u/Odd_Construction2690

if so, how do u like it? what type of nurse r u?

i’m struggling a bit in my current role. I work in supply chain planning. lots of presenting findings to upper management and answering their questions about the numbers. i made a fool of myself at a meeting today, as I didn’t pull the numbers up quick enough. and then someone else on the team stepped in for me. now looking at it, what they wanted me to show is so simple. but in the moment, my mind was like a tornado of thoughts. i over complicated the question. This would happen in school as well. when we’d do case studies in class or at interviews. the rest of the team would be so far ahead of me. I never had enough time to even wrap my head around the problem/figure out where to begin. and the team would already be miles ahead of me.

I will be moving to a new team soon. Current team is looking for someone full time, but it’s pretty evident that i’ve proven i’m not ready for that. feeling a bit anxious about my future, due to my inability to problem solve amongst ambiguity. I’ve never been very bright in life. definitely don’t have a STEM oriented brain. and also sometimes struggle socially (in situations like the one described above). all my office jobs seem to be misses and i can’t never hit the nail on the head. feeling lost as to what i can do, other than working minimum wage.

i’m struggling a bit in my current role. I work in supply chain planning. lots of presenting findings to upper management and answering their questions about the numbers. i made a fool of myself at a meeting today, as I didn’t have numbers pulled up quick enough. and then someone else on the team stepped in for me. now looking at it, what they wanted me to show is so simple. but in the moment, my mind was like a tornado of thoughts. i over complicated the questions. This would happen in school as well. when we’d do case studies in class or at interviews. the rest of the team would be so far ahead of me. I never have enough time to even wrap my head around the problem/figure out where to begin.

I will be moving to a new team soon. Current team is looking for someone full time, but it’s pretty evident that i’ve proven i’m not ready for that. feeling a bit anxious about my future, due to my inability to problem solve when there are many possibilities as task can go. I’ve never been very bright in life. definitely don’t have a STEM oriented brain. and also sometimes struggle socially (in situations like the one described above). all my office jobs seems to be misses and i can’t never hit the nail on the head. feeling lost as to what i can do, other than working minimum wage.

would u recommend one or the other? just curious. i work in a corporate career. Im early in my career, but was always between a business major and pre-med in college. I never went the pre-med route. sometimes I wonder what if i had went the other direction and done that route, due to the lack of job security there can be in office jobs. What are your thoughts? i’m not passionate about science, but being a doctor and diagnosing and treating people sounds interesting. Just want to hear people’s thoughts and if they have maybe had similar experiences

i imagine unfinished tasks as a bunch of unclosed circles in my brain. and I cannot calm down until those circles close (the task gets done or I’m certain about the direction or the task/ my ability to compete it). Big projects with lots of grey area are the worst for this.

I make a list of tasks I want to get done. It’s often unrealistic for the day. but I don’t feel safe until everything is checked of. I’ve had insomnia for the last 4 years due to this, as I cannot sleep due to feeling I have so many tasks to do, some of which are unnessesary (like checking things over at work).

This can manifest in different ways . Unfinished tasks, or obsessing over the number of hours I worked (ex. reworking hours where I wasn’t completely focused, as I feel uncomfortable working less than 40 focused hrs). I often cannot meet my standards of safety around tasks….

like I say if i can meet/do x goal or task, then I am safe. If not, I must keep trying to meet/do x, or else something bad will happen. This is all due to fear. the more I’m exposed to how other work, the more I understand that my way of going about tasks isn’t normal. I still feel a need to do this though, In order to feel in control and safe. This is all mainly for work tasks. But if my work tasks are really stressful, it’ll flow into home tasks too

i don’t see many posts in here like this, but this has been the cause of my insomnia. like if i have a problem, i need it fixed asap and cannot rest until it’s solved even though i understand that rest is important and my body feels

ike i imagine unfinished tasks as a bunch of unclosed circles in my brain. and I cannot calm down until those circles close (the task gets done or I’m certain about the direction or the task/ my ability to compete it). Big projects with lots of grey area are the worst for this.

I make a list of tasks I want to get done. It’s often unrealistic for the day. but I don’t feel safe until everything is checked of. I’ve had insomnia for the last 4 year due to this, as I cannot sleep due to feeling I have so many tasks to do, some of which are unnessesary (like checking things over at work).

This can manifest in different ways . Unfinished tasks, or obsessing over the number of hours I worked (reworking hours where I wasn’t completely focused, as I feel uncomfortable working less than 40 focused hrs). Or when I was in school, I couldn’t feel safe until I applied to over 100 internships. But that’s so many to apply to, I never applied to that many. It’s like I cannot meet my standards of safety around tasks….

like I say if i can meet/do x, then I am safe. If not, I must keep trying to meet/do x, or else something bad will happen. This is all due to fear. the more I’m exposed to how other work, the more I understand that my way of going about tasks isn’t normal. I still feel a need to do this though, In order to feel in control and safe. This is all mainly for work tasks. But if my work tasks are really stressful, it’ll flow into home tasks too

i talk quiet sometimes and ppl on my team have said that i need to work on talking from my belly at presentations. which i agree with.

i struggle with asserting myself. i’m 23. 5 monthes into this role. have always been a quiet, shy person. i actually have no friends since graduating college, which probably leads to my social anxiety more, as I get no social interaction outside my family and wfh team at work.

something happened that upset me at work. My manager will be out this month, so at our team meeting, my managers boss asked about coverage and who will do the presentations when she’s out. she usually does them

Someone on my team said he can take them. he has more experience than me and the other analyst so it makes sense he volunteered.

My bosses boss added that the other analyst is likely comfortable to do the one of the presentations herself and she said yes.

then he said that i can also likely do the other presentation with the guy that volunteered (we both share coverage for one side of the business) and that I just need to remember to speak from my belly and louder (he said it in a nice and playful way, not harshly). I smiled and said okay

then we meet w my manager that’ll be out, and she asked abt the plan. and that guy that volunteered prior says he can take the presentations. And then adds that the other analyst may have also said she wants to do one of the presentations.

this other person on the team and steps in and says the plan made was me and him do one and the other analyst does the other presention.

he made a sarcastic joke saying I seemed very excited to do the presentation. which i thought was wierd bc i smiled and said okay earlier. my boss said that yeah she thinks im comfortable to present.

after, my manager messages asking me for a list of my tasks and everyone elses.

i’m mad at myself for not standing up for myself at the start saying that the plan was we’d split the presentation. how did u build confidence at work?

i’m annoyed after this and know I just need to fake it til I make it

this is for anyone that may have tips or may have struggles with social anxiety at stores. I feel awkward and don’t know what to do with my face at check out lines. if i smile and am friendly i feel i do too much and have noticed to off put ppl by that. But if im just neutral faced, i look cold and uncomfortable and people are also off put by that seemingly (they can probably sense the nervous energy)

also when the cashier is scanning your stuff, what do u do? i usually look at phone or around at stuff they sell at check out, but it just feels so awkward

i’m having issues w confidence and social anxiety at work, and am wanting to improve social anxiety in dif areas of my life

i didn’t used to get nervous at stores. i used to always have other stuff on my mind and daydream a lot that I didn’t overthink interactions w ppl as my mind was elsewhere (though i still was attentive to the environment), now my mind hyper fixates on the ppl and how I appear to them and i get so anxious.

I guess my fear is that i’ll seem anxious (bc i am)

I feel awkward and don’t know what to do with my face at check out lines. if i smile and am friendly i feel i do too much and have noticed to off put ppl by that. But if im just neutral faced, i look cold and uncomfortable and people are also off put by that seemingly (they can probably sense the nervous energy in both situations)

also when the cashier is scanning your stuff, what do u do? i usually look at phone or around at stuff they sell at check out, but it just feels so awkward and i can’t wait for it to end each time.

i even get nervous about them handing me the bag, worried ill do something wierd. i’m having issues w confidence and social anxiety at work, and am wanting to improve social anxiety is dif areas of my life

i didn’t used to get nervous at stores. i used to always have other stuff on my mind and daydream a lot that I didn’t overthink interactions w ppl as my mind was elsewhere (though i still was attentive to the environment), now my mind hyper fixates on the ppl and how I appear to them and i get so anxious.

I guess my fear is that i’ll seem anxious (bc i am)

i am a introvert and also have social anxiety. I feel awkward and don’t know what to do with my face at check out lines. if i smile and am friendly i feel i do too much and have noticed to off put ppl by that. But if im just neutral face (i have RBF a little), i look cold and uncomfortable and people are also off out by that seemingly (they can probably sense the nervous energy)

also when the cashier is scanning your stuff, what do u do? i usually look at phone or around at stuff they sell at check out, but it just feels so awkward and i can’t wait for it to end each time.

i even get nervous ab bout them handing me the bag, worried ill do something wierd. i’m having issues w confidence and social anxiety at work, and am wanting to improve social anxiety is dif areas of my life

i didn’t used to get nervous at stores. i used to always have other stuff on my mind and daydream a lot that I didn’t overthink interactions w ppl as my mind was elsewhere (though i still was attentive to the environment), now my mind hyper fixates on the ppl and how I appear to them and i get so anxious

i feel so alone. i’m a 23 yr old women. i live at home with my family. i’ve always felt kinda lonely. like i can be surrounded by people but feel lonely and like i don’t truly have anyone. idk. i cycle through friendships, as nothing ever feels real. i know who i can show my real self to, like i can feel when they won’t judge. most ppl i meet, ik i must mask around. it’s easy to make friends as a women, as all u need to do is find girls that like going out. after all the fun wears off, it’s like there’s nothing there,
no genuine understanding between me and others.im extremely sensitive.

i’m starting to have a very hard time with noise at home. like my moms stomps around when she’s angry with my dad and i can’t fucking stand waking up to that shit. she’s also always groaning and shit bc of her own stresses and it’s just makes me wanna fucking break something. idk why. i also hate listening to my aunt talk shit about other women. i hate my aunt actually. she just is so harsh and intense. i cannot handle most people for some reason. they are too much for me. i cannot carry al their fucking burdens and insecurities. it’s like i can’t shield it. i used to be able to when i was young, but the older i get, the harder it is to ward off negative shit. i just feel alone in this world. like no one knows me or understands me. i retreat to my own fantasy world sometimes to help, but it’s harder when ur older. idk. i was just away for work for a couple days and it was genuinely so nice to be alone in a hotel and not around all my family. my mom and aunt has gotten very close. my mom died to be my best friend. i felt seen with her. but now she just gets drunk with my aunt every night. i almost don’t recognize my mom anymore. i think she’s a HSP too. she has her own anxieties about gang stalking and stuff, and it’s taken over her life, but she carries sm anxiety that i just genuinely cannot stand to be around her anymore, as I can feel it and it’s makes me want to just fucking break shit. i’m jsut ranting here. i’d love to talk to somebody or hear your stories

how to fake it when I just want to be invisible and have no one look at me? I basically feel like a shell of myself. i used to not be this way. I feel the worst i’ve ever felt about myself in my life. I’m 23. I feel very insecure at work meetings and we have an in person event coming up that i want to feel comfortable at

i don’t really have a life outside work, have no friends, and no longer close with my family. basically feel very alone and have lost all self confidence. how to fake it? I am mainly insecure around men, as i worry they think i am ugly and I want them to be attracted to me. ik it sounds very vain. I used to be attractive which is why i have this insecurity. it’s hard to get used to not getting attention from men. anyone struggled with similar? i’d love to talk to someone or just hear you stories and tips

that criticize others appearances

i’m an INFP working in the corporate work. a year in, early 20’s. i struggle w my Te. I have a tough time being efficient in my tasks. it all feels so overwhelming for me. in corporate there’s a lot of grey area, and your own judgement, which is tough for me. i work in a semi-analytical role in supply chain management. it’s mainly looking at data and analyzing it.

any tips for me? i’m quite efficient and very buttoned down once I get the hang of things. but changes to processes and new things can really trip me up. it jsut feels like a tornado of thoughts in my brain. everything feels murky and it’s can be tough for me to organize a plan for a task / plan my time to spend on each thing to do it efficiently.

i have a tough time stepping out and seeing the big picture. i am hard working, and sometimes want to jump right into stuff to get it done, but hate the strategical aspect of figuring out the best way to go about something, bc its hurts my brain lol and im not v good at it

Hey i’m an INFP working in the corporate work. a year in, early 20’s. i struggle w my Te. I have a tough time being efficient in my tasks. it all feels so overwhelming for me. in corporate there’s a lot of grey area, and your own judgement, which is tough for me. i work in a semi-analytical role in supply chain management. it’s mainly looking at data and analyzing it.

any infps have tips for me? i’m quite efficient and very buttoned down once I get the hang of things. but changes to processes and new things can really trip me up. it jsut feels like a tornado of thoughts in my brain. everything feels murky and it’s can be tough for me to organize a plan for a task / plan my time to spend on each thing to do it efficiently.

i have a tough time stepping out and seeing the big picture. i am hard working, and sometimes want to jump right into stuff to get it done, but hate the strategical aspect of figuring out the best way to go about something, bc its hurts my brain lol and im not v good at it

i absolutely hate how I look. I dont even look in the mirror most of the time. I’m 23 and but ppl would guess i’m older as I have premature signs of aging Im very insecure abt. I always look angry, due to drooping face. its due to my 4 years of insomnia, as I used to be pretty and love myself a lot prior to my mental health issues. I often think how no man would ever want anything to do with me, other then men I don’t find attractive. i guess i’m a femcel. I also hate my personality, so that doesn’t help, as I think how if anyone got to know me they’d be even less attracted. I feel especially insecure around men that are attractive. I just wanna crawl into a hole as they make me nervous. i used to be very outgoing and flirtatious when I was confident. i’ve also never had a boyfriend. originally bc i didnt like anyone tho i talked to many men, now bc i dont talk to any guys and dont have any desire to put myself out there with the way I look

there are some surgeries I want, like a face lift, but i’m too young to get them. I also am afraid to get them anyways

and I relate to it so much. i thought i had OCD with an obsession with work. and compulsions to have everything complete to the standards I imposed that I struggle to meet. but this seems to be similar except under another name. i’d love to talk to anyone if they are willing, as I feel quite alone with these struggles I have. I feel quite trapped. OCPD seems to be represented as a disorder ppl do not understand they have. I see that I have issues, though i think they are justified and necessary for me to have to be in control and prevent bad things from happening

I have very severe anxiety around work. my old manager wasn’t very expressive. it was very tough for me as i wanted assurance I was doing okay. to this day, I have no clue how she felt about me. Now, w my new manager, whenever we have a positive interaction or she gives me some sort of compliment, I feel this wave of relief. especially if i’ve been thinking she hates me for something or that i’ll be let go. same with other things at work. I finally felt safe after a task i did, as i did it with ease, and it went well. I was able to sleep that night. every other night im an insomniac due to stress, and feeling like im behind and need to work more. I track my hours, and am always behind for the weekend so I need to make it up. though nothing is due. I feel trapped in my mind. I just don’t want to feel this way anymore

I believe my neurotic and obsessive tendencies with work make sense, because I’m not as smart as others at work and feel behind. So i believe that it makes sense for me to be obsessive about my work tasks and work weekends to make up for it in order to keep up and make sure performance doesn’t drop , as I want to keep my job. Does anyone else have similar? I must reach 40 hrs or more each week. if I don’t focus for a part of that I must work later to make up for it. I also work weekends as It’s tough to be productive to my standards and complete my to do list within the work week. it’s terrible actually. I also cannot sleep at night due to uncertain tasks at work. rarely i’ll feel safe and okay. it’s really nice. but usually it’s just this cycle. i even pull all nighters working and feel it’s what Im supposed to do, as Im so slow w work and don’t want to get in trouble

My foot began hurting a year ago to a point I couldn’t walk without pain. needed to wear a boot. now I can only wear my Hokas, or else the pain comes back. I’m 23, and feel absolutely atrocious wearing big bulky hoka gym shoes everywhere. even around the house and at work with professional clothing. i’ve said no to dates bc I realized i didn’t know what shoe I could wear that would look cute. I’m just venting. I miss my old life before injury. i miss all the cute clothes I used to be able to wear. the hokas ruin everything, so i just wear athletic clothing now. I feel like im grieving and wish so badly I could get my old foot back.