Ten years of pure hell. I got married at the fag end of Ketu MD. Ketu MD itself was pure humiliation, health issues, jobless and what not. I lived like a zombie. Immediately after that I got stuck in this abusive marriage. I am a man. The violence, rage and utter disregard is baffling to say the least.
Why am I married like this? Is there any reprieve?
I know this isn’t the place to ask this question. Y’all probably will roast me.
I drive a 2015 BMW 528xi. Bought it when it was 2 years old with less than 20k miles. Enjoyed the car all thru. The car as all BMW does had its share of issues. I had $4000 worth of repairs and warranty took care of it. Since 2020 I am easily spending ~$2k in repairs every year besides regular maintenance. Guibo, fuel injector, alternator, oil leak, suspension cracks and what not. Now it has at least $8k in maintenance pending. I haven’t done it yet. It has 114k miles and is worth < $5k
Life has changed and I cannot afford this anymore. I test drive a Tesla Model 3 recently. Did I like it? Yes and No. Yes it has power, drives itself and all. But it wasn’t as comfortable as my car. The model 3 driver seat is much smaller and I felt like sitting on a bench. I felt claustrophobic. My mind refuses to agree it’s but an iPad on wheels. There aren’t any buttons and y’all have to use the iPad for all controls.
It’s a RWD premium and I can lease it for $350/month. I pump $230 worth of gas in my BMW every month. I’d need $50 of charging every month. It has virtually no maintenance besides tires. So effectively I will have a car for $170 a month and some peace of mind with respect to what will break next fear.
However, after that test drive, when I got back into my car - I had a sense of relief. Sitting in my BMW there was this feeling of belonging and it’s my car, my type of car. Sitting on my seat felt good. The acceleration wasn’t far off. And I ain’t going to race.
However, I cannot afford another BMW. I just cannot. Should I bite the dust and get a Tesla? I am so conflicted.
My four year old who was with me - straight up said she didn’t like the Tesla. I just want to ride in daddy’s car. Model 3 is much smaller than a 5 Series
I drive a 2015 BMW 528xi. Had it for 11 years. Has 112k miles. For the last 6 years I have spent $2.5k on average on repairs and then $500 on regular maintenance. I checked and the last two months I have pumped $225 worth of gas each month.
The car requires all four suspensions, four new black ones that go on wheels, all four rotors and brakes, two guibos. Conservatively I am looking at $10k worth of repairs. And god knows what will break in the meantime. The car is worth $4k now.
I looked at Model 3 RWD leasing and it comes up to ~ $350 a month. $2k down. I live in Upstate NY. I am only considering this as a means to save money and some peace of mind.
Should I do AWD. We get a lot of snow but the roads are cleaned promptly. I don’t drive in back roads or dirt roads. Just highway and some city driving.
Is there anything I should know. The things the BMW offers are great interiors and a quiet, comfortable ride. I like the dash and something to look at while driving. I am not too fazed by the big iPad. That’s the only turn off at the moment.
I’d like some suggestions. It’s purely a cost saving attempt. I am tired of dumping money on a car that I truly hate at the moment. I may as well park my ego and lease a much cheaper EV or a Toyota Corolla. But I can’t bring myself to it
My daughter is 4. She has suffered from constipation for a good two years now. It’s kinda forced constipation. We give her fiber gummies, prune juice, fiber rich foods, plenty of water and what not. The issue isn’t really constipation but she will hold her poop and then it builds up. Then it hurts to pass and the cycle continues
She is fully potty trained and has no trouble with pee. I religiously make sure I put her on the potty everyday and make her go poo poo. It’s mostly uneventful although she struggles but will eventually pass.
If I am not home some evenings, her mom/my wife wont put her on the potty unless little one asks which is almost never and the next day its a struggle for both I and my daughter.
Tonight my daughter was sitting on the potty and was very hesitant to pass. She said it hurts and I don’t want to go poo poo anymore and kept asking me to look away. I generally sit by a stool next to her to cheer her up.
I was a little off today and told her ‘If you don’t push there will be spiders in your poop and they will start coming off your mouth’ knowing full and well she is scared of spiders.
She started crying hysterically, freaked out and pushed a Saint Bernard. Well, it was twice a Saint Bernard. I cleaned her up and then she kept crying ‘I don’t want spiders coming off my mouth’
I feel like an asshole. I took her to bed and she still is talking about spiders and scared crying. I assure her there are no spiders here and I will always protect her from spiders and will eat all spiders that come her way. She goes, don’t eat spiders daddy - that will hurt your stomach and cry again.
I have traumatized her. It wasn’t her regular crying. She is truly terrified. I feel like shit. If I make her sit on the potty everyday, there isn’t an issue. But I said something that scared her. No reassurance will make her buy it
I feel so horrible. I don’t even want - no it’s okay. Roast me. Cal me an idiot. I deserve it.
I live in the northeast. Builder finished my garage wall but did not paint as it is common here. I want to paint the garage walls. I am going to paint the ceiling white, and walls gray and one accent wall charcoal. I have painted before and have used painters tape, sanding and using both brush and roller. I am no expert and an entry level painter.
My question is - it’s a new drywall. 3 years old and has never been painted before. Should I paint a primer before I paint it?
The one thing that’s easier I guess will be I don’t mind the paint getting on the garage floor. I am going to epoxy the floor. With kids room or was carpet and I had to meticulously cover the floor and tape the baseboard and door and window trims. Garage doesn’t have any of that except two doors. At least that part should be easier. I have never painted a ceiling. Any advise. On how to do that?
I don’t know if this is the right forum.
My wife - she has always acted weird. She will pick an innocent comment/action out the blue and start ranting like she is under attack.
Example: 1 - her boss takes a new employee for coffee - she will come home and rant that her boss is talking about her to the new employee and he is going to give all her work to the new guy and she is going to get fired
Example: 2 - her boss talks friendly to a female employee - they both are having an affair. Later she will start watching them and start making stories. That female employee is wearing more revealing clothing and they sure have an affair and he is now favoring her over my wife.
Example: 3 - my mom wore a red dress while on FaceTime and she is doing this to get back at her coz my wife wore a red dress for Easter in 2017 and posted a picture
Example: 4 - my sister bought a new car 2 months after we had a child as a way to get back at her coz she doesn’t have a new child now and is showing off
These are all just few examples. She has something like this every single day about so many different people, different situations
Now the rant gets crazy and she will start passing murder threats. The anger builds up and she will start biting her own tongue, gesture hitting people, beat her own chest, let her hair loose screaming and banging on the floor, run sideways all the while screaming. If I don’t listen she will get even more agitated. She will act in a hurry and knock down anything in her way
She will then graphically explain how she will kill her colleague, my sister and all. Like she will hit them on their head with a rock or slit their throat or their roof will fall on them and they will die. All coz she is paranoid or suspicious of someone’s intention
The issue is it’s impossible for me to get her out of it when she has an episode. She does this all the while my daughter is around.
Recently we were in a party and one woman came and sat in the chair next to me. We were chatting for a few mins. Just normal weather, how is work small talk. My came back home and started ranting on how I was going to start an affair with her. Apparently this woman was accenting her breasts and walking away from me so I will look at her ass. Not even remotely was I checking this woman out.
I am thinking paranoid personality disorder coupled with narcissism. She won’t see a therapist or psychiatrist and constantly blames others for her outbursts. I am stuck
There are people in my family who think she is possessed. With all that is happening I am slowly doubting this possibility even though I don’t really believe in demonic possessions