u/Miserable_Deer5363

I haven’t bought a bra in years because nothing truly fits. Last bra I bought was a 34B at Walmart and it’s my everyday bra, with no underwire. I came across this subreddit and decided to try it out!

I’ve taken my measurements multiple times, and there’s a slight variation but only by half an inch to an inch. It’s difficult because I’m doing it by myself lol.

My measurements:
Underbust
Loose: 31” ~ 32”
Snug: 30” ~ 31”
Tight: 29” ~ 30”

Bust
Standing: 35”
Leaning: 36.5” ~ 37”
Lying: 35” ~ 35.5”

The bra size recommended to me was 30E with a sister size of 32DD.

I went to try on a 32DD at a Victoria Secret because that’s the one that kept popping up no matter what variation of measurements I inputted. The cups fit me fine, but the bands were so tight!!! I think it might’ve been the store I went to? I hate underwire so I asked for ones without it and I was given strange shaped bras!!! The nice lady gave me another “sister size” 34C, but the cups were way too big and band was too loose. She told me that I’m probably a 32DD but the band just needs to stretch because they are new bras.

What do you think? Any recommendations?

Sometimes it’s lowkey“not that deep”. However, I feel that the mental health world, especially the OCD community, gets a lot of their words “normalized” which can take away its true meaning. It gets to the point where OCD isn’t seen as “that bad” because people have used words like “OCD” and “intrusive thoughts” as a hyperbole for being really neat or being creative, instead of what they ACTUALLY mean.

I just came across a video of a woman saying she has “intrusive thoughts” about redecorating her living room… girl no. Unless those thoughts were “I have to redecorate or else my kids will trip and fall on this rug into the fireplace and turn it on and burn down the house while everyone is asleep and kill us all” then it’s not an intrusive thought, that’s just called inspiration. (She was, in fact, just having a spark of creativity, and not an intrusive thought)

Neurotypicals will never understand the stressed and panicked planning for every possible outcome where something could go wrong I see in my head because I HAVE to or everyone will die.

Are there any instances you can think of that you’ve seen of the misuse of mental health terms?

I’ve never had much of a desire or even visualized getting married. I’m not even really keen on the idea of being tied to someone because the divorce process just looks like hell. If I do want to legally union with someone, the most I’d do is elope.

However, I’ve had vivid dreams and visions of having a child. Especially being an older mom with a teenager and young adult. It’s just a dream of mine. I’ve built up this life in my head that I want to have with my child, and if I’m honest, I don’t see anyone else beside me.

I’ve always been a very isolated person and I dislike asking for help, so that’s probably why when I have these visions of being a mom, I don’t envision a partner with me. I envision doing everything myself, caring for my child by myself. Financially, emotionally, physically.

Hi there! I live in a hot climate so most of my tops are short sleeved but most of them are t-shirts, and not very whimsical. I’m having trouble finding whimsical tops that are also short sleeved.

What whimsical short sleeved tops do you wear for the summer?

Thank you :3

Hi there! I live in a hot climate so most of my tops are short sleeved but most of them are t-shirts, and not very whimsical. I’m having trouble finding whimsical tops that are also short sleeved.

What whimsical short sleeved tops do you wear for the summer?

Thank you :3

I don’t have an internship this summer so I’m looking to expand my knowledge another way this summer!

Any recommendations would be greatly appreciated :)

I joined earlier today and then all of a sudden it said I wasn’t joined anymore? So I joined again and now whenever I scroll down this subreddit or exit out of it, I’m not joined anymore??

I don’t know if it’s a bug or if the mods think I’m spam but I promise I’m just a Information Systems student who wants to learn more about business analysis 😭 please let me join 🙏

My boyfriend is trying to get me to go to therapy because he goes to therapy, but I’m not used to getting help from others. I’m a very “I can fix it myself” type of gal, even if the problem is me. And in my opinion, I feel like although I do have issues, I’m very self aware of them and I work on my behavior and actions to improve myself. I truly do not know what a therapist can do for me that I can’t do/have already done for myself, however, my boyfriend is really pushing me to try it. I’m glad it works for him and I don’t doubt that therapy can be helpful, however I’m having trouble finding how it could specifically help a very independent person like me? But I promised him I’d look into it more before making a final decision.

So I’d like to know, what do you get out of therapy? How has it helped you?

Our (26F, 20F, 21M, and 24M) boss (46F) has gone through a lot this year.

She has had three people close to her pass away suddenly from old age, cancer, and suicide: she’s had to take on doing an extra job that she never supposed to do which had a strict due date and is making her have to slack at her actual job; and her cat just passed a few days ago.

Even so, she’s stayed strong and been helpful and kind, however I can tell it’s starting to wear her down. She’s stressed and starting to get a little more irritated. I’ve been trying to just shut up and get my work done, but I’m thinking that my coworkers and I should do something for her.

I wanted to get her a card thanking her for everything that she does for us, maybe some sunflowers (they are cat safe and her roommates have cats), and some chocolates. I’m going to give it to her after the extra job she was forced to do is over.

Is this too unprofessional? We are all very close to her and she’s done so much for us, but I’ve always heard that you’re NEVER supposed to get a gift for your boss because it can show that you’re trying to get something from them, but if it’s from all of us, wouldn’t that be okay?

Please help me :( is this too weird?

This is just a theory of mine, but I have a feeling that graduation rates for all universities will go down because of AI. Not necessarily that because students are using it, but that AI is going to replace so many jobs that students won’t feel motivated to graduate.

Because why even work on a degree that’s going to be obsolete when AI takes over their jobs?

We don’t know what jobs AI will take and even if we are lucky to get a job after graduation, how long will it take for the company’s to lay us off to replace us with AI?

Hi, I got a text from Harris & Harris Debt Collector company this morning.

The full text says:

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I don’t have debt and I have never had debt.

I also don’t have Spectrum.

My mom does have spectrum and she has debt, but I doubt she added me to any of her things.

So idk why I got this text. Do you have an idea why this would happen?

* EDIT:

It’s a scam!!! BBB has similar scam texts on their website. *The website (hhcollect) is associated with a scam which is why I updated my post and added spaces between the words so it’s not a clickable link, but if anyone else has this issue they can refer to it.

Professor assigned our class a 100 point project a few weeks ago and hasn’t graded it. This is a project heavy class (no homework), so it’s not like there’s much to grade. Most of us have emailed and texted him about it, but he won’t respond.

Right now it says: (-/100)

Will this assignment affect our grade if it goes ungraded? Will it show up as a zero and bring down our grade? Or will it not affect our current grade because it was never graded in the first place?

I’m concerned because the 22nd is the last day to publish grades so I want to make sure I keep my A and not get a zero on this assignment because my lazy professor forgot to grade it.

I just turned 26 last month and with every passing year I feel I only look more beautiful.

I am 15 pounds over weight, but I love having that extra weight on me. I feel I look very feminine with a pouch on belly and fuller arms/legs. When I look at women who are skinny, I don’t feel envy or jealousy, I think of them as beautiful too.

The fact I’ve stopped comparing myself to others has helped a lot. Why was I looking at others with such a deep sadness, thinking I could “never look like that” when instead I could be rejoicing about how beautiful and diverse we all are.

I cannot wait until I’m in the 30s and 40s. I cannot wait to have fine lines on my face and grey in my hair. I can’t wait to be me but different and better and always more beautiful.

Really I’m just writing this because I’m out of town and I forgot my journal at home, but I’d love to know your feelings about yourself as you get older?

I have five finals and three projects due.

Whenever I tell people this they say that’s insane lol but I feel like every semester has been pretty similar for me.

Wbu?

I have shoulder length hair in layers and my hair is flat as a pancake (fine hair), so it looks like shit half the time. I want to go for a cuter, messier look.

Any recommendations?

Looking into wax but I’m not sure if that’s too heavy. I’ve tried mouse but that just makes me look greasy and weighs down my hair too much.

Is there maybe a powder like product that could give me that texture and volume?