u/Brave_Consequence443

Just an opinion, open to discussion. Im newly divorced (33f), my ex husband cheated and left me. I feel like when I hear peoples opinions that there should be no remarriage under any circumstances they are feeding into the new age feminist movement that a woman can perfectly support herself independently, which they can into today's age.

But a woman being able to fully support herself is a very new thing that just started maybe 70 years ago, prior to that and throughout history a woman depended on a man to survive. There's a reason why Paul tells young widows to remarry, it's so a man can take care of them and the church not be burdened with them.

It also says in Deuteronomy 24:1-2 that if a man finds his wife displeasing he can write her a certificate of divorce and she can marry another. This prevents her from being homeless and taken care of, she is also being rejected by her first husband.

The Bible shows a lot of grace to the rejected spouse, it allows for divorce for 1. Adultery 2. Abandonment. And even allows for remarriage for rejection by the spouse who was initiated against in Deuteronomy 24:2.

Women would have been homeless if remarriage was not allowed over a hundred years ago and may have had a hard time surviving. It's sad when people are so callous to the rejected spouse. God doesn't want us to reject our spouses but shows great mercy to the rejected spouse

My kids are 5, 3 and 1. Not in school yet (oldest two are in a very part time preschool). Daycare for 3 kids was quoted at 5300 at one daycare per month and another daycare I called it was quoted at 5100 per month.

I do get some judgement for being a SAHM but I don't think people understand the cost of childcare, not only the costs but the competitive wait-list? Months long, and how difficult that is for three kids. A lot of people view me being a SAHM is not doing work but when I was working (sitting at a computer all day) I literally put in less steps per day (I understand everyones jobs are very different). Just frustrating with people that don't understand the childcare issues, I also think childcare workers deserve a decent living and it shouldn't be cheapened either

I'm a PMHNP, I'm just curious what other mental health professionals think of the label of "over sharing", I notice as a mental health professional avoidance is discussed all the time, but over sharing is not discussed. Verses in society over sharing is discussed but avoidance is not discussed.

For instance, I was reading that there is a rise of a concept with cancer patients called "cancer ghosting". Instead of friends helping their friend go through a very heavy and difficult time, there's avoidance involved where they just ghost them.

Another example, one of my pregnancies I received a devastating birth defect for one of my children and shared it with my bible study I was attending. They avoided it like the plague and barely brought it up, it was so difficult and isolating dealing with this alone without peer support.

So I wanted thoughts on societal over sharing vs avoidance of emotional topics