Ok I really like this guy since 2023 , we were in the same maths tuition. Initially it was just a crush , but as we shared reels , or texts , and as I got to know a bit about him , he is such a good person. 💕 He hates bjpee just like me 😎 , hates sexism , feminism is like normal for him ( as it should be ) , is not homophobic , is very secure in his masculinity 😍 . I really do like him a lot rn. But idk if he does. He has so many cool and hot female friends from college/school , meanwhile I’m the "before" in a glow-up video. Also I am a Neet dropper 💀 ( the re-exam fucked my chance of getting a college ) , meanwhile he is in THE BEST college of the city . I have a lot of insecurities with my face, body and academics . But I swear to work hard to not have any insecurities ( does not mean I will change for a guy) . But how tf will I know if he likes me? I tried to know if he has a gf , I just got to know that he has a girl bff from school , with whom he used to hang out for the most time. 💀 What to do guys? And no I cannot be straight about him cause no crush of mine have ever liked me back 😭 . So just what to do?

Sorry if its a long post.

so i have been friends with M since 5th standard. I have always felt like a back up. Other classmate used to play games , and she was ok if I was not included but I always wanted her to be included. In class 6-7th , we made a trio with another girl T . And she became M's bestie. i was always out of the talk/gossips cause I didnot have a boyfriend. Nowadays when I talk to her about the things she did which hurt me , like making T her bestie , making me a back up , etc - she says I am overthinking and its all in my head , and I ws her bff for always. Later in class 10th ( covid year ) , i saw insta chats of T and M talking about me behind my back , regarding me having crush on a guy . When I asked
M about it few months back - she said she was worried about me. Mind you it has been more than 5 years and she didnot bother to tell me , because apparently i was very stubborn in 10th.

M and T fell out of friendship because T became obsessive towards her bf. And then M and me became soul sisters again. But again I became a back up because of the friend group she made from her class. During our 12th class ka picnic , M felt left out in her group in the bus ( diff sections had diff buses ) , so after we reached the spot and she cried about it , I left my classmates to be with her only for her to left me when she felt included again.

After 12th , for these small small of her numerous toxic traits , I subtly cut her off (2023-2025 ) . I stopped talking too much or like being too involved with her life. But she was in college and she got better friends ig. After 1.5/2 yrs ( jun 2025) I made up mind to rekindle the best friendship cause we did keep texting each other quite a bit. It was fine . I told her how I felt like a last option to her , and she said ki I was overthinking and i was always the first choice for her. But when I asked why didn't she ask/ bother to ask or think why I was drifting away from her for the past 1.5 yrs , she said she has a problem with that , with communicating , etc.

But nowadays , again I feel like I am the second option.
Recently she did a prank on me , faking her break up and because I am too involved , i obviously felt so bad/sad about her , only for her to reveal it was a prank. To get back at her , I faked ki I finally went on a date with a crush of mine. It is a big deal for me cause no boy have ever showed interest in me ever , because I was/am so ugly & fat growing up. And none of my crush ever liked me back . So to prank I made an elaborate plan that me and my crush are going on a spiderman date. I wanted this prank to last for months but she was so interested. I ended it 3 days before , and she had no major reaction tbh. She said she did not think about it that much. And mind you I told her about the prank because for now 10 days we didnot talk properly , I said it because I wanted to have a conversation.

Also regarding her views on beauty. I have grown fat and ugly , casually fat shamed my everyone and even by her indirectly when we were young. She is skinny and has been skinny shamed by relatives , but she was the epitome of beauty/hot girl in school. She believes skinny shaming is same as fat shaming , i think they are both wrong but i dont think to be morally undermined that you are inferior cause your fat everyday by society is equal to not a kind of pretty to relatives ( who always find flaws in everything ). Now I know body dysmorphia exists , and I know M doesnot want to be skinny shamed , at times she looks at her bloated stomach and says in a disgusted way how fat she is. I am 3 times her size btw ( no i am not obese she is skinny , and i have pcod btw lol 💀 )
She tells she is really insecure of her body , and then ASK ME TO POST HER PICTURE IN MY INSTA STORY AND COMPLIMENT HER. I find this thing VERY weird. A close friend of mine who knows I do not even post my pictures on insta stories , knew she askes me to do it , and told she is very self-centred/self obsessed?

But the thing I cannot go to her when I feel down. What if she judges me. I have not talked to her properly for days. I have told her many times how I cannot do low maintenance friendship with my best friend . I know she is busy , she is in her last year of college , but still. But she didnot reach out to me. Most of the day I stare at my ceiling or what. I dont have any sense of time. Chat gtp says its depression , maybe it is because of my fucking pre-med exams. I am a failure tbh , who couldnot crack it after 3 attempts. But I can't share it with her , cause she won't get it. She does nt know what I go through tbh. My constant hate of my body and face , my academic downfall. I can talk to her about friends and shit , but idk whether to reach out to her regarding this.
Was I always a back up? Do I expect too much? Tbh i love M , but it feels like a toxic relationship tbh lol.

According to Bjp , he is . because this sub is very right leaning , I want to ask ya'all this question.

So I am a Bengali , currently in Bangalore for internship. I am not racist , I have ne/nepali friends , and I am well aware of the racism you all face in mainland india.
Now we have group of interns , it is kinda our last week for summer internship.
We were talking about feminism , misogyny , misandry , etc. But it soon turned into a debate because I believe a man is most likely to be raped by another man/woman than being falsely accused of rape . And tbh if you have the money , false accusations don't really ruin lives cause the victim is mostly blamed by the society.
Now a guy from Assam ig ( lets call him T ) . T started calling me names , and kinda insulting me. Like "feminists" like me will never find a man , I am from Kolkata so obviously I have had sex multiple times ( i have never held hands with a man ) .
And mind it , its like laughing , like as if he is joking , so I cannot even count it as verbal abuse cuase then people will say I can't take a joke? ( Today is my last day , I aint calling hr guys ).
Like he was ragebaiting ig , but those comments sounds so insulting . No one except his bros were laughing. Ik it could be a joke, but it was so insulting.
Now ,I replied " People like you is the reason this country is still unsafe for women CHINKI CHUTIYE . Open your small eyes and try to look at these issues with a different and bigger lens "
I know it was racist af , T called me a racist pig .
But those comments boiled my blood. But my friends said he deserved it.
Should I have stopped talking about it or said something not racist?

Edit- Ok guys ik i was wrong here because I was racist. ( askindianwomen declared i was equally wrong for context ). We will be having a small goodbye party tonight and by tomorrow evening all 9 of us will go back to our hometown and may never meet again ever. Should I apologise to him? Maybe I will , but what about the casual slut shaming he did? And I know he won't ever apologise to me cause he actually believes that men are tortured by the feminists and indian judiciary . I think it was my mistake to talk in between their alimony discussions. How to apologise for being racist but not for standing up for myself? I said ch*** ch***** cause both started with ch , i said it without thinking , i should not have.
and i know i have ne/nepali friends sounded so bad . I called her after this and she said he deserved it , but ig she was biased cause she was my friend.

Ekta jinis janar chilo ( nothing creepy

So I(21f) am friends with Amy(21f) for 3 years . We have been really close , used to share a lot with her. I could be myself with her tbh.
But things started started to change.
Around March this year , we went out to have a momo (dumplings) date , there two friends of our friends joined , John and Kevin ( both 21m ).
Now me , John and Amy hang out a lot , and I had a crush on Kevin when we were in 7th grade . I don't like him anymore, and he has a gf.
I am very insecure about my weight , I have been trying to lose it but pmos makes it harder.
Now while waiting for the food , John made fun of me that I became fat and asked Amy about it. Ik its a joke so I was laughing along. John does not know much about my insecurities.
But Amy knows how much I hate it , especially when I am having food. But she laughed and said , " Oh yeah she did become fat ." I let it go.
Then the guys asked to walk to some 3km far away park. I wanted to go home , but Amy insisted we join them. But Amy literally cancelled an elaborate which included us visiting places before the date cause she was tired.
This incident made me so mad at her that I stopped talking to her for weeks , but we sorted it out when she later apologised ( kinda just for the sake of it ) after I said what things she did hurt me.

The bigger fight happened , 2 weeks earlier -but it was regarding politics.
In our country , the youth were protesting in the capital city about the resignation of an education minister after a med entrance exam leak. A renowned scientist was on hunger strike because of it. Everyone was criticising the current government ( except the right wing supporters ).
Now , me and Amy never had any political conversation. But that day she posted an insta story about criticising the scientist's Hunger Strike and saying how childish the protest is . So I asked her why is she not supporting the protest ? She said the hunger strike was a mistake , dancing and singing are not a part of protest , the protest is anti-national etc etc. She criticised the max 2 month old youth movement more than she ever had criticised about the current fascist government. So after explaining to her how hunger strike is a peaceful form of protest , dancing singing were forever a part of protests across the world , and how the corrupt media is trying to paint the protest as anti-national. But she stuck to her points - the same points the right wing supporters were making. So I told her she sounds like one. And she goes that no she does not support the current government and neither support the protest too.

These kind of people , who refuse to take sides , annoys me. She said she is politically very sound unlike me. I think when you are politically sound you should take the right side.
The conversations broke off cause it was 3am , I did send her some reels which explains why the protest was necessary.
The next morning she sends me a homophobic reel and I call her out , and after that she did not reply. And we didnot talk since.
Btw the education minister did resign last week and I did post about it while calling her and all the right wingers in my contact list out.

But tbh , she is still my friend. And I truly do not want to ruin this so easily.
But was I wrong for calling her out? Should I stop being so stubborn and talk to her?

So my cousin who is 24m , claims that he got into Calcutta University Mcom , main campus . He said he scored around 9.4 cgpa or what in his bcom honours stream . now I have 0 knowledge ,but what I have heard from my friends ki its not easy to get that high of a gpa. He is from a tier 4 college , its not even rated B+ ( and no its not because of his financial condition ) .
I even checked the Mcom list this year , but could not find his name.
Is he faking it all?

Also Posted it on Calcutta university page.

So my cousin who is 24m , claims that he got into Calcutta University Mcom , main campus . He said he scored around 9.4 cgpa or what in his bcom honours stream . now I have 0 knowledge ,but what I have heard from my friends ki its not easy to get that high of a gpa. He is from a tier 4 college , its not even rated B+ ( and no its not because of his financial condition ) .
I even checked the Mcom list this year , but could not find his name.
Is he faking it all?

Also Posted it on Calcutta university page.

So my cousin who is 24m , claims that he got into Calcutta University Mcom , main campus . He said he scored around 9.4 cgpa or what in his bcom honours stream . now I have 0 knowledge ,but what I have heard from my friends ki its not easy to get that high of a gpa. He is from a tier 4 college , its not even rated B+ ( and no its not because of his financial condition ) .
I even checked the Mcom list this year , but could not find his name.
Is he faking it all?

So I prefer 2d over 3d karon amar mota chosma ache. But ekhono 2d r kono show nei. first day first show dekhte chai. Ami ki ta wait korbo na 3d er e ticket kete nebo?

So I prefer 2d over 3d karon amar mota chosma ache. But ekhono 2d r kono show nei. first day first show dekhte chai. Ami ki ta wait korbo na 3d er e ticket kete nebo?

I am 21F. I am not demeaning myself but I am kinda ugly. I do not have the looks , am chubby , short , dealing with pimples and facial hair because of my pcos/pmos. No boy have ever liked me , neither in school nor in college. I hate myself for how much I have put my self worth on whether someone has a crush on me or not. But it does hurt. My best friend even makes fun of me , its all a joke right? I have had several crushes on guys , but each of them didnot even try to look back at me. I know I have to learn to love myself. Tbh I love being alone for the most of the time. I do not hate being single . Neither am I desperate to date. But sometimes I just wish. To be with someone who gets me . No I do not have trust on dating apps. I want kinda a genuine friends to lovers shit .

Amar guradianig bari chole jabe cause 6hr thaka kinda like impossible
so ami ki maths exam er por 1hr e kichu khete parbo? like tar jonne taka niye jete parbo?
ar ami bag niye ki jete parbo? like rakhar kono byabostha thakbe?
amar seat bhowanipore girls school e pore6e