u/xoxollie_

I’m trying to quietly make a plan to move out of a difficult living situation, and I’m realizing I have no idea what a realistic “I can leave quickly if I need to” amount of savings actually is.

For someone looking for a modest 1 bedroom or possibly a room somewhere in the DFW area, how much would you want to have accessible before making the move? (I’m currently on a lease now, but I’m not gonna let that become between me and leaving when I feel unsafe, etc)

I’m thinking about first month’s rent, deposit, application/admin fees, utilities, moving/storage costs, etc. Also interested in any legitimate Dallas/DFW resources that help people get into housing when they’re trying to leave a difficult situation.

Not looking for anything fancy, just trying to figure out what number I should be working toward so I can actually have an exit plan. (I have 2 cats and myself, and maybe 14 boxes.)

I don’t really know how to explain what it’s like to be in a relationship that has slowly worn you down. Especially when you don’t have support, or family near you.
There wasn’t one day where everything suddenly became terrible. It happened little by little. The arguments. The defensiveness. The sarcasm. The way I’d bring up something that hurt me and somehow end up defending why I was hurt. The constant feeling that I needed to watch my words because I already knew how the conversation would go.

Eventually, I started feeling like I was walking on eggshells in my own relationship. I kept thinking maybe if I communicated better. Maybe if I gave him more time. Maybe if I stopped reacting emotionally. Maybe if he really understood how much this was hurting me, something would finally change.

Then we went on vacation with his family. We had this planned for a year or so, and I had just started my new job. I actually brought my work stuff with me because I had been off work for a year and was excited that I finally found a job, and I didn’t want to take off because of this vacation.
One day, we got into an argument at a store. He left me there. He literally walked away and left me inside the store while we were on a family vacation.

I remember standing there, kinda scared, thinking “what am I suppose to do? I wasn’t home. I didn’t have my own car. I didn’t have the money to just get a hotel and disappear. I was away from everything familiar, surrounded by his family, and suddenly I was completely on my own. And I cried.

Not just because he left me at a store.
I cried because something about that moment made me realize how alone I had already been feeling for a very long time. I’m in the middle of nowhere, I don’t know anyone, I don’t have family near me. I don’t have anyone to call. I did not drive here in my own vehicle. I haven’t even received my first paycheck yet to afford an uber back home for the 8 hour drive. It was awful.

I’ve had plenty of moments where I’ve said, “I can’t do this anymore.” But this felt different. I stopped wanting to convince him. I stopped wanting to explain the same pain for the hundredth time. I started thinking about how I’m going to leave.

The problem is, knowing you need to leave and actually being able to leave are two completely different things.
We live together. We’re both on a lease. I have pets. I have bills. I don’t have some perfect place waiting for me with enough money in the bank to start over tomorrow.
So right now, I’m in this awful in between. I’m still here physically, but mentally I’m trying to figure out how to get myself out.

That’s what I’ve learned about these situations.
Sometimes the person who looks the most “fine” is the person privately trying to figure out how to get free.
I don’t know exactly what happens next.
I just know that being left alone in that store on vacation was the moment I stopped asking myself, “how do I make this work” and told myself “okay, it’s time to leave, and plan in silence” thanks for listening.

Hi! I wanted to come on here and share my experience because not only has it been extremely difficult in this economy to even land an interview and hear back from a recruiter. It’s EXTREMELY hard to land a job. I’ve been unemployed for 16 months and I made a change in what I was doing and this is what finally worked for me.

So if you’re not tailoring your resume. Do it. I have about 10-15 different resumes that I’ve made for “Specific jobs” that I use to apply for. Especially if you’re just applying to anything and everything. I’m in between careers so I definitely have to tailor my experience.

What finally worked for me where I noticed I was getting calls back was making it look I currently have a “job” Make it look like you’re currently “doing something” whether that’s school, door dash, something. For me, it was easy to add in my social media as a “current job” because I manage my true crime TikTok account as a hobby that has about 70,000 followers. Anyway, I’ve been doing that for a few years and I learned a lot of marketing and social media analytic details etc. I decided to add that to my “current job” and make it fit because I’m still doing it, and I can tailor that as experience towards my jobs I’m applying for in marketing.

I hope this helps! This is what took me from not hearing ANYTHING back for months and months, to my email and phone blowing up and my calendar booked with interviews. It really is a blessing in disguise and what finally changed FOR ME.

I hope this helps! Good luck

I’m trying to do the “right” things:
Tailoring my resume to each job

Applying directly through company websites

Applying to roles where I meet the qualifications

Focusing on jobs related to my experience/background

But something still isn’t working, and I’d really appreciate honest feedback.

For context, I have experience in healthcare/medical assisting, but I’m trying to move into more non-patient-facing roles like admin support, medical records, scheduling, compliance assistant, operations support, data entry, or similar roles. I have prior military experience and a bunch of other experience that I tailor on my resume

My questions are:
If I’m qualified but not getting interviews, what are the most common reasons?

Could my resume still be the issue even if I’m tailoring it?

Are there better job titles I should be searching for with my background?

Is there anything I should be doing besides applying online?

I’m open to constructive criticism. I just need to figure out what to change because what I’m doing now clearly isn’t working and literally had to make a go fund me to try and survive

I’m starting college next week, and I recently lost over $7,000 in money I’ve already accrued from a company that is withholding funds from me (long story) but I was going to use that to pay for college and get a reliable laptop for online classes, assignments, Zoom, and job searching.

I’ve been struggling and made a page to help with school/laptop costs. I’m still looking at cheaper/refurbished options too, and trying to see what’s better.

I shared it because I genuinely need help getting started, but some comments have made me feel embarrassed and judged for asking at all. Especially from family.

I know nobody owes me anything, and I completely understand if people can’t or don’t want to help. I guess I’m just feeling ashamed for needing help in the first place.

I’m starting online classes and job searching, and I need the most affordable reliable laptop possible. I’m on a tight budget unfortunately, but not sure where to look.

Main uses: online school, Zoom, Google Docs/Microsoft Office, job applications, email, basic browsing.

Is refurbished better than buying a cheap new laptop? Any specific models I should look for?

I’m starting school soon and currently job searching, but I don’t have a reliable laptop, but I’m trying to figure out the smartest/cheapest way to get a laptop without making a bad financial decision.

For basic schoolwork, job applications, Zoom, documents, and online classes, what’s the most realistic low budget option? I currently have a refurbished 2014 Mac book air. It’s holding on as much as it can lol

I appealed it, one hour later it came back “Not approved” I opened a ticket, it went to a bot and was closed. I opened another ticket and submitted screenshots and requested a manual review.

Normally, you’re suppose to get 5 disqualifications on your videos in the last 30 days before you’re kicked out of the program. I was just randomly kicked out of the program last night while my videos were skyrocketing. The thing is, this payout was going to end in a few days to be paid out for May 15th. I am livid.

I appealed it, one hour later it came back “Not approved” I opened a ticket, it went to a bot and was closed. I opened another ticket and submitted screenshots and requested a manual review.

Normally, you’re suppose to get 5 disqualifications on your videos in the last 30 days before you’re kicked out of the program. I was just randomly kicked out of the program last night while my videos were skyrocketing. The thing is, this payout was going to end in a few days to be paid out for May 15th. I am livid.