Doll having their own personhood so long as the Dark Fountain exists, and Ralsei relating to them as a darkener themselves who feels they have no say in their fate and must follow whatever lighteners tell them to be. (Yes, I do also think this is transfem Ralsei evidence.) (If you haven't seen it yet, the climbing minigame in castletown at the start of chapter 5 contains very VERY relevant ralsei characterisation relating to this https://youtu.be/bWWTfhjcPkk "It's fun to try new things, isn't it? ...as long as it's....what other people want...of course!")

Now, I believe this is leading to a collective theme of self-actualization. What it means to be real and to live as your authentic self. How does Seam fit into this?

Seam....represents the lost dream.

When Mad Dummy graduated from school, they were unable to possess the body that they had found and identified with. Their personhood was taken away from them, and as a result the Darkener that was that body (seam) is left with their broken dream. Mad Dummy cannot live as their authentic self. In Deltarune, in the light world, there is no magic to make inanimate objects into suitable bodies for ghosts to self-actualize. Seam is a lost dream for Mad Dummy to become the soft, fluffy eared woman she always wanted to be.

>So you are the "heroes" who are going to seal our Fountain? Ha, good luck. It makes no difference to me. Neither Light nor Dark hold a future for a Darkner in my condition.

When the flower shop Dark World ceases to exist, Mad Dummy will lose that opportunity again, they will no longer be able to live as their authentic self and will go back to being non-corporeal. (This also ties together Mad Mew/Shopkeeper into Chapter 5. People are saying she feels out of place, but is she not also grieving for something that is already lost? Just like Asgore, when this darkworld disappears and they return to normality, their hope of attaining their dream will be gone.)

There's a lot of other far more cohesive theories out there about how the theme of 'Freedom' is being woven into trans metaphors throughout Deltarune, I'll link my favorite here: https://youtu.be/Dwd12r8kuro

But just to drive the point home, some more instances where Seam's dialogue itself links together 'Freedom'/'Fate' and 'Identity'

>That salesman had found the crystal in the old machine...? I wonder... if perhaps, long ago, that old machine was very important to someone. A certain Lightner, perhaps... or maybe it's just a hunch. Haha! At any rate, it's truly unfortunate a Darkner decided to steal that power... Or, is it fortunate? Because of that, you found a new Crystal.

This of course is referring to the Neo body, which is the lost dream of Mettaton in the Deltarune universe...Since we know Mettaton is hiding themselves inside their house, it's all but confirmed that they are non-corporeal currently. They have not self-actualized.

These two examples make sense if you consider Seam's purpose to be helping Mad Dummy self-actualize with a body that felt like 'them'.

>Long ago, the Darkners lived in harmony with the Lightners. They were like Gods to us. Our protectors. Our creators. Those who gave us purpose...

>And I wonder, if I hadn't been asked to lock him up...Would I have found a little more purpose in my life...?

u/vexingpresence — 1 month ago

I think a plover might be scoping for a nest outside my work, any way to bribe it to be friends?

Obviously it would be ideal to not have the bird swooping our visitors and workers, but they've been hanging around our door every few days for a while.

u/vexingpresence — 2 months ago

Jax's gender was about the only thing foreshadowed that paid off, but they did foreshadow it pretty well

(Reposted because reddit image uploading SUCKS)

u/vexingpresence — 2 months ago

My state government's website has a huge paragraph explaining why the AI summary function sucks ass &amp; it's longer than the error message telling me the AI function didn't even work

who the fuck asked for this. who wanted this.

u/vexingpresence — 3 months ago

Nuance Posting: Calling yourself Neurospicy VS Calling other people neurospicy

Get ready my fellow autists because I'm going to attempt to address this debate with nuance!!!

>In defense of neurospicy (to describe ones own self)

Terms that you personally find empowering or that bring you joy are entirely personal. Even identifying with a term generally considered derogatory is widely acknowledged as valid in different contexts. Eg: 'turbo autism', 'queer', 'f*g', 'I'm THE b*tch', etc - these are reclaiming slurs. This extends to derogatory terms that aren't considered slurs as well such as 'I'm trash' or 'rotten girls'.

>In opposition to neurospicy (to describe all autistics, or large groups of autistics)

Neurospicy being slang opens it up to a lot of grey area and room for interpretation.

There are many cases of people saying "I'm not neuro divergent, I'm just neuro spicy." The problem with this is the term 'neurodivergent' is used to differentiate neurodevelopmental conditions from 'mental illness'. Autism is not something that you can cure, and it's not something that you grow out of. It isn't temporary. It's also not a "personality trait" - your brain is fundamentally different to a neurotypical brain and living in a society that caters to neurotypical only causes significant challenges and harm to autistic people.

Implying that you can be 'autistic' and 'not neurodivergent' or 'less neurodivergent' is the same as functioning labels in that it separates the 'disabled' from the 'not autistic enough to be disabled' and re-enforces the separation between 'autism so severe it should be cured' and 'harmless, fun autism that means you don't need accommodations/consideration from neurotypical people'

>In opposition to neuro spicy (to refer to ones own self)

Finally, 'I'm neuro spicy' being used in place of language like 'I am autistic' can lead to people talking themselves out of seeking (Or having other people decide that they do not require) support+accomodations that would improve their quality of life.

Plenty of autistic people who received 'aspergers' as a diagnosis were never given support for autistic traits that weren't considered part of 'aspergers'. Their caregivers/medical professionals/loved ones were not told about things like sensory overload, ARFID, etc. You are seen as 'Less autistic, less disabled, more like a neurotypical' and can lose out on supports you may benefit from. Autism 'symptoms' are not linear, and many people who were just 'aspergers' or 'high functioning' find themselves 'regressing' later in life without any tools or supports to cope and manage. 'Neuro spicy' has a similar effect of presenting your autism as something that doesn't need to be treated with the same level of consideration and respect as a neurodivergencty.

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u/vexingpresence — 3 months ago

Saw this posted in another subreddit and oh boy is it satisfying to see someone else talking about what a piece of shit this tram line is. Every horrible decision you could possibly make rolled into one waste of taxpayer money.

He doesn't mention it til later in the video, but keep in mind that prior to this tram line there was a train that ran the same length into the city, and you could also take buses inside the CBD for free.

u/vexingpresence — 4 months ago