u/Even_Kaleidoscope399

This could just be my fan brain, but I think that Lost Weekend has the potential for an AOTY nomination, perhaps a win. Anyone else think so? What are your thoughts about what categories it may be nominated for or win? So far, it's had universal critical acclaim and user reviews are high. It has a star-studded list of collaborators, including Jack Antonoff on the production team. Phoebe and her team are really acing the album rollout ahead of her tour which runs Sept through Dec, and it's her first album in 6 years outside of boygenius. She's released two music videos and I feel a third coming in the next several months. the record from boygenius won a few Grammys...I really do feel like Phoebe has a place in the conversation for something and I think, at the very least, it's late eligibility period release shakes some things up.

Seeing if any other parents in this sub are teaching their babies to sign! What signs are you teaching? What’s working? Share your success stories here! Or your challenges. I want to hear from you about how it’s going. Any D/deaf or hard of hearing parents teaching your children? Any hearing parents teaching a D/deaf or hard of hearing child?

I’ll go first, my baby is 5 months old and we’ve been teaching/modeling 4 different signs to him since he was about 8 weeks old.

Change - for every diaper change; tells him we’re going to/are changing him.

Dirty - alongside “change”, we ask him if he has a full diaper.

Clean - to tell him after a change that he is clean and we are all done.

Eat - ahead of each feeding session, both for breastfeeding and when he takes a bottle.

Car - to tell him when we’re going to the car/going on a ride, each time he’s in his carseat

Right now, he’s proficient in “change”. He signs when he’s about to poop (that’s sorta right, buddy, I guess…) and signs when he is being changed. What’s odd is that he’s obsessed with that hand motion now, and signs randomly sometimes, too. We try and at least check his diaper each time he signs, though, and then tell him he’s “clean” if it doesn’t need changed.

I have a slacker boob (sb) that hasn't caught up with big plentiful boob (BPB) despite my attempts to fix. I know how it happened, I fed on sb less often in the beginning, so duh. It has an inverted nipple and is about two cup sizes smaller, so it was more difficult for my baby in a few ways. Now, I'm ginormously uneven both in size and output. I do try and latch my baby (5mo, only eating breastmilk) more often on that side, now. And when I'm away from him, I pump on both sides. And I try to pump sb when I feed on the BPB. I pump past empty from sb. I drink lots of water. Due to our sleeping arrangement, he only feeds on BFB all night long because it's big enough to side-lie nurse and the other isn't.

Good news: My baby is getting enough to eat at each feed and growing beautifully. And, I'm producing just a handful of ounces more than what he needs with his nanny three days a week, and freezing leftovers. I've also never had any issues with engorgement, mastitis, or clogs. No bleeding or painful nipples. I've truly been grateful and blessed that breastfeeding has otherwise gone well for us.

Bad news: I'm feeling a bit anxious about not having enough frozen for more than two days. Ideally, I'd like a week of milk saved up. That's my goal. BPB gives about 5-6oz each pump when I'm away from baby and sb gives 5oz in the morning, 1oz or less every other pump. I know I don't need (or even want, really) a giant stash of milk I won't even use, but I would like some level of oversupply from both sides. If I could just get a couple more ounces from sb, I'd be happy.

Basically, I'm uneven. And not only am I nervous about producing slightly more than enough, I'm also really self conscious about how it looks. It is VERY obvious in everything I wear that I'm several sizes different between sb and BPB.

So....tips? Anything I can do/take to boost production and get sb back on track? Or is it hopeless and it will never catch up? Could it be that it was a smaller boob before anyways? I plan to nurse my baby until he wants to stop.

Any advice wanted, TIA.

I'm a new mom to a now 5 month old who is EBF, so maybe I just don't understand yet. But even with all the resources I see for night weaning (which I am far off from, I'm just exposed to a lot of advice and tips on social media) I haven't seen anyone give a reason. It seems difficult and stressful for all involved. I read mom's stories about how hard it was to night wean. I guess what I'm asking is why people decide to night wean. Much like sleeping independently (personal opinion/philosophy here) won't kiddos just figure it out on their own, in their own time?

I'm finding many hows and whens but not any whys and I'm really looking for clarity.

So, why night wean? Is it to get more sleep? Is it to gain more autonomy overnight? Is there a different health benefit for baby or mom? Is it just an expectation? Is it common around the world to night wean?

Any experiences or answers appreciated.

Just what the title says. I’m proud of myself for seeing my baby was hungry and immediately feeding him right then and there. No one looked at me strangely, I didn’t have a nursing cover, and I got to continue eating my food. Truly had a family meal!

I’ve been getting more and more comfortable nursing in public, and this was a breakthrough moment. My baby did great in the distracting environment, too.

I do think it’s hilarious, the whole phrase “I nursed my baby in a Texas Roadhouse” it almost sounds like a t-shirt slogan.

Where is the funniest place you’ve nursed your baby in public? What would you put on a t-shirt?

Firstly, I do NOT mean this in a “haha look how well I’m doing” way. If your experience is different than mine, thats okay, and neither one of us is wrong for our experiences.

Now that’s out of the way…. does anyone else who bedshares successfully feel guilty or out of place when other parents talk about how terrible their sleep has been? I’m getting extremely good sleep with my LO and have been for months. I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop (maybe it has, since he’s a terrible napper during the day. Gets maybe 2-4 hours of naps a day) but it’s just not dropping. Before we coslept, he woke up every hour. Now, even when he eats at night, he is fully asleep for the entire night.

I know his sleep at night might change, but so far, bedsharing him makes even his rare crying wake ups better. We’re clocking 10-11 hours a night. I don’t even know how many times he eats, really.

Does anyone else feel out of place or guilty about how good you have it, if you do? And even more, is there anyone

Good morning or afternoon, depending on where you are :) My baby (4.5 mo) is teething and overnight I can suddenly see the impressions of his front bottom two teeth through his gums. So exciting!

Wondering what I should expect to change about breastfeeding when baby sprouts his first teeth. Will his latch change significantly? What have you noticed changed, if anything, with your baby’s first teeth?

I’m 27 now and I grew up here. I remember when I was in early school years, THE coolest places to have a birthday party (if your parents could afford it) were Skate Zone 71 and Magic Mountain. Do kids still have birthdays at either of these places? What’s the new cool kid place to have a birthday party? Are they even operational at this point?

Where do kids that age go to have fun????

I (F26) have to pump while I am at work and still directly breastfeed my son when we are home and overnight. I work in an office space at my job with one other person who happens to be a guy (M32). My boss (F50) asked me to make sure he is "comfortable" with me pumping at my desk with my wearable pumps, and seemed to frown upon my not walking to a lactation space. The key detail here is that getting to a lactation space requires me to leave the building and walk 0.25 mile to another building on site and hope there is a vacancy. I decided to just pump at my desk since it's discreet and very quiet. I'm never exposed to my colleague. I explained this and she still seemed adamant that he be comfortable with someone expressing breastmilk in his office. I was made to feel as though I was doing something shameful or like it was sexual.

Am I totally insane or can she even ask me to do this? Would she ask this about someone using another type of medical device? Does the PUMP act cover this type of request?

She has three sons and seems to have some gendered bias. Thoughts? Answers? TIA.

And this policy seems to work really well in my neighborhood. Not everyone is that considerate, though. If you're walking your dog on the sidewalk, you should always pull to the side into the grass or other side area and wait for the person to pass before walking on. Honestly, I feel like this is in your best interest since it gives you more control over if someone reaches to pet your dog without permission. It think it's very rude to walk directly next to someone on the sidewalk with your dog, and you should wait until they pass.

Obviously this does not include yielding to cyclists riding on sidewalks. In that case, they should stop and move for everyone else. This also doesn't include non-standard sidewalks or walkways. Mixed-use trails are usually wide enough for everyone. But in the case where they aren't, same rule applies.

Same rule applies for public spaces like grocery stores (stop bringing your dog in there), parks, and other places. Always yield when you have an animal, leashed or unleashed.

Edit: Second hot take in response to some replies. My take is based in the pro-social understanding that humans are more valuable than animals. If you disgree, you’re definitely not going to agree with this.

Realizing I didn't clarify something. I'm talking about "right of way". This wouldn't apply if there were room for everyone....which is what I said above about mixed use and non-standard sidewalks.

How are you dressing your infants for cosleeping/bedsharing? I’m laying here about to go to sleep with my 4 month old and, for a few messy reasons, all of his sleep sacks are dirty. He’s in a romper and his skin temp feels great right now. We’re in a heat wave, it’s been about 74-75F in our bedroom every night and we use a fan to circulate air. All that to say…I feel like a romper/onesie is fine if it’s this warm PLUS he’s in a cuddle curl with my body heat.

Does anyone know of any resources for how to dress a baby for bedsharing? All the resources assume the baby is by themself.

Do you think it’s probably fine to sleep with him just in a romper? Better or worse than letting him wear a sleep sack with dried pee?

We’re a young couple who very quickly decided that an in-home daycare situation was not right for our son (3.5 mo). I want to hire a nanny, but don’t know the first things to do. From your professional perspective, what are the first three logistical things a parent should do before hiring a nanny, not including the search?

All the sudden, after bedsharing for weeks and getting such good sleep with my big boy (just over 3 months). We were barely waking, he was eating twice a night, getting 9 hours. But now he’s taken a nosedive with needing to latch on and off all night. And its not to eat, it doesn’t even feel like confort nursing. He pops on and off for an hour at a time, every two hours. He’ll do the thing where he turns his whole head back and forth and latches for a few seconds then pulls off. And the cycle continues.

I’ve tried swapping for a paci or a clean pinky, to no avail. I just have to wait until he falls back fully asleep and unlatches until the next hour where he’ll do it again. Because of the way my nipple lies next to his mouth, I have to guide him to my nipple to latch each time. If I try and hide it or pull it away, he just looks for it furiously in the dark.

I don’t believe in restricting him in any way; this seems to be what he needs from me right now. I just wonder if anyone else had something similar happen around this time. My nipple on the side I feed from at night is beginning to hurt, and we haven’t had any feeding issues or nipple pain this whole time.

The only thing that’s changed during his day is that he’s learning to roll and his grasping is getting better. He also started daycare. It also seems like he’s an early teether, showing all the signs of teething. Help!!! Any way I can fix this? How long might it last?

looooooooost boyyyyys is my jam. i’m sick of people with other opinions. i’m obnoxiously positive about it. my favorite artist releasing another album i’m STOKED. fuck the haters, at least wait two business days to start telling me “oh well i actually hate it” ……….WELL OK!

edit: “you’re not accepting of others opinions” well yes that is what i said, get back to me in one more business day

I was like “no screen time at all including TV!” and then I found out how much my 3 month old likes the aquarium ocean videos with the score from Finding Nemo playing. Let’s just say that now my rule is no screen time EXCEPT aquarium TV. He’s obviously not sitting in front of it. He can’t sit!

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This is absolutely my worst week ever. It tops the early weeks of the newborn stage, easily. I cannot believe they make us do this. To keep my job, my health insurance, my savings for retirement, I must be separated from my baby 8 hours a day and pump for him multiple times per day. Pump for him in the ugliest most unaccommodating "lactation rooms" at my job, which are converted from old bathrooms. Being away from him is gutting. Not feeding him directly is gutting. I don't know if it's better or worse that he takes a bottle easily and seems to have no issue going back and forth.

This whole time I've felt upset about and almost jealous of the bottle. Now it's worse.

My baby is only 3 months old, I just can't believe this is my life now. Pumping at work is draining and high-stakes and feels impossible to do for as long as I want to. I've decided I want him to breastfeed as long as possible and with my supply I don't need to supplement, please don't suggest any changes to what he is eating or how.

Does anyone have any advice? Does this get better? Will the workplace eventually whip me into submission and will I start seeing this as normal? It feels so inhumane and raw right now.

Edit: No shit, right after I wrote and posted this, my sitter calls and says he’s not taking my pumped milk from yesterday. High lipase.

I don’t force my 3 month old to do anything at all. I wait for him to relax before putting his arms and legs into his clothes, diaper changes are exactly at his pace and comfort (no screaming diaper changes when you do this…go figure!) I don’t force him to eat or try and extend his time between eating. I don’t bend his angry body into his carseat against his muscles. I don’t push his pacifier in his mouth and make him take it. My family doesn’t get it and it makes me really terrified to leave him with them for a date night or for a few moments while I’m away in another room.

Early postpartum, I thought I was too empathetic toward my boy. I started choking up and panicking when my husband, who thought he was doing what he should do as a parent, would bounce the baby too hard or hold the pacifier in his mouth while he’s screaming or force his little legs into his pants. I broke down in tears often, pleading with my misunderstanding husband who felt that I was micromanaging. I realize now that I was never micromanaging and could never be too empathetic to my sweet baby. I was feeling deeply, connected to his experiences.

I can’t believe that my family members would see that as wrong. They’re already dropping hints that they think I should be sleep training, which I won’t be. They’re already commenting on my breastfeeding and how he’s not fed a bottle outside of daycare. I only see this getting worse..but I’ll hold my ground.

I just can’t believe that forcing babies to do something is the norm. But then again, much of the “traditional” U.S. model of parenting is all about making the child conform to parents needs and annoyances.

Just a rant. It makes me sad that there are people who want my boy to be hardened and grown up and left alone to cry.

And by this, I do NOT mean anything Phoebe or Taylor have done. What I do mean, though, is that some Phoebe fans are confusing the two. I know that Taylor Swift does these elaborate and highly detailed seek-and-find album releases where everything is a secret code and nothing is as it seems. I just don’t think that’s Phoebe. I keep seeing fan theories that sound like something Taylor Swift would do, not like something that Phoebe Bridgers would do. Not that Phoebe has never had easter eggs or surprises, but I think some of the fan theories are too intense. I won’t mention any specifically.

I’ve seen this happen in the fandom of other artists, too. Everything must be a secret code or easter egg or puzzle. I like Taylor, but that is uniquely HER thing and her fans project that onto other artists. Sometimes a spade is a spade. Sometimes it’s simple, good, and easy.

Edit: I should have been clearer. I’m referring to the “X must mean Y because she did it on Z date and at this time and because of the fifth word in her eight song…” etc