u/JustaPloob

Just wanted to stress how much you don’t need to disclose that Alchemised is not a romantasy when recommending it literally all the time, here, in the romantasy subreddit.

I will just remind everyone that is both romance and fantasy… the two requirements for this genre. Just because you don’t like it, or have a hard time telling other people about it, or think it’s kinda dark and dreary, does not mean it isn’t romantasy.

I really really really would appreciate it from the bottom of my soul if we could expand some of our definitions to include more books so it doesn’t appear like the only thing this genre has to offer are the five or so authors constantly recommended here.

What’s especially annoying me about this is that we all seem to turn a blind eye when AI slop is coming down the pipeline because it has the tropes we’ve already read countless times, but novels like Alchemised are being dismissed outright. A book that has spent YEARS in revision like most great novels.

And then we get posts like “Is Alchemised really worth it?” Because so many people have to preface it by saying it’s not really romantasy.

Do we really need this much handholding? What’s the worst that is going to happen?

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I've been on 10mg of Lexapro for about 5 months now. Between the medication and lifestyle changes my anxiety has greatly improved. The only thing is the hunger. I feel like I'm starving all the time.

I was prescribed Wellbutrin yesterday to help but I'm feeling anxious again and didn't sleep well last night. I know I should push through and see how it goes. I'm just nervous and worried I should have tried more to deal with the hunger instead of going on another medication. Does anyone have success stories, specifically related to Lexapro hunger?

Working on my debut romantasy (adult, moderate spice) — enemies-to-lovers, fated mates, dragon-riding military academy, forced bond trope. Trying to land on the right title/series name before I finalize the manuscript. Which of these actually makes you want to know more?

Corvain (the academy's name — series title)

Bloodoath

Wingbound

Of Talons and Truths

No cover yet, just gauging vibes.

/Uj please don't ban me if this counts as bullying or too low effort 🫣

I've been struggling to find books to read that actually scratch that romantasy itch for me.

What are your go to reads for when you just want a quick fix? I want junk food recs. They don't have to be technically good, what books do you giggle and kick your feet to? I don't want a plot that has too high stakes, just lots of yearning and cute moments between the characters.

I like spice but it's not necessary. I really enjoyed {Throne in the Dark} and even something more silly like {Morning Glory Milking Farm}.

I'm specifically looking for audiobooks if possible but it's not necessary. Thank you ❤️

Apparently my taste is "scandalous" and "too gross" for him. God forbid a girl be curious about knotting. 🙄

ETA: This is a joke, I love my boyfriend very much, he thinks this book is a little weird but I promise he loves me very much and likes my quirks.

I want to get married and I want a small ceremony but past experiences with weddings make me not want to have my own. I was the MOH for a friend and I'm no longer friends with her since the wedding. I've gone to one wedding since then and all I could think about was the friendship I lost because of the drama stirred up a year ago.

I want to be married to my boyfriend so badly and I want my family there with me but I can't help but think that the planning and the wedding itself will just make me miserable because it will bring me back to my failings as my ex best friend's MOH.

I dread the speeches and the dances, I dread having to plan all of it. Really I just want to have a small ceremony somewhere pretty and a small party after. I have 2 more weddings to go to this summer so I hope my feelings change and make me more optimistic for my own but. I just feel like they've been ruined for me, I'm disillusioned by it all between the stressful planning, the bad memories, and the strain they put on your relationships, the disappointing and embarrassing speeches from people that are supposed to care for you. It feels like it's not worth it.

I'm struggling to figure out a place to post this question. Me and my boyfriend just moved in together a few months ago. Lately we've been struggling with chores in the kitchen. I'm so appreciative of everything he does around the house. He doesn't have to be asked to do anything, he just sees things that need to be done and does them. The only thing is that I'm really particular about dishes being clean. I wish I was more lax about it but I can't help but inspect things before I use them because I know there's a chance the dishwasher didn't get everything and it grosses me out.

My boyfriend doesn't really pay as much attention to that kind of thing and gets hurt when I inspect things that he hands me to use. I hate upsetting him because he sees it as him not being enough or not doing a good enough job. I've told him that this is just how I am but it doesn't seem to really help. I try to ignore my urges to check dishes when he's around now but then I feel gross eating out of dishes that don't feel "clean" to me. I don't know how to deal with this situation. It's partly just our dishwasher. Partly that he overloads the dishwasher. But I can't really communicate that without him getting upset that he isn't doing a good enough job.

He's such a wonderful guy and my best friend. I just don't know how to go about this without continuing to hurt him. I'm not sure if I'm at the point of having diagnosable contamination OCD but I feel like I'm definitely more picky than most about this because it's been an issue with every roommate I've had.

I just went there for fillings and they completely missed one of the cavities they were supposed to do. They told me they got them all yet I still have a black spot between my teeth that they just completely passed over. I've gotten quite a few fillings done there and the process always feels painful and rushed. Am I overreacting for considering looking for a new dentist?

I went to a new dentist maybe six months ago. They told me I had 7 cavities. I had 4 filled a few months ago with no issues. Today I had the remaining 3 done. The thing is, I only have seen 2 teeth with visible problems. I know they can hide and so I took them at their word when they said 7. I got home today and looked in the mirror and the black spot on my tooth in the area they were working on is still there. I feel completely scammed tbh. I'm going to call and complain tomorrow however this isn't the most concerning part.

I'm regretting having the teeth done in the order I did because the most severe one was the last to be done and now tonight I'm experiencing throbbing pain after getting it filled. I have never cried while getting work done at the dentist. I like to think I have a decent pain tolerance.

This tooth is on the right side on the bottom, it's a molar that's been filled in the past. I've had the cavity for quite some time but my dentist seemed to not be concerned. When he began drilling, he even said he was going to try to do it without numbing and just relying on the topical numbing.

At first it was fine but it became uncomfortable. Eventually he said he was going to numb it and work in the other two on the left top while he waited.

Once the numbing "kicked in" he went back to my right molar and the pain was at like a 4 instead of a 5. He said it went deeper than he thought and it was near the nerve. He applied some sort of medicine to it and I immediately started tearing up, heavily breathing and trying and failing not to sob at the pain. After I calmed down he finished the filling and said if it is painful and is "throbbing" I should call because I might need a root canal.

My insurance only covers $1000 a year which is pretty much blown after these fillings and my last cleaning. I just feel scammed and upset because the pain in my tooth keeps getting worse. It's been 8 hours and I'm freaking out that I might need a root canal. And I'm just angry as well that they told me they got all the cavities even though I went home and could clearly see the one I thought they were going to take care of today, they even insisted I didn't have any more after I was done.

Idk if I should call them, at this point I don't really trust them to do anymore work on me because every session with them has been painful. They numb the back of my mouth and then do work in the 3rd, 4th, 5th teeth from the back and the numbing barely touches it. I don't remember fillings being like this as a kid. I just need some advice.

I've been nearsighted my entire life with astigmatism. I'm 28 and just got new glasses. My prescription is around -4.75 in each eye with different axis measurements. When I got my eyes checked this year, my optometrist recommended eyezen lenses so that's what I purchased. The thing is, I'm still struggling with reading until I'm about 6 inches away. No matter how close I am to text, there's a shadow around the letters that makes it annoying to look at for long amounts of time.

I was really hoping new glasses would fix this but it hasn't really touched the problem unfortunately. I'm not sure if readers would even fix it tbh. The text is "clear" but there's just shadows around it that make it hard to read. Does anyone else have this issue? How did you fix it?

I've (28F) been on Lexapro for 3 or 4 months now and I've started to notice I'm always hungry. I've always maintained my weight by just eating until I feel full and I've stayed an okay weight. I struggle to maintain any sort of exercise routine but I've stayed around the 145-150 mark for the last decade. Now that I've started feeling hungrier I'm really struggling to maintain my weight and not over eat.

What do you do to combat the hunger? I'm trying to find healthier more filling foods and easy workouts like just walking daily. I'm just feeling nervous. I've never been this heavy before. I thought that I had missed the weight gain ide effect, turns out it just needed a few months to make itself known.

Every day I go to work and all I can think about is the time I'm wasting not doing the things I really want to do. I try to journal and sketch in my free time at work to feel like I'm doing something but there are so many things I want to work on at home like sewing and art and other hobbies.

My job just isn't fulfilling. The pay is alright but I wish it was more. I can't really justify splurging on anything. There's no challenge or anything new to learn here. I have decent health insurance though which I end up taking advantage of often. Idk. I'm not brave enough to look for a new job. I've never desired having a normal job I always wanted to be an artist but self doubt has gotten in the way of that as well. I do some drawing at home but I feel like most of my evening is taken up by chores and eating.

I just hate this feeling but I'm not brave enough to take the big steps to change like finding a different job. Does anyone else feel like this? I just feel like there are so many people who have it worse and I should just be grateful for what I have. But I hate feeling like I'm wasting my life away at a dead end job. I just am too reliant on the security it brings me to change things right now though...

I'm sorry if this isn't allowed. Just feeling defeated because I've been so stressed the past week that my period might start. I kept putting off cancelling because I didn't want to wait another month until my doctor would be available again. Only to run into the same problem again.

It's still light for now but I still have 6 hours left before the appointment and time just doesn't feel like it's on my side. I started getting cramps late last night. I'm on day 34 of my cycle but last month I went 45 days. It's hard to know exactly when my period will start so I just was hoping I could last until after the appointment. I called and they said it's fine if it's light which I already knew. I just hope they'll still do it when I get there so I don't have to use more sick time for another appointment.

Just glad I could spend the past couple weeks worrying about my period instead of the man staring into my vagina and likely taking a chunk out of my cervix. Crying.

I've been using Krita on and off for a while but I'm still finding shortcuts that make my workflow way easier that are likely obvious to others. I feel so silly for only recently finding out there was a color picker shortcut that I wouldn't have to go back and select the brush button after using it.

What are some other shortcuts that you discovered to help with your workflow in Krita?

My periods have never been super regular but they also haven't had gaps so long that it's genuinely concerning.

I had a few months where they averaged 30 days after I took a contraceptive but since then they've become more varied again. Thoughts?

Here is a list of my cycle lengths from the past year or so starting with the most recent.

46,34,41,31,32,36,28,30,36,35,30,39