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I disagree on my wife with everything and that's causing so many issues in my life

She wants our baby to have a sleep routine sleep training sleep in a different room with monitor and sleep at 8 cause she feels she will wake the kid by talking in sleep and using washroom and sleep is so important bla bla ....I feel kids should sleep with both the parents, so she got nanny near his room ..she is trusted tho raised a family members daughter but why not just co sleep ...why soooo Western why so modern

She wants to send him to pre school for learning activities and arts and socialize.....I want to send him to our parents

She wants to continue living in nuclear family after kid and i want to call my parents or hers in for helping permanently

She wants nanny and maids and i feel family privacy is more important so we call our parents

She wanna join work in 6 months and I suggest 1 year

She wanna continue sleeping in our room but I feel we sleep with baby and she got angry and stopped sleeping with me all together

I feel old school way of raising kids with parents and grandparents is better she feels day care monitors and all bla bla is better ....she says I check on baby anyways but i don't feel okay

Most important...she feels she should make all the decisions for the baby in initial 2 years and i feel both mom and dad have a say

Idk who is even right...but I feel I'm right

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\\- My wife and I have an 11-month-old baby.

\\- Before the baby was born, my wife told me she wanted to be independent in making decisions about the baby's early care and didn't want me or others deciding much. I agreed.

\\- We hired a nanny and a maid to help her. I also offered to help, but I work 10-hour days and couldn't take extended leave. My wife took a career break.

\\- For the first 3–5 months, the baby woke every 2 hours, so my wife slept in the baby's room with the nanny nearby for support.

\\- Once the baby started sleeping 4–5 hours at a stretch, my wife would put him to sleep, turn on the baby monitor, and then come sleep in our bedroom. She would go back whenever he woke up.

\\- Now our baby is 11 months old and sleeps about 10 hours at night without waking unless something disturbs him. He is a very light sleeper and even small noises can wake him.

\\- My wife still puts him to bed around 8 PM, turns on the monitor, and sleeps with me in our bedroom while checking the monitor multiple times during the night.

\\- We argue almost every day because I believe our baby should sleep in the same room as both parents instead of alone.

\\- My wife's reasons:

\\- She worked very hard to establish his sleep routine and doesn't want to disrupt it.

\\- The baby sleeps at 8 PM while we sleep around 11 PM.

\\- If we slept in the same room, going to the bathroom, talking, turning in bed, or even talking in our sleep (which she sometimes does) could wake him and she believes when she slept together then he would wake up whenever she would talk in sleep or go to washroom (she goes to washroom a lot of times)

\\- for emergency we have a nanny near baby room..like attached....the nanny have looked after her best friends daughter and is trusted according to her ..

\\- She believes uninterrupted sleep is better for his growth and development.

\\- She says babies often sleep better in their own room because adults unintentionally disturb them.

\\- she checks through monitor many times and whenever the baby wakes up she goes to him and nanny is also there

\\- My view:

\\- I feel an 11-month-old should sleep in the same room as both parents. Afterall it's our baby not a strangers kid or pet right and what about safety

\\- We all slept with our parents growing up and turned out fine.

\\- Sometimes it feels like she simply prefers the baby sleeping in a separate room.

\\- She also rarely lets me sleep alone with the baby except occasionally on weekends, when we all sleep together.

\\- Our parents don't live with us and can't stay long-term, so that's not a factor.

Mya question - is it better for our kid to continue sleeping in separate room or my wife is unintentionally wrong here and he should sleep with me and her ?

I feel I'm right and she is being too western and i feel her idea of sleep training routine and baby waking up is just her excuses?

She have got hurt that i don't wanna let her raise the baby with a routine and she said she also thinks the best for the baby

Please no jokes....i need genuine advice

Me and my wife had a baby recently...my wife said she wants independence to care for the baby as she likes ...and doesn't want me or anyone to decide much about initial care and all ...i agreed

We had a nanny and a maid to help her with everything and i offered to be there as well...but I work 10 hours and cannot take leave

She took career break...

Initially for first 3-5 months baby will sleep max 2 hours continuously...she slept with the baby this time and along with her nanny also sleep in same room for help

After this baby started sleeping 4-5 hours continuously without waking up so she would turn on baby monitor and come to my room and leave the baby to sleep and go to baby when he wakes up

Now our baby have turned 11 months ...he sleeps 10 hours per night without waking unless anything happens ...but even little bit noise wakes him up

My wife now turns on the monitor and leaves him to sleep after putting him to sleep and come to my room ...and sleep with me full night

Now we everyday argue...I tell her that it's wrong for kid to sleep away from parents and he should sleep with me and her

She said baby's need sleep training and whatever...she says baby sleeps at 8 pm and we sleep later and we will not even be able to talk and baby will get disturbed....and whatever excuses she makes ..

I don't get her ..she keeps saying she won't disrupt baby routine and had a hard time setting the routine....and she wants to sleep train set routine bla bla

I feel she just want to sleep in our room and the baby to stay in separate room...and she says separate room is better...but I say sleeping with parents is better ....

now she doesn't let me sleep with the baby alone either much. ..on weekends we do that tho and sleep with baby on weekends

Her point is that we sleep at 11 and baby should sleep at 8 and then he will get disturbed if we go to washroom or talk in sleep (she does) and if baby wakes many times in sleep it's not good for him ....

She says baby should sleep undisturbed and she checks on him via monitor many times but won't sleep together

She said babies have better sleep and growth in separate room cause adults often disturb unintentionally and our baby wakes even when she goes to washroom or blabber in sleep

But we all slept with parents and grew fine right?

Now I'm confused what's right? Separate room or together?

For that matter our parents are not here and cannot live with us long term and probably she won't like it either anyways

Now she thinks i am thinking she is a bad mother and i don't even let her set a routine and i don't let her parent according to her so she is now hurt and have stopped sleeping with me and sleeps alone

Need genuine advice and pov from fellow Men mainly

Had fight with my wife .... feeling not so great ...don't know if she is right or I am ?

Me and my wife had a baby recently...my wife said she wants independence to care for the baby as she likes ...and doesn't want me or anyone to decide much about initial care and all ...i agreed

We had a nanny and a maid to help her with everything and i offered to be there as well...but I work 10 hours and cannot take leave

She took career break...also she says she knows better in the initial stage and wanna do things according to her for initial 2 years atleast without questioning much

Initially for first 3-5 months baby will sleep max 2 hours continuously...she slept with the baby this time and along with her nanny also sleep in same room for help

After this baby started sleeping 4-5 hours continuously without waking up so she would turn on baby monitor and come to my room and leave the baby to sleep and go to baby when he wakes up

Now our baby have turned 11 months ...he sleeps 10 hours per night without waking unless anything happens ...but even little bit noise wakes him up

My wife now turns on the monitor and leaves him to sleep after putting him to sleep and come to my room ...and sleep with me full night

Now we everyday argue...I tell her that it's wrong for kid to sleep away from parents and he should sleep with me and her

She said baby's need sleep training and whatever...she says baby sleeps at 8 pm and we sleep later and we will not even be able to talk and baby will get disturbed....and whatever excuses she makes

I feel she just want to sleep in our room and what's the baby to stay in separate room...and she says separate room is better...but I say sleeping with parents is better ....now she doesn't let me sleep with the baby alone either much. ..on weekends we do that tho and sleep with baby on weekends

Now I'm confused what's right? Separate room or together?

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Had fight with my wife .... feeling not so great ...don't know if she is right or I am?

Me and my wife had a baby recently...my wife said she wants independence to care for the baby as she likes ...and doesn't want me or anyone to decide much about initial care and all ...i agreed

We had a nanny and a maid to help her with everything and i offered to be there as well...but I work 10 hours and cannot take leave

She took career break...also she says she knows better in the initial stage and wanna do things according to her for initial 2 years atleast without questioning much

Initially for first 3-5 months baby will sleep max 2 hours continuously...she slept with the baby this time and along with her nanny also sleep in same room for help

After this baby started sleeping 4-5 hours continuously without waking up so she would turn on baby monitor and come to my room and leave the baby to sleep and go to baby when he wakes up

Now our baby have turned 11 months ...he sleeps 10 hours per night without waking unless anything happens ...but even little bit noise wakes him up

My wife now turns on the monitor and leaves him to sleep after putting him to sleep and come to my room ...and sleep with me full night

Now we everyday argue...I tell her that it's wrong for kid to sleep away from parents and he should sleep with me and her

She said baby's need sleep training and whatever...she says baby sleeps at 8 pm and we sleep later and we will not even be able to talk and baby will get disturbed....and whatever excuses she makes

I feel she just want to sleep in our room and what's the baby to stay in separate room...and she says separate room is better...but I say sleeping with parents is better ....now she doesn't let me sleep with the baby alone either much. ..on weekends we do that tho and sleep with baby on weekends

Now I'm confused what's right? Separate room or together?

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Had fight with my wife .... feeling not so great ...don't know if she is right or I am ?

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Me and my wife had a baby recently...my wife said she wants independence to care for the baby as she likes ...and doesn't want me or anyone to decide much about initial care and all ...i agreed

We had a nanny and a maid to help her with everything and i offered to be there as well...but I work 10 hours and cannot take leave

She took career break...also she says she knows better in the initial stage and wanna do things according to her for initial 2 years atleast without questioning much

Initially for first 3-5 months baby will sleep max 2 hours continuously...she slept with the baby this time and along with her nanny also sleep in same room for help

After this baby started sleeping 4-5 hours continuously without waking up so she would turn on baby monitor and come to my room and leave the baby to sleep and go to baby when he wakes up

Now our baby have turned 11 months ...he sleeps 10 hours per night without waking unless anything happens ...but even little bit noise wakes him up

My wife now turns on the monitor and leaves him to sleep after putting him to sleep and come to my room ...and sleep with me full night

Now we everyday argue...I tell her that it's wrong for kid to sleep away from parents and he should sleep with me and her

She said baby's need sleep training and whatever...she says baby sleeps at 8 pm and we sleep later and we will not even be able to talk and baby will get disturbed....and whatever excuses she makes

I feel she just want to sleep in our room and what's the baby to stay in separate room...and she says separate room is better...but I say sleeping with parents is better ....now she doesn't let me sleep with the baby alone either much. ..on weekends we do that tho and sleep with baby on weekends

Now I'm confused what's right? Separate room or together?

Me and my wife had a baby recently...my wife said she wants independence to care for the baby as she likes ...and doesn't want me or anyone to decide much about initial care and all ...i agreed

We had a nanny and a maid to help her with everything and i offered to be there as well...but I work 10 hours and cannot take leave

She took career break...

Initially for first 3-5 months baby will sleep max 2 hours continuously...she slept with the baby this time and along with her nanny also sleep in same room for help

After this baby started sleeping 4-5 hours continuously without waking up so she would turn on baby monitor and come to my room and leave the baby to sleep and go to baby when he wakes up

Now our baby have turned 11 months ...he sleeps 10 hours per night without waking unless anything happens ...but even little bit noise wakes him up

My wife now turns on the monitor and leaves him to sleep after putting him to sleep and come to my room ...and sleep with me full night

Now we everyday argue...I tell her that it's wrong for kid to sleep away from parents and he should sleep with me and her

She said baby's need sleep training and whatever...she says baby sleeps at 8 pm and we sleep later and we will not even be able to talk and baby will get disturbed....and whatever excuses she makes

I feel she just want to sleep in our room and what's the baby to stay in separate room...and she says separate room is better...but I say sleeping with parents is better ....now she doesn't let me sleep with the baby alone either much. ..on weekends we do that tho and sleep with baby on weekends

Now I'm confused what's right? Separate room or together?

Anyone up for a random vent-advice conversation?

Is it safe for the baby to sleep in his own room with baby monitor and a nanny?

I'm a new dad ...we hired a nanny to help with the baby and my wife after our parents went back

My wife sleep in the baby room cause she wants the nanny to help whole night when baby wakes up and I can't sleep there cause ...nanny will be uncomfortable..

Now our baby is a very light sleeper and my wife gave to go to washroom every now and then ..she have a habit of blabbering in sleep and that startles out baby and makes him cranky

This went on for first 4 months ...after that the baby started sleeping for 4-5 hours in one go .. during these 4-5 hours my wife would come and sleep in my room and me and she would watch the monitor every few minutes and if the baby wakes up or needs her she will go to the babies room immediately

But for those 4-5 hours the baby was just with the monitor and nanny

Now our baby is 11 months old and sleeps 7-8 yours on most days ... those days my wife comes and sleep with me cause she feels even whispering wakes the baby up ans he is cranky due to teething

My wife's reasons also include the fact that baby sleeps at 8 pm and me and she may wanna talk or watch something or she wants some me time and sleep at 10 pm ....so when the baby sleeps she watched the monitor every few minutes or i watch it too ..she checks on the baby a few times

But she sleeps in our room while the baby sleeps in his crib with monitor and nanny for emergency

This is also cause my wife gave resumed work (from home) and I work long hours as well....

But recently I have started feeling of its bad that she and i sleep in separate room and the baby sleeps in separate room

However my wife says she wants to sleep train and provide routine and structure to the baby and herself...cause baby wakes up on the slightest noise....and if we co sleep she and me won't be able to go to work and baby will not sleep properly cause she will always talk in sleep and use washroom frequently....

She is also going through pelvic issues and throat issues which means she goes to washroom often and throat clearing noise in sleep happens

She feels if baby co sleeps we can't even talk to each other after 8 pm and it's just hard ....

However during the day she takes care of the baby usually whole day and plays and feeds him

However she is not breastfeeding cause she can't get milk anymore which is fine

Is it safe for the baby to sleep in his own room with baby monitor and a nanny?

I'm a new dad ...we hired a nanny to help with the baby and my wife after our parents went back

My wife sleep in the baby room cause she wants the nanny to help whole night when baby wakes up and I can't sleep there cause ...nanny will be uncomfortable..

Now our baby is a very light sleeper and my wife gave to go to washroom every now and then ..she have a habit of blabbering in sleep and that startles out baby and makes him cranky

This went on for first 4 months ...after that the baby started sleeping for 4-5 hours in one go .. during these 4-5 hours my wife would come and sleep in my room and me and she would watch the monitor every few minutes and if the baby wakes up or needs her she will go to the babies room immediately

But for those 4-5 hours the baby was just with the monitor and nanny

Now our baby is 11 months old and sleeps 7-8 yours on most days ... those days my wife comes and sleep with me cause she feels even whispering wakes the baby up ans he is cranky due to teething

My wife's reasons also include the fact that baby sleeps at 8 pm and me and she may wanna talk or watch something or she wants some me time and sleep at 10 pm ....so when the baby sleeps she watched the monitor every few minutes or i watch it too ..she checks on the baby a few times

But she sleeps in our room while the baby sleeps in his crib with monitor and nanny for emergency

This is also cause my wife gave resumed work (from home) and I work long hours as well....

But recently I have started feeling of its bad that she and i sleep in separate room and the baby sleeps in separate room

However my wife says she wants to sleep train and provide routine and structure to the baby and herself...cause baby wakes up on the slightest noise....and if we co sleep she and me won't be able to go to work and baby will not sleep properly cause she will always talk in sleep and use washroom frequently....

She is also going through pelvic issues and throat issues which means she goes to washroom often and throat clearing noise in sleep happens

She feels if baby co sleeps we can't even talk to each other after 8 pm and it's just hard ....

However during the day she takes care of the baby usually whole day and plays and feeds him

However she is not breastfeeding cause she can't get milk anymore which is fine

I'm a new dad ...we hired a nanny to help with the baby and my wife after our parents went back

My wife sleep in the baby room cause she wants the nanny to help whole night when baby wakes up and I can't sleep there cause ...nanny will be uncomfortable..

Now our baby is a very light sleeper and my wife gave to go to washroom every now and then ..she have a habit of blabbering in sleep and that startles out baby and makes him cranky

This went on for first 4 months ...after that the baby started sleeping for 4-5 hours in one go .. during these 4-5 hours my wife would come and sleep in my room and me and she would watch the monitor every few minutes and if the baby wakes up or needs her she will go to the babies room immediately

But for those 4-5 hours the baby was just with the monitor and nanny

Now our baby is 11 months old and sleeps 7-8 yours on most days ... those days my wife comes and sleep with me cause she feels even whispering wakes the baby up ans he is cranky due to teething

My wife's reasons also include the fact that baby sleeps at 8 pm and me and she may wanna talk or watch something or she wants some me time and sleep at 10 pm ....so when the baby sleeps she watched the monitor every few minutes or i watch it too ..she checks on the baby a few times

But she sleeps in our room while the baby sleeps in his crib with monitor and nanny for emergency

This is also cause my wife gave resumed work (from home) and I work long hours as well....

But recently I have started feeling of its bad that she and i sleep in separate room and the baby sleeps in separate room

However my wife says she wants to sleep train and provide routine and structure to the baby and herself...cause baby wakes up on the slightest noise....and if we co sleep she and me won't be able to go to work and baby will not sleep properly cause she will always talk in sleep and use washroom frequently....

She is also going through pelvic issues and throat issues which means she goes to washroom often and throat clearing noise in sleep happens

She feels if baby co sleeps we can't even talk to each other after 8 pm and it's just hard ....

However during the day she takes care of the baby usually whole day and plays and feeds him

However she is not breastfeeding cause she can't get milk anymore which is fine

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She wants separate room for kid and i don't

My wife and I had a child recently and the child is 10 months old, my wife had post partum complications due to which she had a full time maid and nanny ...

She set up a cute room for our baby and sleeps with the baby

She said the baby is a light sleeper and would wake up if my wife went to washroom or coughed or cleared throat...but she had to visit washroom multiple times

Due to this when she was freshly post partum...she would come to our room after the baby slept for 1-2 hours ... while the nanny remained in the baby room and also we monitored through live screen...and if the baby woke up she would go back to the baby

Soon our baby started sleeping 5-6 hours ..now she would come to me and my room after baby slept...with the nanny and turned on the monitor...she would watch the monitor every now and then ..but would go back to baby only when the baby woke up again and slept in our room for 5-6 hours ....i found it strange that the baby is sleeping there and she came to our room

Then now our baby is 11 months old and sleep 8+ hours at night

Now my wife sleeps some days with me full night and some days with baby .

If baby sleeps nicely then she will come in our room leaving the baby with the nanny and monitoring

She tells me that she still needs to go to washroom often and have habit of blabbering in sleep ...which startle the baby and the baby gets cranky

She is not breastfeeding either due to health related stuff

Her points are that -

Baby sleeps at 8 and we don't...we can't even whisper or talk or go to washroom with baby in same room cause baby will wake up

She wants a sleep training and routine for baby and thinks we should not change the room

She thinks it's fully safe cause nanny and continuous monitoring exist

She thinks she will wake the baby cause she would make noise unintentionally

My point is baby should sleep with us ...but she disagrees....I find it very strange ...but because I told her this so many times she started feeling I hate her presence in our room

Now she have started sleeping in another separate room and won't come back

My wife and I had a child recently and the child is 10 months old, my wife had post partum complications due to which she had a full time maid and nanny ...

She set up a cute room for our baby and sleeps with the baby

She said the baby is a light sleeper and would wake up if my wife went to washroom or coughed or cleared throat...but she had to visit washroom multiple times

Due to this when she was freshly post partum...she would come to our room after the baby slept for 1-2 hours ... while the nanny remained in the baby room and also we monitored through live screen...and if the baby woke up she would go back to the baby

Soon our baby started sleeping 5-6 hours ..now she would come to me and my room after baby slept...with the nanny and turned on the monitor...she would watch the monitor every now and then ..but would go back to baby only when the baby woke up again and slept in our room for 5-6 hours ....i found it strange that the baby is sleeping there and she came to our room

Then now our baby is 11 months old and sleep 8+ hours at night

Now my wife sleeps some days with me full night and some days with baby .

If baby sleeps nicely then she will come in our room leaving the baby with the nanny and monitoring

She tells me that she still needs to go to washroom often and have habit of blabbering in sleep ...which startle the baby and the baby gets cranky

She is not breastfeeding either due to health related stuff

Her points are that -

Baby sleeps at 8 and we don't...we can't even whisper or talk or go to washroom with baby in same room cause baby will wake up

She wants a sleep training and routine for baby and thinks we should not change the room

She thinks it's fully safe cause nanny and continuous monitoring exist

She thinks she will wake the baby cause she would make noise unintentionally

My point is baby should sleep with us ...but she disagrees....I find it very strange ...but because I told her this so many times she started feeling I hate her presence in our room

Now she have started sleeping in another separate room and won't come back

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Me and my wife recently had a child ....we are married for 5 years

Now I disagree with almost everything she does

She wants a separate room for our baby and monitoring and i believe babies should sleep with their parents only for 3-5 years ....i don't feel okay with her idea ......

She set up a small room for our baby cause she always wanted to...she sleeps there with the baby and one japa maid to take care of her and the baby

The baby is now 10 months old,

When she was freshly post partum she had some muscle issues and other complications...the baby would hardly sleep 2 hours. ...in those 2 hours if my wife went to washroom or coughed the baby will wake up immediately and get startled

Due to this she would come out of the baby room and come to my room when the baby falls asleep and she would go back to baby when the baby wakes up ...she and me would continuously watch the baby tho through the screen and also the japa maid would call my wife immediately if the baby is awake and she would go

Then this went on for months ... when the baby started sleeping 5-6 hours at around 6 months old my wife will leave him with the japa maid in that room and come sleep with me ...and wake up frequently to watch him through the screen

She stated that the reason is that her coughing and throat clearing and habit of speaking in sleep and frequent visits to washroom immediately wakes up our baby and she doesn't want that

I started getting a feeling that she is being selfish cause she is just watching the baby and expecting the maid to look after him at night while she sleeps in our room

She said that she needs some space and couple time as well after the kid

I started feeling whatever she does is just selfish as most mothers stay with their kids at night

How can she leave the kid in a room for 4-5 hours and sleep ...I ended up confronting her

She told me that she did that for better sleep of the baby ...she is also worried and she also constantly keeps watching the baby and messaging the japa nanny about the baby at night....she does this soley because her noise wakes the kid and the kid is sleeping better now

She started crying and said she can't just stare at the kid while he sleeping and skip washroom and even coughing and she can't just skip meals and shower and self care and be with baby 24 by 7 ...

I regret coming across that way ...but my feelings did not change ...i keep thinking that parents should sleep with the baby only

I told her to bring the kid to our room ...she said fine then I'll go to another room ....she feels even smallest movements wake our baby up

Then she started telling me why baby with own room sleep much better and we are continuously monitoring anyways and have a nanny for emergency anyways

Now since then she started sleeping in some different room than me and the baby ...and now she feels I hate her presence in our room ...and she have not slept with me since then ...

How do fix this ? I still feel baby should sleep with their parents and my wife feels baby should have their own room and monitoring....

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Me and my wife recently had a child ....we are married for 5 years

Now I disagree with almost everything she does

She wants a separate room for our baby and monitoring and i believe babies should sleep with their parents only for 3-5 years ....i don't feel okay with her idea ......

She set up a small room for our baby cause she always wanted to...she sleeps there with the baby and one japa maid to take care of her and the baby

The baby is now 10 months old,

When she was freshly post partum she had some muscle issues and other complications...the baby would hardly sleep 2 hours. ...in those 2 hours if my wife went to washroom or coughed the baby will wake up immediately and get startled

Due to this she would come out of the baby room and come to my room when the baby falls asleep and she would go back to baby when the baby wakes up ...she and me would continuously watch the baby tho through the screen and also the japa maid would call my wife immediately if the baby is awake and she would go

Then this went on for months ... when the baby started sleeping 5-6 hours at around 6 months old my wife will leave him with the japa maid in that room and come sleep with me ...and wake up frequently to watch him through the screen

She stated that the reason is that her coughing and throat clearing and habit of speaking in sleep and frequent visits to washroom immediately wakes up our baby and she doesn't want that

I started getting a feeling that she is being selfish cause she is just watching the baby and expecting the maid to look after him at night while she sleeps in our room

she said she wants time space and couple time with me as well and she doesn't wanna walk on egg shells whole night cause our baby wakes up even if she sighs

I started feeling whatever she does is just selfish as most mothers stay with their kids at night

How can she leave the kid in a room for 4-5 hours and sleep ...I ended up confronting her

She told me that she did that for better sleep of the baby ...she is also worried and she also constantly keeps watching the baby and messaging the japa nanny about the baby at night....she does this soley because her noise wakes the kid and the kid is sleeping better now

She started crying and said she can't just stare at the kid while he sleeping and skip washroom and even coughing and she can't just skip meals and shower and self care and be with baby 24 by 7 ...

I regret coming across that way ...but my feelings did not change ...i keep thinking that parents should sleep with the baby only

I told her to bring the kid to our room ...she said fine then I'll go to another room ....she feels even smallest movements wake our baby up

Then she started telling me why baby with own room sleep much better and we are continuously monitoring anyways and have a nanny for emergency anyways

Now since then she started sleeping in some different room than me and the baby ...and now she feels I hate her presence in our room ...and she have not slept with me since then ...

How do fix this ? I still feel baby should sleep with their parents and my wife feels baby should have their own room and monitoring....

Just wanna know if separate rooms with monitoring are good and safe for babies around 1 year old ?

Would like to know experiences with this