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My sister is currently in Sri Lanka receiving treatment after being hit by a van. She has fractures and is in a lot of pain. We’ve already seen two Western doctors, but they mainly prescribed painkillers and arranged physiotherapy, which hasn’t been very helpful.
We’re now looking into herbal medicine as a possible option. Does anyone here know any good, reputable herbal doctors or traditional medicine practitioners in Sri Lanka who have experience with fractures and injury recovery? Any recommendations would be really appreciated.

My aunt is severely overweight and was recently diagnosed with Rheumatic Arthritis. What diet changes did many of you have to make? And what foods should she be avoiding?

I had a situationship with a guy a couple years ago. He got back with his ex, treated me pretty badly, and I eventually cut him off. We ended up in the same friend group later, so I still see him often.
For context, after things ended I made the mistake of hooking up with him twice, and he completely ignored me after that, which hurt a lot. I’ve moved on since then and even dated someone else, but seeing him around still brings up some feelings.

Recently, a girl in our group (who knows about our history) got really close to him and they ended up making out on a night out. I don’t even want him anymore, but it still hurt more than I expected.
I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or if this is a normal response. I just feel disrespected and annoyed at myself for still being affected, especially since I see him often and he still acts like he can get my attention whenever he wants.

How do I stop caring about this and not let it get to me?

I had a situationship with a guy a couple years ago. He got back with his ex, treated me pretty badly, and I eventually cut him off. We ended up in the same friend group later, so I still see him often.
For context, after things ended I made the mistake of hooking up with him twice, and he completely ignored me after that, which hurt a lot. I’ve moved on since then and even dated someone else, but seeing him around still brings up some feelings.

Recently, a girl in our group (who knows about our history) got really close to him and they ended up making out on a night out. I don’t even want him anymore, but it still hurt more than I expected.
I’m not sure if I’m overreacting or if this is a normal response. I just feel disrespected and annoyed at myself for still being affected, especially since I see him often and he still acts like he can get my attention whenever he wants.

How do I stop caring about this and not let it get to me?

Hung out with my friends and a few of them left to go home then there were only two people that wanted to stay back these people barely spoke to me like especially the girl she was mostly just talking to the other person there what bothered me the most was they were begging me to stay?? Like tf why tell me to stay if you arent gonna talk to me. Safe to say I wont be going out with just two again.

I fe like I’m falling behind in life, and it’s exhausting.
I’m the only one in my friend group who’s struggling financially. All my friends come from wealthy families. They’re independent in their own ways and don’t rely heavily on their parents, but at the end of the day, they’ve never had to experience the kind of stress I deal with. And I don’t blame them for that—but it makes me feel really alone.

On top of that, my mom’s work visa is expiring next month, and she’ll have to return to our home country. She’s getting older, and the whole situation just feels overwhelming and uncertain.

I just graduated from university, which I’m proud of, but I feel completely lost about what comes next. I’ve been considering consulting, but it requires constant interaction with people, and lately I don’t even feel like myself socially. I used to be confident, able to talk to anyone without overthinking. Now I feel awkward and disconnected, like that version of me is gone.
I don’t know how to navigate any of this—career, finances, family pressure, or even just feeling like myself again. I’m just really tired of feeling stuck while everyone else seems to have things figured out.

Hi everyone,
I grew up in a very spiritual Buddhist family, and religion has always been a big part of my life. But in 2023, I went through a really difficult period, and that’s when I found Christ. It’s a long story, but I had access to a Bible at home (my sister went to a Catholic school), and I started reading it in secret. Eventually, I began going to church on my own too, although I’ve never attended Mass.

My parents don’t fully know about my faith, but they suspect something. At one point, my mom found the Bible I was reading and took it away because she was upset. I recently ordered another one and am keeping it hidden. I even gave the old one to someone I know who is also exploring Christianity.

Lately, I’ve been feeling really lonely. None of my friends know that I go to church or read the Bible, and my family definitely doesn’t either. It feels like I’m living a double life. The version of me that everyone sees is completely different from who I am when I’m alone with God. I don’t know how to bridge that gap or even begin explaining what I’ve experienced. Saying something like “I felt the Holy Spirit and it changed my life” feels impossible to communicate.
On top of that, I just graduated from university and have no idea what I want to do next.

I’ve been hearing about corporate work culture, especially things like drinking and happy hours, and it honestly scares me. I do drink, and I tend to smoke when I’m stressed, which I know I need to stop. I’m worried about falling into unhealthy habits or losing my faith in that kind of environment and I also feel guilty sometimes which I don’t understand.

I guess I’m just wondering if anyone here has been in a similar situation—finding faith in a non-Christian family, keeping it hidden, and trying to figure out how to stay grounded while starting adult life. How did you open up to your family or friends, if you did? And how do you navigate work environments where drinking is a big part of the culture without compromising your values?

I’d really appreciate any advice or even just hearing that I’m not alone in this.
Thanks for reading.

Hi everyone,
I grew up in a very spiritual Buddhist family, and religion has always been a big part of my life. But in 2023, I went through a really difficult period, and that’s when I found Christ. It’s a long story, but I had access to a Bible at home (my sister went to a Catholic school), and I started reading it in secret. Eventually, I began going to church on my own too, although I’ve never attended Mass.

My parents don’t fully know about my faith, but they suspect something. At one point, my mom found the Bible I was reading and took it away because she was upset. I recently ordered another one and am keeping it hidden. I even gave the old one to someone I know who is also exploring Christianity.

Lately, I’ve been feeling really lonely. None of my friends know that I go to church or read the Bible, and my family definitely doesn’t either. It feels like I’m living a double life. The version of me that everyone sees is completely different from who I am when I’m alone with God. I don’t know how to bridge that gap or even begin explaining what I’ve experienced. Saying something like “I felt the Holy Spirit and it changed my life” feels impossible to communicate.
On top of that, I just graduated from university and have no idea what I want to do next.

I’ve been hearing about corporate work culture, especially things like drinking and happy hours, and it honestly scares me. I do drink, and I tend to smoke when I’m stressed, which I know I need to stop. I’m worried about falling into unhealthy habits or losing my faith in that kind of environment and I also feel guilty sometimes which I don’t understand.

I guess I’m just wondering if anyone here has been in a similar situation—finding faith in a non-Christian family, keeping it hidden, and trying to figure out how to stay grounded while starting adult life. How did you open up to your family or friends, if you did? And how do you navigate work environments where drinking is a big part of the culture without compromising your values?

I’d really appreciate any advice or even just hearing that I’m not alone in this.
Thanks for reading.

Its so beautiful to listen too but I don’t know what it means and its definitions?

I listened to a talk by Fr. Ripperger and he mentioned how people pray to them? I am very new to the faith so I just wanted to know.If any of you do,how do you do it?

I am relatively clueless about Economics and am learning more about politics and Globals issues. Any book recommendations?

Any good and reliable travel agencies?

Growing up, I was pretty dorky in pretty much every way. Puberty hit me super late, and by the time it finally did, I had already accepted that I was “ugly” and that I was just going to look that way forever. Looking back now, it makes me genuinely sad that I ever thought of myself like that.
In high school I was cringe, awkward, with zero fashion sense. But I wasn’t socially anxious or awkward—I actually loved talking to people, getting to know them, and helping them become the best version of themselves. I was always the type to hype others up. The only thing was, I was emotionally avoidant with my friends. I rarely showed sadness or shared my real problems (unless it was about a boy).
During that time, a religious community/temple formed involving my family and a few hundred others. I got heavily scrutinized, insulted, and made to feel awful about myself there. Even though it’s been years since high school, I still carry a lot of that with me. Whenever I let my guard down, people walk all over me. I just graduated and feel completely lost—I don’t even know what I want to do. Most jobs require talking to people a lot, but I’ve lost the confidence and charisma I used to have.
Back then, even as the dorky loser, I had accepted who I was and genuinely didn’t care what people thought. Now it’s the complete opposite. I feel like that awkward girl who was never popular, and it’s holding me back.
How do I rebuild my confidence? Especially the kind that lets me talk to anyone without shrinking or overthinking? Any advice, stories, or resources would mean a lot.

I have this horrible habit of putting certain people on a pedestal i have noticed this pattern with three people in my life and currently it's a guy friend.I noticed that since I'm super single right now I started doing things like wanting him to hold the door open and carrying my bags when its heavy (he rarely does these).

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Which is so wrong considering he's just a friend and I shouldn't even have these expectations and I noticed that I do hold him to a higher standard than my other friends and idk why I do this.I have done done this with a female friend and a ex.It is genuinely so unhealthy as well for our friendship I don't think he notices but I am also extra sensitive to whatever he says. Genuinely need to stop this.

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I need to clarify I do not have feelings for him,I just don't know why I keep doing this.

I have combination skin and don't break out as much as I used to only occasionally but I do get it pimples when I'm stressed and it's close to that time of the month.I currently use the CeraVe foaming cleanser but am thinking to change to a different cleanser.

I keep feeling like my sleep is disrupted. For the past few years I have desperately tried to fix my sleep schedule I feel like my messed up sleep schedule has led me to a path of brain fog and a lack of clarity, I genuinely can't think straight and feel so dead.And all these end up causing me to make bad decisions.

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Does anyone here have any tips in a Christian point of view on how I can change this? I just get so anxious at night and restless at night despite being so dead during the day.My brain seems to only function at night and I really need to change that. If anyone has any tips please let me know 🙏.

I joined this legal training workshop and completely fucked up the presentation.I was having a really bad day and struggle with brain fog and this person that I'm really intimidated by completely crushed me but rightfully so.

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I just feel so crappy and pathetic because I can't do this my low confidence and my brain fog is gonna be the death of me.

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How do I completely fix my confidence?

My parents aren't the smartest with their money.They get scammed by their own relatives have trouble keeping track of bills and don't put a lot of effort in keeping track of their expenses and barely save.They always assume that taking loans can solve their problems.

It's so frustrating for me most of my friends parents are either rich or they are really good with their money.Its just so frustrating I am 23 years old and have no idea how my family is gonna be able to move forward financially and not to mention my sister is also just as gullible as my parents are and falls for all the emotional mind games that my relatives show her.

I'm so sick of how my friend's treat me sometimes I genuinely feel like the last option and the only person people go too when they are going through something. I have two friends that I have known forever but one is married and ever since she got an arranged marriage her personality completely shifted and sometimes I don't even know who she is anymore and the other lives far away but the ones that I have close by I sometimes feel like only treat me as a last option and all they wanna do in general is drink and smoke there's no deep convos of any sort the only time is when they go through shit when I go through stuff everyone is suddenly busy.

Every single time I think I find a genuine group of friends I always end up disappointed.I got to a point last year where I gave up on female friendships after me and this girl I considered my best friend stopped talking, after that I never felt the same again. Even about the friendships I have now.

All these reasons are prolly why I want a relationship so bad it's just sad.Any time my "friends" joke about me getting married I unfortunately always say that I'd be the type of elope because I genuinely don't wanna have "wedding" and look back many years later and realize those people aren't in my life anymore.

I'm just so fed up of being taken advantaged of and being taken for granted by the people around me I just want normal genuine people in my life, that's literally all I want.

I just want one genuine female friend that has similar interests as me and the same age or a year or two older why is that so hard to find

Me and my friends are planning a group hangout to celebrate me finally finishing uni. This is the first time I'm mixing my friend groups – some friends I've known for the past 2-3 years, plus two friends I've known for over a decade

One of those decade-long friends is a girl I’ve been close with since we were kids. We’re both 23 and South Asian. She’s from a pretty religious Muslim background and had an arranged marriage last year to a guy from the country she's from she only knew for about a week. I’ve never even spoken to him – I saw him once from a distance, that’s it. Her husband isn’t coming to the hangout at all.

A few days ago we were hanging out and I showed her the dress I’m planning to wear. Her immediate reaction was basically “what if my husband shows up and doesn’t like what you’re wearing?” I was so thrown off. I’ve always dressed modestly around her and her family out of respect, even though I’m not Muslim myself.Since my own family is relatively conservative too, I’ve tried to be mindful. But the comment just felt… weird.

First of all, her husband isn’t even coming. Second, why would my outfit be his business when he doesn’t know me? I didn’t know how to respond in the moment. She quickly backtracked and kept saying “no no, forget I said that,” but it’s been stuck in my head ever since.

I can’t tell if she doesn’t trust me, or if she’s just so deep in her new life idek.It just really rubbed me off the wrong way.

Has anyone else experienced something like this when a friend gets married into a more conservative and traditional setup? Am I reading too much into it?