u/Embarrassed_Bag_9630

A few days ago I made a post on here asking if SA was really THAT bad. You all said it was and well I wanted to see so I went through with the interview.

Y’all…

They made me do a roleplaying exercise where I had to chastise a student like a dog. I’m so serious.

It is never that serious. And they wanted you from 7am “sometimes earlier” till 5pm and “sometimes later”— for what? What is this? The brig?

I feel like going on Glassdoor right now and warning a few more people myself. I’m scarred.

As a woman interested in sports you often find yourself in conversation with men because this is the world. What I find interesting is that there is one group of sports fans who are particularly weird about women— soccer fans.

You would think that since they seem ostensibly liberal that they wouldn’t have a weird complex about female soccer fans, but they almost always do. People act like American football guys are the worst of the worst, but I find that they’re most likely to talk to you and like that you know your stuff. Soccer guys have a chip on their shoulder and are constantly trying to flex/test others knowledge of the game.

Theres this pretentiousness that comes from knowing about the “worlds game” as opposed to “handegg” that is like central to their being.

They use ball knowledge as a barometer of respect between each other, but it always feels like theres a secondary layer of doubt even when you DO know what you’re talking about. They also go out of their way to deride and guffaw about womens soccer. It’s well known that the US Womens team has won more than the Mens but theyll trot out some dumb game from 15 years ago to say that all women are inferior athletes. Like have whatever opinions you want, but the energy behind their comments- like they get something out of putting women down- is weird. You don’t see that from other sports in the same way. Even in basketball you see it less. Like yes theres the constant arguments about the WNBA but even thats gone down. And you dont really see that animosity at lower levels either in the same way. They also rarely play with you when it comes to pick up etc. In basketball or other sports I feel like it’s more common to see women feeling comfortable playing or not excluded or even getting passed to ball.

I feel like the connotations the sport had/has in the US contribute to this defensiveness in some way. There has to be some reason they feel the need to constantly prove and assert themselves in such a negative way.

I could very well be wrong, but I figure this is a great forum for bad opinions

It’s my 30th birthday today and I’m feeling a little bit down. I’ve never felt so alone even though I theoretically I COULD put something together. I kind of just want to do something solo because I never get much freedom.

What’s something that might be worthwhile? My current plans are to get my eye brows done, get some new concealer and the only bday gift I’ll get from Sephora, and then go stare into the void atop a mountains

I’m considering an AP role at SA, but I’ve only ever heard bad things. Is it really that bad or just strict? If so, why?

You heard me— every single parenting “reform” from 2000 onward has been a bunch of hooey that’s led to the unraveling of our society. Everything.

Helicopter parenting

Over coddling

Participation trophies

The “don’t tell me how to raise my child” phenomenon

Gentle/passive/permissive parenting

The removal of consequences

Educational reforms esp those that remove incentives (you can’t fail them because it will hurt their feewings)

The list goes on.

Every single time somebody brought up a sensible critique people just responded with “Thats what they said about EVERY generation” or “I’m righting the wrongs of the past.”

We as a society over corrected HARD and literally threw the baby out with the bathwater. Now we can a generation of young adults with crippling anxiety that comes from a lack of coaching who can’t thrive because they were never given the structure to learn.

And I blame Gen X primarily.

This region is known to have a ton of history and lore, much of which is paranormal. Have you had any personal experiences that you’d like to share?

Reposted from another sub ; I (29F- 30 on Friday) have been with my BF (28M) since college (unfortunately). I never planned to be with him this long, but after college he moved in with me to my family’s home and hasn’t left since. It has been a constantly volatile, tiring and frankly toxic relationship. All of my family and friends have begged me to get away from him and believe me I’ve tried- but he won’t leave. He refuses to pay bills because he says “He doesn’t know if he’ll be around because we’re always fighting and about to break up.” And whenever he’s asked to do something he says we’re “treating him like a Mexican” (he’s Dominican) because he doesn’t get paid. Either that or he lectures me about how he can’t do XYZ because I don’t support him well enough because I don’t do and then lay out his clothes for him. Mind you I have an hour long commute and work full time which includes travel. He barely gets up to drive Uber bc he says things like his tummy hurts and then gets angry and loudly lectures me and gets aggressive if I dare question him.

And this is the least of it, genuinely. Like that there’s enough to break up with him which is why I’ve been trying. Somehow he took “I can’t be with you anymore and want to break up” to mean “try harder.” But no amount of trying will make up for the fact that he’s every type of -ist in the book and a general blowhard. (He is by the way a proud Misogynist who is getting into more “Christian” stuff lately).

Anyways, we’re on the way to his brother’s wedding party rn. He had a courthouse wedding on Thursday. This brother has been good to me and even tried to warn me about my BF early on. (His whole family has had to intervene to defend me or call him out at some point for his rude behavior and loud outbursts). I don’t want to disturb the mood of the party so I’m gonna go, but I feel like this is a good chance to ditch him. His stuff is all mostly packed already and I can leave in the early morning when theyre all asleep.

My question is is whether this is a delusional idea that is sure to backfire. I truly cannot deal with this man any longer. It feels like 90% of my time is spent disassociating because it’s easier than disagreeing with/engaging with his nonsense, bigoted, ignorant rants. I have a $400 plane credit and I could go visit a friend or a sister with it potentially instead of going back home directly as well.

I (29F- 30 on Friday) have been with my BF (28M) since college (unfortunately). I never planned to be with him this long, but after college he moved in with me to my family’s home and hasn’t left since. It has been a constantly volatile, tiring and frankly toxic relationship. All of my family and friends have begged me to get away from him and believe me I’ve tried- but he won’t leave. He refuses to pay bills because he says “He doesn’t know if he’ll be around because we’re always fighting and about to break up.” And whenever he’s asked to do something he says we’re “treating him like a Mexican” (he’s Dominican) because he doesn’t get paid. Either that or he lectures me about how he can’t do XYZ because I don’t support him well enough because I don’t do and then lay out his clothes for him. Mind you I have an hour long commute and work full time which includes travel. He barely gets up to drive Uber bc he says things like his tummy hurts and then gets angry and loudly lectures me and gets aggressive if I dare question him.

And this is the least of it, genuinely. Like that there’s enough to break up with him which is why I’ve been trying. Somehow he took “I can’t be with you anymore and want to break up” to mean “try harder.” But no amount of trying will make up for the fact that he’s every type of -ist in the book and a general blowhard. (He is by the way a proud Misogynist who is getting into more “Christian” stuff lately).

Anyways, we’re on the way to his brother’s wedding party rn. He had a courthouse wedding on Thursday. This brother has been good to me and even tried to warn me about my BF early on. (His whole family has had to intervene to defend me or call him out at some point for his rude behavior and loud outbursts). I don’t want to disturb the mood of the party so I’m gonna go, but I feel like this is a good chance to ditch him. His stuff is all mostly packed already and I can leave in the early morning when theyre all asleep.

My question is is whether this is a delusional idea that is sure to backfire. I truly cannot deal with this man any longer. It feels like 90% of my time is spent disassociating because it’s easier than disagreeing with/engaging with his nonsense, bigoted, ignorant rants. I have a $400 plane credit and I could go visit a friend or a sister with it potentially instead of going back home directly as well.

I have my own opinions, but I’m curious to see how you all perceive yourselves.

This nonsense about “just go where it’s cheapest” is well meaning but bad advice especially if you’re ambitious. It is best more often than not to go to a school with a well established and helpful network whether that be alumni network or for the field you’re interested in. The return on investment is greater if you make that your primary consideration. If you’re just interested in getting “a degree” for the sake of it, then sure do something cheap. But if students want to GET something out of their degree it would be better to advise them to choose a school based on opportunity than cost. And this includes state schools and community colleges with well established connections to various industries like teaching or the medical field.

I say this because being from the “right” school is totally a system of preselection/vetting on the career end and even socially to some degree. It gets you in the door. A school with a strong alumni or industry network makes making that next step post (and even post post) graduation that much easier.

EDIT: at no point did I say prestige trumps all-

If you want to go into X field it’s best to go to a school known for sending people into X. If they specialize in Y, then thats not the beat school for you

OR

Go to X school known for having a supportive alum network because it helps down the line

Nowhere did I say Name Brand is more important than money. I said consider your long term gains.

I’m looking to travel in the midwest soon because I feel it’s underloved. I hear the Great Lakes are cool as heck too. What are some fun or relaxing towns that’d be ideal for a few days long trip (that are minority friendly)?

We as a society have over corrected on calling out the patriarchy to some degree. The effects and system are still ever present, but nobody attacks the SYSTEM but rather the individual. The result of this is sad.

So many decent men feel they have nowhere and no one to turn to to be vulnerable. It seems they feel no one will accept them for who they are, so they walk around the world with a hardened mask. This goes double for POC men for various reasons. As a result, whenever someone DOES acknowledge their humanity it feels profound.

I’m not trying to pull an ignorant Not All Men stance here before anyone gets their knickers in a twist. I just think it’s sad that the majority of men go their whole lives with the constant stress of being perceived as a threat or inherently malicious when truly they just want a hug.

What are some things that women have said or done or do that they didn’t realize was sexy?

Former teacher here, what is the most mind-boggling issue that a student or parent has brought to you? It could be something standard/customary that they somehow an issue with or something totally unique and wild. I’m looking to compile a list, so feel free to add detail to your story.

There’s always that one character that opens your eyes. Which one was it for you?

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