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I accidentally ended up on multiple hiking trail in Kamakura while trying to find shrines/ruins and my feet and lower legs got bit up by (I‘m assuming) ticks. I came back to the capsule hotel and showered and checked my clothes and as far as I can see the ones on my lower legs and feet are all I have (I was not wearing hiking gear or DEET as I was not expecting to go off-roading as much as I did-definitely got all ”funned out”). Should I just monitor them for bulls-eyes the way I would in the states? I also saw something about monitoring for a fever, but I haven’t found any actual ticks that I brought home that I could bring in for testing. Do I still need to go to a clinic? Any advice would be welcome!

I had a psychiatric episode about 3 weeks ago and my husband decided the kids weren’t safe around me and moved them across the country to be with his family. I get micropsychotic episodes (if you look in my history, you can see I have a history of psychosis, starting from postpartum on). I had an episode that focused on the baby (had a really scary delusion about her) while my husband was out with his friends, and I didn’t say anything because he‘s been complaining lately that I always have problems every time he tries to go have fun. I was aware I was having an episode, was incredibly careful with the toddler and the baby, and got them both ready for bed and in front of a movie when my husband came home. I immediately told him and took myself to the emergency room and checked myself into inpatient, where I stayed voluntarily for the next two weeks. While I was in there my husband came to tell me that my MIL came to help-and that my kids were going back across the country with her because he doesn’t trust me with them anymore. I didn’t get to say goodbye because they left while I was in the hospital. He also said we now have to move to be closer to the inlaws because we need help. I‘m not mad about that part, we need help, but I am so, so upset and humiliated about the kids being gone. I have to explain to everyone where they are and I have to explain why they’re gone. I have to stay behind in the move to pack up and save up, which means more time away from them. My husband says they’re not coming back. My MIL is only sending pictures and updates to my husband but he says she’s criticizing how much I‘m reaching out to talk to them (but never telling me when they’re available, and only video calling him). I‘m so low. I‘m so crushed. I understand why all this is happening but I‘m so dissociated day to day because I just cannot handle it.

Lost approx pounds since January (last of my baby weight-had 2 kids in 3 years) and people literally will not shut the fuck up even though I feel like SHIT.

I genuinely should not be losing weight this quickly or at all-barely dieting or skipping meals or even watching what I eat. I was walking 10k steps a day and nothing else.

The weight is coming off because of multiple problems in my marriage and pending health problems (recovering from a psychotic episode and weird digestive stuff). I literally feel too weak and tired all the time to do anything more than work and come home and make dinner and sleep. Don’t even brush my teeth or wash my face most nights.

And people STILL WONT SHUT UP. “Omgggggg you lost so much weight you look great what are you doing???” “Nothing really, I actually feel really sick” “well you look GREAT!!!”

What the hell?

I know the divorce is my fault. I’ve had three massive psychiatric episodes since we got married that caused me to switch up really fast-severe perinatal depression, postpartum depression/birth trauma, and recently postpartum psychosis (from baby 2). All of these times have made me erratic, miserable to be around, and I’ve lashed out severely. Big fights, breaking things. Stuff I’m really ashamed of. Stuff I have tried to fix since, apologized profusely for, stuff (i thought i had) gone out of my way to change.

All these times I was trying really, *really* hard to get better. I was medicated. I was going to therapy. I was seeing a psychiatrist. The second time I was taking terrible meds that knocked me out, I was going to the hospital voluntarily. Every time he pointed out that I was lashing out and being irritable I tried so hard to rein it in.

Now he’s telling me he’s not sure we’re even going to be married in 6 months and it’s like he’s going downhill with no brakes and I don’t feel like I can say or do anything right because I’m terrified and am trying so hard to keep everything together and be on my best behavior. He’s telling me his family members have been rooting for us to divorce since day 1, that he’s been telling friends about my “greatest hits” and that they’ve been all telling him to divorce me, that he’s basically planning to use my mental health to get custody, he’s already talking all cute and sweet about a girl at this book club he’s been going to more often, I’m having a cancer scare and he sneered at me and said it would be “convenient” if I had it, when i offered to go back on the heavier meds to help him feel like i was more stable he complained that i was too tired to help around the house…I feel like i can’t do anything but sit here and take it because it was my bad behavior that caused all of this and if I argue back I’m showing him that I haven’t changed and everything will continue to fall apart.

I have no support system and all I have in my life is work. I’m so stressed and regretful and sad.

Anyone else use their cute little app for sharing baby pictures? Guess what. It’s integrated with FUCKING ANTHROPIC now. They snuck it into their new privacy policy update. Apparently they did it so they can “descriptive search” your photos. PASS! PASS PASS PASS! WHY is it so hard to keep our kids safe from AI????? Now I have go download about a thousand photos. Anyway. Time to go back to hard drives.

Edit: don’t forget to go give them a shitty review and specifically state that them using AI is why you’re deleting your account, manually delete all your data, and then request a data deletion if it’s available in your state/region.

Edit on the edit: to delete your data you need a premium account. You can batch download 100 at a time, then manually delete the data as you go. HOWEVER-FA needs access to your ENTIRE camera roll to download, which means, yes, this cute cuddly little anthropic buddy now can see, run code on, or upload ANYTHING in your camera roll. So if you’re on mobile, CLEAR your camera roll and then download (and keep it unlinked in between downloads) or (from what I can tell) downloading on desktop may be the best bet. But for everyone in the meantime, disconnect your photos access IMMEDIATELY

I was dumb and clicked “accept” on the new privacy terms a few months back when it rolled out, with the idea that Oracle could easily scrape this information from other sources anyway (used to post constantly on Meta platforms). Since then, I posted some stuff about my mental health, some stuff with my face in it-again, stuff that they could pull from other places.

I’m an artist and unfortunately I get the most pull on TT. My question is-if I delete all the posts that are NOT art (which Oracle already has), be extremely careful what I like/reblog/save (already have been), turn off location settings and tracking on iOS, only share the photos I want to upload, don’t share camera or microphone access at any time…can I keep using the app safely?

I don’t know what they could scrape from the videos, especially since they’re stop-motion screen recordings. One of them mentions my age but you could easily find that from any ol “find a person” site if you connected it with the email I have.

Currently it’s set for deletion, but I’d really, REALLY rather not do that if there’s a safer way to do it. Thoughts?

I’m genuinely not sure what to do about the current state of the US. I feel like the anxiety is crushing me. I live in heavily surveilled city (NYC) and every single day all I can think about is how cameras are watching me. I learned recently that smart TVs can listen to you with their microphones. I deleted Tiktok today because I read about how bad their privacy policy is and now I’m panicking because of the data scraping and what I’ve posted on there (frank discussions of surviving psychosis and my struggles as a mentally ill mother, posting face), overthinking every single thing I may have liked or saved. All I can think about is how that information is going into a database and may be used against me. I used tiktok to make private videos of my kids too, and it makes me sick to think they’re in the database. I’m so worried about what Big Data has on me and how it will be used. I’m so worried about how hot it is where I am and how the grid is strained and I’m really, REALLY scared for my kids. I feel trapped and I feel like no one is taking me seriously.

I’m a stop-motion animator and I use TikTok to post my videos.

I used to use it to post other things (including face and discussing my postpartum health stuff) because my idea was that 1) I live in NYC (heavily surveilled anyway) and 2) if Oracle really wanted to scrape they could find this stuff on Reddit and on the main web anyway (I’ve been posted publicly via my school and extracurriculars, and I used to have public facing instagrams and facebook profile pics before I understood how dangerous it was-should i delete these or is it a lost cause?). I also briefly used it to make private videos of my family to download and share via YT. All this to say, I do NOT do this anymore because I’m aware of the scraping but I can’t think a better platform for just the art that doesn’t get into the same kind of scraping.

Does anyone have any ideas? Tumblr? DeviantArt? Something I haven’t thought of?? Is there a platform just for artists? Otherwise they just sit in my computer and I literally just send them via text to individual people and go “look at this”. (As an aside, I literally do not care about AI training off of the art. It is not a style that will contribute to anything meaningful in the long run for a model).

I can’t stop blowing up at my husband to the point where he wants a divorce and has given up on my behavior. I keep thinking I’m doing a good job taking care of my children and then it turns out I’m actually doing a bad job because the food isn’t the healthiest or they’re going to bed too late or I’m not changing their diapers fast enough. I’m so unstable and they’re seeing it. I wish I never had them, they’re genuinely such a burden and I’m so weighed down with everything else. My husband is constantly pointing this stuff out and he’s *right*, which is the worst part, and I’m so discouraged. I thought I was being nicer to him and last night he told me I’m not. He told me he wants me to get back on antipsychotics, they made me miserable. I’m so scared of my country’s political situation and our safety and climate change (I live in America) but everyone is telling me I’m overreacting including him, and it’s making me crash out and scare the kids. I’m at the point where I’m mixing my sleeping pills and drinking because I’d rather be sedated than angry and unstable, I’m ruining my own life.

Every time I try to get close to a water sign they start some shit. Nothing is ever their fault, they’re always the victim, never can take any responsibility for anything. They always want to talk tough about how badass they are but they’re the first to hide behind someone else when natural consequences roll around. Drama queens and crybabies all around, yeesh.

Edit: all the angry water signs in this comment section are proving my point :)