Need some advice on a situation I'm currently stuck in. AM I the troublemaker here? 30M, 30F & 31M
Okay, so I'm (30M) stuck in a bit of a weird situation since yesterday and I'm confused as to what to do as I don't know if I'm the troublemaker here or not.
My friend, let's call him Sam, a 31 M year old guy and he is in a relationship for the past 4 years. He has a friend, let's call her Ash, 31 F and although they were never in a relationship but they have had their moments when they were in college. He had mentioned about Ash a couple of times to me but nor Ash or I have ever met each other in person nor have we ever interacted on social media till date. I had seen Ash's picture once a couple of years back when her profile came on my suggestion list in Instagram but I never sent her a request or anything like that.
The day before yesterday, I came across a profile on a dating app and I had replied to a prompt on her profile and we matched and started talking. After a certain time when she mentioned about her hometown and her college, I put 2+2 together and realised and asked her if she's Ash and she confirmed that. I also mentioned that I'm Sam's friend and she was happy to hear that. Please note that in this dating app, only the first word of the name was shown in the profile, so I had no way to know her actual name before matching.
As she happens to be a friend of Sam, whom I do consider my closest friend, I thought it would be basis courtesy to inform him about the fact that I had matched with her old friend. At present, they are not in contact by the way. My friend Sam upon hearing that we had matched got pretty upset and disappointed and told me that he doesn't mind me talking to her but he doesn't want me to date her as they have had a 'deep friendship' which may have involved a fling. He also cited 'bro code' but I'm unsure as to how that applies here as they have never been any sort of relationship before and most importantly they aren't even in contact and he's in a relationship now as we speak.
I'm genuinely confused now as what to do here as Ash from the looks of it seems to be pretty interested in talking to me and knowing about me. I'm confused as to how to navigate this situation. Any help or advice would be appreciated.