Thinking of dating but how do I not catfish about my disability?
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Thinking of dating but how do I not catfish about my disability?

I(36F) am thinking about getting back on the apps, with sample picture shown (taken a month ago). The thing is, I have a disability that isn't visible through pictures. I have trigeminal neuralgia, and basically half my face can't be touched. I can't drive. I can have sex but there are limitations.

I can go out to restaurants, dancing (not too long though), mild hiking, things like that.

I don't want to catfish anyone through my profile. Should I put my disability on my profile or just tell the person after we match?

u/Late-Confection-2823 — 2 hours ago
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Mother was not kind to me on our trip for my brain surgery

Pic: preparing arayes

I(36F) have trigeminal neuralgia and have gotten multiple brain surgeries for it. I fly out of state for the surgeries, and the surgeon insists on me bringing a family member. My mom is the only person available because I'm divorced, my sister is heavily pregnant and my mom separated my sister and I from all our extended family.

During the trip, she continuously told me that I need to lower my standards and find a partner so that they can take me to my surgery. She said it's pathetic that I haven't found a partner, that I don't have kids, and that Im almost 40 and still partying with my friends. She told me that I used to have more power than my sister, but now my sister has more power than me because she's married and pregnant. BTW she was saying this in the doctor's office waiting room with everyone around us.

She is also...very MAGA, Karen like and racist. She kept criticizing our Uber drivers in a passive aggressive way. In the doctors office waiting room she said "remember you told me how all these Mexicans get pregnant early at 15, 16"... BTW I never said that and people were staring at us.

My sister and I diagnosed her with borderline personality disorder and high narcissism, to say the least.

Also, I have a PhD in space science, my own home, a great career, and wonderful community of friends. I love the life I have. Yes, I'd love a loving partner, and my mom knows I tried dating until it just felt too much for me. And I did try to have a baby via IVF, which failed. I had to pay $20K out of pocket, and my mom told me of course it didn't work because I didn't do it the natural way and it was a huge waste of money. But I really needed to do the IVF to bring me peace.

Anyways, this is just a rant. I've dealt with her abuse all my life, and it was WAY worse when I was younger under her control.

If anyone has similar stories, or any words of comfort, they are most welcomed here.

Eye problems worse after redo MVD

Before my MVD, my right eye was in terrible pain. The pain was centralized in the temple. My eye would dry up and there's a pain behind and in front of my eye.

I did an MVD and it made it feel better slightly. We did a redo MVD recently and now it's gotten way worse.

I don't know what to do or where to go. Should I see a neuroopthamologist? I've seen an ophthalmologist but no help at all.

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u/Late-Confection-2823 — 2 days ago

Eye problems worse after redo MVD

Before my MVD, my right eye was in terrible pain. The pain was centralized in the temple. My eye would dry up and there's a pain behind and in front of my eye.

I did an MVD and it made it feel better slightly. We did a redo MVD recently and now it's gotten way worse.

I don't know what to do or where to go. Should I see a neuroopthamologist? I've seen an ophthalmologist but no help at all.

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u/Late-Confection-2823 — 3 days ago

Numbness after glycerin redo MVD

My surgeon did a redo MVD, and in that process he directly applied glycerin to my nerve. I am only one day post OP, and I have numbness on the side of my face that had the TN.

Is this temporary or permanent?

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u/Late-Confection-2823 — 7 days ago

36F, STEM PhD, transplant, divorced. I need a friend 😅

I live in the depths of suburbia with my 2 cats. Moved here for my job as a scientist. It's hard to make friends in this city. Please no creepy messages I just genuinely want a friend so that I can enjoy this city a little more 😭❤️ or give me tips on how to make friends in this city

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u/Late-Confection-2823 — 13 days ago

Do all women generally taste the same?

One of the things I'm not sure about is if women generally taste the same down there. Or is it super different? Does it all taste like fish? If you like how a woman tastes, do you tell her? Or are your compliments mostly about how pretty her pussy is?

Also, what does it mean to have a pretty pussy?

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u/Late-Confection-2823 — 15 days ago

PhD Chemist and absolutely love my work with Mercor

I need to give back to the reddit community because if it wasn't for you all, I would be waayyyy too skeptical to try Mercor.

As a PhD Chemist, I love my mercor job. I started about a month ago doing my speciality. It pays very well, more than any job I've ever had, but you'll have to consider taxes when that time comes. Mine is by hour. The reviewers for my work are super helpful and kind, and accomdate to my limitations with working hours.

Go for it, especially if you have a speciality

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u/Late-Confection-2823 — 19 days ago

[36F] I enjoy being in a situationship

Maybe my story is unpopular or uncommon... But I enjoy being in a situationship! I met this guy (31M) 1.5 years ago. When we're together, we have a great time. And I appreciate that a lot. I'm really content with just having what we have. If we have something more, that'd be interesting. If we have something less, then it is what it is.

Also I am divorced and unsuccessfully tried to have a baby in the past. Perhaps at this time of my life I feel like whatever makes me happy in the present moment is a blessing, and I take it for what it is. No expectations.

I never thought I'd be in a situationship at this age and funny enough it is the most liberating and peaceful dynamic I've been in, probably because I've released so much pressure off of myself and from others

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u/Late-Confection-2823 — 21 days ago

Has anyone experienced being in the "friend zone" (but not really) after some intimacy?

I (36F) met this guy (31M) on a dating app around 2 years ago. We didn't hit it off right away, but he liked talking to me, and we have mutual friends, so we've stayed in contact.

Recently we started vibing. He came over a couple weeks ago, and we were heavily making out and he was getting handsy. At that point I told him I wasn't comfortable giving him head or having intercourse unless he got tested for STDs. He said something along the lines of "Yeah, that will take me a while to get to."

We went to dinner, then came back to mine. When we got in bed, he took my pants off and went down on me all night. For the record, I've been tested recently and I'm clean. I will test again.

A few days after that, we were flirting pretty hard, but then he stopped flirting. He still texts me a lot, and the other day he invited me to go out with his family and friends to a family-friendly bar.

I feel like I'm in the friend zone but I also think that perhaps he isn't motivated to flirt anymore since sex isn't on the horizon. Thoughts, insights, relatable stories?

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u/Late-Confection-2823 — 30 days ago

Will a guy treat you as just a friend after he realizes he won't get what he ultimately wants?

I (36F) met this guy (31M) on a dating app around 2 years ago. We didn't hit it off right away, but he liked talking to me, and we have mutual friends, so we've stayed in contact.

Recently we started vibing. He came over a couple weeks ago, and we were heavily making out and he was getting handsy. At that point I told him I wasn't comfortable giving him head or having intercourse unless he got tested for STDs. He said something along the lines of "Yeah, that will take me a while to get to."

We went to dinner, then came back to mine. When we got in bed, he took my pants off and went down on me all night. For the record, I've been tested recently and I'm clean.

A few days after that, we were flirting pretty hard, but then he stopped flirting. He still texts me a lot, and the other day he invited me to go out with his family and friends to a family-friendly bar.

So... it seems like he is friend zoning me? But maybe he's also just not flirting because he knows sex is not on the horizon so he's not motivated anymore?

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u/Late-Confection-2823 — 1 month ago
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What are common signs that a man has shifted from romantic interest to friendship?

Here's what sparked the question: I (36F) met this guy (31M) on a dating app around 2 years ago. We didn't hit it off right away, but he liked talking to me, and we have mutual friends, so we've stayed in contact.

Recently we started vibing. He came over a couple weeks ago, and we were heavily making out and he was getting handsy. At that point I told him I wasn't comfortable giving him head or having intercourse unless he got tested for STDs. He said something along the lines of, "Yeah, that will take me a while to get to."

We went to dinner, then came back to mine. When we got in bed, he took my pants off and went down on me all night. For the record, I've been tested recently and I'm clean.

A few days after that, we were flirting pretty hard, but then he stopped flirting. He still texts me a lot, and the other day he invited me to go out with his family and friends to a family-friendly bar.

My situation is just what got me thinking about this question. I'm not asking anyone to interpret his behavior. I'm curious about dating in general: what behaviors do you think usually distinguish someone who's still romantically interested from someone who's transitioned into seeing the other person as just a friend?

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u/Late-Confection-2823 — 1 month ago

First mercor offer Chem exp

First mercor offer!! It took me a few weeks to land something. Hope it works out well. Good look y'all, keep at it.

u/Late-Confection-2823 — 1 month ago

Mercor AI interview cut short?

When I did the interview, I wouldn't be able to finish my responses. The AI bot would move on to the next question. So I just quit the interview process halfway. Anyone else experience this?

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u/Late-Confection-2823 — 2 months ago

Trigeminal neuralgia near the eye

Does anyone have this? I mostly hear about the jaw area. I can't use my right eye much because it stings and drys out all the time. The central pain is at my temple but it's close to my eye.

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u/Late-Confection-2823 — 2 months ago

Repeat MVD, did it cure you?

Ive had an MVD on both sides and now I have the option of doing another on my right. That's because the right side never fully healed, and MRI shows compression.

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I was also offered botox and neuromodulation. Not feeling those options at the moment.

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Anyone have success with a repeat MVD?

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u/Late-Confection-2823 — 2 months ago