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I keep seeing this advice that basically goes, “Want your wife/girlfriend to be more intimate? Help her with the dishes and household chores.”

And honestly… why is this framed as "foreplay"?

First of all, household chores are not \*her\* responsibility that a man is generously “helping” with. If two people live together, maintaining the house is a shared responsibility. Doing the dishes isn't some romantic favour deserving a reward.

And secondly, “I’ll do these things because I want intimacy” makes it even worse. It turns basic partnership into a transaction: I did the dishes, therefore I deserve intimacy.

If you're doing the dishes because you noticed your partner is tired and you want to make her life easier, that's genuinely caring and can absolutely create emotional closeness. But that's not because chores are some magical shortcut to sex or intimacy. It's because consideration, equality and actually being a supportive partner create intimacy.

I don't want someone to “help me” with the household because they want something from me.

I want someone who understands that "it's our house, so it's our responsibility".

Maybe I'm overthinking it, but the way this advice is phrased really bothers me. Anyone else feel the same?

I keep seeing this advice that basically goes, “Want your wife/girlfriend to be more intimate? Help her with the dishes and household chores.”

And honestly… why is this framed as "foreplay"?

First of all, household chores are not *her* responsibility that a man is generously “helping” with. If two people live together, maintaining the house is a shared responsibility. Doing the dishes isn't some romantic favour deserving a reward.

And secondly, “I’ll do these things because I want intimacy” makes it even worse. It turns basic partnership into a transaction: I did the dishes, therefore I deserve intimacy.

If you're doing the dishes because you noticed your partner is tired and you want to make her life easier, that's genuinely caring and can absolutely create emotional closeness. But that's not because chores are some magical shortcut to sex or intimacy. It's because consideration, equality and actually being a supportive partner create intimacy.

I don't want someone to “help me” with the household because they want something from me.

I want someone who understands that "it's our house, so it's our responsibility".

Maybe I'm overthinking it, but the way this advice is phrased really bothers me. Anyone else feel the same?

I've been thinking about this lately. I'm going back to classroom teaching after almost 5–6 years, and honestly, it feels kind of weird.

I did my 11th and 12th during COVID, so it was basically online classes. Then I did my graduation privately, which meant I mostly just showed up for exams because I was preparing for CS through online classes.

So I haven't actually experienced proper classroom life in YEARS.

Now I'm going for my master's, which obviously means attending classes regularly, sitting with classmates, listening to professors, participating, taking notes, etc. And I genuinely want to get my *academic spark back*.

Not just the "study for exams and get good marks" kind, but that feeling of actually being excited to learn, asking questions, making notes, discussing things with people, discovering new topics and feeling like a student again.

I don't think I need to become the person I was academically before COVID. I think I just want to build a new version of myself academically.

Kinda excited (and slightly nervous) to experience being a proper student again after all these years. 🥹

Me and my boyfriend did some stuff yesterday (no penetration ) and honestly, we had a pretty good time. But I’m still trying to figure out the whole pleasure part 😭

We’re each other’s first, and I’d never really finished before. I also never had a very high sex drive, and I used to be scared that it would hurt, so I never really explored much. I never masturbated ever. My boyfriend does it for because I can't even touch myself that way idk why.

The first few times were painful, but thankfully the pain has reduced a LOT now. There’s still this weird mix of pain + pleasure, though. During shorter sessions it’s manageable, but if things go on for too long, the pain eventually starts taking over the pleasure. I’m also usually sore afterward.

And yeah… I’ve never finished. 🥲

So ladies, I need some advice from people who’ve been through this:

\* How long does it usually take to finish?

\* Is it normal to have some pain even when things have gotten better?

\* Does the pain eventually go away completely?

\* Any tips for actually enjoying it more and experiencing the kind of pleasure everyone talks about?

The pain has definitely improved significantly, so I’m hopeful. I just want to know if the whole pain → pleasure → \*actual pleasure\* progression is a thing. 😭 Also I feel like getting oral can help but I feel gross thinking about it and my bf is ready for that too but idk what's stopping me 🥲

So I recently got admission in my city's government University for MBA programme but since then I have heard that mba is only worth it when it's done from top B schools.

On other hand my sister in law did her mba from the same university I took admission in and was placed in hdfc with a pretty good starting package of about 6lpa and is thriving in her career. She did her masters in 2020-21.

I read this somewhere and honestly… it’s so true.

At first you notice the obvious things, but then you start seeing it in the smallest details too. The way girls are raised to be “careful” while boys are encouraged to be “confident.” The way women are expected to remember everything, adjust everything, soften everything. The way a man doing the bare minimum at home gets praised for it. And the list goes on....

And once you start connecting all those little things, you realize how deeply ingrained some of these expectations are.

You really can’t unsee it after a point. 😭

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My boyfriend’s family is pretty conservative, especially when it comes to his sister. She isn’t allowed to go on trips with her friends unless my boyfriend accompanies her. Recently, he went on a trip with his sister, her friends, and their boyfriends. He knows his sister and her boyfriend are in a relationship, but he was completely against them sharing a room. He actually argued with his sister because he couldn’t stand the idea of her sharing a room with a guy while he was there. Then, around 3 AM, his sister wanted to go see her boyfriend because he was injured or something, and my boyfriend literally threatened her, saying that if she went out, he would tell their mom.

And honestly, this is where I have a problem. When it comes to his own sister, he is extremely protective and thinks he has the right to control what she does because he’s worried about her reputation or safety. But when it comes to someone else’s sister — me — suddenly none of those rules apply. He can go on trips with me, share a room with me, and do all the things he would absolutely lose his mind over if his sister did with her boyfriend. Like, how does that make sense? You’re so concerned about protecting your sister from boys, but apparently you have no problem being “that boy” to someone else’s sister.

And the funniest part is that if I called him at 3 AM because I needed him, I know damn well he would come running to me. I understand that he grew up in a conservative family and that he feels responsible for his sister, but I still think it’s hypocritical to hold her to such a strict standard while completely ignoring that standard when it comes to his own behavior.

Am I wrong for seeing this as a massive double standard?

Ps- He is her younger brother.

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I’ll be starting my MBA at a Tier-2 college in a few weeks, and I’d love to hear from people who’ve already been through it.

What are the must-do things during the next 2 years to make the most of the MBA?

Looking for advice on academics, internships, placements, networking, skills/certifications, extracurriculars, and things you wish you had done differently.

Any practical advice, mistakes to avoid, or underrated tips would be really helpful. Thanks!

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My boyfriend’s family is pretty conservative, especially when it comes to his sister. She isn’t allowed to go on trips with her friends unless my boyfriend accompanies her. Recently, he went on a trip with his sister, her friends, and their boyfriends. He knows his sister and her boyfriend are in a relationship, but he was completely against them sharing a room. He actually argued with his sister because he couldn’t stand the idea of her sharing a room with a guy while he was there. Then, around 3 AM, his sister wanted to go see her boyfriend because he was injured or something, and my boyfriend literally threatened her, saying that if she went out, he would tell their mom.

And honestly, this is where I have a problem. When it comes to his own sister, he is extremely protective and thinks he has the right to control what she does because he’s worried about her reputation or safety. But when it comes to someone else’s sister — me — suddenly none of those rules apply. He can go on trips with me, share a room with me, and do all the things he would absolutely lose his mind over if his sister did with her boyfriend. Like, how does that make sense? You’re so concerned about protecting your sister from boys, but apparently you have no problem being “that boy” to someone else’s sister.

And the funniest part is that if I called him at 3 AM because I needed him, I know damn well he would come running to me. I understand that he grew up in a conservative family and that he feels responsible for his sister, but I still think it’s hypocritical to hold her to such a strict standard while completely ignoring that standard when it comes to his own behavior.

Am I wrong for seeing this as a massive double standard?

Ps- He is her younger brother.

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I'm curious to hear from people who've actually worked with influencers.

Without turning this into a hate thread, have you ever collaborated with an influencer who was unusually stingy whether it was over payments, deliverables, hospitality, or just being unwilling to spend on things despite expecting a lot from others?

No need to name anyone if you're not comfortable. I'm more interested in hearing about your experiences and the patterns you've noticed.

Please keep it respectful and stick to firsthand experiences.

So I am in a relationship with this guy for last 3 years, in the starting days he used to tell me how his family is against inter caste marriage as he is from punjabi family. I had very serious conversation with him regarding that because I am very futuristic when it comes to relationships , that time he said his parents will agree as he is their Son aur ladko ko itna ni bolte. He has an elder sister , she was also in a relationship that time so I used to say didi ki shadi agar unke boyfriend se nahi hui (the reason would be his parents opposed their relationship) toh fir mai breakup karlungi because I don't have any hope ki hamare liye maan jayege. So apprently his sister broke up with her ex few months ago and currently looking for potential matches within their caste but their parents came to know about her ex and his dad was so furious because her ex is from DIFFERENT CASTE. Seeing all this my boyfriend indirectly said to me that our future is not possible. Seeing his family situation right now I didn't pressurized him to do a clear conversation but eventually I have to end things with him I guess if he is not willing to fight for this relationship.

I've been noticing this in my chapter for quite some time, and I'm genuinely curious if this is a broader issue or just my local experience.

When someone becomes a Company Secretary, I expect more than just technical knowledge. Passing the exams proves you're academically competent, but being a CS should also mean being professionally competent.

What surprises me is how some people in responsible positions still lack basic professional skills:

Poor communication and etiquette.

Unprofessional emails, captions, and announcements.

Overconfidence despite limited practical understanding.

Inability to accept constructive feedback.

More focus on titles and authority than accountability.

Blindly copying AI-generated content without even proofreading it (I've literally seen captions posted with the quotation marks still left in).

And, at least in my experience, chapter events often seem to be influenced by favoritism or "who knows whom," with the same familiar faces getting opportunities while others are overlooked. Whether that's actual nepotism or just the perception of it, it doesn't inspire confidence.

Before anyone misunderstands me, I have nothing against using ChatGPT or other AI tools. I use them too. The problem isn't using AI it's relying on it without applying any judgment or making the content your own.

To me, a CS is expected to represent clients, management, regulators, and the profession itself. That requires more than clearing exams. Communication, professionalism, accountability, ethical conduct, and sound judgment are just as important as technical knowledge.

Maybe I've just had a bad experience with my local chapter, but I honestly expected people to become more professionally polished after qualifying not just more book-smart.

Has anyone else experienced something similar in their chapter, or is this just an isolated case?