u/NotPlayingCharacter

So recently I got an increment at my job where i was allowed to negotiate my final CTC. I am already in the 30% tax bracket. And it is wayy better than what most other folks make with my level of experience and skills.

I told them a number and they agreed without negotiation. I was hoping they would negotiate so I was more prepared to take a lower number. I was a bit sad that maybe I should have asked for a higher number but it was fine.

Now the interesting part is, I got more than what we decided upon. They told me I am important and stuff so they just rounded it up to a higher value. Maybe i give them a better ROI but i highly doubt that as they are making negligible profits and it is just running on investor's money.

Though the new increment from their end was not much but that got me thinking I would have never given that if I was the employer. I would have negotiated hard in the first place. I would have tried to save as much as possible for the company. Though it is investor's money anyway but it is money only. If i was running a startup, i would have done a lot of cost cutting on expenses even if i had ton of money lying around.

But i guess, you would have to avoid being frugal when running a company to be successful. Though my company is not at all successful by any means and i don't see much hope of it doing good later. But it has its perks.

What would you do if you were an employer ? Would you still be frugal on your employees and expenses ?

I work at a startup with <15 employees and asked the CEO if we could get the Pluxee card for tax saving. But he denied saying it will be too much of a hassle for them to manage. I don't know what he means by this.

I am in the 30% bracket and I think the card would help a lot in saving taxes. What are my options here ?

My friends/families know how much i make. And they call me whenever they need help with money. I help them and they return it eventually but just after a lot of consistently begging for my own money.

Today morning i see a missed call from a friend and i am pretty sure he will be asking for money. Last time he asked it was in lakhs and took 3 years to pay me back completely when he promised it to return it in a year. I am not sure whether to call him back or not.

How do you deny in these situations ? I say, most of my money is invested but they would negotiate and still take my money

I got that pro plan using student discount but that got somehow got linked to my work email. Is there a way to change the linked email address ? My company might activate cursor's team plan on that same work email soon.

I was thinking if he didn't join BJP and kept his political stance for few more months he could have found more opportunities and utilised the CJP trend or might as well be a spokesperson for them and gain more positive PR.

What do you guys think ? I don't follow lot of politics seriously but this is a thought I had.

I want to start preparing hld/lld. I don't really know where to start. I was thinking of just attempting some system design questions and draw and write things. I see UML diagrams being in use for lld. I guess this is more of a visual thing rather than focusing on code right ?

Is there some way i could keep track of what i have learnt so far. Like code you could push to GitHub and i could revisit anytime. Is there any other method to make this learning more efficient.

What are your dreams and goals that you want to fulfil before you reach 30s ? And how close are you to reach there ?

Disclaimer: Long Rant ahead. You can skip to the end

Asking this because i feel like i am not motivated enough to grow. I had one certain goal that I was working hard for. Did a lot of cost cutting and lifestyle compromises to achieve that goal. But once I achieved it, i didn't feel the happiness I thought I would get.

Now I am clueless on what to do next. Sure i have other goals but then what is the point if i don't get the happiness or the dopamine hit I thought i would get.

Now just came to know few days back that my tech job is at risk. And i don't know how to cope with that. I had been here for like 6 years and it was pretty comfortable so I didn't leave even when everyone suggested to look for another job. I could have utilised this comfortness to enjoy life like travelling and exploring but that also i didn't do. I had the opportunity to do everything but couldn't because of my social awkwardness and introvertness.

Once I heard my job being at risk, i just regret all my past years that it could have been much more than just work. I know even the work was limiting my growth in my career. 6yo experience but i know nothing. But still got too comfortable and didn't leave. Now i am being thrown out with no backup plan.

Coming back to dreams, there is this one dream i have hoped after seeing some couples in the city. I imagined me and my wife (i don't have one, yet) would make shitload amount of money to afford/own a home in a reputable society. I would live with my lovely wife and some cute kids (🤞🏽atleast 1 girl). Kids are communicating in English (but they will strictly talk in our native language at home). Wife and kids are also into basic fitness and sports. Wife also earn and contribute to the expenses and not just be a stay at home. We are a happy family, love each other crazy, motivate and push each other to grow and be better in all aspects.

Though thinking about it a lot of this is just hard to achieve based on our circumstances. Though i haven't even got to the first phase of this dream, lol. Never even had a gf to start with though AM is still in picture 🙃. Also the wife I am imagining won't settle for someone like me with all the flaws i have in my current state. All this makes me contemplate if i even have a chance to have this life.

But now with my current job situation, even the little hope i had for this life is shattering. Though this feeling might go away if I am able to crack another job but right now i am just terrified of the near future.

End of yap ✌🏽

Pata hai aaj kya hua ?

Mere ghar pe kuch log aaye the donation mangne ke liye koi charity ke liye. Usually mai entertain nahi karta ye sab. Par wo group mere age ka hi tha aur jo baat kar rahi thi wo thi ladki. Female interaction non existent hai meri to mujhe bhi maja aa raha tha baat karne mai.

Wo kuch casual talk kar rahi mai bhi casual talk kar raha. Aur mai kafi introvert aur socially awkward insaan hu par wo jis tarike se baat kar rahi thi kaafi comforting lag raha tha.

Fir wo mudde pe aati hai aur bolti hai ki humara ye ngo hai ye cause hai aur bolti ki subscription basis pe donation start kardo. Aapko force nahi kar rahe par gareebo ka bhala ho jayega.

Maine bhi jyada resist nahi kiya aur bina jyada kuch soche suru kar diya details daalna. Kaafi lengthy process tha. Form fill karo, consent ke liye alag call pe verify kiya aur Boht kuch.

Jab wo chale gaye to mujhe thode baad realise hua ki mai to boht bhondu insaan hu itni jaldi kaise manipulate ho gaya. Itna kanjoos bhi hu ki khud pe 1000rs mahine bina overthink kiye kharch na karu aur yaha maine random donation start kar diya.

Ab ek do mahine baad cancel kardunga mandate. But ab sochke lagta hai ki agar ye koi ladka baat kar raha hota to uske muh pe darwaza band kardeta shayad. But ladki thi to mai pighal gaya 🫠.

I just cannot raise my voice in front of superiors. I fumble a lot when talking to them. Though i have decent loud voice in front of people I vibe with and random strangers. But i just cannot communicate even simple words clearly in office. How will I even climb this corporate ladder with this condition ?

Does this also happen to anyone else ?

I have been consistent to gym for like 2 months now. Not doing very heavy lifting, mostly cardio and simpler excersizes. My goal is to get visible hard 🪨 abs which i think is very hard to get without proper diet.

I see daily protein intake should be atleast 0.8x of bodyweight in grams. I can be consistent with daily workout but with diet it is getting tough. It seems way lot of work to manage everything.

I find it hard to spend that much on just protein everyday. What if i don't worry about protein and just push myself ? Will it still be effective in gaining strength (even if it is slower) ?

I don't think every gym guy cares about their protein intake right ?

Pata hai aaj kya hua. Office me kisine ghar se ek bhujiya ka packet laya tha. Aur dekhte dekhte mai wo pura akele hi kha gaya.

Baakiyo ne bas thoda thoda taste Kiya but maine dhire dhire karke pura khatam kar diya. Almost 1kg ka packet to hoga hi. Abhi sochke lagta hai ki control karna chahiye tha pata nahi office Wale kya sochte honge mere bare me.

Mera aisa hai ki khud ke paiso se junk naa hi kharidta hu naa hi khata hu but dusro ke paiso ka ho to sharam bhi nahi karta 🤪

I bought a Usb C dock from spigen from their site two weeks ago. I bought it from their site because it was a bit cheaper comparatively with welcome coupons. Today they reduced the price of that product by 600 rupees everywhere on amazon, flipkart and their own site.

I feel like returning and rebuying it again but there is no option to return. I guess If i had bought this from amazon or flipkart, the process would be more simpler. Or atleast i would know if it was possible or not.

Was it a bad move to buy it from seller's site ? It even took a lot of time to deliver. What are my options to get that 600rs back ?