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Sorry if this isn’t the right subreddit for this but I wasn’t sure which one would be best.

I was watching an old Louis Theroux documentary where he goes and visits people with dementia to learn about the condition. He sits in on one of the patient’s checkups and the doctor makes her draw a clock and set the time to ten minutes after 11am

It got me thinking, I’ve heard from several teachers that the last few batches of high schoolers can’t read analog clocks anymore, they’ve only been exposed to digital. I’m 22 so I’m old enough to know how to read a normal clock, but even when I was in school I knew people who couldn’t read a Roman numeral clock (I had one at home so I know how but most my age never learned I guess), so I wasn’t super surprised when I learned about this.

So with this new batch of people who can’t read analog clocks, once we get to old age, what will the doctors do to replace that test?

Obviously we’ve got a while until people in high school now are old enough to get dementia, but I really do wonder what they might replace the clock test with.

This is my last year at UNM but I decided to start going by a different name. I already have a preferred name set in the system but my parents set that up right when I got here, so I have no idea how to change it or if I even can. Can it be changed online or do I have to talk directly to a person?

I checked discord today and it popped up with a prompt to try customizing my profile with nitro. This happens every time they roll out some new feature, and I always try it out just to see what it would look like. However, unlike every time this has happened in the past, it actually let me save the changes.

This freaked me out, as I have NOT paid for nitro, and there was no pop up saying I had been given nitro either by a friend or by discord itself.

HOWEVER. It is in fact a discord promotion, they just don’t tell you about it on mobile for some reason. I opened my computer to check the settings again and received a pop up saying I have free nitro for 7 days. Would’ve been great to tell me on mobile too! Smh.

But TL;DR, if you suddenly have nitro don’t panic like I did, it’s just a promotion again and they for some reason only inform you if you open the app on desktop.

I’m currently trying to get back into reading after having my attention span absolutely hijacked by the magic rectangle that only makes me angry.

I used to be an avid reader pre magic rectangle. I’d say my favorite books I ever read were the Wheel of Time series. I still think about them almost daily despite it being ten years since I started reading them (8 years since I stopped). I really really want to finish the series (I’ve read to the end of book 4) but I just don’t have the stamina for them anymore.

My theory is that if I can find a real page turner that will hook me quickly and make me not want to put the book down, I can start building up my tolerance again, and eventually have the mental fortitude to finish my beloved series.

My problem is that I really don’t like any of the trendy fantasy books right now (Romantasy just makes me cringe - no hate to people that like it I just don’t), and people keep recommending me comedy books (discworld, dungeon crawler Carl) and I just can’t really get invested in things that don’t take themselves seriously (again nothing against it, I just literally never engaged in comedy growing up so it’s just not my thing — I have never seen a single sit com if that gets my meaning across any better).

Also I love Brandon Sanderson to death but if someone tries to recommend me the Cosmere one more time I’m going to scream. It’s too many books! I cannot read like ten prequel books to get to the one everyone says I should read. That’s too much!! Mistborn era I was fantastic and I loved The Rithmatist and Alcatraz and Reckoners when I was twelve but it’s just too much commitment for me right now. Also I hated skyward if that helps at all. The only Sanderson I DNfed.

I really like things that make you think. Star Trek is my beloved franchise. I also love Stargate (possibly more than trek), Babylon 5, and Battlestar Galactica 2004. Hated Star Wars. Always hated it. I’ve tried so many times. I don’t know what it is but it’s just not my thing. I don’t know if that helps at all but I figured I’d mention it.

I took the color quiz and it says I’m orange leaning purple, which means I like fantasy but especially fantasy with a more cerebral element to it, which I think is accurate.

Anyway, I don’t know if that’s too much information or not enough, hopefully I struck an okay balance.

TL;DR — can someone recommend a (high?) fantasy or scifi novel that’s pretty fast paced / immediately interesting so that I can hopefully get back into reading and out of doom scrolling?

Bonus points if it has gay people in it or delves into trauma and how the characters handle that trauma. I watched Naruto exclusively for the depressing backstories and interesting consequences of those backstories, if that says anything lol. But again no Romantasy please I will cry.

Hello all. Coming here for some advice because I think various people are trying to hold some sort of moron intervention for me and I don’t know what to do.

I joined the church ~2 years ago and have since gone somewhat inactive. I still show up sometimes but only about once a month at most. The very short of it is that I was more or less lied to about what the church stands for and I never would’ve joined if I had known the truth. I can’t stand tithing, I can’t stand their position on whether or not people like me should have rights, I can’t stand the fact that they don’t help people the way Jesus told them to.

I have only done baptism. By the time I was in long enough to be endowed I wanted out. Only reason I haven’t officially left is my fear of losing the only friends / found family I have + how difficult they make it to officially remove yourself from the records.

Well, I guess the higher ups at church finally caught on that I wasn’t coming, because a few days ago the new set of sister missionaries called me and asked to meet with me. When I asked why they said it was to get to know me because they are new and want to meet everyone in the ward so they can properly greet us when we show up on Sunday. That seemed reasonable so I agreed to come.

But the next day my bishop texted me saying HE wants to meet with me too to “talk about what’s going on in [my] life.”

Uh oh.

I had heard stories of how crazy this church is with hunting you down if you leave, but I thought it wouldn’t start until I actually left!

On top of it, when I actually showed up to meet with the missionaries, they completely out of the blue were like “by the way we asked [the person who convinced me to be baptized] to come too” — wtf! The more this goes on the more I’m sure I’m experiencing a mornintervention! What’s funny is, this person knows why I don’t come to church. I’ve told them multiple times! Also, near the very end, one of them mentioned something about “inactive for six months” — I wish I could give more context but I was kind of zoning out at the time. I don’t know if she was referring to me or someone else, as she was a transfer and not actually our ward’s missionary, they were just doing partners swaps that day, so I don’t know how she would even have my records to know if I was inactive or for how long.

Now I’m worried. I left the bishop on read but I can’t just ignore him forever. What’s super funny to me is HE NEVER SHOWS UP TO CHURCH EITHER! Before I stopped going he was basically never there, and when I do show up now he is rarely there either!! There’s some young guy who always says “Bishop asked me to conduct the meeting today” and at this point I’m thinking they should just choose new guy to be bishop with how infrequently the actual bishop is there!

But genuinely. I’d almost rather die than talk to this man. He’s really creepy. He keeps trying to pry into my sex life for some reason (I don’t have one but he doesn’t seem to believe me?) and he always tells me I need to get married, and also that I need to bring my abusive parents back into my life (who I cut out for a reason, the reason I explicitly told him!!). I know that in order to officially leave I’ll HAVE to tell him but that’s a good chunk of why I haven’t.

My fear is I’ll meet with him and he’ll ask me if I have doubts or whatever and I’ll finally stop lying and say yes and then he’ll go into full “save the sinner” mode and send a bunch of people after me to get me to stay. I don’t want that to happen. I want to leave quietly and on my own terms.

I don’t know what to do. I feel like talking to the bishop is a trap. I don’t want to lose the only friends/closest thing to a family I have by leaving (they have exmo friends though and said they’ll love me no matter what and I’m really trying to believe them). I feel like no matter what I do, I lose. Does anyone have any advice? How do I navigate the Mormon intervention I’m pretty sure I’m walking into? Can someone just tell me it’s all going to be okay? I never would’ve joined this church if I knew leaving would be this hard oh my god.

Hi!

As a medieval studies student and after finishing Ken Follett’s the Pillars of The Earth (can’t recommend enough) I was itching to play another monk game! I did some cursory searching and this game came up a lot!

After reading the description of the game and some reviews, I decided I want to play it.

Only one question though,

For those of you who have played the game, would you say the experience is better on PC or Switch? The price is currently the same on both platforms so I really don’t know what to pick. I assume the graphics will be better on PC (my graphics card exceeds the min required specs as does everything else, I checked).

I like PC for graphics and ease of screenshot/recording, but I like the switch for portability.

So what are your thoughts?

I saw this video on Instagram claiming that after the age of 25 your larynx stops being flexible, and thus (OP mentions this explicitly in the comments but not directly in the video) after this flexibility is lost testosterone is no longer as effective at deepening the voice.

Essentially, according to this person, if you take testosterone after ~25 it won’t be as effective as if you had taken it before then.

This is causing me a lot of distress. I begged and begged my parents from age sixteen onwards to please just sign the consent form to let me get testosterone. They said no and that I would “regret it for the rest of your life if you do this.” When I turned 18 I tried to pursue transition on my own, but my insurance (at the time, kaiser, if you know you know) wasn’t letting me get on it. I tried through planned parenthood and they ALSO refused me. They said my insurance was “too difficult to work with” and turned me away, which is insane because why else do you think I’m coming to you?? Now that I’m living on my own I can’t afford testosterone. I can’t pay the hundred some odd prescription cost plus at least $60 per visit (yes they really charge me $60 every time I even just sign in to the doctor’s office) given that you have to get SO MANY checkups when you take this.

I don’t know when I might be able to afford testosterone and all the things you have to budget for with it, but now I feel like if I don’t get it done right now (I’m almost 22) it will all just be pointless. My dad always said I would never pass and maybe he’s right. My voice seems to be the main thing that keeps me from passing, and if I can’t fix it because I’m broke then what even is the point? People are always telling me it doesn’t matter if you pass but like… I want to be a teacher. If I’m visibly trans they won’t hire me. They’ll say it’s something else but they won’t hire you to be a teacher if you’re visibly trans unless you get super super lucky. So for me this is really important.

I don’t know sorry for the mini rant I’m just really upset about it.

My sim is flirting with her son's ex wife which I guess is technically not family but also ew? Is this a bug? Is there a way to make it stop? She did this autonomously.

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As a kid (I’m talking like 6-10 years old) Neelix was my favorite character. Upon rewatching as an adult (21) I can no longer say that 😬

As I’m sure everyone points out to no end, he’s in a romantic relationship with a two year old, who even accounting for the lifespan difference, is far too young for him. We watch her turn two ON VOYAGER (S2 E6) and she’s barely a young woman then, so in all likelihood unless they met like a month before the show begins she was almost certainly a literal child when they met.

Because this is never addressed within the show itself I just assumed that it was a fact of the times and we are not supposed to dislike Neelix for it.

However,

Throughout various episodes, we see Neelix become incredibly jealous of Tom Paris and just about any male to be honest even just TALKING to Kes. Unlike the weird pedophilia, this IS directly addressed. Kes pushes back on it multiple times, and Neelix even comes to Chakotay asking about his behavior (Chakotay gives a weird non answer and basically tells him it’s totally fine, which is insane to me and makes me think maybe the writers don’t even see this as a bad thing??)

But given how often it’s brought up, do you think that Neelix’s jealousy was intended to make him unlikeable, or were the writers just trying to portray a flawed, but ultimately likeable, character?

Like I mentioned in my first post, I decided to make what I think under this system is referred to as “FPJ” but I found a lot of conflicting information on the process online so I wasn’t entirely sure what to do.

Nine days ago I put together kitchen scraps (one orange, a bunch of bananas I had in my freezer for a long time, and some very wilted spinach) and plenty of water in a gallon jug. Then I closed the lid and left it alone for a few days. Then I looked at it and it looked ready to explode, and per advice on this subreddit, took the lid off for a few hours to let all the carbon dioxide out. Since then I’ve been letting it air out for an hour or two every day.

Today I decided to”it’s probably been long enough to use at least some of this” and started straining the liquid out.

However!

I noticed it did smell somewhat like alcohol, although part of that could be the orange, as I’m not good at differentiating smells. One of the blogs I read about how to do this said that was a good thing, but I’m hesitant.

Isn’t alcohol bad for plants? Various sources I’ve found online have said you’re supposed to wait anywhere from 7 days to a year before straining and using it, but doesn’t fermenting that long create alcohol?

At this point it has become very clear to me that I have no idea what I’m doing 😅

My goal was to make nutrients in liquid form for my houseplants, not prison hooch lol.

Any input welcome. If it’s not suitable for plant consumption let me know and I’ll throw it out. _I’m_ certainly not drinking it. It’s still quite green in colour if that matters.

Sorry if this is a dumb question, but I’m rewatching voyager for the .. god I don’t know, probably sixteenth time, and I noticed in S1E5, ensign Kim says “wow I’ve never seen anything like it!” And Tuvok quietly tells him via comm badge that “that is a comment we we would prefer not to hear from a senior officer, it makes the junior officers nervous”

He also comes to all the senior staff meetings for the bridge crew.

But he’s an ensign. He even says in the first episode that this is his very first assignment out of the academy!!

So… how is he a senior officer if he is literally on his first ever assignment and still an ensign?

If the distinction between senior and junior officer is not rank, then what is it?

Ensign Kim is my second favorite character on this show, I don’t know how I never wondered about this before.

Would love your guys’ input!

So obviously being sick in and of itself sucks. Not what I’m asking here.

I am actively sick right now so if this isn’t super coherent forgive me please 😭

For me, every time I get sick, especially since my parents officially disowned me (long story, they basically went “you can’t fire me, I quit!”), I just feel horrifically alone. I cry a lot because of it.

My parents never really took care of me when I was sick to begin with. Usually they would tell me to take medicine and suck it up and send me to school anyway.

But one time, when I was maybe 7 or 8, I got the flu for the first time. I was throwing up a lot. My mom had me camped out in the loft on our futon couch, watching the MASSIVE box TV they’d probably had since 1999 and just refused to get rid of for some reason. She fed me saltine crackers and half flat 7up in tiny doses so I wouldn’t throw them up. She made me vanilla yogurt with Splenda in it so I could actually taste it. She petted my hair and rubbed my forehead and she sang to me while I watched Go Diego Go and Wild Kratts.

I know this sounds pitiful and ridiculous but it’s the most cherished memory I have.

When I was really little she used to sing me “you are my sunshine” and the one with the gifts that get increasingly absurd as you go on (I think she only knew the first few verses because it was slightly different every time), the only verse I vaguely remember off the top of my head was “momma’s gonna buy you a diamond ring, and if that diamond ring don’t shine, momma’s gonna buy you [something else that rhymes]” if any of you are familiar. Anyway, I can’t hear those songs without breaking down into tears now, even when I sing them (people always told me I sound like my mom so that probably doesn’t help).

The problem though is that every time I got sick after that I would hope and pray that I would get this version of my mother again and it never happened. She went back to being annoyed every time I was sick and telling me to deal with it myself.

Now when I get sick I just cry and cry and cry. I’m the sickest I’ve been in a long time right now. It’s awful. I just want to be taken care of, but I live alone and there’s no way I could ask my friends to take care of me and risk catching whatever I have. And it’s almost finals week and my professors are being kinda awful about me being out and I’m freaking out because I have a ten page paper due next week that I haven’t even started because I’ve been sick since Friday. I’m sure the lack of sleep isn’t helping either.

I just wish I could call my mom, but the worst part is I know she won’t care. I had bronchitis a couple years ago and when I begged her to take me to urgent care she said she was “too busy” and it was “just a cold” even though I told her I thought I was dying — a friend from school ended up taking me and the doctors gave me a really intense antibiotic course and told me if I didn’t go to the doctor it never would’ve gone away and only would’ve gotten worse.

And thinking about it, where was my dad in all this? He lived with us but I basically never saw him. He never took care of me once when I was sick. I think he only took me to maybe two doctors appointments and he had to call my mom for everything because he didn’t know any of the answers (neither did I on account of being like 12).

It just really sucks because I spent so long thinking she was the “good” parent and that she loved me, but now I’m realizing that people who had loving parents don’t have exactly one memory of their parent loving them and spend the rest of their life trying to recreate it.

Probably doesn’t help that I’ve been being slowly ghosted by a guy who told me “communication is the most important thing to me in a relationship” for 8 months. He promised he wouldn’t do that and he did it anyway. It’s funny because abandonment is his biggest fear too, so we both promised never to abandon each other unless we absolutely had to and I kept my end of the bargain and he didn’t. Yay. And I thought I was gonna marry this guy! Lmao!!

I just wish someone would take care of me. I’m in so much pain and I can’t get any sleep and everything hurts and I can’t breathe and I just want someone to take care of me. But I’m 21 now and I can’t just expect people to care. Have to do it myself.