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How do I cope with knowing my best friend might not see another day

I'm 20, l live alone, especially now, and my best friend, my cat Malakai, has been in the ICU for over a week now. He swallowed dental floss. It sawed through his intestines. He's been in the ICU for over a week. He made the first surgery, but now the vets say he needs a second procedure. His intestines aren't healing normally. He's almost stable, but there's a barrier to his treatment l can't get past. l've sold everything l can. Anyway

When l first talked about this online, l saw the absolute worst in people. Strangers called me neglignt, said he was "just a cat." One person took a photo of him from my profile and used AI to make an image of him eating dental floss out of a bowl, the very thing that put him in the hospital, and sent it to me. l felt completely off after that.

But l don't care about any of that. l just want him to make it. l don't know what else to do. l'm sitting here with nothing left to think of.

I keep coming home to an empty apartment. He's the only thing l came home to and l can't even think of anything else but this.

How do you keep going? How do l go with this on my mind.

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u/BearOfBelAir — 29 days ago
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Did you ever have that moment where you weren't sure your pet was going to make it?

l wasn't sure this fits here, but l need to hear from people who've been there, because right now I'm not sure how to keep myself together.

My cat Malakai has been in the ICU for weeks now. Sepsis, surgery, complications. l'm 20, live alone, and he's my whole world.

When I posted about him online, l saw the worst of people. Strangers messaged me saying I was negligent, crazy, that he was "just a cat." One person took a photo of him from my profile and used AI to make an image of him eating dental floss out of a bowl, then sent it to me. That's the thing that nearly ended it for him.

Then something totally unexpected happened. Strangers started along about him. l watched a list of names fill up. Someone gave a single amount I never would have expected. Someone gave what you could tell was all they had. A woman wrote "from one cat mom to another." I cried.

Then the platform that held the campaign called me. They said my account was for individuals and they don't do campaigns for individuals anymore. They continued on to say Malakai's situation wasn't important enough to proceed with donations for. They refunded everything to the people and deleted it. The vet had even already started some treatments based on the campaigns progress I had shown them.

I really just don't know how to deal with this at all.

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u/BearOfBelAir — 29 days ago

Strangers decided my cat mattered, even when a company said he didn't.

I wasn’t sure if this fits here, but l think the people who helped me deserve to be seen.

My cat Malakai has been in the ICU for over weeks now. Sepsis, surgery, complications. l’m 20, live alone, and he’s my whole world.

When l posted about him online, l saw the worst of people. Strangers messaged me saying I was negligent, crazy, that he was “just a cat.” One person took a photo of him from my profile and used AI to make a photo of him eating dental floss out of a bowl, then sent it to me. That's the things that nearly ended it for him.

After that something totally unexpected happened. Strangers started donating. l watched a list of names fill up. Someone gave a single proceed that l would have never expected. Someone gave what you could tell is all they could. A woman wrote “from one cat mom to another.” l cried.

Then the platform that held the fundraiser called me. They said my account was for individuals and they don't do campaigns for individuals anymore. They continued to even say that Malakai’s situation wasn’t important enough to proceed with donations for. They refunded every donation and deleted it. The vet had even already started some treatments based on the fundraiser progress l had shown them.

But here’s what l want this sub to see. The platform was wrong. Not because of the campaign but because of the people. Total strangers decided an ill cat, that just happens to be my best friend, mattered. They proved that kindness exists. That’s the part l’m holding onto. Whatever happens, l got to see the best of humanity show up for me and my friend.

u/BearOfBelAir — 1 month ago

My bestfriend is suffering and l can't even vent on Reddit.

l'm 20 and I live alone. l've been at the animal hospital most of the day with my cat Makai. He's been in the ICU for two weeks. He'd confirmed dental floss, sepsis, surgery. He's stable, but there's a barrier to his treatment I can't get past. l've sold everything. Asked everyone. The well is dry. They’ve told me if I can’t give them what they need as of their schedules procedures, they’ll stop the treatment. For his own goood they say.

Not because he’s too sick. Because of a policy I can’t get past. If treatment stops, he won’t get to come home. Since I started talking about him onlinr, strangers have been messaging me. Telling me l'm not responsible for leaving floss out. That l'm not responsible for not having insurance. That l'm crazy for being this emotional over "just a cat." Some person took a photo of him from my profile and used it to generate an AI image of him eating dental floss out of a bowl, then sent it to me. They thought tormenting me with a fake picture of the very thing that almost sent him was something to laugh about.

I've read every word. I've seen that image. I don't have the energy to argue anymore.

l came home tonight to an empty apartment and realized l hadn't eaten for just over a day because l don't know what to do other than think about this.

u/BearOfBelAir — 1 month ago

AITAH for being the reason my best friend might not make it through tomorrow?

l (21F) live alone. My cat Malakai swallowed dental floss two weeks ago. It perforated his jejunum, caused septic peritonitis, and he’s been in the ICU on IV antibiotics and nutritional support since surgery. He’s still critical, but his numbers are somewhat improving. He lifts his head when l came in. I can barely get the strength to even see him. He would even purr when l scratch him through the cage.

The issue isn’t his will to get over this. It’s that I’ve hit a wall I can’t get past. The hospital needs me to provide something l no longer have before they’ll continue his treatment. They’ve told me if l can’t do it, they’ll discontinue care. Not because he’s too sick. It's because l can’t give them what they need.

l’ve sold things. Drained my savings. Even maxed out other options. There is nothing left. I posted about him and strangers message me telling me it’s my fault for leaving floss out, that l’m not responsible, that l’m crazy for even carrying about a cat this much. Some person took a photo of him from my profile and used it to generate an AI image of him eating dental floss out of a bowl, then sent it to me. Someone else said I should “just give him up,” but that still means treatment stops, only he’ll be gone at the end.

l’ve read every word. I don’t have the energy to argue anymore. Maybe they’re right. Maybe l did something to make this happen. But l’m the only thing standing between him and a policy that will stop the care keeping him alive. If l can’t cross that line, he won’t ever get to out of the hospital again. He won’t ever get to see another day. I really feel like the AH for this.

AITAH for refusing to give up even though l might be the reason he ends?

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u/BearOfBelAir — 1 month ago
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Seriously l can't live with the fact that my cat isn't gonna see another day ever again soon and it's because of me

I talked online about my best friend, my cat Makakai, a couple of times over the last week. He swallowed dental floss, went septic, had emergency surgery, and has been in the ICU fighting for his life. The vets say he's stable now. He's could possibly come home. But l can't give them what they're demanding that they need for his treatment to proceed. They want me to sign him over if l can't do anything and that's the end of it for him if l do that.

Since l started to talk about him in posts, l've gotten people telling me this is my fault. That l was responsible for leaving dental floss where he could get it. That l'm not responsible for not having pet insurance. That l'm crazy for being this emotional over "just a cat." Some person even told me l should give him to the hospital as said he'd be better off gone than with an owner who can't tend to his emergency. l've read every single one. The worst part is, l don't even have the energy to argue anymore.

Im not sure, maybe they're right. Maybe l should have been more careful. Maybe this is all my fault.

Im twenty, l live alone, especially now, and l've let go of everything I can just to get him this far, and it still wasn't enough. I just really don't know how to live with that. I barely had him for a year and he's the only thing l come home to. Now lm the reason he's not gonna make it. I really don't know.

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u/BearOfBelAir — 1 month ago

My cat isn't gonna see another day ever again soon because of me and l can't live with it.

I talked online about my best friend, my cat Makakai, a couple of times over the last week. He swallowed dental floss, went septic, had emergency surgery, and has been in the ICU fighting for his life. The vets say he's stable now. He's could possibly come home. But l can't give them what they're demanding that they need for his treatment to proceed. They want me to sign him over if l can't do anything and that's the end of it for him if l do that.

Since l started to talk about him in posts, l've gotten people telling me this is my fault. That l was responsible for leaving dental floss where he could get it. That l'm not responsible for not having pet insurance. That l'm crazy for being this emotional over "just a cat." Some person even told me l should give him to the hospital as said he'd be better off gone than with an owner who can't tend to his emergency.

l've read every single one. The worst part is, l don't even have the energy to argue anymore. Im not sure, maybe they're right. Maybe l should have been more careful. Maybe this is all my fault. Im twenty, l live alone, especially now, and l've let go of everything I can just to get him this far, and it still wasn't enough. I just really don't know how to live with that. I barely had him for a year and he's the only thing l come home to. Now lm the reason he's not gonna make it. I really don't know.

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u/BearOfBelAir — 1 month ago
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The vet gave my cat until Tuesday morning to make it.

This is Malakai. He turned a yearold last month. Friday night he consumed dental floss. By the time l noticed how he was, it had already done things to his insides. The vet used words I had to Google in the parkinglot. They were kind but honest. A procedure has to happen by Tuesday morning.

l've moved everything l could move. Sold what l could. l've been sitting in the parking lot for hours because I can't make myself leave him. He's probably confused in there.

If everything isn't lined up as of the day after, there isn't another option. Tuesday morning is it. l have never felt so much of nothing before.

If you've got a cat at home, give them an extra attention today. l really would like to say l could do that now.

u/BearOfBelAir — 2 months ago