u/Clear_Channel_2090

Maybe I'm just trying to offset my guilt by assuming there are many others like me, but dang. I've been pretty consistent recently, though I fear I may have near tripled my calories yesterday. Didn't count, but beer/burgers/cheesecake aren't the most ideal recipe for moderated calories.

Back on the wagon today, at least! I know it's never the move to change the plan and punish yourself for a binge, so not doing that, but just getting back in to the usual routine. Doesn't feel amazing, but it's worth it to let loose and eat what you want occasionally. Gotta live a little.

I'll see the scale in a few days, and not looking till then!

I know you can manually adjust some things on your watch (such as treadmill distance during a workout) which will then lead the watch to make more informed estimates on future workouts. Can I do that with calorie burn? Mine is consistently about 500 cals short of reality, despite wearing it all day and waiting till the day is over to look back on it.

My guess is the watch relies fairly heavily on heartrate to estimate calorie burn, and my heart rate tends to be pretty slow. Regardless, I'm eating at a deficit (2200 calories) for a cut and successfully losing weight, despite the watch saying my total burn is 2200. Not a huge deal, but could be nice to edit that

I used to consider myself somewhat picky, but after losing weight...that is gone. Be hungry enough for long enough, you learn to love anything

Tuna and beans? Yes please.

A protein bar that you don't want cause these protein bars taste terrible? I do not care, gimme that.

Plain greek yogurt? Sounds like food to me. I'll take it.

Maybe none of these sound bad to you guys, but you get the gist. Anything that I used to find gross is no longer gross. Barring olives, I went from relatively picky to being happy eating literally anything so long as it's not gone bad (and the macros aren't terrible).

Dieted for the past 2 years, got myself from 225 down to 165. Didn't realize extended cuts were a bad idea till just recently, unfortunately

Anyway, I could accept the hunger while I was losing weight. It was expected, I actually saw it as a bit of a sign that I was succeeding in my goals, all was good. I then got to where I want to be, switched to maintenance...and I'm starving. Significantly more hungry than I used to be. I eat exclusively low-cal high volume foods, I lift, stay active, space out my food, I truly don't think there's anything I'm missing. Was at 1800 cals a day, slowly built back up to 2500, and it's like my body feels teased and now just wants infinite calories.

Is this typical? Does it die down?

It's only been a month, but whew. I was looking forward to not being hungry all the time only for the hunger to show me it can go even further

Also, I apologize if this is the wrong sub! I realize this is now tangential to weight loss, but still seems fairly within the weight loss scope so I'm hoping it fits. Not sure where else to ask about this

If yes, is there a specific frequency to it, or more based on when you feel it's necessary?

For the first time since getting serious, I've been clocked pretty hard by...I dunno, some respiratory illness. Haven't left my house in a week, and honestly it's a terrible feeling. Not just for being sick, but also for feeling like this is such a hefty chunk of "wasted" time. I know it's better to rest when sick than not, but barring that, I'm questioning if there could be benefits to it.

What do you guys think/do? If you've been going steady for months, is there any benefit to taking time off, or is that more of a cope in your experience? Just curious for some anecdotes - I know it's controversial, and researching this seems to yield very different results depending on which article you read.

(Just to reiterate, I don't just mean when you're sick. I primarily mean intentionally taking a week off for vacations, just for recovery, or any reason)

I'm curious how common this is with everyone here.

Close to graduating with my Bachelors of science in occupational health and safety. Good field, solid market, can't complain...but I've learned almost nothing? People ask me what I'm learning about in school, and I really can't give a straight answer. I also don't feel like that's due to me "learning too much" and not knowing where to start - no, it's more that I don't know where to start since there's seriously almost nothing.

I guess we'll see how on the job training is, but I feel so nervous that I'll get a job and look like a fake because I know almost literally nothing about what I got my degree in. I got a 3.9, didn't cheat, but still. Damn. Just praying this is common and that employers know it, but if it really is common then why do so many jobs require degrees?? I could teach the entirety of what I've learned in a month tops, probably more like a slightly busy week.

I dunno. Maybe there's more than feels obvious, but there's definitely less than I expected.

Finally got to my target weight and feeling great. The only issue is...I've been at maintenance for a couple weeks now, and I'm as food obsessed as I was during the cut. I'm still always hungry.

I could put up with it during the cut as I was actively progressing towards my goal, but now I'm just there. Never thought about the food i eat oranything, realized I was 230 pounds, decided to be more health conscious and got myself down to 170. I also eat very high volume low cal foods - beans, veggies, fruits, lean meats, whatever. I never eat really anything that's not low cal, since I'm always hungry and want to eat as much as possible

Does it get better? It's kinda discouraging, can't lie. Maintenance feels maybe slightly easier than the deficit so far, but not easy. Was hungry for 2 years and didn't mind cause I knew it was temporary, but I'm not sure I can handle being hungry forever. Is this just how it goes?

25, male, 5'11, fairly active, for what it's worth

Not even the other iterations, like just saying "love you", or even "love ya". I've managed to work up to those iterations with my wife, but even with her the full "I love you" is like internal nails on a chalkboard. My parents and siblings weren't particularly cold, but we were also never that form of close. We'd talk about anything, but there was never any touching or real signs of affection.

I realize they're just words, but I really do feel it's deeper than that. Seems like an unwillingness to be vulnerable, but maybe that's just me looking into it too much. Been married for years, so relationships are still possible, just feels like one of the deeper layers of them are mentally blocked off. What do you guys think? I don't suppose this is particularly rare, but I also don't think it's the norm.

Anyway, want to get over this hurdle, though in truth I'm not even sure where to start. Perhaps this is more in the territory of seeing a counselor, though I'm always curious for input on things.

Planes certainly don't help, but it's the full deal that really does it

I'm flying to a wedding in like 3 weeks. Every time, the lead up is a nightmare. Surrounded by people I don't know on a plane of questionable cleanliness, likely sleep deprived, eating foods prepped by random people, everyone in this scenario are all using public bathrooms, frequently sleeping in hotels that are also of questionable cleanliness, then getting through that gambit and counting down the days just to return to a flight while still sleep deprived.

Feel like all these factors group together in some evil equation to equate to a 100% chance of food poisoning or norovirus. That's what my brain screams at me, at least

Now...I know this is irrational. I'm not asking for reassurance, just hoping I'm not alone in this whole "travel amplifies my anxiety by a million" issue. It's deeply irritating that the little life breaks we get which are meant to be fun get turned into nightmares

Gone from 225 to 165 over the past couple years with many small cuts. Male, 25, 5'11. I'm probably around 15% body fat at this point, I lift consistently, and have been feeling great physically so I want to keep it going. My energy/flexibility/mood/almost everything are up, it's just my hunger is also up

Since the cuts are short (usually a few weeks) with a few weeks of maintenance in-between them, I've managed to not cheat. Always eating either 2k cals (deficit) or 2500 (maintenance). I believe today I hit 3k, if not a bit more, for the first time since this whole thing started. I was so hungry it was genuinely kinda unbelievable - unsure I've ever been that hungry before, other than consistently over the past few days

Wondering if people here have any input on this! Does it just get hard when you're shooting for the last few pounds? Maybe it was a fluke? I really do want to cut a few more pounds, but I don't think I'll ever be able to push through the crazy hunger I've been feeling the past few days. Maybe it's a willpower issue, a health one, or both. Just feeling surprisingly discouraged from failing a day

Like you feel you need to make it to a certain point/time, and if you do that, then you're safe. The issue then is that, the closer you get to that time, the more sure you are that you're about to get sick.

For example, norovirus season. November-April dread, and feeling in April that "the season is almost over and I haven't gotten it yet, so I'm destined to get it soon".

In my case, it's that I work in an elementary school, and I haven't gotten noro yet this year. Has me feeling like, despite it being May, I'm destined to get it in the next week or two just due to it being near the end of the risk window. I know this is all illogical and not helpful, but curious if it happens to everyone. It's like I'm not the most anxious when I'm at peak risk...I'm most anxious when risk is going down yet I haven't been hit yet

So tired of it. Told myself I'd relax if I could make it to March...then that shifted to April, and now it's May and it's like my anxiety hasn't been higher. Ah, the joys of emetophobia

Bachelor's in psychology and occupational safety and health. Long story there, though both degrees were earned online and carry no solid references or connections.

My work history is...odd. Worked in psych for a couple years, hated it, then went back to school for a second bachelors in occupational safety and health. Another long story largely centered around a preferable job market, but this means all I have now is a couple potential references from odd jobs that I worked 3 years ago.

Add onto this, my wife is doing travel therapy and will be for the next couple years. We've talked it through and agreed to this as the money is significantly better (she makes more travelling than we'd make not travelling while both working) and, honestly, we like the adventure aspect of it.

Biggest issue is this makes it difficult to get anything on the resume other than more odd jobs at grocery stores or something. Her placements are typically only three months long. I want to beef the resume and make myself a decent candidate somehow, but don't know how and don't love the idea of still practically having an empty resume at 27.

So, any recommendations for what I should do? I keep imagining myself in 2 years with these 2 weird degrees along years of unrelated jobs that were all worked for less than 6 months, and can't see myself getting hired at anything. I know the "obvious" choice is to say we can't do travel therapy, but for the sake of keeping things complicated, let's say that route isn't realistically on the table.

Any advice? Thanks so much

I'm a 25 year old man, and over the past couple months I've been suddenly remembering that I was sexually assaulted when I was around 7.

I have little snippets of memory. They're confusing, and mostly like...concepts, moreso than images or anything concrete. Neighbor, basement, lips, crazy levels of shame, she was older than me, that's about the extent. It had also happened to my brother and I remember my parents exploding with rage over it. Obviously in hindsight they were mad with the neighbor and not my brother, but I never realized that and kept it to myself.

Anyway, I forgot about that for almost 2 decades. Only remembering now as my sexual desires (or entire lack thereof) have always confused me, so I've been looking back on my life and questioning why that might be. It explains a lot, actually, but that's a whole other thing. Working to get into a therapist, but for now I'm curious if there are any methods to help people remember suppressed memories, or if it's worth trying to remember at all

Thanks so much, all input is appreciated

You know how you can fight with your sibling cause you've "earned" it, but as soon as someone else does, it feels unjustified? I think it's kinda like that. I need to catch myself, cause when I think about it...I really don't know why I jump to being defensive. It doesn't apply here with the "excatholic" label and all, but tends to in other places

I'm not trying to say it's good or other people should be this way. Wondering if it's a me problem and I haven't done a good job distancing myself, or maybe it's just an innate human thing to do.

It was quite terrifying, I strongly considered quitting multiple times, but I didn't! Feel much better for having stuck through it. Just wanted to share my win somewhere, it feels like I stared down a demon for 8 months and managed to never fully break

Next up is to come to terms with the concept of actually having kids...one step at a time, though. Take the wins we can get!