u/Adorable_Lemon123

Does anxiety affect your choice of career? I’ve been going through so much for years now, and my anxiety has only gotten worse. Honestly, I’m terrified of feeling overwhelmed. I've gotten to the point where I see the world as an unsafe place, and I feel paranoid all the time. It’s so hard for me to cope and not panic whenever I’m in overcrowded places.

To make matters worse, in my country, everything is getting so expensive, yet our currency value and average salaries are pretty low. I’m really scared this situation will take a massive toll on my mental health in the long run if I choose to work a soul-crushing corporate job.

Right now, I just honestly want to find some peace of mind. Because of all this, I’m even considering looking for a remote work instead. Maybe for the better too. I’ve been drawing for years, so I’m currently thinking of finding a remote work as an illustrator.

Is it a good decision, or am I just giving up too fast? Seeing other people try so hard to chase their careers while I’m choosing a path like this makes me wonder.

Some people live and choose to pursue fame and public recognition, and they enjoy seeing their faces everywhere. However, is there anyone who genuinely chooses the opposite—wanting to live a quiet, private life, while still having sufficient financial stability?

I'm not sure if I should share this here, but I just want to tell a little bit of my story. I recently turned 20 (F). I am still in college, but I have been feeling a sense of restlessness and emptiness lately.

For context, I don’t really have friends. I used to, but I have always been a people-pleaser, so sometimes people only reach out when they need something and then they leave. This has been a reoccurring pattern from elementary school up until college now. I’ve even been betrayed by my own friends several times, which leaves me feeling unimportant and has caused me to develop anxiety. It makes it hard for me to feel at peace in any environment. At the same time, I feel quite lonely, and I feel like I have no one to turn to when I am struggling like this.

I did everything—tried playing games, watching movies, and even doing the hobbies I love—but none of it worked to satisfy me. I get so much stress from being insecure because I am overweight. I’ve tried dieting and everything else, but it's just not getting better. At this point, I even find myself just staring into space, doing nothing all day, and suddenly crying in the middle of the night, questioning why I don’t have any friends. I do everything I can and I love helping my friends, but it hurts so much to feel like nobody really cares about me, feeling left out, and I can't even open up about what’s truly in my heart.

Actually, I am grateful to live comfortably with enough money. But because of that, my parents work harder, so they barely have any time, and my siblings already have their own busy lives (we have a big age gap, and I am the youngest). Even though they are busy, I can say my family does care about me, but honestly, it’s really hard to explain my current situation to them because of the generation gap. So, I don't really say anything to them other than just telling them that I’m tired, and just need a rest, so sometimes I just lock myself in my room. So maybe, that's why I constantly look for friends, but I always end up with unpleasant experiences.

My family and I live in a small town. We don't have movie theaters, malls, etc. But I can say there is a sense of peace here. Cause its not like a crowded place.

But at the same time, I have lived in this small town for so long and have experienced various traumas caused by friends—feeling used, to the point where I don't even want to live here anymore. I don't even have any friends here, and I'm not even sure if I will ever find a career in this place.

Long story short, the first time I went to a city was for college. The city itself isn't too far from my hometown, because I am not really allowed to go far. Every time I have a semester break, I always go back to my hometown. However, I choose to just rest my body by playing games, sleeping, and eating every single day, and I stay inside the house until college starts again. This is because I feel like there is nothing interesting to do in that town, and I don't have any friends to hang out with. In the beginning, I had fun with my college friends. I was happy because I thought I had finally found friends. But little did I know, the exact same situation would happen again. My friends betrayed me, and people just used me again. It reached a breaking point where I actually had to see a psychologist, and I feel completely empty because I feel lonely almost all the time. Honestly, I have thought about building a career in the capital city, but in my country, our capital is very crowded and congested. Everything is way more expensive there, while the average salary given is quite low. On top of that, it can be a dangerous place, especially if you live alone. When I think about it again, I get scared, and I feel like it will be even more exhausting and stressful, because I feel like mentally, I am completely unprepared, and I have pretty severe social anxiety.

I’m sorry for writing such a long story, but after everything I’ve been through, I suddenly just want to have a simple, quiet life. I'm thinking about what I'll do after graduation. Suddenly, I feel really afraid of moving too far away for work, or maybe even working abroad. It’s like I’ve become completely paranoid about the outside world, and sometimes I find peace just by staying at home (I like hanging out a bit, but maybe not too often). I’ve always liked drawing, and it has become a form of therapy for me. At this point, for some reason, my only plan is to become an illustrator or do remote work, but I’m scared that it might not be possible.

I’m asking this because I feel like I’m a loser who gives up too easily. While other people are chasing certain careers, I choose to live like this—privately. I’ve even decided that after I graduate, I might deactivate all of my social media accounts.

And at this moment, honestly, I am also very confused. I plan to stay in the city where I am studying right now after graduate because it has everything that I need, like a better variety of food and places that will hopefully help me have a little bit of fun. However, if I choose remote work, there is a chance I will be told to just stay at home, which means living in that small town again—and I don't really want that.

And if you ask, why this specific city (where I am currently studying)? Why not another city? It's because there are still relatives I know here, even though they live quite far away. This makes me feel a bit safer, whereas in another city, especially abroad, I don't really have anyone.

Is it fine to choose this path? I always keep thinking that maybe I just give up too easily and that I could still pursue another career if I moved somewhere further away.

But at this point, my anxiety is really severe, and I am honestly completely exhausted—both mentally and physically. So, I’m a bit scared to live in a place that is crowded, dangerous, and overwhelming, especially if I am all alone. As for friends, I don't really think about it anymore. I mean, I do still want them, but for the time being, I won't actively try to look for any. I just hope that I will cross paths with good people in the future. I did want to try find friends online before, but my anxiety makes me scared because I’m afraid of encountering creeps.

Are there any of you who feel the same way? I'm sorry, I really just don't know anymore. Please be nice, I am really new to Reddit.

I'm using the latest version of the Dolphin emulator, 2603a. I've always been told that Dolphin can only deliver 30 FPS, which is fine, but I've heard that it can actually go up to 60 FPS, which would be much cooler. Are there any settings I need to change to adjust the FPS? All the YouTube tutorials I found are for low-end PCs, but I'm using a high-spec laptop, so I didn't follow them because I figured the settings wouldn't suit my system. Plus, I don't really understand Dolphin's settings, so I didn't want to mess around with them randomly.

Do you have a specific settings guide to get 60 FPS on a high-spec laptop? I also want to keep the high quality and not turn anything down

I’m someone who deals with social anxiety, which makes it really hard for me to interact with others, and I get a bit paranoid when meeting strangers. But I kind of want to find some online friends, though I'm somehow afraid because I'm worried I will meet creeps or weird people.

Can you recommend some online games where I can meet good friends? (Like games that have a healthy community).

For example, I like games like Harvest Moon, Story of Seasons, or Rune Factory, maybe some games where we can customize our character. But it doesn't need to be exactly like these games, I will check out the recommendations first.

Note: I don't really like horror or shooter games.

Can anyone tell me if there are any characters across the Harvest Moon / Story of Seasons / Rune Factory series who are interconnected? I’m not talking about DLC characters. I mean, some characters from one game occasionally pop up in another game—sometimes with a different name or a slightly modified design even have different job. Is there an official explanation for this? Like, are they actually the same person? Are they related to someone in that new town? Is there a lore reason for why they moved to the town, or does the story simply take place a few years earlier or later? Sometimes things get really confusing, like how Ann and Gray become siblings in Harvest Moon 64, and even the rival marriages are completely different.

If you know any interesting lore like this, could you share it with me? I'd love to read about it!

I’m just about to start, but can someone convince me that HM: Magical Melody will be one of the best games I’ve ever played? Because I'm only 5 minutes into the game and I'm already lost trying to find my way home, and the idea that villagers will leave if you don't talk to them enough is making me overthink

This might sound like a pretty absurd reason for why I first started playing Harvest Moon: Magical Melody.

I played Harvest Moon: Hero of Leaf Valley before, and it’s one of those Harvest Moon games that I really love and find memorable. Dia really caught my attention because of her character development. I ended up marrying her. But then I realized there wasn't much to do after that, and the game doesn't even allow you to have a child.

So, I jokingly searched for another Harvest Moon game that features Dia. Of course, Save the Homeland was recommended, but you can't even get married in that one. Then I found Harvest Moon: Magical Melody, and I suddenly wanted to play it just because she is in it. And even better, you can also marry Kurt there! (Fun fact: When I saw him in Hero of Leaf Valley, I really wanted to romance him as a girl but couldn't, so I was really happy to find out you can actually do it in Magical Melody).

Yeah, maybe it started just because of the characters that caught my interest, but I can honestly say that Magical Melody is also genuinely fun, and I love it. By the way, have you ever had an absurd reason for playing one of the Harvest Moon games as well?

I bought this laptop, an Asus TUF Gaming F16 with an RTX 5070, about 4–5 months ago, and I've already been using it to play games like Harvest Moon, Rune Factory, and Story of Seasons. I also use the high-quality settings to run these games. But because I am addicted, I've been playing nonstop, from the afternoon until around 7 PM or 8 PM.

I actually don't know anything about laptops, so I'm a bit worried right now. Well, my laptop doesn't have any issues at all, but I suddenly feel a little anxious because I've been using it nonstop. (I do keep it plugged into the charger, though, because we are supposed to play games while charging, right?)

Could you please tell me if the way I'm using my laptop is still considered safe enough, or do I need to do something like limit my playtime? Cause I probably would cry if something happened to my laptop, cause it's really expensive to buy.

I played Trio of Towns before, and I kept changing my mind about who I wanted to marry. At first, I wanted to marry Lisette (mostly because she was the first one to appear). But then Komari showed up, and I suddenly changed my mind and started chasing after her. After that, Kasumi arrived, and I changed my mind again because, for some reason, she really caught my interest. I used to play it on my phone and didn't actually get to finish the game, so now I want to start over and play it on PC.

​I'm thinking about sticking with Kasumi, but genuinely asking, has anyone here married Kasumi too? The thing that makes me hesitate is that she is so hard to find/meet in the game. Will we barely see her after marriage too? It's just that with other candidates, even when they're following their schedules, it's still relatively easy to find them. But for Kasumi, we have to wait until school is over. Does this still happen after marriage? Is choosing her the right call, or should I just stick with Komari?

Do you choose a different bachelor/bachelorette when playing another Harvest Moon game that features the same characters? If yes, do you ever feel bad, like you're cheating or something?

For example, Harvest Moon: Animal Parade (AP) and Harvest Moon: Tree of Tranquility (ToT) share the same marriage candidates. I married Luna in AP, but I don't know if I can marry her again in ToT because she looks so much like a child. I'm suddenly thinking about checking out the other candidates, but I kind of feel bad about it

I just got a new laptop with an RTX 5070, and I think I can run games much better now. Are there any fun online games I should try?

(Note: I actually love games like Rune Factory, Harvest Moon, and Story of Seasons, but I'm open to any game (as long as it's not creepy stuff). I am also not very familiar with shooter games. I usually play these farming games offline when I'm bored, so I'm not very familiar with other offline games either. If you have any fun offline game recommendations, I'd love to hear them too! Any recommendations?)"

Just wanted to ask, what’s the creepiest or weirdest thing you’ve ever seen or encountered in the Harvest Moon series?

Just wanted to ask, what’s the creepiest or weirdest thing you’ve ever seen or encountered in the Story of Seasons series?

I'm a big fan of the Harvest Moon series (including Story of Seasons of course, and even Rune Factory), but I've never actually finished any of the games. So, I'm currently on a journey to play through every game in the franchise one by one. I started with two games at the same time, and I'll move on to the other series once I finish both.

But recently, I've been feeling a bit burnt out playing them (since I'm trying to complete a specific mission, I have to do the same daily routine over and over, which is getting a bit tedious).

Now, I'm really tempted to jump into another game in the series, but I'm afraid I'll get overwhelmed.

Genuinely asking, do you guys play multiple games from the franchise at the same time, or do you take them one by one like me? If you do play them simultaneously, is it easy to manage your time? And don't you get burnt out from playing similar games all at once?

Do you guys think it's a good idea to jump into a new one even though I haven't finished the first two? To be fair, I was scared I'd enjoy the new one too much and neglect the games I'm currently playing.

I'm a big fan of the Harvest Moon series (including Story of Seasons of course, and even Rune Factory), but I’ve never actually finished any of the games. So, I’m currently on a journey to play through every game in the franchise one by one. I started with two games at the same time, and I'll move on to the other series once I finish both.

But recently, I’ve been feeling a bit burnt out playing them (since I'm trying to complete a specific mission, I have to do the same daily routine over and over, which is getting a bit tedious).

Now, I'm really tempted to jump into another game in the series, but I'm afraid I'll get overwhelmed.

Genuinely asking, do you guys play multiple games from the franchise at the same time, or do you take them one by one like me? If you do play them simultaneously, is it easy to manage your time? And don't you get burnt out from playing similar games all at once?

Do you guys think it's a good idea to jump into a new one even though I haven't finished the first two? To be fair, I was scared I’d enjoy the new one too much and neglect the games I'm currently playing.