u/I_am_just_so_tired99

About to be in this category very soon - would appreciate a ladies input.

52M here.
So in about a week I’ll be moving out of the home as part of an amicable separation (divorce is a formality that takes a year due to North Carolina law). We probably should have done this a few years ago, so while clearly not without baggage, I think I’m mentally ready to meet for coffee should things align with the right person.

I have 2 boys and 50/50 custody. I will be renting a 3 bed townhome for a year as I get a long term solution sorted out.

I’m currently looking at furniture etc. as I am not splitting what we have with my ex as I simply don’t like her tastes and she had full control of decorating the house. So I’m kinda starting from scratch.

What I would like input on is the furniture itself just in case some lightning strikes and a lady decides she wants to come back to my place.

Note: the rental has hardwoods and kitchen cabinets and tiles, the colour of which I would never have chosen.

I have a couple of paths I can take -

1. Cheap wayfair / ikea stuff that will last me the year but kinda matches the house
2. More sturdy and long lasting sofas and dining sets etc that fit my personal preference but which likely will look out of place in this house

I don’t want to scare anyone away due to them thinking I am an interior design psychopath…. It’s been a long time since things were good, and I know the dating pool is shrinking.

I’d love some thoughts.
Thank you in advance.

Folks. My living situation is rapidly changing and I’m making a budget for what is about to happen.

I am building a budget for the next 18 months - for renting a 3 bedroom townhome in Raleigh NC, one adult and 2 kids (boys age 10 and 15) for 50% of the time.

I asked Claude AI for “reasonable estimates for standard monthly costs” as a starting point for the mathematics. This is what I got back. And it seems off…. Groceries for $600 just seems low (or I dont know how to shop efficiently.. a real possibility) — there are other things in my budget model of course… but I’d love to hear anyone’s thoughts on these specifically, as i have a better handle / more clarity on the other stuff. .

Thank you in advance
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Subscriptions/Streaming $35
Electric $165
Water $70
Gas $45
Trash $25
Internet $80
Cell Phone $70
Renter Insurance $20
Groceries $600
Restaurants $250
Costco $120
Household Supplies $60
Fuel $180
Auto Insurance $150
Maintenance $100
Sports/Activities $150
Children Clothing $120
School Supplies $40

My animal instinct barbarian has werewolf as the free archetype and is built around high land speed/raging athlete, stealth, intimidation, and heavy damage biting with jaws (the jaws have potency runes etc.). Currently unarmored as it fits the character backstory etc.

I think the werewolf options at 8 are getting thin, so considering swapping free archetype to Rogue. The thought being sneak attack and also “mobility” so i can step away without triggering reactive strikes. My movement when raging is 60ft, so i can step away 30ft… basically vs a melee: charge in > bite the baddies face > move out of range. (Cant hurt what you cannot hit.. right?)

But I cannot add Mobility until lvl 10 and that may be near when the campaign wraps up. (Thats just an estimate).

I know Rogue is a very solid choice for a lot of other reasons, but I wanted to see if anyone thought there might be more impactful archetype options to cover lvls 8,9, 10.

Note: The party is fairly balanced, so there isnt a push to diversify too far from damage dealing.

Thanks.

Please forgive any missteps on my part with any incorrectly used terms - my intentions are good. I’m using “current” gender terms for simplicity and consistency.

I have overheard my son saying to a school friend that he “wants to be a girl, and will you help”. He has also worn makeup and taken my wife’s cloths to wear at times, so there is definitely something going on. However he hasn’t said anything to us, his parents.

I am aware of some of the challenges that exist in society (USA) today for a child like mine, but I’m no expert and I don’t have anyone in my social network that has first hand experience here. But I do love my child and want the best for them.

For those that have had a similar experience can I ask please, when the subject came up with your parents, what went well, what was the context, what worked and what didn’t work. Any advice is welcome. Thank you.

**TL;DR:** I have 10+ years of experience managing heavy, cross-functional transformations (M&A integration, CRM rollouts, carve-outs) in the SaaS and PE space. Recently, recruiters are treating internal AI tool implementation as a completely alien skill set, rendering traditional systems integration experience "irrelevant." Is an operational AI implementation genuinely distinct from a major ERP/CRM rollout, or am I hitting a recruiter buzzword wall?

**The Long Version:**
I am looking to return to full-time work in the SaaS space. I have over 10 years of experience working in privately owned software/tech companies, largely as a Chief of Staff to the CEO or in "Strategic Projects" roles. My sweet spot is managing transformational, cross-functional projects that don’t naturally have a single functional owner; integrating an acquired company, managing a complex system implementation, developing market expansion strategies, or carving out a business unit and relocating it across the country.

A few years ago, I moved to a consulting role with a small PE firm to oversee these transformations across a portfolio of companies. The plan was to transition to a full-time operating partner role once they raised their next fund. Unfortunately, the fundraise fell through, leaving me operating under my own single-person LLC.
While I have highly repeatable operational skills, independent consulting has been a grind, and I am looking to step back into a full-time corporate strategy/ops role.

**The Challenge:**
In the time I’ve been independent, the AI landscape has exploded. Because I’ve been operating solo, I haven’t been embedded in a corporate environment to witness enterprise-level internal AI tool deployments firsthand, nor am I sitting in boardroom product roadmap discussions. At a high level, I know how the technology applies to operational efficiency; making sense of massive pools of unstructured data, or injecting LLMs into workflows to act as intelligent gatekeepers.

Lately, I’ve been having networking and pipeline calls with executive search firms and internal PE talent teams. I am consistently hit with a common set of questions:
·       *What have you done with AI?*
·       *Where have you implemented an AI tool internally, and what was the operational impact?*
*(Note: They are strictly referring to internal operational efficiency tools, not client-facing product features).*

My most relevant corporate experience here was a large scale project where we utilized a machine learning algorithm for predictive modeling to optimize sales targeting. The outcome was awesome: we identified a sizable customer subset that produced 4x the average contract value in half the normal sales cycle.

**My Perspective:**
At the executive/ops level, a net-new enterprise AI deployment shares the same delivery architecture as a major CRM, ERP, or performance management system migration. You define the business case, map the unstructured data dependencies, select the implementation partner or vendor, manage scope, track the budget, and measure ROI. The technical heavy lifting belongs to the engineers and data scientists; the operational guardrails, change management, and project execution belong to me, the operator.

To me, a complex project is a complex project: we are at point A, we want to get to point B, now let’s design the path and manage the build.

**My Questions for the Community:**
1.     **Am I cooked?** Has the AI train left the station to the point where lacking a specific "AI implementation" line item on my resume will permanently block me from rejoining a SaaS org at the leadership level?
2.     **Are people inflating this?** Are candidates using AI terminology overly generously to their advantage, and do I just need to adopt more favorable language on my resume to beat the filters?
3.     **Is an AI tool implementation genuinely unique?** Is there a foundational difference in managing an AI deployment versus a legacy tech stack integration that I am completely missing? If so, what do I need to learn to bridge the gap?
4.     **How do I reposition this?** What is an honest, authoritative answer to these recruiter questions that validates their focus but keeps my resume out of the rejection pile?

I’ve saved companies millions of dollars through operational improvements, and I'm not ready to throw in the towel. I would love to hear candid feedback from hiring managers, recruiters, and fellow operators.
Thank you for reading.  

We haven’t gotten too far down the path of separation/divorce but it is inevitable. So working through a lot of things, but it got me thinking what day we should set as the swap/pickup/drop-off day.

I know we’ll need to be flexible at times but interested in hearing the pros and cons of say a Monday vs a Friday etc.

Context - US based, 2 kids: starting 9th grade and 4th grade in August.

Thanks.

So my 3rd grade son is mildly autistic with ADHD (inattentive type). He is intelligent also (has both an IEP at his school, and is also in the academically gifted program). A great kid.

We get the standard weekly reports from his teacher - and the “stays focused” and “uses materials appropriately” rows are often unchecked. I’m assuming that if the topic being discussed isn’t interesting to my child at that moment he just disengages and fiddles with whatever is around. This can be a bit disruptive to the lesson.

I would love to hear other parents who’ve successfully navigated the challenge of getting their child to “just do it”.

We’ve tried with mixed results by telling him “not everything in life is interesting, but some of the boring stuff is legitimately helpful, so just stay engaged and if the teacher gives a good report for engagement / fiddling we’ll go get an ice cream”.

Would also love to hear what didn’t work.

Thank you all.

So I’m playing around with a concept for a sneaky rogue that likes to move about unseen in the shadows etc. so the Shadowcaster dedication seemed to be on point. I’m messing around with a lvl 7 character at this time FYI.

 

As a prerequisite to shadowcaster the character needs to have “the ability to cast spells” – so I’ve gone with Goblin ancestry, with Dokkaebi as the heritage:

 

Your ancestors mastered illusion-based magic, giving you an innate understanding of it. You can cast figment as an innate occult cantrip at will. A cantrip is heightened to a spell rank equal to half your level rounded up. You also gain a +1 circumstance bonus to Will saves against illusions.

 

Pathbuilder seems to have accepted this build: and I can see the inscrutable mask spell and focus point in my spell repertoire when I took Disciple of Shade at lvl 6.

 

 

Disciple Of Shade

6

Archetype

Prerequisites Shadowcaster Dedication

* *

You've delved deeper into the mysteries of shadow and become blessed with magical power that increases your skills in the arts of deception and persuasion. You gain the inscrutable mask domain spell. Increase the number of Focus Points in your focus pool by 1.

SoM

 

However I also took Shadow Spells feat at lvl 2, but I do not see any of the spells listed below anywhere, not do I see any empty slots for me to fill.

 

Shadow Spells

4

Archetype

Prerequisites Shadowcaster Dedication

* *

Hidden darkness whispers to you, teaching you secrets of shadow beyond other spellcasters of your tradition. Add shadow blast, shadow siphon, and shadow walk from the Core Rulebook to your spell list, as well as replicate, shadow army, shadow projectile, and shadow raid from this book. You can thus potentially learn these spells even if they aren't normally on your tradition's spell list.

SoM

 

So, can anyone shine some light on this (ba-dum-tis)?      I’m probably doing something wrong – this is my first attempt at a caster build of any sort.

Thank you !