u/Erigey

My dad had to have his leg amputated in 2021 because the doctors around us completely neglected his wound and kept telling him it looked great despite it progressing and hurting more each visit. It started off as a really treatable wound and despite being in care and having doctors coming and going, no one, except for a girl who literally saved his life (we were told if we waited a day more he would have died), said anything was wrong with it.

We called the ambulance and he's going to the hospital, but I absolutely need advice to know what signs can't be ignored. I don't want to send pictures for his privacy but his toe is looking purple and the wound is clearly not healed. It started today, and we don't know what to expect since we don't believe we can trust the doctors blindly with this since they literally made a mild wound transform into a fully blown amputation.

I'm going through the process of getting an autism diagnosis, too, so I have a horrible time trying to stand up for myself and this is obviously very anxiety fueling.

I'm not sure what I'm specifically looking for but I just want to assure they don't do the same again. My dad couldn't handle another amputation because of malpractice.

Just in case, my dad has diabetes and smokes and we're not sure exactly when he got this wound but it was today. He also has charcot marie-tooth which can numb him to pain.

Sorry if this post is really incoherent, I just really need to get info anywhere to make sure last time doesn't repeat itself. At this point I'm not even sure if we should insist he gets his toe amputated straight up since it doesn't look good.

I've had a Nintendo Switch Lite since 2020 but I grew up pretty depressed and I didn't give it much play, I literally just have 4 games as of now with none I actually really enjoyed since I felt bad spending more money on games after picking the wrong ones.

It's now starting to slightly malfunction (it's getting some kind of drift) and I was considering upgrading since I frankly regretted getting it instead of a regular Switch since it can't be plugged to a tv, but I didn't want to ask for more.

I've seen really fair prices for the OLED model in videogame stores and I was thinking I could get one. I was interested in one for 230€ with a 5 year warranty, which seems pretty good to me.

The issue is I've talked to two people (yeah, massive amount of people, I know /s) about this and they told me to get the Nintendo Switch 2, but I'm from a lower middle class family and I just couldn't justify that purchase right now, especially since there aren't even any exclusives I'm interested in as of now.

People just recommend me to wait but I feel like I'll deeply regret waiting for the Nintendo Switch 2 to have better prices, especially because I've always been happy being a generation or more behind (I literally only had a Wii as a kid up until 2017 and had an amazing time, and then I got a 2DS months before the Switch released and I still treasure it).

I'm not sure if getting an OLED would be such a bad option nowadays. I see people online getting a new one about every day but I'm always scared I'll regret my choices with money, even though my family is doing better than ever financially.

Buenas,

He subido los tickets de todas las compras que he hecho con el Bono Cultural y bajo ellas sale que están confirmadas, pero aun así me llegan notificaciones de vez en cuando de que recuerde subir mis tickets.

He revisado varias veces y nada está fuera de lugar, así que supongo que es solo un recordatorio automático para todo el mundo, pero aun así me da un poco de nervios porque sé que hay multas si no se suben los tickets, así que quería ver si alguien me lo confirmaba.

Gracias!

Hará unos 2 meses mi padre me compró una tarjeta regalo de una plataforma que parecía venir defectuosa, porque cuando se nos enviaban gmails con el código no salía el código y se nos dijo que se nos haría un reembolso tras un plazo de unos 15 días.

Después de más de 6 llamadas pidiendo que se nos dé ese dinero no se ha solucionado absolutamente nada, ya que nos decían que debíamos esperar cada vez que llamábamos, asegurándonos que sería devuelto en poco.

No sé qué pasos deberíamos tomar para que se nos devuelva ese dinero. Pensé en pedir una hoja de reclamación, pero la verdad es que no comprendo del todo cómo funcionan esos temas. Esa suscripción era de casi 60 euros y es vergonzoso que una empresa tan grande sea tan poco profesional.

I recently went to a professional specialized in autism for the first time, and it frankly went well and it seems she thinks it's highly likely I might have autism and she even offered me a discount for an assessment because she saw I was deeply struggling.

This is great, but I had been going to psychiatric care (not hospitalization) from the age of 12 to 18 and in that place I was treated like a subhuman. I was medicated for bipolarity without me nor my dad's knowledge and just from a single interaction with a doctor who I had seen once. I did have a doctor question if I had autism there but she left the facility after just one session and it went nowhere.

This isn't just me, my country's public mental health services are known to be hell, especially for neurodivergent people, and I've even heard stories of people diagnosed with autism (especially those assigned female at birth) being told there that their diagnosis is wrong in under 20 minutes and giving them psychotic meds without disclosing what they were for.

When I was there I always complained about my meds not working and everything being worse each time I went there. They just gave me higher doses to the point where, when I was 17, when I went to a friend's house for the weekend, his mom (who is a doctor) was genuinely scared by how much medication I had to take and how strong it was. Thing is, it never worked and my life kept going downhill and my skills regressed even more each time.

I watched my childhood being wasted while desperately asking for help while I was drowning and they just didn't care enough to consider any other possibilities and now I feel like I'm deeply traumatized by it to the point I keep second guessing myself and who I am and even if I ever had any real issues with communication because of how much my experiences have been denied and shoved under the rug during my life.

I just feel like if I don't get the help I need right now it might genuinely be over for me. Plus I've gone through a really shitty time as a kid outside of that which made all my existing issues so much worse.

I just don't know how to handle these feelings and I can't help but anticipate the worst because I feel like if I come out of there being told I'm normal and to just work harder like I always have been told despite literally needing teachers to show me how to make friends as a kid because I didn't understand social norms (on top of many many many other things), I genuinely won't be able to recover from it.

Yesterday I went to a doctor specialized in autism for the first time after 6 years now of being misunderstood by professionals, and even having some kind of weird ABA therapy going on at school despite them denying the possibility of me being different and weaponizing it against me.

It went great and the psychologist seemed to think it was pretty clear something was going on even though, of course, she couldn't say something conclusive because this was only the first session (and, of course, I didn't have the chance to share a lot of my symptoms, it was mostly trauma-sharing to be honest). She told me that she didn't want to get ahead of herself but that society had a hard time accepting people whose brains are wired differently and are under the neurodivergent umbrella.

Now, I have had loads of traumatic experiences unrelated to a possible autism. I grew up with a weird family dynamic, and, after developing depression at 12 because I didn't have any friends and the only accommodations I had were taken away from me, my dad lost his leg when I was 13 to medical negligence and my mom died of cancer at 14, all while already having a horrible highschool experience because of my symptoms that limited my abilities to do about anything. Of course, I had to take care of lots of responsibilities when I was already struggling with the ones I actually had to hold, so it made things so much worse.

I am very very sure these symptoms didn't appear because of my background, and I can tell that if I healed, I wouldn't be able to socialize any better and, at most, I would be capable of performing better with the right techniques and in the right environment. Social interaction is incredibly puzzly to me and, if anything, I gave an even worse impression when I was a little kid fully confident on my abilities to talk to people.

I would like to know if my trauma could be an impediment to my diagnosis, because, while I know that most ''functional'' autistic people have a lot of emotional baggage, I also went through a lot of things most people my age don't experience, and since I've had so many dismissy and hard experiences as a kid trying to advocate for myself, I'd like to see what everybody thinks.

Hi!

I was wondering if there's any domain that can be used to be updated on the meta since I virtually have no idea which cookies are worth leveling up. Plus, from what I heard, the meta is super fast changing in Ovenbreak and it's hard to stay updated.

I turned 18 this past july and before that I always thought I wanted to be an adult because I had an absolutely horrible childhood.

My parents called me useless and blamed me for everything by 4 years old, I spent 11 full years in the same school where I was bullied and excluded by everybody and my parents never even tried changing me schools, and I was diagnosed with depression by 12.

To add to the injury, when I was 13 my dad's leg was amputated and at 14 my mom died from cancer, so by the time I became a teenager all the responsabilities around the house laid on me and instead of spending time with friends I spent it buying groceries, doing paperwork and telling my dad to not kill himself.

Even now, most of the people my age don't have any major responsibilities other than going to school and I wish it was the same for me.

When people talked to me about strugging with not wanting to grow up or wanting to go back to their childhood I never understood, because I thought I'd never want to go back.

Now I keep thinking I wasted my childhood even though I know there was physically no way I could have had a happy childhood. I wasn't like those kids who realized later in life they had made up a lot of issues because of their insecurities, I legitimately had horrible things outside of my control happening to me every single year no matter how much I tried to be happy.

I just strumbled upon a video I loved when I was like 9 and I couldn't stop crying because I didn't want time to keep passing and I have no idea what to do with this feeling, especially because I keep having more and more responsibilities and no one will help.

Hace un mes recibí una carta certificada que decía que debía pagar deudas de mi madre que falleció en 2022. Ni siquiera mi padre entendía por qué y ponía que era un importe de unos 400 euros. Llevamos la carta a una gestoría para ver si podían solucionarlo.

Un mes después nos llega otra con intereses porque resulta que la graciosa de la gestoría no hizo absolutamente nada y cuando mi padre le preguntó le dijo que ella no podía arreglar eso.

Llamamos al número que salía en la carta para recibir información, preguntando por la razón de esa cantidad y parecía que ni el chico sabía por qué era aunque fuera su trabajo informarnos.

Primero dijo que era de una declaración de la renta que no se hizo, cuando eso es mentira porque hizo la última antes de morir. Luego después de una conversación mi padre le dijo que si es solo el hecho de ser sucesor de esa persona lo que hace que tengas que pagar y le dijo que sí, que era eso.

El colmo es que mi padre me dijo que a mi madre le correspondía una devolución de 2800€ por la declaración de la renta pero no la admitieron porque murió, pero claro, para eso resulta que no soy sucesor.

¿Alguien sabe a qué se podría deber esta deuda? Obviamente, no es algo de cuando estaba viva, y el chico que nos atendió no aclaró nada. También, si es posible, me gustaría saber si hay una manera de evitar pagar ese dinero, ya estoy planeando hacer una cita presencial a ver si de esa manera consigo algo.

TL;DR: Quiero saber si tengo que esperar 2 años después de mi anterior solicitud de grado de discapacidad para poder volver a enviar una nueva solicitud pasado el plazo de 30 días de reevaluación.

Buenas,

Recientemente recibí mi certificado de grado de discapacidad y no estoy conforme con el resultado, pues solo se me ha otorgado un 10% y realmente necesito de forma urgente acomodaciones en mi día a día para poder vivir con relativa normalidad, ya que ni siquiera soy capaz de hacer con frecuencia actividades cotidianas y realmente quería poder acceder a una plaza de discapacidad a la hora de estudiar.

En el papel oficial ponía que tenía 30 días para mandar una nueva solicitud si estaba en desacuerdo, pero eso era una tarea imposible para mí en ese momento. Actualmente estoy en una lista de espera para ir a un psicólogo y tuve que dejar recientemente la seguridad social porque me estaban tratando de una manera infrahumana, sin mencionar que estoy intentando conseguir un diagnóstico de una condición de salud mental y, también tendría que consultar con mi médico de cabecera para hacer el proceso.

Tengo 18 y no tengo ningún apoyo más que el de mi padre que tiene un 71% de discapacidad y al que tengo que cuidar yo. Esto ya es un papeleo difícil de gestionar por un adolescente de 18 años normal, así que siendo que me cuesta solo darme un ducha o salir a la calle no tenía manera de reclamar y conseguir nuevos documentos que pudieran darme más oportunidades.

Hoy mismo me puse a leer el documento más detalladamente y, si no he entendido mal, pone que 2 años después de la emisión de este documento tendré derecho a hacer una segunda solicitud pasados esos 30 días.

¿Eso significa que voy a tener que esperar 2 años para tener una segunda oportunidad en ser evaluado? Espero que no sea así porque he llegado a un punto en el que soy incapaz de hacer prácticamente nada y he tenido que dejar la escuela porque era tanto esfuerzo mental para mí que tuve que sacrificar comer, dormir y mi higiene personal a cambio de estudiar porque el momento en el que dejaba a mi mente descansar un solo minuto caía rendido y acababa faltando a la escuela o fallando en entregar proyectos. Apenas hace 3 días he podido empezar a dormir un poco bien, después de ya 2 años seguidos de imsomnio que ni siquiera las pastillas solucionaba.

Incluso fuera de eso, por culpa de mis problemas mentales soy una víctima muy fácil frente al acoso porque soy incapaz de reaccionar a tiempo para pararlo, al punto en el que tuve un profesor que me acosó a un nivel en el que todavía sigo teniendo pesadillas y llorando cada vez que un adulto me corrige algo por miedo. Las escuelas no hacen nada aunque les pida ayuda y niegan mi situación, así que estando en esta situación estoy viendo mi futuro muy negro porque parece que todos mis esfuerzos son en vano y al final acaban empeorando la situación.