u/CollegePretend8708

I could not figure out a way to make that title less weird so bear with me.

I was thinking the other day about how interesting this hobby is in that you can get so much contact and intensity, and only after remember to ask for each other's names. That could really scare off a lot of newbies. First lesson, you're learning everything with an open position. And then you go into a social dance and especially as a follow leads are using whips and starter steps and you expected the only contact to be hands and suddenly it's not. I was freaked out my first social, but now of course I realize it's completely normal and wasn't a lead being weirdly touchy.

Just some thoughts I've been having recently, and was interested to hear opinions from the broader community.

I'm currently receiving a lot of support from my parents, and I want to take advantage of that time to save as much as I can. I'm not paying any insurances or cellphone bill, and they're subsidizing my rent (standard rent for a 1 bedroom in my area is like 1.4k). I'm very thankful for this help and want to use it to the best of my advantage, but I also want to get set up for when I turn 26 and have to deal with my own insurance.

Ideally, I'd have a better job by then, but I have health issues that make it really hard for me to find typical office work paying more.

Monthly take home (minimum) 2400. Sometimes I pick up extra hours or holiday pay will increase it.

Current emergency savings: 15k

Item	Budget
Rent	600
Car	300
Gas	150
Internet	100
Utilities	100
Grocery	300

The rest I can split between fun and savings. I'm already maxing employer contributions to my 401k (slightly over), but I know I'm nowhere near the yearly limit.

My savings goals: contribute to retirement, short term (about yearly) to support my writing, mid-term (I'd like a house one day), fun savings (for more significant non monthly things like concerts)

I'd also like a decent amount to live my life with and have "fun money." My fun money budget pre-raise was $100 which was a little tight but doable without feeling like I can't do anything.

I'm thinking I should probably get a Roth IRA, since I anticipate one day being in higher tax brackets later in life.

I know typical advice is meet employer match, then max IRA, then the rest, but that doesn't help me with all the shorter term goals and I want a little room to live my life.

Does anyone else get rib pain while sneezing? If I had to describe it I would say it feels like my lowest ribs slip under a muscle and get caught and spasms and it hurts. One of my ribs is also a bit of a funny shape, so I'm wondering if it's that or hypermobility

What do you typically wear? Where I dance it gets really hot, so athletic clothes feel like a good idea, but nobody else wears them. It's rare to even see women in shorts.

I worry about anything 2 piece because all of the arms above head exposes lower back, which I'm sorta self conscious about

Only the older generation seems to wear dresses

I've settled on jumpsuits, which I love, but the thought process got me curious about what other people wear

I have a hard time actually driving into town to get rid of just one thing. Today I had an unexpected free morning, and decided it was time to stop procrastinating.

today I finally decluttered:

• donated one standing desk that I have been trying to get rid of for a year, but it's been too heavy to bring when convenient and needed a special trip.
• The soccer stuff I posted about a little bit ago
• 4 years expired medications. Why is it so hard to find somewhere to dispose of these?
• As well as miscellaneous non decluttering errands while I was out

I have some old soccer gear that's still in good condition. I'm looking to donate it to maybe a highschool or club team to help out someone who may not be able to afford gear. Does anyone know who would be a good person to get in contact with for this? I know the schools are out for the summer so maybe a highschool aged club team:?

In my transition to Pathfinder, I've come to this group for advice a few times. Well, I just had my first combat with an actually well built character (warpriest), and it was great, and so I just wanted to pop in and say thanks for all your help! It is so much nicer having something functional in combat.

This loft effectively functions as my living room. I'm always a little unsatisfied with it. I'd love to make it feel cozier.

Buying new furniture isn't an option (for now), this is more about what can go where. Pictures taken from each corner of the loft. I'd love to find a way to make my desk feel a bit more cozy and comfy to work in.

Some restrictions: there's a big hole behind the mirror I can't patch. The only vent in the space is next to the TV, which prevents centering the TV. It's a loft. The lamp has to stay in the corner to provide illumination to the up and downstairs due to some weird wiring situations. Similarly, low on outlets but there is at least one per wall and one on the ground by the railing.

I've used Squarespace for years because of their ecommerce ability, but they are raising their price beyond what I'm willing to tolerate. What website hosts/builders do you use? How do you integrate ecommerce?

So I have always hated mayonnaise, mustard, vinegar, hummus, and greek yogurt. Like, gag if it even gets close to my mouth level of hate. Is there something these foods all have in common? I've also never been able to tolerate beer, wine, or coffee if that helps. I'm trying to figure out if there's a particular flavor element I can't do.

There is no AC where I work. I am boiling, but all of the gluten free foods I've become familiar with are gross not heated up. Looking for advice on some good gluten free lunch ideas!

Challenges:

There is no good gluten free bread option near me. Like, they exist, but if I even try to make a sandwhich they crumble

I'm in the US so a little afraid of eating uncooked produce at the moment

Budget. I gotta stay cheap

I don't like things like pasta salad or potato salad. No vingers, mayonnaises, aoilis. Basically, I have a child's taste buds despite being an adult

Must be able to meal prep. I work 12 hour days, so there's no way I'm cooking every day or even for the nest day.

My current meal setup: My typical go to is some chicken and rice. Pasta with a creamy sauce and sausage. Tacos. Steak. Mashed potatoes. salmon but I don't want to bring the person who brings fish to work and stinks up the place.

Edit: someone suggested I add the things I do like since I'm a picky eater.

So I have a character who's become queen of a country. She's an orphan. They accept her brother as a satisfactory heir while marriage situations are happening, but her brother is killed in the plot of the book. What would a monarchy do in this situation? How do they determine an heir when there's no family tree to trace back, and the monarch shows no sign of a child soon? I know hisotrically the search for an heir has caused a lot of problems (cough cough Henry) but I feel like it would be different with a female monarch and risk of death in childbirth?

Edit: Realizing I didn't make this clear. She is not queen by birthright. She was an orphan nobody and has conquered a country and taken the throne. There is no lineage to trace back and find a fourth cousin

I see rheumatologists discussed on here a ton. Mostly complaining about them being bad, but it also seems like it's a step everyone takes.

I've never seen a rheumatologist. My PCP when I was in school ran a bunch of blood tests, including RA and lupus and lyme (I think, it's been a minute) and found nothing. She made no further efforts to pursue a cause of pain, and I suffered all through college until my next PCP heard about my pain and offered me an hEDS diagnosis on the spot.

Now, I'm super grateful she took my pain seriously. She's set up referrals and gotten me with a hypermobility specialized PT, sent referrals for genetic testing, and has overall been supportive.

I don't think I have hEDS. At the very least I don't meet the diagnostic criteria because of the whole ruling out everything else line. I had her make it HSD. But after being on this sub long enough I'm starting to wonder if I need to see a rheumatologist? Or are they all just useless and if I have PCP support just stick with that?

I'm still pretty early in my planning process, and debating what to DIY. I'm wondering what are things people regret DIYing? Do you regret choosing to DIY it, or just how you accomplished it? Tell your cautionary tales.

Tried a nerdy one here.

I've finally started to get comfortable enough with my footwork and the basics of dancing to start caring about style and how I look. Up until now, I've always just kinda held my hand bent at my side, like a t-rex but lower, so it's right there if a lead wants to take it. Now, I am realizing that that probably doesn't look good and might be making my movements a bit stiffer. What are some ideas for just starting to incorporate arms/style? I have no dance experience before this, so I'm also working on musicality and just getting comfortable beyond the mechanics.

Part of how I'm decluttering without feeling tremendous guilt about waste is trying to use up all my makeup products instead of just tossing them. I had my first big win today. I used my pressed powder low enough that it shattered, then used the shattered bit for a while, and now it is finally ready to toss. This is the first time I've ever used make-up up in my entire life. I've tossed makeup before that was like expired or I didn't like, but never because I used it all.