u/DeepHovercraft6851

Hi.

I rewatch gossip girl in a very spontaneous matter. I'm generally a calm, emotionally regulated person. But I've noticed every time I watch gossip girl, I end up being more sour, easily annoyed, and slightly more hostile than I usually am.

I swearrrrrr to god, I'm not usually like that. But when I watch gossip girl, I can literally feel the rage being boiled in me bc of some of the atrocious storylines (serena begging lola to become an it girl and instantly hating her for it afterwards will always send me on a spiral of anger).

I know its literally just a show, and it shouldn't affect me as much as it does but, hell, its annoying af.

(i fully intend to keep watching it, I hope my fiends and family still love me)

Does anyone else feel way, or am i just fully a wacko

I love how buster seems to always have a troubadour follow him around when he's down

First there was that moose with the guitar, and then it was the adopted relative on arthur's family farm.

I think thats it, only those two, but thats more than any other character's been serenaded to when they were sad.

I just find it so funny that he never asks for it or questions it either. He just sits there... listening. sad and listening

I know it's a running joke that monica is "freakishly strong, as in she's stronger than she looks.

But i feel like irl, it'd make sense, not nonsensical at all.

The fact that she was over weight and then suddenly looses so much weight, proooobably means she became a hardcore gym girlie. Plus, she looks so toned!!! (she's who I wanna be, fitness-wise). And she goes on regular runs!!! And rember when she became chandler's fitness coach for an episode, that showed how gym-centred she really can be.

Out of the six of them, she's who I'd expect to be the strongest

Hello! I was recently at a conference event and there was a live painter. He painted the room scene live at the moment.

I was in awe of his work, and I help a lot of organizations plan events so I really wanted to get his info. but he was so focussed in his work I didn't want to disturb him.

I think if I emailed the person who held that conference event, I could get the live painter's info.

But the thing is, I don't know the conference event's host. I have their email but I've never spoken to them and i've never spoken to the live painter. So, I don't want to come off as creepy or like a scammer.

I'm really new to the event-hosting industry, so is it acceptable to cold email the host to get the contact info of the painter?

Hello! I was recently at a conference event and there was a live painter. He painted the room scene live at the moment.

I was in awe of his work, and I help a lot of organizations plan events so I really wanted to get his info. but he was so focussed in his work I didn't want to disturb him.

I think if I emailed the person who held that conference event, I could get the live painter's info.

But the thing is, I don't know the conference event's host. I have their email but I've never spoken to them and i've never spoken to the live painter. So, I don't want to come off as creepy or like a scammer.

I'm really new to the event-hosting industry, so is it acceptable to cold email the host to get the contact info of the painter?

Hello! I was recently at a conference event and there was a live painter. He painted the room scene live at the moment.

I was in awe of his work, and I help a lot of organizations plan events so I really wanted to get his info. but he was so focussed in his work I didn't want to disturb him.

I think if I emailed the person who held that conference event, I could get the live painter's info.

But the thing is, I don't know the conference event's host. I have their email but I've never spoken to them and i've never spoken to the live painter. So, I don't want to come off as creepy or like a scammer.

I'm really new to the event-hosting industry, so is it acceptable to cold email the host to get the contact info of the painter? Is this networking or just plain creepy?

*Penn's character OF Joe is so charming (oopsies typo)

awful morals and actions aside, he's so charming.

I love his outfits, they have so much thought behind them. Not just basic cargo shorts and a grey shirt. His outfits almost always look put together, educated, and classy.

And his mannerism when he first talks to people are quite charming and witty.

I'm ashamed to say I'd actually fall for his shit irl :(

(well actually there are exceptions when I'd be freaked out, like when he told beck her room is too small for a specific bed without ever being invited in yet... yeah hopefully I'm smart enough to catch slip ups like that...)

I just wanna say, Dan Humphrey aside, literature goes really well with Penn.

Idk how to explain it but the role of writing and reading and being well-read suits him so well. Even in YOU, when he was Joe, his bookstore-bookworm era was very attractive.

Not every actor can pull of the literature vibe, but clearly, Penn does it very well

Chandler Bing

I know it's a running gag in the series how dumb his name is.

But I feel like his name is so beautiful, unique, and ethereal.

"Chandler" - I don't know how to explain this, but it sounds so mystical and rich. It sound's like a type of diamond

And "Bing" - is the cherry on top. It sounds like the sound the fucking diamond would make.

Muriel... yeah, I can't rly defend that. I don't think that blends well at all

But, yeah, I'm not joking when I say "Chandler Bing" is such a nice name. It's so indescribable, and I don't know how to word it, but the vibe it gives off is old money, if that makes sense

Hi!

Just to be clear, this is not another "Chair is dumb" post. I actually think Blair and Chuck are very perfect for each other. They both have that schemer in them that makes them so compatible. They both also clearly love each other deep down (i think?). This is NOT mean to be a hate post, I just want to hear opinions! :)

But what I'd like to discus is how Blair is able to be with Chuck, despite all the awful things he's done to her.

Just to name a few:

- he compared blair to a wet horse right in front of her face... fucking ew

- he basically sold blair to his creepy ass uncle to get a building

- he refused to get with blair and kept dragging her on a string in seaosn 6 when he wanted to get revenge on his father

It's been a while since I rewatched gossip girl so I might be missing some significant context as to why chuck said/did this things.

And, sure, sometimes love makes people blind with those rose-tinted glasses. But, I'm trying to see how I would feel in Blairs shoes. If I loved a man, and he did any of these things (or all 3), I'd dump his ass and block him on all my socials. but, also, I've never been "in love" like Blair was with Chuck, so maybe I can't FULLY put myself in Blair's shoes.

It's just so surprising to me that someone with as much pride and dignity as Blair would be okay to put up with some of the disrepcutfl things Chuck did

Georgina and Dan's dynamic is so funny to me.

It's like, out of all the people, Georgina repeatedly choses Dan as her accomplice/victim in schemes with no consultation at all. Sure, I guess he's the easiest for her to "fool" or whatever, but like, boi is just minding his own business most of the time when she preys on him (ignoring the fact that he's literally gossip girl)

And every time, without fail, he eats up whatever she says. For someone who's so smart and cynical, he can be pretty gullible at times.

DISCLAIMER: this is post is just me posting a funny realization bc I have no one to talk about this to irl. No ill intentions. I feel like I have to state this, bc the sub can be a liiiitle toxic sometimes and tends to jump into OP-shaming real quick, and i AIN'T in the mood for that rn :)

*title meant to say "red flag" oops haha

tl;dr: "follow your gut" is REAL advice...

Hi! I'm just so so extremely proud of myself! And I really want to share my accomplishment :)

I (f19) have never had any experience with men before. I never dated or been in a relationship with anyone. Recently, I had a random guy show interest and ask me out on a date (you may have seen me post about it here before, because I was just so confused and really needed guidance). He basically said we'll go on the date, if we don't feel the vibes, we'll stop seeing each other. If we do feel the vibes, we continue. It sounded so laid back, so I said yes.

We didn't plan the date immediately and decided to just text and call for a little while. One day into just texting, ONLY one day, I decided I'm not feeling it through our texts and calls (this is the point where I posted on this sub to get advice on what I should do, the common consensus was to follow my gut). so I told him I don't want to go on the date anymore (still didn't planned the date, so I thought it wouldn't be a big deal to cancel). and gosh, this man was not having it. He kept trying to talk me into continuing our talking stage. And then he proceeded to get upset because I supposedly "wasted" his time... we've literally been texting for a day...

And him saying that made me wonder something. Earlier he said, after our date, if I don't feel the vibes, we can stop. But if he threw this much of a hissy fit after I said we should stop talking after just a day of texting, imagine how much of problem it would have been if I said no after our date (which was never planned yet, so for all we know that could've been 2 weeks in... much more "wasted time" than one day of texting).

All I can say is, I'm glad I stopped this when I did, any later and he for sure would've made it difficult to end things. And brooooo don't even get me started on if we actually started dating, I can tell he would have been such a controlling, suffocating man based on our other text convos.

This all happened just about a week ago, and I'm just so proud of myself for identifying something that makes me uncomfortable and putting myself first instead of prioritising politeness. I'm usually a people pleaser (which is the trait I least like about myself), so this experience really helped me grow out of people pleasing.

I know this probably doesn't seem like a big deal of a story, but this chain of events all happening so fast really had me panicking and on edge. I'm so glad it's all over, the world feels full of colour again

HUGE thank you to all the girlies on this sub who helped me straighten out my thoughts on my previous post!!!! Literally saved my life, dodging what was probably gonna be a super taxing, toxic relationship!!!!!! I love this subreddit. so so so so so much!!!!!! <3

Hi! I'm rewatching the series, and I'm at the point where Richard has his second heart attack. Lorelai and Rory are chatting in the waiting room, and Lorelai mentions she never wears shoes in her nightmares.

I found that to be such a random convo topic to write into the script. I know the show is 70% them ranting nonsense, but I got curious and did some research.

Not wearing shoes in nightmares can represent vulnerability/being exposed and unprotected, feeling a loss of control, feeling like you're on a directionless path. Maybe I'm cherrypicking here, but it seems like all these could have applied to how Lorelai secretly felt while being married to Chris (which she was at this point in the show).

Just a quick lil possible "easter egg" that I've never seen anyone mention here before :)

I know this is sooo obvious. But like, girl, my transformation is beyond insane.

I've been a night owl for as long as I can remember, which caused me to sleep-in for as long as I can remember.

Idk how, but lately I've been waking up EARLY. And man wtf, i've literally never felt better.

I don't feel cranky in the morning. I don't feel nauseous first thing when I wake up. I sleep better at night.

And the biggest thing, my mental health has never been greater. Literally, my mindset had been so much more healthy and calm ever since I started waking up early and sleeping early.

Literally, I've been feeling so unstressed these past few days, I've been stressing about not being stressed.

#HighCortisolSucks

Hi! I'm a very amateur, self-taught artist.

I've been told that the best way to practise and improve drawing is by drawing simple things in your day-to-day life, just to keep in touch with visualizing shapes and basic components.

My issue is, that's boring as hell. I've tried just sitting down with a sketch book and sketching a chair, a fridge, the room I'm in. It bores me to sleep.

But on the other hand, I've tried to do more "complex" projects/ objects that interest me, like drawing a super cute dog. The problem with this, is that these sketched usually take more time (can't spent my whole day on it), so I span it out over a few days. But I usually lose my state of flow when I pause and resume a project repeatedly.

If there's anyone else who was stuck in a similar situation as me, how did you practise drawing?

Hi! I (f20) am in college and oh man why is it so hard to make good lasting friendships :(

The close friends I do have are the friends I had in high school (a lot of us went to the same college), and they're very much homebodies. They don't want to explore the city with me, and even if they do join me, we end up going to a cafe and sitting there the whole time. And even when we're in college, they stay for the lectures and dip out. I don't mean to complain, they're sweet girls and they're always there to support me. I love my girlies <3

On the other hand the new friends I've made at college never last. We meet at lectures or tutorials, we exchange instas, we dm each other, but thats basically where it ends. After that course is over, we never talk or see each other again.

I just find it so hard to make new lasting friendships that have the same interests as me. I try to join clubs with my interests but a lot of people come with their friend groups and i feel weird trying to squeeze my way into an already existing friend group.

I like art galleries, museums, malls, and libraries, but, again, I feel like its odd to randomly chat with people in those (plus a lot of people usually some with their friends).

So, what should I do? How do I naturally make friendships with like-minded people. I just wanna go fun places with fun, genuinely good people

I (f20) have a bunch of cute dresses and skirts, but recently I've been wearing pants more often.

I don't know what happened, I used to l love wearing dresses as a teen. But somehow, and i didn't even notice this happening, I slowly started choosing pants over dresses during college.

I don't know why though, my brain KNOWS I love dresses. But for some reason, I opt for pants.

So I recently decided to just wear my gorgeous dresses no matter the occasion, just so I can feel pretty. But a part of me wonders what the point is, since I have basically have friends, no man, and when I'm on campus it's generally empty. So no one is gonna see me, if i do doll myself up.

So, I wonder what the point is in dressing cute. But I hate that I wonder that, because I used to do thing just for me, regardless of who is or isn't there. Life is short

For some reason, after season 6, it feels like Rory and Logan are playing house. Like when they move in together, or when they go to the vineyard and cook.

idk maybe i'm just immature (probably this b/c, i felt the same way when my sister got married and moved in with her man)

I attended a few stuff during the fall and winter semesters that would've given me CCR. I've been keeping an eye on it for a while now and nothing is showing up yet. Is it just me?

So I've been rewatching Gilmore Girls for a while. The first time I watched it, I was beginning high school. And now I'm watching it almost 5 years later. What's crazy is that I can see my personal growth affecting how I view the show and characters.

When I was first watching the show (at 14 y/o), I didn't understand why Logan was so appealing, other than being cute. I know the other characters described him as charming, and a bunch of my friends were team Logan. But at the time, I personally didn't see it.

Now, I'm almost 20. I'm in college. While rewatching the show recently, I started to understand why people thought Logan was so charming. I can't explain why, idk what it is about him. Maybe it's his balance between being fun/free spirited and stability (money, job connections, etc).

OBVIOUSLY, he has his flaws, but I definitely see the charm in him now.