u/Glitterydarkone1290

Basically I hate it when a man is obsessed with me, and is eager to see me, clearly attracted to me vocalizes it often etc. Lovebombing? Idk. But it doesn’t work on me, it just irritates me. What do I do about this? I obviously want the bag. But I get very annoyed and can’t hide things that bothers me. Anyone else feel this way ? Spamming my phone, begging to see me/ call me etc. Like bruh

When you date these types of people, how do you stop getting annoyed/irritated? Pls no “think about the bag” because when I do, my brain’s comeback is “If I want money I can go get a job”

I personally prefer avoidant men 💀💀💀💀 They leave me alone.

UGHHH im trying to move on but it’s hardddd. it’s the only way i can move on. but nobody im meeting is doing it for me. i miss him so bad.
FUCK.

My ex and I have been broken up for nearly two years but he doesn’t understand the concept of break-ups. He thinks I’m doing this to make him work harder at getting to me, showing me love etc. He got a new number and called me immediately. I blocked him of course. Apple still shows me blocked voicemails and still relays calls if they’re using *67, even if they’re blocked. I turned silence unknown callers on and he still got through somehow.

I have always felt pity for him because he’s been through a lot, he does not have any friends, no family, his dad is abusive and a drunk who screams at him for their opposing beliefs or whatever. His mother’s side of the family cut him off because his father accused him of murdering his mother, so he lost contact with pretty much everyone in his life.
We were good friends before dating, and I still love him with that friendship aspect, but I will never want to be in a relationship with him ever again. I truly mean that. I thought it through, and he always convinced me I’m wrong— I definitely know that he isn’t the one. I’ve honestly known since we started dating.
And i’ve told him this many times. He doesn’t care.

My family and I were very good to him, but he treated us with disrespect. Spamming my parents with calls about me, about who I’m dating, if I’m at another man’s house etc. He would drive by my house to see if my car was there + go crazy when it wasn’t.
Still, my family was good to him. We tried to be the family he did not have. We included him in our lives and my mom even told him if he needed a mother, she’s there for him. She truly loved him like a son. My dad on the other hand hates him and would kill me if he knew I started talking to him again. Now anytime I reject my ex or fight with him, he threatens to call my dad and tell him we’ve been talking because he knows he can’t phase me, but if he gets to my dad I’ll be upset because I love my dad. Or he will threaten to take me to court over my cat because “his name are on the papers” but she’s lived with me and my family since she was a kitten. So idk.

I don’t blame him for still having feelings, or taking this rather difficultly, but I’ve moved on. I’ve had a few relationships since the break up, and am currently in love with someone else, although we aren’t together. That being said, anytime I interact with my ex I get angry because he isn’t the person I’m in love with. My ex thinks I still want to be with him, like we have a chance in the future etc.
He doesn’t work, he lost his job (that I got for him) over misconduct (it wasn’t sexual harassment or anything more leaning towards conflict of interest) with the female employees there, I left him over it. I was kind enough to break up with him but he still thinks we’re together. I don’t know what to do. I tried going no contact and months will go by and he will still think we’re in an active relationship. He will harass my family, make new phone numbers text now etc. I truly just feel bad for him but I’m getting to the point where even being in the same room as him makes me actually feel like a demonic entity possessed me because of how ANGRY and SHITTY i will feel. he talks NONSTOP about NOTHING. i don’t know what to do. im not even nice to him. anytime we talk now i’m just rude, i make passive comments about his unemployment, how he’s a loser, how i hate that he thinks hes gonna get rich quick, its so fucking annoying. he’s the reason why i haven’t graduated college yet, i dropped out because of his incident at work and I had to move, and it honestly triggered a manic episode. I would have been graduated by next year had I not began dating him.
I didn’t love him at the time I honestly found new relationships pretty quickly because I was over him, but out of respect I didn’t date during the relationship.

Now he spams me with “what are you doing” and calls and “are you there” and “when will I see you again” every single fucking day. I invited him to church with me and when that was over he calls me immediately like wtf????? I had lunch with him once and he calls me right after I got home to just sit on facetime because he misses me. I personally lost all interest in him and I feel bad because he’s probably just lonely but I cannot be his blanket for the rest of my life. I tried getting a restraining order but they of course fucking rejected it. I’m trying to be merciful because I’m a devout Catholic/Christian and I’m trying to get him at the most, to come back to church again. I forgive him and can totally move on but it does not mean I want to date him. Just because I’m nice to him does not mean we’re back together etc. I have told him this MANY times in MANY ways. he doesn’t care. he will just threaten to piss my dad off and i honestly tried crying out to God to remove him from my life but he won’t leave.

Four years ago my ex and I adopted two kittens. His dad is abusive so a few weeks after getting them, they came to stay at my parents house, where my family & I raised them. But paperwork is in my exes name since we initially assumed they’d be living at his house. We were living together until we broke up over two years ago. I kept one of the cats here for over a year. She’s gotten acclimated and loves my family. However, he is upset over the break up and is going to do anything and everything to hurt me. He calls me today and says “I’m taking you to court over her, and I will get her back. The paperwork is in my name”

Is he able to do this? lol. I’ve had her here since she was a kitten. But he always threatens this because it’s “in his name”

Michigan btw

I’ll go first owo

I attract Sag moons (probably bc my vertex is in Sagittarius) and Aquarius suns. I love Aquarius suns. My DC is in Aquarius and I have strong aspects to my planets in Aqua. Scorpio moons too.

Cancer sun men are my guilty pleasures.
They drive me up a wall. They drive me crazy to the point where I question if it’s advisable to be anywhere but a mental institution. Cardinal moon too is just *chefs kiss* recipe for a toxic mess.

But God dang it. They’re so sexy to me. They are so sad…so soft…lol 🤣 I love broken, sad men with bad habits. My cancer moon activates immediately.
BUT THEY’RE BIG HEART BREAKERS THEMSELVES. I know they’re not good for me, but God I can’t help myself but I simply melt for a Cancer man. 😵‍💫

Also, my most passionate affairs, and the ones that ‘activate’ me always have negative Pluto synastry aspects. (my Pluto opposes their Venus, or squares their mars). I noticed that when I feel “chemistry”, it’s because there is Pluto synastry going on. And I refuse to entertain a relationship with no chemistry. But those relationships are SO tumultuous.