u/Condition-Brave

Olá! Quero muito encher uma biblioteca de livros para o meu pequeno (9m) mas são muito caros. Preciso de dicas para poupar.
Sei que existem eventos como a feira do livro mas sou do norte e aqui parece que as feiras do livro são muito fraquitas.
Como é que vocês poupam? como é que encontram as melhores ofertas? e outras dicas que possam ter! Muito obrigada

Olá! Quero muito encher uma biblioteca de livros para o meu pequeno (9m) mas são muito caros. Preciso de dicas para poupar.
Sei que existem eventos como a feira do livro mas sou do norte e aqui parece que as feiras do livro são muito fraquitas.
Como é que vocês poupam? como é que encontram as melhores ofertas? e outras dicas que possam ter! Muito obrigada

I make the terrible decision of having a baby with a liar and a cheater, and I still stayed, up until he became abusive and the cheating continued. He’s a present and active dad, so he’ll stick around which I’m happy about because of my kiddo, as I believe he can be a good father figure.

I’m just lost overall. I’m 26 and this feels like the end of the world. I’m scared to end alone, not having more babies or just being sad. Apparently he’s not having any trouble finding women that want to be with him and I’m scared that the opposite will be my ending.

I have so much rage over what he did that I want to scream to the world what a pos he is but I still want to try to have a good coparenting relationship with him.

I’ll have full custody for now and am absolutely exhausted. Work, baby, house, all by myself and where do I have the time to find joy? Find myself? I’m pretty positive I have ppd and can’t stop the negativity and self harm thoughts.

I never imagined this. He was a great guy and I also found out that he cheated in previous relationships and basically lies and has no consideration for women in general. How could I be so stupid? So blind!?

Title basically sums it up. I got flaired for postpartum depression and it's not really surprising. It's been so hard to navigate. Naively, I decided to be a SAHM full time and am now paying it as I am actively looking for projects as a freelancer.

Uff... can't really express the amount of disgust, disappointment, and sadness I feel. He's a great dad and provider, but just couldn't keep it for himself, uh?

What's messing with me the most is the idea of coparenting - my baby is everything to me right now, I don't want to keep him from being a dad, but the idea that I won't be there and he will eventually introduce (one of his) girlfriends is frying me. He was using my baby to get more points, it makes me sick!!

I’m a recent mom and I want to enjoy time alone outside of the house while the dad stays with the baby. I have hobbies inside and while I might want to do them, if I am in the house with baby, I know I will eventually take over and that defeats the purpose of “me” time. Suggestions? My current hobbies are painting, knitting and I have a garden too.

Eu responderia: não.
Mas quero acrescentar contexto porque neste caso a minha resposta é sim.

Eu e o meu companheiro compramos bilhetes para um festival. Entretanto tivemos um filho e ele não vai poder vir connosco, nem podemos deixa-lo com ninguém. Na minha opinião, o importante é estarmos em família e assumi que iríamos aproveitar o dia para fazer outro plano juntos. Já ele assumiu que ele poderia ir, com outra pessoa, e eu iria ficar com o bebé (é mais dependente de mim do que dele)

Estou eu errada? Indignei-me e disse lhe que iria eu e ficaria ele com o bebé e ele disse ok mas, apesar de querer muito ir ao festival (tal como ele), eu não quero ir sozinha, queria ir em família.

Deu grande discussão porque na visão dele eu sou egoista porque o estou a privar de um momento que ele quer viver, e se fosse ao contrário ele diria pra eu ir. Na minha visão ele é que é o egoista porque eu vou ficar em casa um dia inteiro sozinha com um bebé exigente e também gostaria de ir, quando podíamos os 3 passar o dia com outro plano.
Thoughts?

I spend my day with LO just fine. I am a SAHM and it’s going great, despite the tiredness and whatnot. Until 3-4pm I’m great! We’re having fun, I’m occupied taking care of the house, gardening, whatever… and then 5pm comes and I suddenly feel every minute pass so slowly. Baby is also annoyed, doesn’t feel entertained by anything and I’m juggling him and not knowing what to do anymore.

Any tips? I’ve been feeling this for some months now and when the afternoon comes I am already anxious about it.

I was vegan from my teens to my early 20s and I am scared of making a fool of myself asking for meat or fish at the shops. I usually just grab what’s already sorted but I know it’s not the best option. I just don’t know what I should ask!

So tired of venting to DH and he’s all protective of MIL or FIL.

Before and during my pregnancy they were super loving and really respectful I would say. They really helped me out during a hard time in my life. But ever since LO was born they were just so dramatic. L

Didn’t respect my wish of postponing visits and called DH crying that she isn’t sleeping at all and having panic attacks because she couldn’t see him (he had been born for 2 weeks only). She also said that MY family had already visited and they hadn’t (which wasn’t true and if it was it’s not her business). My anxiety spiked so much that I let them visit the week after but I’ve become resentful ever since.

Then comes the kissing. We (mostly me) had a no kiss policy on the hands and face. This was also very dramatic for my in laws as they said LO wouldn’t feel the love they have for them and couldn’t develop a close relationship (lol!). I even had a small confrontation with MIL about this because I was so tired of small attacks every single time we went there for lunch, once a week. And you guessed it, she cried a lot and hugged DH like a child. I just rolled my eyes and left. DH always defended me in front of them but I know that he left small remarks that if it was up to him they would be able to kiss the baby. When we were alone DH would be very upset with me and we would argue because we couldn’t understand the no kissing, despite me being clear of my concerns and why.

LO is now 7 months and we keep the weekly visits. For them it’s not enough, as they say the baby doesn’t remember them and will not love them if he sees them this often, but I would have a nervous breakdown if I went there more often. During our visits I keep my composure and we can have fun and talk normally but there’s always this slight energy that’s off and I feel attacked.

Last week I mentioned my wish to BF until he’s at least 2 years (after being directly asked if I still BF). Today FIL told LO to stop BF that he’s addicted and it’s time to stop, I ignored him. Afterwards, I was nursing him on the couch with DH next to me and MIL approached us, directed at DH saying “this is like candy, isn’t it?” (Like, he doesn’t need it). I answered and said that his milk is still the main source of feed. DH backed me up and she was like “ahhh…” and looked at me with disgust and said that he should stop BF. Wtf!!! She also wanted to give him a lot of water because she said he’s thirsty, after seeing some random news about a baby dying from thirst of whatever. They’re so dumb .

I didn’t vent with DH as we are honestly by a thread and the thread even feels invisible by now. I’m probably going to become a single mom and it’s ridiculous but I feel super anxious about that because of them too, I know I won’t be respected.