u/DuckPossible16_

When I was 8, a guy who was like 14 used to do inappropriate stuff with me, he was our landlord's son, his sister was like my elder sister so i would go to their house all the time and whenever he would find me alone he would sexually abuse me.

I had no idea what was happening, even when i got to know and told my mom, nothing happened. Nobody helped me. This was like 10-11 yrs ago and from a few months i keep thinking about it, all those bad memories are flooding in. I don't know what to do and how to process it. Therapy isn't an option.

I don't even know why i made this post, I just wanted to let it out because there's no one i can talk to about this.

Also, idk how it is affecting me now, how is it triggering me? Sometimes i get really anxious thinking about it, I don't like it when anyone is standing close to me, i hate being touched? Idk what's happening to me atp

In my school if a girl would sit next to a guy, teachers would talk shit about the girl, they would call her spoiled, shameless and such. Growing up it was normalised to not sit with the opposite gender, to not talk to them because both the teachers and the parents would act like it's a crime. I still remember being yelled at by a male staff member in front of the whole class because i sat in the boys' row. I WAS ALONE and there were only 4 BOYS IN THE ROW.

I was so pissed. I have noticed it everywhere, parents usually don't accept that their daughter can have a guy friend, sometimes it's the same with boys, I have talked with a few of them and they told me how their parents would throw them out if they ever get a gf.

How do you think it shapes the minds of young girls and boys who go through that? I have heard that because of less female interaction, some boys learn about women thru corn and stuff and it messes with their mentality. Is it true?

I had a really good friendship with 3 girls, we were best friends from middle school to high school. Last year I made a mistake and broke their trust. It might seem like I am trying to defend myself here but they all came to my house and told my parents everything, I might have not considered the impact of what i did out of desperation but now i understand. My parents are abusive so when my ex-friends told them everything, (even tho I begged them not to) I got abused by them.

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This made me develop negative feelings towards them, I can't forget a Friendship of 5 years it's pretty hard to move on. I am starting college two months later so maybe it will be fine. Though when I saw them on social media I wanted to talk to them so badly, even though they blocked me from everywhere (i downloaded insta recently) but I know forgiveness is not an option for them.

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Last night I was watching a recorded lecture from Harvard and a girl asked a question, her voice was exactly like my friend and it literally made me so depressed I couldn't complete the video.

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Sorry it's getting long but how do I move on? I hate what I did but I also don't like what they did to me, I feel like I can never move on and have friends like that ever again. I loved them.

My cousin, who is a minor was out with her friend a few days ago. Then a guy in a car who was a lot older kept stalking her, first he complimented her eyes and then when she stopped somewhere he followed her and asked for her number.

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She kept denying, she was really scared but he kept insisting. Again she told me the man was older like 20 something and she's just a child. Why tf do they do this?? Like genuinely why such behaviour? Are they that lonely that they will stalk a child??

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Also, I don't know how to help her, if we tell that to her family or my family, SHE will be told to not step out, her freedom will be taken away. She couldn't even see the numberplate, she was very scared. Why do men feel entitled to women? Why do they think being a creep can get them into dating? Losers.

I live in a typical desi family that prioritizes religion and culture over everything. Recently I was talking with my brother about this cousin who is getting married to his gf, my brother made a face and said it's not good to have a gf/bf (he's 14) and now he said that it's a sin. Then I got to know he learnt it from my mother. She had been teaching him all this bs that kids don't trust their parents to choose a partner for them so the kids do it themselves and how it's a disrespect to the parents.

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Not only that, my parents are sexist, they make such remarks and now my brother has started becoming like that too. I can't even use the word "periods" in my house.

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My parents are really toxic and patriarchal, I don't want him to become a misogynist and conservative man and ruin another woman's life.

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Ps: I have tried talking to him, telling him about menstruation but then my mother got to know she yelled at me for teaching him things that are "not of his concern". I thought about giving up because my parents get abusive pretty quick🫠 and he's the type of guy who will tell my mother everything then I will get in danger.

I literally had to mute every single Indian sub (except feminist ones) because they are all hating on women.

Either men on these subs cry about misandry and alimony or hate on women and say they will never marry (good for us). A person shared how she went through something terrible and the response was "Not all men", "i don't have sympathy for you because you said men are bad" etc etc. like I had to delete reddit for a while because of such posts and comments. Don't even get me started on dms, had to turn them off.

Even the teen subs are filled with such red pilled jerks, what's wrong with people?? Are we really heading this way? And people are upvoting such posts which makes me scared how unsafe this country is for women. These people can never be taught basic decency, I am so disappointed.

Got any plans? It's my first pride month and I don't think I will be able to do anything, my fam is quite conservative. But I wanna know what people generally do for pride month. Also where I live nobody acknowledges it hence no pride parades or anything😞

Okay it's like trash vs garbage but i really need a review of GLA mathura and Noida campus and LPU.

I am getting CSE in both of them and GLA is close to home but idk I haven't heard about it and it's reviews aren't that great.

Sorry this might turn into a rant but yeah, i am posting again because i need help

My parents are not allowing me to go to a college in Punjab, Jalandhar for the following reasons-

1. Dr*gs

2. they lost trust in me after i was talking to a guy and now they think I am corrupted/spoiled so i will get in a relationship instead of studying

3. made a friend and we bonded over our shared trauma and used to b*tch about our families, got caught and now my parents think I will get manipulated by other girls and will be taken advantage of and go against my family and do stuff

4. distance- it's far from home (good for me)

5. after fighting with my mother she said unless my father gives me permission to go to college I won't be going

I have no other options than this one, other colleges are giving me lower branches which are of no use to me. What do I do? If my father doesn't give me permission i will be going to a college i never wanted to go to. I hate my life, my family is abusive

All are tier-3 btw, I got LPU, GLA mathura, Galgotias University (Ece), NIET (Ece vlsi)

Now I have to choose between GLA and LPU because they are the only ones giving me CSE, but Lpu's fees is high. Tbh i really wanna go to LPU, I don't feel like going to GLA, maybe because i wanna go to a college with a good crowd which is modern?

My parents are forcing me to go to GLA, mathura but I feel like I won't be able to study well there cuz i will regret not choosing LPU. Ik i have trash vs garbage kinda choice. But is it worth taking that big loan for LPU?

Atp it feels nothing is better than IIT lol, i feel so insecure of people getting tier-1/2 colleges life feels wasted. If you have any other college recommendations then please tell

I (18F) got to know about this term called hetero-romantic bisexual, I don't know if this is legit but I feel relatable to it. So this still makes me bi right? I have been a bit scared to put on labels and I know that I don't have to but I really really want to. I want to put a name on these feelings but what scares me is being called an imposter, performative in case I wanna change it in the future (maybe i am still in denial)

I wanna tell my friends (future friends lol I have none) and rn I can't come out to my family too (they are patriarchal and homophobic and biphobic and transphobic and queerphobic in general)

So will it be alright if i call myself bi? Does the term hetero-romantic bisexual exists? Should i use it? I would love to hear your opinions and advices. Thank you!

I am soooo stupid, I did it on my palm now I will get in trouble, my mom's gonna get super angry, she will take my phone away, won't let me lock the door, won't let me stay awake at night. I need urgent advice how do i hide it? It's not deep at all. Like a minor cut but since it's very new my mother will instantly know I did it. I already ran out of excuses because she's very familiar with my game🥀

Whenever i get any accidental cut or if my skin turns red due to irritation or pressure being applied she immediately starts to question me if i h@rmed myself. If she sees the cut my life is practically over what do i do😭😭😭

I told her i stopped, but I have been lying and relapsing almost every night. I was so overwhelmed today and did it on my palm😭

Now the thing is, she will probably notice it when I am sleeping, I can think of a way to hide it but who knows? She isn't supportive of my mental health, and probably won't let me stay awake late at night and this is the only time I get freedom so I don't wanna lose that😭 ah i am so stupid should have done it at a better place.

If she sees the scar she will interrogate me like I am a criminal, take my phone away, won't let me lock the door, won't let me sleep alone and won't let me stay awake late. I am just gonna crash out, they (my parents) don't support me at all and then get angry when I relapse BECAUSE OF THEIR BEHAVIOUR towards me.

"BuT ThESe aRe GifTs"

Heard this many times from people I knew who gave or received dowry. The recent example being my own uncle, first of all what is their obsession with being the boy's parents?? Aka "Ladke wale" ew

He was talking about how he strictly said no to dowry, I was like oh yeah that's-

Nah...he later added "Par vo ladki wale hai, apni beti ko financial support dene ke liye kuch accha hi bhejenge"

My broken translation of this sentence- "But they are the bride's side, ofc they will send their daughter with good stuff for her financial support"

Meaning he knows that the bride's family is gonna send a lot of stuff so ofc they HAVE to accept it right?? Bruh. This is making me scared of marrying in India honestly 🫠.

This has happened too many times in my family, love marriage or not they are always expecting the bride side to give them something. My cousin sister in law didn't come from a good financially stable family hence gave very little while the other cousin sister in law "gifted" a car so they treat her better than the other one. LIKE F YOU ALL I AM NOT GONNA MARRY IN THIS COUNTRY.

WE ARE NEVER GETTING RID OF IT

No because what the f was this yr? I failed jee, failed every single entrance exam, i am only getting low tier colleges who just want money. I got terrible marks in boards thanks to cbse

I am fking done with this education system, don't you all think it's too much for us?? All my classmates are going to tier-1 colleges, I am so ashamed to breathe the same air as them. MY DREAMS ARE SHATTERED.

My parents are disappointed, my father calls me a failure every time he sees me. I am DONE. Nobody is ready to understand or support or listen to me, they all say I am overreacting when I get panic attacks, when i sh.

But is it even worth taking a tier-3 college? (cse)

I have no options left tbh. People say it matters on your skills but I am going for something i was never interested in, so will it even give me anything?? I am so lost. I hate this education system. IT RUINED ME.

What tf do i do😭

Hey everyone, I am considering LPU as one of my options for btech cse. I wanted to know how campus life is here, is it way too strict? And please rate the academics too. Do they allow students to collaborate or get internships and participate in research?

I am looking for universities that won't hinder personal growth and can give us freedom. I have heard from my relatives that they all came back from here because it's too strict. But I was thinking about it because they are giving me a lot of scholarship 😭

I am pretty devastated and depressed rn. My jee was fked in my drop yr and now i will be getting a tier 3/4 college which makes me insecure of my ex-classmates who got into top universities. Meanwhile me who went thru hell of a traumatising year might only get an average college thanks to my depression.

I had dreams of going abroad, for my masters, but it seems way too unrealistic. But I still wanna dream, so is there anyone who went to a low tier/average college who made it abroad or has plans to? I would love to know your story, what skills made it possible for you even with limited opportunities. Yes i need reassurance and i want to get inspired

I gave CUCET, but only got 25% scholarship that too only for one sem fees. In some other unis we can get a scholarship if we maintain 7+ cgpa is there something like that here in CU as well? The feed is high but I don't have much better options so I am considering CU only

So i scored 70% in 12th, can't reach the 60% pcm aggregate and jee is fked, it was my drop yr and I don't feel like doing anything. I will get a tier-3/4 college but I feel like it won't be worth because of bad placements, i have literally lost interest in everything.

Should I take another drop? My parents are opposing this idea saying I won't be able to do it all over again which is partially true but maybe i get a college that is good but doesn't consider board marks? Pls suggest me some universities or any advice you have got. I really need some guidance🙏

Didn't score 60% aggregate in pcm, improvement didn't help too and now I am stuck, i am not expecting to get even tier 3 college (jee was fked too) so is there any college that can give me admission without the 60% criteria? I already applied to GL, KIET, NIET, and CU too but it's very expensive so gonna drop that one. I really want CSE.

So if anyone knows what colleges i can apply to, please guide