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I have around 3 years of experience in software development, and I’m planning to switch company.
Any advice would be appreciated!

I was in a relationship for 7 years, and after we broke up, I tried talking to a few guys just as friends. My intentions were never romantic or inappropriate. I was simply trying to socialize and move on with my life.
Unfortunately, some of those guys went back and told my ex about our conversations. Since then, my ex has been creating his own narratives about me and making it seem like I’m a “bad” person, even though nothing happened. It feels like he’s trying to indirectly damage my reputation.
What’s worse is that I feel like I’ve lost the respect of some of our mutual friends because they’re only hearing his version of the story. To protect my peace, I’ve gone completely no-contact with all of his friends and removed them from my social media.
The whole experience has left me genuinely scared to talk to any guy or even make new friends. I keep worrying that anything I say will be twisted, shared, or used against me. I never had bad intentions with anyone, but I still feel judged for things I didn’t do.
Has anyone else gone through something similar? How did you stop caring about other people’s assumptions and regain the confidence to trust people again?

I was in a relationship for 7 years, and after we broke up, I tried talking to a few guys just as friends. My intentions were never romantic or inappropriate. I was simply trying to socialize and move on with my life.
Unfortunately, some of those guys went back and told my ex about our conversations. Since then, my ex has been creating his own narratives about me and making it seem like I’m a “bad” person, even though nothing happened. It feels like he’s trying to indirectly damage my reputation.
What’s worse is that I feel like I’ve lost the respect of some of our mutual friends because they’re only hearing his version of the story. To protect my peace, I’ve gone completely no-contact with all of his friends and removed them from my social media.
The whole experience has left me genuinely scared to talk to any guy or even make new friends. I keep worrying that anything I say will be twisted, shared, or used against me. I never had bad intentions with anyone, but I still feel judged for things I didn’t do.
Has anyone else gone through something similar? How did you stop caring about other people’s assumptions and regain the confidence to trust people again?

I was with my ex for 7 years. Throughout the relationship, I stayed loyal even when things became toxic. There were constant fights, disrespect, and I kept hoping things would get better.
We finally broke up, and I have absolutely no desire to get back with him. But he won’t let me move on. He keeps contacting me, emotionally tormenting me, and making it difficult for me to live peacefully. It’s exhausting.
Sometimes I catch myself thinking, “I wish I had cheated.” Not because I actually believe cheating is right, but because it feels so unfair that I stayed faithful, gave my all, and still ended up being treated like this. It almost feels like my loyalty meant nothing.
I know this thought comes from anger and hurt, not from what I truly believe. Has anyone else ever had these kinds of thoughts after leaving a toxic relationship? How did you stop the resentment from consuming you and finally move on?

I went to the gym today, came home, and started having sexual thoughts like I normally do. I decided to masturbate, but halfway through I suddenly started crying.
Before my breakup, I had an extremely high libido. I used to want sex multiple times a day when i was in relationship and it felt like a huge part of me. But now, even though I still get turned on sometimes, it feels different. It’s like the emotions are taking over.
I wasn’t expecting to cry at all. It honestly caught me off guard.
Has anyone else experienced this after a breakup? Did your libido change or did sex and masturbation start bringing up unexpected emotions? How long did it take before things felt normal again?

It’s getting boring here. I barely have any friends around and don’t really know many places to go. Looking for suggestions on fun spots to hang out, or just spend time doing something interesting. What do you guys usually do around here?

My physically abusive ex showed up outside my apartment. The other night, I went to a pub with a friend. When we got back and were walking towards my apartment, I saw him standing outside my building waiting for me. He said he wanted to talk, but I didn’t want to. I tried to walk away, and he grabbed my hand and started pulling me. When I resisted, he aggressively pulled my hair and tried to force me to sit on his bike. He also tried to snatch my phone when I attempted to call for help.
Thankfully, my roommate answered my call and came downstairs. The moment she arrived, he switched his behavior completely and started crying, complaining about me, and acting like the victim. I’ve always considered myself a strong person. I work out regularly, I’m independent, and I’ve handled difficult situations before. But for the first time in my life, I feel weak, shaken, and honestly worthless. I keep replaying the incident in my head and wondering why I’m so affected by it. Part of me feels guilty for not handling it better, even though I know I was trying my best to get away.

Hey everyone!

Looking for suggestions for a good women’s watch under ₹4k. Prefer something stylish for office/ daily wear + occasional outings.
Preferences:
Elegant/minimal design
Good build quality
Comfortable for small wrists
Analog preferred: square dial.

Would love recommendations that are actually worth buying and long-lasting. Bonus if you’ve personally used it 🙌

Please drop links/models if possible. Thanks!

24F here. I’m a gym girl, working full-time, disciplined, ambitious, and love taking care of myself. I spend a lot of time working on my body, mindset, and surviving on coffee and bad decisions. At this point, I don’t even want a sugar daddy… I want a SUGAR MOMMY

Now I’m looking for an independent woman—someone confident, emotionally mature, has her own life together, and doesn’t need constant validation. Bonus points if she’s smart, driven, and can match my energy. I need an emotionally stable woman to tell me I’m doing great, book spa appointments for us, and randomly say, “Pack your bags, we’re going out”

I can offer loyalty, compliments, memes, and being cute in public. Where do people even find these women? Asking for myself.

Hi, I’m 24F and I just got out of a 6-year relationship. We weren’t casual—we had plans to get married, our families had met, everything felt set. And now it’s just… gone. I’m not even able to process it properly. One day I had a future, and the next day I feel like I’m starting from zero.

What’s hitting me the most is how I see myself now. I feel unattractive, unwanted, and honestly a bit lost. I keep wondering what changed, what I did wrong, or if I wasn’t “enough” in some way.

I know breakups are part of life, but this doesn’t feel like something small I can just move on from. It feels like I lost a version of my life that I had already started living in my head.

Has anyone gone through something similar? How did you deal with this phase where your confidence just drops completely?

Alright shooting my shot here!🏳️‍🌈

I’m a working professional, independent, fit, and yes,I take care of how I look. I like good coffee, exploring cafes, and being around good energy. Looking for a woman who’s into women, someone who knows her vibe, is emotionally sorted (or at least self-aware), and enjoys meaningful connection over surface-level stuff.

Not here for games. Just good conversations, good vibes, and seeing where it goes:)