Hello all!
I am 5’2 130 lb and an A-B cup. Im having trouble finding a surgeon that isnt 4+ hours from me to do motiva implants. Are they worth it? The surgeon i rlly want to use does offer motiva, but no sizers. So idk how i would pick a size. Shes also used to natrelle & seems she would rather go that route. Idk what to do. TIA!
Hello everyone! I am 5’2 130lb and an A-B cup. I am really interested in the motiva implants, specifically the 285cc ergonomixs, however not many surgeons do it in Michigan, and the ones that do are multiple hours from me. Im also running into the problem of offices not carrying motiva sizers. Idk how im supposed to know what i want without seeing in person, however I dont rlly wanna drive 3 hours one way to do that. I know theres crisalix to get an idea but idk it still worries me. Is there any chance ppl could upload their motiva after pictures in bra/ swim suit? Im really trying to get an idea if it’s worth it traveling and trying to find someone just for the motiva or just do the natrelle. I can easily get natrelle and it seems they are more affordable too. Is the motiva hype worth it?! TIA!!
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F25 M27. Abt 3 months ago I found my boyfriend of 6 years adding women on fb and instagram. I confronted him and at the end of it all said if it happens again, were done. 3 months later I see hes been adding girls again. I confront him and it is now he admits to an adderall addiction. He said thats why hes been addicted to porn, mean, defensive, secluded, etc for the past year. (Other issues weve argued abt) now he wants help and to get better / rehab, but without breaking up or moving out. Idk how we can do this while still living together. We are no longer together but he wont/does not want to leave. It feels very uneasy around him and anytime weve tried to work on our relationship in the past he lasts maybe a month and we’re right back. Im also not sure i wanna keep forgiving him in hopes hell actually change when the pattern is that he continues doing whatever he wants it seems. Hes also saying im leaving him at his lowest point. He claims he needs support during the detox and just becoming better. Also, the house I bought was his family members. He claims my intentions were always to buy the house and then leave him. Obviously things were much better when I bought it compared to now. I do understand adderall can play a role in this, but why did it take a year and me finally breaking up w him to acknowledge the addiction and want help? Now all of a sudden hes eager to change and it was secretly his adderall addiction the whole time? What do i do??
TIA!
Hello
F25 M27. Feeling very lost and confused. Abt 3 months ago I found my boyfriend of 6 years adding women on fb and instagram. I confronted him and at the end of it all said if it happens again, were done. 3 months later I see hes been adding girls again. I confront him and it is now he admits to the adderall addiction. He said thats why hes been addicted to porn, mean, defensive, secluded, etc for the past year. now he wants help and to get better / rehab, but without breaking up or moving out. Idk how we can do this while still living together. We are no longer together but he wont/does not want to leave. It feels very uneasy around him and anytime weve tried to work on our relationship in the past he lasts maybe a month and we’re right back. Im also not sure i wanna keep forgiving him in hopes hell actually change when the pattern is that he continues doing whatever he wants it seems. Hes also saying im leaving him at his lowest point. He claims he needs support during the detox and just becoming better. I do understand adderall can play a role in this, but why did it take a year and me finally breaking up w him to acknowledge the addiction and want help? Now all of a sudden hes eager to change and it was secretly his adderall addiction the whole time? What do i do??
TIA!
Hello
F25 M27. Feeling very lost and confused. Abt 3 months ago I found my boyfriend of 6 years adding women on fb and instagram. I confronted him and at the end of it all said if it happens again, were done. 3 months later I see hes been adding girls again. I confront him and it is now he admits to the adderall addiction. He said thats why hes been addicted to porn, mean, defensive, secluded, etc for the past year. now he wants help and to get better / rehab, but without breaking up or moving out. Idk how we can do this while still living together. It feels very uneasy around him and anytime weve tried to work on our relationship in the past he lasts maybe a month and we’re right back. Im also not sure i wanna keep forgiving him in hopes hell actually change when the pattern is that he continues doing whatever he wants it seems. Hes also saying im leaving him at his lowest point. He claims he needs support during the detox and just becoming better. I do understand adderall can play a role in this, but why did it take a year and me finally breaking up w him to acknowledge the addiction and want help? Now all of a sudden hes eager to change and it was secretly his adderall addiction the whole time? What do i do??
TIA!
Hello!
F25 M27. Feeling very lost and confused. Abt 3 months ago I found my boyfriend of 6 years adding women on fb and instagram. I confronted him and at the end of it all said if it happens again, were done. 3 months later I see hes been adding girls again. I confront him and it is now he admits to the adderall addiction. He said thats why hes been addicted to porn, mean, defensive, secluded, etc for the past year. now he wants help and to get better / rehab, but without breaking up or moving out. Idk how we can do this while still living together. It feels very uneasy around him and anytime weve tried to work on our relationship in the past he lasts maybe a month and we’re right back. Im also not sure i wanna keep forgiving him in hopes hell actually change when the pattern is that he continues doing whatever he wants it seems. Hes also saying im leaving him at his lowest point. He claims he needs support during the detox and just becoming better. I do understand adderall can play a role in this, but why did it take a year and me finally breaking up w him to acknowledge the addiction and want help? Now all of a sudden hes eager to change and it was secretly his adderall addiction the whole time? What do i do??
TIA!
Hello!
F25 M27. Feeling very lost and confused. Abt 3 months ago I found my boyfriend of 6 years adding women on fb and instagram. I confronted him and at the end of it all said if it happens again, were done. 3 months later I see hes been adding girls again. I confront him and it is now he admits to the adderall addiction. He said thats why hes been addicted to porn, mean, defensive, secluded, etc for the past year. now he wants help and to get better / rehab, but without breaking up or moving out. Idk how we can do this while still living together. It feels very uneasy around him and anytime weve tried to work on our relationship in the past he lasts maybe a month and we’re right back. Im also not sure i wanna keep forgiving him in hopes hell actually change when the pattern is that he continues doing whatever he wants it seems. Hes also saying im leaving him at his lowest point. He claims he needs support during the detox and just becoming better. I do understand adderall can play a role in this, but why did it take a year and me finally breaking up w him to acknowledge the addiction and want help? Now all of a sudden hes eager to change and it was secretly his adderall addiction the whole time? What do i do??
TIA!
Hello!
F25 M27. Feeling very lost and confused. Abt 3 months ago I found my boyfriend of 6 years adding women on fb and instagram. I confronted him and at the end of it all said if it happens again, were done. 3 months later I see hes been adding girls again. I confront him and it is now he admits to the adderall addiction. He said thats why hes been addicted to porn, mean, defensive, secluded, etc for the past year. now he wants help and to get better / rehab, but without breaking up or moving out. Idk how we can do this while still living together. It feels very uneasy around him and anytime weve tried to work on our relationship in the past he lasts maybe a month and we’re right back. Im also not sure i wanna keep forgiving him in hopes hell actually change when the pattern is that he continues doing whatever he wants it seems. Hes also saying im leaving him at his lowest point. He claims he needs support during the detox and just becoming better. I do understand adderall can play a role in this, but why did it take a year and me finally breaking up w him to acknowledge the addiction and want help? Now all of a sudden hes eager to change and it was secretly his adderall addiction the whole time? What do i do??
TIA!
Hello!
Feeling very lost and confused. Abt 3 months ago I found my boyfriend of 6 years adding women on fb and instagram. I confronted him and at the end of it all said if it happens again, were done. 3 months later I see hes been adding girls again. I confront him and it is now he admits to the adderall addiction. He said thats why hes been addicted to porn, mean, defensive, secluded, etc for the past year. now he wants help and to get better / rehab, but without breaking up or moving out. Idk how we can do this while still living together. It feels very uneasy around him and anytime weve tried to work on our relationship in the past he lasts maybe a month and we’re right back. Im also not sure i wanna keep forgiving him in hopes hell actually change when the pattern is that he continues doing whatever he wants it seems. Hes also saying im leaving him at his lowest point. He claims he needs support during the detox and just becoming better. I do understand adderall can play a role in this, but why did it take a year and me finally breaking up w him to acknowledge the addiction and want help? Now all of a sudden hes eager to change and it was secretly his adderall addiction the whole time? What do i do??
TIA!
Hello!
Feeling very lost and confused. Abt 3 months ago I found my boyfriend of 6 years adding women on fb and instagram. I confronted him and at the end of it all said if it happens again, were done. 3 months later I see hes been adding girls again. I confront him and it is now he admits to the adderall addiction. He said thats wht hes been addicted to porn, mean, defensive, secluded, etc for the past year. now he wants help and to get better / rehab, but without breaking up or moving out. Idk how we can do this while still living together. It feels very uneasy around him and anytime weve tried to work on our relationship in the past he lasts maybe a month and we’re right back. Im also not sure i wanna keep forgiving him in hopes hell actually change when the pattern is that he continues doing whatever he wants it seems. Hes also saying im leaving him at his lowest point. I do understand adderall can play a role in this, but why did it take a year and me leaving for him to acknowledge the addiction and want help? Now all of a sudden hes eager to change and it was secretly his adderall addiction the whole time? What do i do??
TIA!
Hello!
Feeling very lost and confused. Abt 3 months ago I found my boyfriend of 6 years adding women on fb and instagram. I confronted him and at the end of it all said if it happens again, were done. 3 months later I see hes been adding girls again. I confront him and it is now he admits to the adderall addiction. He said thats wht hes been addicted to porn, mean, defensive, secluded, etc for the past year. now he wants help and to get better / rehab, but without breaking up or moving out. Idk how we can do this while still living together. It feels very uneasy around him and anytime weve tried to work on our relationship in the past he lasts maybe a month and we’re right back. Im also not sure i wanna keep forgiving him in hopes hell actually change when the pattern is that he continues doing whatever he wants it seems. Hes also saying im leaving him at his lowest point. I do understand adderall can play a role in this, but why did it take a year and me leaving for him to acknowledge the addiction and want help? Now all of a sudden hes eager to change and it was secretly his adderall addiction the whole time? What do i do??
TIA!
I rlly need help and advice.
Been dating [27M] for 4 years, living together in our home for 2. He states he planned to propose the day we bought the house, but he never did. Once we bought the house, things have seemed to change for the worst. He used to clean, he is now so messy. He leaves things everywhere and spits/ blows boogers in the sink and leaves it. He also is very easily agitated. He cant handle being asked questions it seems as he is immediately overwhelmed and either annoyed or defensive. He takes everything as an attack as if im doubting him. He talks to me like im dumb or a child and it makes me not want to be around him. He also is horrible w money. He does have some loans out, which is claims are all for me or he took them out for me, but he also buys things just bc its on sale or whatever he wants. Like no thought goes into how much he’s in debt or our bills. He claims his job is the reason for his behavior as he is unhappy there. Obviously not an excuse or believable. Ur job doesnt make you treat your spouse like shit, you do that. Anyways; he wanted a raise at work. His boss said no. He decided to boycott/ strike on his own apparently for a little over a week. He was mad he didn’t get his way, said his boss couldn’t / wouldn’t fire him and if so, then good. Well his boss in fact did fire him and he is just sooo depressed. He says he’s at rock bottom, again another excuse for his shitty behavior, and is repeatedly asking me to stay and work on things. I just dont understand how a grown man even puts himself in that position. Ik work can be toxic, but I hate my job too. Most ppl do. I feel i am constantly forgiving and working on things, mainly just not making him mad or like catering to him, and he doesn’t seem to be. I truly love him and he does have great qualities as well but i am almost at my ends. It may seem so obvious and as i write this out it all sounds dumb but it just feels like horrible timing. How do i leave someone that you love more than anything, and who also just lost their job? I want so badly to be w him but i feel i am losing myself. He has also said in the past if i leave him he wants compensation for what hes done at the house as its only in my name. I feel horrible and so sad but I truly feel it would be best for him and allow him to figure shit out. i am always here backing him or being his rock and it just doesn’t feel right. I also read sometimes we need to let God handle people and stop always getting in the way. I feel like i need to step away and let him learn how to be a man. Would you stick around and try to help him during this hard time, take the heat and be who he needs? or take a step back, end the relationship, and hope he becomes a better man on his own? TIA.