I (42F) am trying to be more outgoing and meet people IRL (for dating or friendship) and I tend to be a bit oblivious whenever a guy expresses romantic interest, and think they are just being friendly or nice. So, I am wondering, what are small gestures you have done with someone when you had romantic interest? How would it differ from you just being friendly?
This is my first experience with Redline, but it sounds like people here have done it before? I am slightly unhinged and enjoyed Threshold and Pipeline, and enjoy things like doing 40 burpees and 75 suspension trainer rows in a Hyrox class, but Redline sounds scary. I even told me therapist about it 😂
UPDATE: I felt the comeraderie in class today. Never, ever have I heard so much audible grunting and yelling in class, including from myself, lol. Between the battle ropes and ski erg and ski hang clean things, I feel my arms just typing this. 😂
I did a 5k race tonight & was aiming to PR. It was in similar weather to the hyrox race in NYC i did in june, and I realize I had a pounding headache both times, probably because I was in zone 4/5.
I take a low dose of atenolol and recently learned it lowers your max heart rate which reduces exercise capacity. My speed in general is very slow, even though my strength and endurance are very good. It’s never added up for me, but I’m thinking my medication may be part of it now. So I’m just curious if there are others here on beta blockers who have noticed similar things?
I did a 5k race tonight & was aiming to PR. It was in similar weather to my hyrox in NYC, and I realize I had a pounding headache both times, probably because I was in zone 4/5.
I take a low dose of atenolol and recently learns it lowers your max heart rate which reduces exercise capacity. My speed in general is very slow, even though my strength and endurance are very good. It’s never added up for me, but I’m thinking my medication may be part of it now. So I’m just curious if there are others here on beta blockers who have noticed similar things?
Hi all! Next week I (42F) am starting training for my first half marathon in November and I am so excited!! I started running a year ago and did a 10 mile race in February, but my training ended up being kind of haphazard due to weather/work travel/sickness/injury. I am hoping this go around to do a much better job with training properly and following my plan.
I am going to do a modified version of Hal Higdon's HM 3 plan, which is only 3 days/week running. The main modification is that I am upping the distance of the long runs so I get to 12 miles by week 10. I picked this plan because I am also strength training and will be training for a hyrox in December, so running 4-5x a week isn't feasible. I do think the hyrox work in particular will be helpful cross training though.
My main hope for this race is that it helps me to become a more confident runner. I can get in my head easily and get stuck in my head that I am slow, even though my pace is comfortably 2 minutes/mi faster than when I started a year ago. I also want to get experience with traveling for a race (most of the ones I have done are walking distance from my house!).
Would appreciate any tips or advice from those who have done this before!
Curious what your weekly training was like and any advice you may have! I am doing a half marathon in November and Hyrox Nashville a few weeks later (open solo). It’s my 2nd Hyrox and first half marathon (have done a 10 miler before).
I am thinking of doing a modified version of Hal Higdon’s 3 day training plan so I can also fit in my hyrox work, but curious how others have approached this and what your fitness background is?
It looks like rain all day on Wednesday so I am thinking this will be the 4th race to be canceled! 😭😭😭 Just looking to vent and commiserate. And, for anyone who has done this in the past, have there been other times where so many races have had to be canceled, or is 2026 just very unlucky?
(For everyone else reading this...it was meant to be 7 races total, but so far only 2 have happened and 3 have been canceled because of rain/heat.)
Hi all, as I sit here at the end of the day in a foul mood because of work, something dawned on me and I am curious what other women think.
It seems there are a lot of us struggling with work in this phase in life. Obviously perimenopause has been around forever, and I think the assumption is that previous generations just swept it under the rug and never spoke about it. While I think that is true, I think something is happening that is making it harder for us. And I'm starting to think it's modern day work and technology.
It's only been about 15 years since technology really exploded - smart phones, email everywhere, social media everywhere, slack, apps, infinite communication platforms, etc. None of this is normal. We were not wired for this as human beings (if you are interested, I recommend Cal Newport's work on this). And we're the first generation really going through peri where this way of living/working is considered the norm.
When I have a day to myself where I can just do work uninterrupted, my mind is totally fine. But today, I was expecting a peaceful & productive WFH day. Instead I awoke to a text from my boss at 6:43am (like seriously what the actual fuck) and non-stop "urgent" emails/DMs/slack/texts/zoom from coworkers. On top of texts for delivery notifications, the pharmacy, my doctors office, 2 factor authentication logging into anything, friends/neighbors/hobby related acquaintances asking things of me, and so on. By lunch I was totally frazzled, and now after work I have no bandwidth to do anything, even things I enjoy, let alone chores or life admin things. I don't even know if this post makes any sense.
But, given all that, do you think there's something to this? Is the 24/7 communication & all things vying for our attention a contributor as to why work feels so impossible for us now?
Hello, I am hoping someone can help this clueless 42yo out! 😄 As I was folding laundry today, I realized that I really need a new wardrobe. Aside from still having a full skinny-jean, old millennial wardrobe, a lot of my stuff is looking a bit worn and also just doesn't suit me anymore. I've been on a fitness journey, and haven't lost much weight, but did a body recomposition so my physique is different, as well as my lifestyle.
I've never been fashionable or into clothes shopping, so I keep falling in the trap of needing new things and just buying the first affordable thing that seems okay. I would like to look a bit more polished and put together, but keep things relatively simple. I work out before work, pack my clothes and get ready at the gym, so things that wrinkle easily aren't great.
I'm not necessarily looking for specific recommendations of where to shop, but more-so how people who look put together approach their wardrobe - picking outfits, maintaining clothes, how often to buy new things or replace them, etc. I work in an office, but it's creative and very casual (some people wear graphic tees, sweats, shorts, etc) so I am not really looking for formal office wear. Just want to look semi-decent and feel more confident with my clothing like I do with my body now.
I have been toying with the idea of doing this now that I am more of a "food is fuel" type of person. I am thinking a mix of ingredient prep & a couple full meals. For instance, brown rice and quinoa are the base of a lot of meals, so I'd make a giant pot and freeze in 1-2 serving size portions. Or make up a couple batches of muffins and freeze for easy breakfast options.
Does anyone else do this or some sort of monthly prep? I'd be curious to know how you do it and what you find works best.
Hi all, this is my first time growing tomatillos. I had an old seed pack and thought the seed was bad, but had 5 germinate. I planted 1 in my garden bed and another in a pot, thinking the one in the pot would serve more as a pollinator for the one in the bed. It turns out that plant is growing much faster than the one in my bed. They are 2-3 feet away from one another, and the other 3 (also much smaller than the one in the pot) are about 15 feet away in another bed.
All the plants have flowers, but none seem to be fruiting. Is it just a matter of waiting for the fruit to form after it's done flowering? Or could there be a pollination issue, or something else? This photo is from about 10 days ago. The other plants are about 1/3 this size.
Hi all, this is my second season trying out this variety. Last year the plant did not flower at all. I got a late start and thought maybe it was a timing issue, but the same thing is happening again this year. Curious if anyone has experience with this variety and any thoughts on what could be wrong? I am in Zone 7. Started from seed mid-March, up potted once and planted out into a 7 gal pot in mid-June.
For me I've really like the battle ropes in Pipeline, and the chest presses & chin-up variations in a few of the strength/hybrid classes.
I joined F45 for my first hyrox though (and am continuing on now), so I have to say I miss the sleds 🥲
Hi guys, I'm wondering if any of you act kind of aloof or more distant toward someone you are interested in? My ex told me he has an easier time talking to women he doesn't like, so I'm wondering if that may be the case with my current situation.
I joined a fitness studio 3 months ago and a guy in class caught my attention in the first couple weeks. It seemed like I caught his attention too (I noticed him looking at me), but I later realized he is an instructor and took same classes as I did (we were both training for the same race). When I was new, he was engaging and would go out of his way to talk to me, even if he was taking class and wasn't working. Over time that dwindled, and it seemed like he would say the same few things to me and give me a lot of fist bumps. But, I noticed he would engage in more personal conversation with other members, so I figured he disliked me and was just doing his job. However, when I happened to run into him at my race, he was very friendly and gave me a hug, which surprised me.
Today I had a question after class and we ended up talking about future races. It dawned on me that he always seems a bit awkward and nervous when we talk outside of class, and I don't know what to make of it, especially because he seems comfortable and chatty with other members (male and female).
He is moving to another studio in town and there's going to be a happy hour. I want to go, even just to socialize with other members, but I wonder if I should drop a hint that I'm into him, or if that would be super weird? I am also 10+ years older than he is. I just don't know what to make of the situation and would appreciate the male perspective here. Thank you!
For those who have done more than one Hyrox, what does your training look like when you aren't training for a race? How does it compare to your training block for a race?
NYC was my first and I definitely want to do more, but likely not until the end of the year. I want to do some more strength training, but continue to build my aerobic base.
In my studio Monday is usually a hybrid day, but I see that Pipeline is labeled as cardio, as is Athletica on Wednesdays. Is it normal for the phases to change the ratio of cardio/resistance/hybrid classes?
I'm only a couple months in to F45 (but already at 43 classes!) and am still getting the lay of the land. Was focused on Hyrox training, but that's all done now and I want to plan out my next bit of training.
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So, I had it out with my coworker via Slack today. Yesterday during a meeting he sent me some pointless texts that I ignored. I was WFH. This morning I was at my desk minding my own business and see from the corner of my eye my coworker walking straight toward my desk. He came over, leaned in near me and starts giving me a hard time about not reply to his texts. It really made me panic, but I think my anger took over.
My office was super quiet (like a library) and I felt uncomfortable having a confrontation, so I just said I was going to send him a message on Slack. Which, I did. I let him have it. I told him he needs to stop and his behavior is inappropriate. His tone immediately changed to super-polite/PC/HR friendly responses, which makes me think this is not the first time this has happened. They came across more as placating and not actually trying to understand or respect what I was saying.
I straight up asked what his problem was and told him he wasn't entitled to my time or attention. He gave a very generic response about respecting my professional opinion and insights about work, which I literally told him was horse shit because his communications are not work-related and are an invasion of my privacy. He played dumb like he didn't understand, so I brought up some of incidents, and ended with "back the fuck off, you aren't important." which seemed to set him off because his tone changed and he became defensive and implied his behavior wasn't a problem. I didn't reply after that.
I have screenshots of the conversation saved and plan to go back and document earlier messages/incidents. Do you think it's worth going to my bosses about this? Or should I wait and see what happens now?
I think I am still a fairly new runner. I started last August and worked my way up from 0 miles to doing a 10 mile race in February. Since then I've been training for hyrox, so my running became much less consistent. When I started training I was focused on building strength, and then on specific hyrox training, when I started adding runs back in. However, since then, I find myself having a lot of anxiety surrounding running.
It happened a little when training for the 10 miler, but moreso now. I end up being in my head a lot during runs, and sometimes (like yesterday) I end up skipping a run and then feeling really guilty about it. I'm curious how other people have handled things like this?
I am dealing with a male coworker whose behavior is really starting to creep me out. My office is small (15-20 people) and there is no real HR person or someone I could go to with this situation. I used to consider him a work friend, until I realized his behavior was all about getting attention from me.
I didn't think much of it until my job/life became much busier and he's taken it very personally. He seems to feel entitled to my attention and is acting out in weird ways that are making me uncomfortable. We don't collaborate on anything and have no work-related reason to interact. He doesn't seem able to accept anything he perceives as rejection and has problems accepting no.
I realize I'm now always on edge at the office because of this and am trying to avoid him at all costs, which seems to be making things worse. I really do not want to be wasting time and energy on this guy, but I feel like I'm being monitored by him all the time. His behaviors really catch me off guard and make me super anxious, so I kind of freeze in the moment. I'm feeling really stuck since I can only control my behavior, and he doesn't seem to respect boundaries.
I'm curious how others who have experienced something like this handled it, or, how you would handle it if you were in my shoes?
Some things he does/has done:
- I've gotten very into health/fitness. This seems to bother him so he will make some sort of jab at my strength or talk about how strong he is even if he has a dad bod.
- I'm training for a competition so now I train after work or do errands I didn't have time/energy for on the weekend. If he wants me to take the same train home with him, and I say no, he will interrogate me or ask "why?" aggressively and relentlessly. One time he would not leave my desk until I literally started ignoring him.
- He has went as far as to accuse me, more than once, of intentionally making up reasons to not eat lunch with him or take the train. An example is I had a deadline for a presentation at 2, so I said no to lunch. At 2:15 he comes to my desk and sarcastically says "I see your presentation is going well." I never said I was giving the presentation...I was just preparing it.
- These times when he comes to my desk he also places his arms in a way where I am physically blocked in my cubicle.
- In a zoom meeting, he was watching me (I was in person in a conference room, he was remote) and saw me pick up my phone so he immediately started texting me.
- In another zoom meeting, I turned my camera on when it was my turn to speak, and he immediately started texting me making comments about the stuff in my house that was in the background.
- Bring up his dead bedroom marriage or sex in various ways. One example was I mentioned a workout challenge I was doing and he asked if sex, then said it didn't matter because he wasn't having any. Another time he told me about his OF account (yuck).
- Most times he walks past my desk, he turns to see what is on my computer screen.
- Started making jokes about me dating the intern and went as far as to hack into the intern's slack account message me pretending to be him.
- In group settings, he'll either say something calling me out in a subtle negging sort of way, or if I am speaking in a group he'll interject and try to make what I'm saying about him.
This isn’t about a specific situation or recent interaction, as I am off of dating apps, but I am curious how other women over 40 feel.
When I was on dating apps, I used a fairly broad age range, as I don’t mind guys younger than I am. most of those guys were easy to weed out because they would say “hey gorgeous/sexy/cutie” or “you’re hot.” 🙄
But a comment I got often from the 40+ men would be along the lines of “wow, you take really good care of yourself” which I find just as off-putting. I feel like it’s just a more polite/subtle way of looking at me for my body or objectifying me. Not to mention, my profile had all sorts of hobbies or things to open up a conversation with, so something about this just gives me the ick big time.
Would this type of message bother anyone else?