u/Ifckinglovemycat

not all older guys obviously ; I was wondering if it's some kind of biais or my anxiety talking but I feel like being with an older partner I need to do way less performative effort to prove myself than with people of my age.

I'm 35 (not that young) I'm dating a 50 years old partner that I really like, I've got my shit together, I have a house, no mortgage and a job but it feels like I would need some kind of "aura" and a way to "sell" myself to spark interest with people still in their 30's. I have several interests (thanks adhd) but I don't like trying to be competitive about it

I'm really happy with the 50 y/o guy I'm seeing, he seems pretty chill and really balanced too, he doesn't do shit to try and impress people (he has his own interests and it's obvious he pursues them becauses he actually enjoys doing them) and doesn't seem to expect me to try and impress him either.

TLDR my question is : is it an actual tendency (younger people expecting more aura, older people kinda grounded) or is it just some kind of excuse I'm giving myself to enjoy older guys

I'm trying ro respect my pacing, I'm currently getting diagnosed with what sounds like long covid (since 2023) I have especially +24 / + 48h crashes, I was moderate and got borderline severe after getting a new viral infection 6 month ago and I'm trying to recover by staying in bed most of the time (I can stay out of bed 3 hours a day)

since I have ADHD I always get random interest for various activities, (which to me is proof my condition is not depression, I always want to do a tons of things) this past week it's been doing some karaoke from the bottom of my bed and I wonder how much is it sustainable ? I'd like to take a few online classes because it's a fun activity, I like to record myself to try and make some progress and do a few exercises. I haven't seen bad effects yet but do you think it's sustainable on long term ? drawing is typically too hard for me at the moment.