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Will landlord give my mom the wheelchair ramp?

In Horary, a wheelchair ramp is generally associated with the 4th House.

4th House (The Home & Property): As a permanent or semi-permanent modification to the exterior of a home, the ramp falls under the 4th house, which represents the house itself, its structure, and its immediate surroundings.

10th house is my mom.

And 7th house is the Landlord. Landlord approve install wheelchair ramp or not.

In the Horary both Landlord 7th or 4th is Mercury.
My mother is 10th Jupiter.

And Jupiter sextile Mercury at 0 orb BUT Separating. Does it means a Yes to wheelchair ramp or No to wheelchair ramp? Because aspect is SEPARATING, I am guessing it already pass it peak?

https://preview.redd.it/7l36s78n9f1h1.png?width=748&format=png&auto=webp&s=a8bc93593b61171c230e7208414923d12e0b90a0

Will landlord give my mom the wheelchair ramp?

In Horary, a wheelchair ramp is generally associated with the 4th House.

4th House (The Home & Property): As a permanent or semi-permanent modification to the exterior of a home, the ramp falls under the 4th house, which represents the house itself, its structure, and its immediate surroundings.

10th house is my mom.

And 7th house is the Landlord. Landlord approve install wheelchair ramp or not.

In the Horary both Landlord 7th or 4th is Mercury.
My mother is 10th Jupiter.

And Jupiter sextile Mercury at 0 orb BUT Separating. Does it means a Yes to wheelchair ramp or No to wheelchair ramp? Because aspect is SEPARATING, I am guessing it already pass it peak?

https://preview.redd.it/x3x317jpxe1h1.png?width=748&format=png&auto=webp&s=849ed4a06344d74988514e3d502bb85d8fe7c46c

Will landlord give my mom the wheelchair ramp?

In Horary, a wheelchair ramp is generally associated with the 4th House.

4th House (The Home & Property): As a permanent or semi-permanent modification to the exterior of a home, the ramp falls under the 4th house, which represents the house itself, its structure, and its immediate surroundings.

10th house is my mom.

And 7th house is the Landlord. Landlord approve install wheelchair ramp or not.

In the Horary both Landlord 7th or 4th is Mercury.
My mother is 10th Jupiter.

And Jupiter sextile Mercury at 0 orb BUT Separating. Does it means a Yes to wheelchair ramp or No to wheelchair ramp? Because aspect is SEPARATING, I am guessing it already pass it peak?

https://preview.redd.it/wes8kmv5xe1h1.png?width=748&format=png&auto=webp&s=b9229bab992cdd778a1439acb4807c2f007fa931

Who here would sale Would you sale your marital home and use 100% of the sale house money to your mother in-law.

Remember you put yourself of the risk of homeless.

I don't need to give context, I just need to know who selfless to that point to sale your home and 100% of the money go to mother in-law, remember you don't get a single penny from the sale. And it your marital home, under the eyes of the laws, half that house is yours.

Who here would sale Would you sale your marital home and use 100% of the sale house money to your mother in-law.

Remember you put yourself of the risk of homeless.

I don't need to give context, I just need to know who selfless to that point to sale your home and 100% of the money go to mother in-law, remember you don't get a single penny from the sale. And it your marital home, under the eyes of the laws, half that house is yours.

No need to go into context, just answer the question. Who here would take on the 100% FINANCIAL responsibility to care for your father in-law and mother in-law till the day they die?

And using your inheritance money that your deceased parents leave for you, but use it to take care of your in-laws.

2 years with his father, then 5 years with his mom. And still ONGOING. 7 YEARS total. We not talking about 7 weeks, 7 months, 7 YEARS. And insert how many more years they still alive.

Remember your inheritance is your deceased parents leave for you to take care of you in your old age, not leave it so you go use that money on your in-laws. Pretty sure my dead father will roll over from his grave about this.

No need to go into context, just answer the question. Who here would take on the 100% FINANCIAL responsibility to care for your father in-law and mother in-law till the day they die?

And using your inheritance money that your deceased parents leave for you, but use it to take care of your in-laws.

2 years with his father, then 5 years with his mom. And still ONGOING. 7 YEARS total. We not talking about 7 weeks, 7 months, 7 YEARS. And insert how many more years they still alive.

Remember your inheritance is your deceased parents leave for you to take care of you in your old age, not leave it so you go use that money on your in-laws. Pretty sure my dead father will roll over from his grave about this.

I'm wordy so I try to keep this short, my husband plan a 2 days weekend trip for his mother for this weekend for Mother's Day. His mom wants her son, and is very happy for this trip.
Gurney accessible van to transport the paralyze her, and everything she needs medically are all prepare and ready for this 2 days trips of her.

Her doctors also approve the trip, and my husband is the one will care for her 24/7

My mother in-law really want me to go too, and expressed thank you to me for paid for this trip, and grateful to me for use my inheritance on her financially, so her remaining time she has left on this Earth she has her son take care for her.

I have no problem with use my Shanghai businessman father inheritance that left for me to use it on his mother. In fact I want to, and will continue do so until the day she die.

I just don't want to go on the trip with her, I rather has she spend mother and son time, without me. And there 2 reasons why I not want to go

1.. This weekend I have something with my astronomy hobby, and something with my local astronomers club.

2.. His mom she 83 and paralyze all 4 limps, and her terminal illness (multiple health conditions) and very frail. But she still 5'9" tall (180cm), and the 4'11" (150cm) tall me doesn't know how to lift her or move her or transport her.
.........
While my husband whom 6'3" (190cm) tall has training on all that, he had training since 4.5 years ago since his mother became quadriplegia paralyze.

If I was the one that lift and move her, and if she fall to her death (which she will die if she fall, she has heart problem that need open heart surgery too), it will be my culprit. I rather let the 190cm tall him whom has training to do that for his mother.

Me going I feel that I'm just in the way, even with both my mother in-law and my husband reassured me that I am overthinking, and that I'm not in the way, and they wants me there as a family.

But I not want to go, I just don't. And I not want to disappoint my mother in-law, but I not want to go. And I'm a very straightforward person, I don't know how to decline her politely.

I'm wordy so I try to keep this short, my husband plan a 2 days weekend trip for his mother for this weekend for Mother's Day. His mom wants her son, and is very happy for this trip.
Gurney accessible van to transport the paralyze her, and everything she needs medically are all prepare and ready for this 2 days trips of her.

Her doctors also approve the trip, and my husband is the one will care for her 24/7

My mother in-law really want me to go too, and expressed thank you to me for paid for this trip, and grateful to me for use my inheritance on her financially, so her remaining time she has left on this Earth she has her son take care for her.

I have no problem with use my Shanghai businessman father inheritance that left for me to use it on his mother. In fact I want to, and will continue do so until the day she die.

I just don't want to go on the trip with her, I rather has she spend mother and son time, without me. And there 2 reasons why I not want to go

1.. This weekend I have something with my astronomy hobby, and something with my local astronomers club.

2.. His mom she 83 and paralyze all 4 limps, and her terminal illness (multiple health conditions) and very frail. But she still 5'9" tall (180cm), and the 4'11" (150cm) tall me doesn't know how to lift her or move her or transport her.
.........
While my husband whom 6'3" (190cm) tall has training on all that, he had training since 4.5 years ago since his mother became quadriplegia paralyze.

If I was the one that lift and move her, and if she fall to her death (which she will die if she fall, she has heart problem that need open heart surgery too), it will be my culprit. I rather let the 190cm tall him whom has training to do that for his mother.

Me going I feel that I'm just in the way, even with both my mother in-law and my husband reassured me that I am overthinking, and that I'm not in the way, and they wants me there as a family.

But I not want to go, I just don't. And I not want to disappoint my mother in-law, but I not want to go. And I'm a very straightforward person, I don't know how to decline her politely.

I'm wordy so I try to keep this short, my husband plan a 2 days weekend trip for his mother for this weekend for Mother's Day. His mom wants her son, and is very happy for this trip.
Gurney accessible van to transport the paralyze her, and everything she needs medically are all prepare and ready for this 2 days trips of her.

Her doctors also approve the trip, and my husband is the one will care for her 24/7

My mother in-law really want me to go too, and expressed thank you to me for paid for this trip, and grateful to me for use my inheritance on her financially, so her remaining time she has left on this Earth she has her son take care for her.

I have no problem with use my Shanghai businessman father inheritance that left for me to use it on his mother. In fact I want to, and will continue do so until the day she die.

I just don't want to go on the trip with her, I rather has she spend mother and son time, without me. And there 2 reasons why I not want to go

1.. This weekend I have something with my astronomy hobby, and something with my local astronomers club.

2.. His mom she 83 and paralyze all 4 limps, and her terminal illness (multiple health conditions) and very frail. But she still 5'9" tall (180cm), and the 4'11" (150cm) tall me doesn't know how to lift her or move her or transport her.
.........
While my husband whom 6'3" (190cm) tall has training on all that, he had training since 4.5 years ago since his mother became quadriplegia paralyze.

If I was the one that lift and move her, and if she fall to her death (which she will die if she fall, she has heart problem that need open heart surgery too), it will be my culprit. I rather let the 190cm tall him whom has training to do that for his mother.

Me going I feel that I'm just in the way, even with both my mother in-law and my husband reassured me that I am overthinking, and that I'm not in the way, and they wants me there as a family.

But I not want to go, I just don't. And I not want to disappoint my mother in-law, but I not want to go. And I'm a very straightforward person, I don't know how to decline her politely.

I'm wordy so I try to keep this short, my husband plan a 2 days weekend trip for his mother for this weekend for Mother's Day. His mom wants her son, and is very happy for this trip.
Gurney accessible van to transport the paralyze her, and everything she needs medically are all prepare and ready for this 2 days trips of her.

Her doctors also approve the trip, and my husband is the one will care for her 24/7

My mother in-law really want me to go too, and expressed thank you to me for paid for this trip, and grateful to me for use my inheritance on her financially, so her remaining time she has left on this Earth she has her son take care for her.

I have no problem with use my Shanghai businessman father inheritance that left for me to use it on his mother. In fact I want to, and will continue do so until the day she die.

I just don't want to go on the trip with her, I rather has she spend mother and son time, without me. And there 2 reasons why I not want to go

1.. This weekend I have something with my astronomy hobby, and something with my local astronomers club.

2.. His mom she 83 and paralyze all 4 limps, and her terminal illness (multiple health conditions) and very frail. But she still 5'9" tall (180cm), and the 4'11" (150cm) tall me doesn't know how to lift her or move her or transport her.
.........
While my husband whom 6'3" (190cm) tall has training on all that, he had training since 4.5 years ago since his mother became quadriplegia paralyze.

If I was the one that lift and move her, and if she fall to her death (which she will die if she fall, she has heart problem that need open heart surgery too), it will be my culprit. I rather let the 190cm tall him whom has training to do that for his mother.

Me going I feel that I'm just in the way, even with both my mother in-law and my husband reassured me that I am overthinking, and that I'm not in the way, and they wants me there as a family.

But I not want to go, I just don't. And I not want to disappoint my mother in-law, but I not want to go. And I'm a very straightforward person, I don't know how to decline her politely.

I'm wordy so I try to keep this short, my husband plan a 2 days weekend trip for his mother for this weekend for Mother's Day. His mom wants her son, and is very happy for this trip.
Gurney accessible van to transport the paralyze her, and everything she needs medically are all prepare and ready for this 2 days trips of her.

Her doctors also approve the trip, and my husband is the one will care for her 24/7

My mother in-law really want me to go too, and expressed thank you to me for paid for this trip, and grateful to me for use my inheritance on her financially, so her remaining time she has left on this Earth she has her son take care for her.

I have no problem with use my Shanghai businessman father inheritance that left for me to use it on his mother. In fact I want to, and will continue do so until the day she die.

I just don't want to go on the trip with her, I rather has she spend mother and son time, without me. And there 2 reasons why I not want to go

1.. This weekend I have something with my astronomy hobby, and something with my local astronomers club.

2.. His mom she 83 and paralyze all 4 limps, and her terminal illness (multiple health conditions) and very frail. But she still 5'9" tall (180cm), and the 4'11" (150cm) tall me doesn't know how to lift her or move her or transport her.
.........
While my husband whom 6'3" (190cm) tall has training on all that, he had training since 4.5 years ago since his mother became quadriplegia paralyze.

If I was the one that lift and move her, and if she fall to her death (which she will die if she fall, she has heart problem that need open heart surgery too), it will be my culprit. I rather let the 190cm tall him whom has training to do that for his mother.

Me going I feel that I'm just in the way, even with both my mother in-law and my husband reassured me that I am overthinking, and that I'm not in the way, and they wants me there as a family.

But I not want to go, I just don't. And I not want to disappoint my mother in-law, but I not want to go. And I'm a very straightforward person, I don't know how to decline her politely.

Please share a story where you regret the decision that you make in your life? But it too late. Why you regret it?

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Regret was never a word in my dictionary, so No, I do not regret my decision as I know it was the right decision, it just I didn't know how much I miss it until after it gone.

I was the one that adamant demand to sale our marital home, I'm married 14 years to my husband, by the laws in my state half the house is mine, I have half the rights to sale this house.

The reason why I was adamant to sale our martial home because we need the money for his quadriplegia paralyze mother whom also has end stage kidney failure and liver cirrhosis. 

And major heart problems that last month the surgeon told us his mother need immediate open heart surgery or else she can literally die at anytime.

Prolong his mother life needs money, even being on Life support machines everyday in the hospital is money money. I know sooner or later the house will need to be sold to prolong her life, so let me be the cold hearted one and sold it, the house was sold in March and the money I set aside for his mother.

My husband he very attached to this house because it the house that has the room of our toddler (back when our toddler was still alive).

Even after 7 years our toddler death, my husband still adamant keep our toddler dirty clothes and even our toddler DIRTY shoes. 

Even toddler room my husband keep it as is, never change a thing. Our toddler ashes he keeps in this room, unchange.

This room, this house, had 2 deaths right in this room that is the 2 most important people in my husband life. My husband was adamant not to sold this house, he rather cash out BOTH his 401ks and IRAs for his mother treatments.

Me, I rather sold our martial home and set the money aside for his mom. Which we did make a profit from the home sale. And we bought a house that (cost less) and medically equip, and also right at the corner right near the hospital convenient for his mom treatments (she in and out of the hospital basically all the times).

I thought that our child ashes with us is enough, wherever we go we took our child ashes with us by our sides. And toddler clothes, toys, including our toddler dirty shoes with us. Wherever we go we have our toddler.

But No, I am NOT dealing well at all, I literally cry every day since we been in our new house, it just not the same, I feel that this new house is NOT our home. I just can't seem to accept this new home, it foreign to me. 

My husband is not doing well neither, with everything of his mother, and the death of his father and the death of his child (our toddler). For a couple who has depression, sale our martial home which has the room of our toddler was a bad idea. I basically put my husband and myself further into depression.

It was a rash decision from me, I don't regret it, but I'm just not use to this new normal.

Share a story where you regret the decision that you make in your life, but it too late.

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Regret was never a word in my dictionary, so No, I do not regret my decision as I know it was the right decision, it just I didn't know how much I miss it until after it gone.

I was the one that adamant demand to sale our marital home, I'm married 14 years to my husband, by the laws in my state half the house is mine, I have half the rights to sale this house.

The reason why I was adamant to sale our martial home because we need the money for his quadriplegia paralyze mother whom also has end stage kidney failure and liver cirrhosis. 

And major heart problems that last month the surgeon told us his mother need immediate open heart surgery or else she can literally die at anytime.

Prolong his mother life needs money, even being on Life support machines everyday in the hospital is money money. I know sooner or later the house will need to be sold to prolong her life, so let me be the cold hearted one and sold it, the house was sold in March and the money I set aside for his mother.

My husband he very attached to this house because it the house that has the room of our toddler (back when our toddler was still alive).

Even after 7 years our toddler death, my husband still adamant keep our toddler dirty clothes and even our toddler DIRTY shoes. 

Even toddler room my husband keep it as is, never change a thing. Our toddler ashes he keeps in this room, unchange.

This room, this house, had 2 deaths right in this room that is the 2 most important people in my husband life. My husband was adamant not to sold this house, he rather cash out BOTH his 401ks and IRAs for his mother treatments.

Me, I rather sold our martial home and set the money aside for his mom. Which we did make a profit from the home sale. And we bought a house that (cost less) and medically equip, and also right at the corner right near the hospital convenient for his mom treatments (she in and out of the hospital basically all the times).

I thought that our child ashes with us is enough, wherever we go we took our child ashes with us by our sides. And toddler clothes, toys, including our toddler dirty shoes with us. Wherever we go we have our toddler.

But No, I am NOT dealing well at all, I literally cry every day since we been in our new house, it just not the same, I feel that this new house is NOT our home. I just can't seem to accept this new home, it foreign to me. 

My husband is not doing well neither, with everything of his mother, and the death of his father and the death of his child (our toddler). For a couple who has depression, sale our martial home which has the room of our toddler was a bad idea. I basically put my husband and myself further into depression.

It was a rash decision from me, I don't regret it, but I'm just not use to this new normal.

Share a story where you regret the decision that you make in your life, but it too late.

------------

Regret was never a word in my dictionary, so No, I do not regret my decision as I know it was the right decision, it just I didn't know how much I miss it until after it gone.

I was the one that adamant demand to sale our marital home, I'm married 14 years to my husband, by the laws in my state half the house is mine, I have half the rights to sale this house.

The reason why I was adamant to sale our martial home because we need the money for his quadriplegia paralyze mother whom also has end stage kidney failure and liver cirrhosis. 

And major heart problems that last month the surgeon told us his mother need immediate open heart surgery or else she can literally die at anytime.

Prolong his mother life needs money, even being on Life support machines everyday in the hospital is money money. I know sooner or later the house will need to be sold to prolong her life, so let me be the cold hearted one and sold it, the house was sold in March and the money I set aside for his mother.

My husband he very attached to this house because it the house that has the room of our toddler (back when our toddler was still alive).

Even after 7 years our toddler death, my husband still adamant keep our toddler dirty clothes and even our toddler DIRTY shoes. 

Even toddler room my husband keep it as is, never change a thing. Our toddler ashes he keeps in this room, unchange.

This room, this house, had 2 deaths right in this room that is the 2 most important people in my husband life. My husband was adamant not to sold this house, he rather cash out BOTH his 401ks and IRAs for his mother treatments.

Me, I rather sold our martial home and set the money aside for his mom. Which we did make a profit from the home sale. And we bought a house that (cost less) and medically equip, and also right at the corner right near the hospital convenient for his mom treatments (she in and out of the hospital basically all the times).

I thought that our child ashes with us is enough, wherever we go we took our child ashes with us by our sides. And toddler clothes, toys, including our toddler dirty shoes with us. Wherever we go we have our toddler.

But No, I am NOT dealing well at all, I literally cry every day since we been in our new house, it just not the same, I feel that this new house is NOT our home. I just can't seem to accept this new home, it foreign to me. 

My husband is not doing well neither, with everything of his mother, and the death of his father and the death of his child (our toddler). For a couple who has depression, sale our martial home which has the room of our toddler was a bad idea. I basically put my husband and myself further into depression.

It was a rash decision from me, I don't regret it, but I'm just not use to this new normal.

Share a story where you regret the decision that you make in your life, but it too late.

------------

Regret was never a word in my dictionary, so No, I do not regret my decision as I know it was the right decision, it just I didn't know how much I miss it until after it gone.

I was the one that adamant demand to sale our marital home, I'm married 14 years to my husband, by the laws in my state half the house is mine, I have half the rights to sale this house.

The reason why I was adamant to sale our martial home because we need the money for his quadriplegia paralyze mother whom also has end stage kidney failure and liver cirrhosis. 

And major heart problems that last month the surgeon told us his mother need immediate open heart surgery or else she can literally die at anytime.

Prolong his mother life needs money, even being on Life support machines everyday in the hospital is money money. I know sooner or later the house will need to be sold to prolong her life, so let me be the cold hearted one and sold it, the house was sold in March and the money I set aside for his mother.

My husband he very attached to this house because it the house that has the room of our toddler (back when our toddler was still alive).

Even after 7 years our toddler death, my husband still adamant keep our toddler dirty clothes and even our toddler DIRTY shoes. 

Even toddler room my husband keep it as is, never change a thing. Our toddler ashes he keeps in this room, unchange.

This room, this house, had 2 deaths right in this room that is the 2 most important people in my husband life. My husband was adamant not to sold this house, he rather cash out BOTH his 401ks and IRAs for his mother treatments.

Me, I rather sold our martial home and set the money aside for his mom. Which we did make a profit from the home sale. And we bought a house that (cost less) and medically equip, and also right at the corner right near the hospital convenient for his mom treatments (she in and out of the hospital basically all the times).

I thought that our child ashes with us is enough, wherever we go we took our child ashes with us by our sides. And toddler clothes, toys, including our toddler dirty shoes with us. Wherever we go we have our toddler.

But No, I am NOT dealing well at all, I literally cry every day since we been in our new house, it just not the same, I feel that this new house is NOT our home. I just can't seem to accept this new home, it foreign to me. 

My husband is not doing well neither, with everything of his mother, and the death of his father and the death of his child (our toddler). For a couple who has depression, sale our martial home which has the room of our toddler was a bad idea. I basically put my husband and myself further into depression.

It was a rash decision from me, I don't regret it, but I'm just not use to this new normal.

California. Previous people that lived here does not take care of their kitchen cabinets, the whole under cabinets are filled with spider webs and roaches. I killed 3 spiders that looks exactly like Black widow (could also be the household false black widow).

But anyways, I found this egg sac it fuzzy and clear white, with in the core it pure white. What spider egg sac is this? I don't think it alive egg sac. Before I get a stick and poke this egg sac out, what spider it is?

Steatoda triangulosa egg sac? Google say it looks like one. I want human answer though.

https://preview.redd.it/yq8mm72y80yg1.png?width=1693&format=png&auto=webp&s=dbcd710a928cc9f1c663daea14d24199afad43d3

California. Previous people that lived here does not take care of their kitchen cabinets, the whole under cabinets are filled with spider webs and roaches. I killed 3 spiders that looks exactly like Black widow (could also be the household false black widow).

But anyways, I found this egg sac it fuzzy and clear white, with in the core it pure white. What spider egg sac is this? I don't think it alive egg sac. Before I get a stick and poke this egg sac out, what spider it is?

Steatoda triangulosa egg sac? Google say it looks like one. I want human answer though.

https://preview.redd.it/pgov76es80yg1.png?width=1693&format=png&auto=webp&s=4d58823f93209580aed2c73e3d75da7afc88ec38

California. Previous people that lived here does not take care of their kitchen cabinets, the whole under cabinets are filled with spider webs and roaches. I killed 3 spiders that looks exactly like Black widow (could also be the household false black widow).

But anyways, I found this egg sac it fuzzy and clear white, with in the core it pure white. What spider egg sac is this? I don't think it alive egg sac. Before I get a stick and poke this egg sac out, what spider it is?

Steatoda triangulosa egg sac? Google say it looks like one.

https://preview.redd.it/a8a7ahdxmvxg1.png?width=1693&format=png&auto=webp&s=51cd0e20e1d562e2e91960bf007c0676c43f9240

California. Previous people that lived here does not take care of their kitchen cabinets, the whole under cabinets are filled with spider webs and roaches. I killed 3 spiders that looks exactly like Black widow (could also be the household false black widow).

But anyways, I found this egg sac it fuzzy and clear white, with in the core it pure white. What spider egg sac is this? I don't think it alive egg sac. Before I get a stick and poke this egg sac out, what spider it is?

Steatoda triangulosa egg sac? Google say it looks like one.

https://preview.redd.it/74cx5wxbfvxg1.png?width=1693&format=png&auto=webp&s=b7c6a9722e6bdc4363970fa3b449d5156cf0d747