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So, this is gonna be a long one but I really need to vent and get some advice. My last serious relationship ended back in July 2025. A month later, in August, I met this incredible girl. She was literally my exact type, but the problem was that I was still completely heartbroken and hung up on my ex. It took me a solid year to finally get over my past relationship.
During that year, this girl started dating someone else. Ironically, she ended up going through the exact same heartbreak I did, and her relationship ended too. A few months passed after her breakup, and right around the time I realized I was 100% over my ex, I decided to shoot my shot. I messaged her and confessed that I really wanted to get to know her better. I told her how beautiful she is, and I mean it. She’s gorgeous inside and out, an amazing soul.
But here is the catch: she’s still healing from her own breakup. On top of that, she told me she’s currently talking to someone else and that things are going well with this new guy. She straight up told me it’s just the wrong timing right now, but said that if things don’t work out with him, she’ll message me.
I hate this so much. This year has been going downhill and everything feels wrong. Right now, we aren’t even talking, but she’s the only thing on my mind. What do I even do now? Do I wait, do I move on? Help.

isso aqui vai ser meio longo, mas eu preciso muito desabafar e pedir uns conselhos porque tô surtando. Meu último relacionamento terminou em julho de 2025. Logo depois, em agosto, eu conheci uma mulher que era literalmente o meu tipo ideal. Só que eu tava quebrado, super apegado à minha ex, e levei um ano inteirinho pra conseguir superar de verdade.
Durante esse ano que eu tava mal, essa pessoa começou a namorar outra pessoa. É engraçado que ela passou exatamente pela mesma parada que eu: o namoro dela deu errado pelos mesmos motivos e ela terminou também. Passaram-se alguns meses desde o término dela, e bem na época que eu percebi que finalmente tinha superado a minha ex, decidi mandar mensagem pra ela. Me confessei, disse que queria muito conhecer ela melhor e que achava ela linda. E ela é maravilhosa, não só por fora, mas a alma dela é bizarra de linda.
Só que aí veio o banho de água fria. Ela ainda tá no processo de cura dela e me disse que já tá conversando com outra pessoa. Falou que as coisas com esse cara novo tão indo bem, mas mandou um “não é o timing certo agora, mas se não der certo com ele, eu te mando mensagem”.
Cara, eu odeio isso. Parece que esse ano tá tudo dando errado pra mim. Agora a gente nem tá se falando, e eu simplesmente não consigo tirar ela da cabeça. Fico me perguntando o que ela realmente pensa de mim. Nem sei se espero pelo timing certo ou sigo em frente.

So, this is gonna be a long one but I really need to vent and get some advice. My last serious relationship ended back in July 2025. A month later, in August, I met this incredible girl. She was literally my exact type, but the problem was that I was still completely heartbroken and hung up on my ex. It took me a solid year to finally get over my past relationship.
During that year, this girl started dating someone else. Ironically, she ended up going through the exact same heartbreak I did, and her relationship ended too. A few months passed after her breakup, and right around the time I realized I was 100% over my ex, I decided to shoot my shot. I messaged her and confessed that I really wanted to get to know her better. I told her how beautiful she is, and I mean it. She’s gorgeous inside and out, an amazing soul.
But here is the catch: she’s still healing from her own breakup. On top of that, she told me she’s currently talking to someone else and that things are going well with this new guy. She straight up told me it’s just the wrong timing right now, but said that if things don’t work out with him, she’ll message me.
I hate this so much. This year has been going downhill and everything feels wrong. Right now, we aren’t even talking, but she’s the only thing on my mind. What do I even do now? Do I wait, do I move on? Help.

Estou perguntando isso porque é o que tá acontecendo na minha vida agora, e eu me sinto uma merda. E amei essa pessoa com toda a minha alma e todo o meu coração, e eu seria capaz de qualquer coisa por essa pessoa, até de mudar de cidade. Eu ia fazer isso este ano, mas ela preferiu o mais fácil, o mais perto, e agora tá com outra pessoa que deve fazer ela mais feliz, porque não requer tanto sacrifício.
E dói ver a pessoa que mais amas apaixonada por outra pessoa, ainda mais quando essa pessoa dizia coisas do tipo: “odeio esperar, mas por você esperaria minha vida toda”. E eu tava mesmo com expectativas, porque este ano a distância ia terminar definitivamente
Mas é isso, agora eu tô mesmo na merda.

Estou perguntando isso porque é o que tá acontecendo na minha vida agora, e eu me sinto uma merda. E amei essa pessoa com toda a minha alma e todo o meu coração, e eu seria capaz de qualquer coisa por essa pessoa, até de mudar de cidade. Eu ia fazer isso este ano, mas ela preferiu o mais fácil, o mais perto, e agora tá com outra pessoa que deve fazer ela mais feliz, porque não requer tanto sacrifício.
E dói ver a pessoa que mais amas apaixonada por outra pessoa, ainda mais quando essa pessoa dizia coisas do tipo: “odeio esperar, mas por você esperaria minha vida toda”. E eu tava mesmo com expectativas, porque este ano a distância ia terminar definitivamente
Mas é isso, agora eu tô mesmo na merda.

Estou perguntando isso porque é o que tá acontecendo na minha vida agora, e eu me sinto uma merda. E amei essa pessoa com toda a minha alma e todo o meu coração, e eu seria capaz de qualquer coisa por essa pessoa, até de mudar de cidade. Eu ia fazer isso este ano, mas ela preferiu o mais fácil, o mais perto, e agora tá com outra pessoa que deve fazer ela mais feliz, porque não requer tanto sacrifício.
E dói ver a pessoa que mais amas apaixonada por outra pessoa, ainda mais quando essa pessoa dizia coisas do tipo: “odeio esperar, mas por você esperaria minha vida toda”. E eu tava mesmo com expectativas, porque este ano a distância ia terminar definitivamente
Mas é isso, agora eu tô mesmo na merda.

I’m asking this because this is what’s happening in my life right now, and I feel like shit. I loved this person with all my soul and all my heart, and I would have been capable of anything for this person, even moving to another city. I was going to do that this year, but they chose the easier option, the closer one, and now they’re with someone else who probably makes them happier because it doesn’t require as much sacrifice.
And it hurts to see the person you love the most in love with someone else, especially when that person used to say things like: “I hate waiting, but for you I would wait my whole life.” And I really had expectations, because this year the distance was supposed to finally end.
But yeah, right now I feel like absolute shit.

I’m asking this because this is what’s happening in my life right now, and I feel like shit. I loved this person with all my soul and all my heart, and I would have been capable of anything for this person, even moving to another city. I was going to do that this year, but they chose the easier option, the closer one, and now they’re with someone else who probably makes them happier because it doesn’t require as much sacrifice.
And it hurts to see the person you love the most in love with someone else, especially when that person used to say things like: “I hate waiting, but for you I would wait my whole life.” And I really had expectations, because this year the distance was supposed to finally end.
But yeah, right now I feel like absolute shit.

I’m asking this because this is what’s happening in my life right now, and I feel like shit. I loved this person with all my soul and all my heart, and I would have been capable of anything for this person, even moving to another city. I was going to do that this year, but they chose the easier option, the closer one, and now they’re with someone else who probably makes them happier because it doesn’t require as much sacrifice.
And it hurts to see the person you love the most in love with someone else, especially when that person used to say things like: “I hate waiting, but for you I would wait my whole life.” And I really had expectations, because this year the distance was supposed to finally end.
But yeah, right now I feel like absolute shit.

I’m asking this because this is what’s happening in my life right now, and I feel like shit. I loved this person with all my soul and all my heart, and I would have been capable of anything for this person, even moving to another city. I was going to do that this year, but they chose the easier option, the closer one, and now they’re with someone else who probably makes them happier because it doesn’t require as much sacrifice.
And it hurts to see the person you love the most in love with someone else, especially when that person used to say things like: “I hate waiting, but for you I would wait my whole life.” And I really had expectations, because this year the distance was supposed to finally end.
But yeah, right now I feel like absolute shit.

I’m asking this because this is what’s happening in my life right now, and I feel like shit. I loved this person with all my soul and all my heart, and I would have been capable of anything for this person, even moving to another city. I was going to do that this year, but they chose the easier option, the closer one, and now they’re with someone else who probably makes them happier because it doesn’t require as much sacrifice.
And it hurts to see the person you love the most in love with someone else, especially when that person used to say things like: “I hate waiting, but for you I would wait my whole life.” And I really had expectations, because this year the distance was supposed to finally end.
But yeah, right now I feel like absolute shit.

I’m asking this because this is what’s happening in my life right now, and I feel like shit. I loved this person with all my soul and all my heart, and I would have been capable of anything for this person, even moving to another city. I was going to do that this year, but they chose the easier option, the closer one, and now they’re with someone else who probably makes them happier because it doesn’t require as much sacrifice.
And it hurts to see the person you love the most in love with someone else, especially when that person used to say things like: “I hate waiting, but for you I would wait my whole life.” And I really had expectations, because this year the distance was supposed to finally end.
But yeah, right now I feel like absolute shit.

I’m asking this because this is what’s happening in my life right now, and I feel like shit. I loved this person with all my soul and all my heart, and I would have been capable of anything for this person, even moving to another city. I was going to do that this year, but they chose the easier option, the closer one, and now they’re with someone else who probably makes them happier because it doesn’t require as much sacrifice.
And it hurts to see the person you love the most in love with someone else, especially when that person used to say things like: “I hate waiting, but for you I would wait my whole life.” And I really had expectations, because this year the distance was supposed to finally end.
But yeah, right now I feel like absolute shit.

Hi everyone. I watched Someone Great right after my breakup and it helped a lot. It’s been almost a year now, but I recently found out my ex is seeing someone new and it hit me really hard.
I’m looking for movies or series (ideally on Netflix) about the protagonist finally overcoming the pain, finding themselves again, or dealing with the “ex moving on” phase. I’ve also been watching YouTube videos on healing, but I need some good storytelling to get through this. Any recommendations would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

Hi everyone. I watched Someone Great right after my breakup and it helped a lot. It’s been almost a year now, but I recently found out my ex is seeing someone new and it hit me really hard.
I’m looking for movies or series (ideally on Netflix) about the protagonist finally overcoming the pain, finding themselves again, or dealing with the “ex moving on” phase. I’ve also been watching YouTube videos on healing, but I need some good storytelling to get through this. Any recommendations would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

Hi everyone. I watched Someone Great right after my breakup and it helped a lot. It’s been almost a year now, but I recently found out my ex is seeing someone new and it hit me really hard.
I’m looking for movies or series (ideally on Netflix) about the protagonist finally overcoming the pain, finding themselves again, or dealing with the “ex moving on” phase. I’ve also been watching YouTube videos on healing, but I need some good storytelling to get through this. Any recommendations would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

Hi everyone. I watched Someone Great right after my breakup and it helped a lot. It’s been almost a year now, but I recently found out my ex is seeing someone new and it hit me really hard.
I’m looking for movies or series (ideally on Netflix) about the protagonist finally overcoming the pain, finding themselves again, or dealing with the “ex moving on” phase. I’ve also been watching YouTube videos on healing, but I need some good storytelling to get through this. Any recommendations would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

She’s with someone else. She’s actually able to be with someone else, to fall in love with someone else… while I’m still here only seeing her. To me she is unique, the only one. She was the person I loved the most.
And now she’s already sharing her life and doing things with another person. We only broke up because of the distance, a 3 hour drive that was supposed to turn into minutes later this year, but she’s already moved on.
I don’t even know what to say, I’m in total shock. I just want to disappear, to leave it all behind.

She’s with someone else. She’s actually able to be with someone else, to fall in love with someone else… while I’m still here only seeing her. To me she is unique, the only one. She was the person I loved the most.
And now she’s already sharing her life and doing things with another person. We only broke up because of the distance, a 3 hour drive that was supposed to turn into minutes later this year, but she’s already moved on.
I don’t even know what to say, I’m in total shock. I just want to disappear, to leave it all behind.